₦airaland Forum

okrikaboi:
Must you venture into relationship? Why not have sex and move on? You don't need a woman to make you happy

The matter is more twisted than this.


Besides, 'have sex and move on' has to be defined here.

naijablood:
I started observing this pattern since 2018
I was posted away from my then girlfriend to another state for NYSC hence couldn’t engage in serious relationship through out my service

…But seriously that year was one of my favorite in terms of financial success.
As a serving corper I was also working freelance for two different companies in Lagos. … coupled with other gigs … I was in money.

After service I met a lady and we kicked off a relationship, within 2months of us into the love affair, I lost the two jobs as a freelance was done with service so had to start some money making venture, but was tough, well the relationship lasted four months.

After three months of us breaking up I had a business idea, year 2020, got into it and within two months I made my first million was single for a year.

2021 I met a lady and started meeting … and within a space of 6 months, I was back to square one…

Early this year was tough and depressing, and by June, we were already having relationship problem, hence some space between us.

But from September I notice some positivity, business took off I started saving up and by November I had to buy a property to compensate myself for a hardworking year ..

Now my problem is I’m disturbed , this lady been asking for us making the relationship official .. but I’m scared loosing it all … I keep getting back to the ground when I’m in relationship…

But will I be single for life … I’m just lost.

I have never had a girlfriend or wife or sexual partner before but I have been in love severally.


Why?


There's no reason why.


These things just happen.


Does it mean am less a person?


Nah


It only shows am part of a twisted planet.

ANTIlSLAM:
Are you one of the followers of muhammad and his god allah

Do I sound so?

Olowosaudi:
Hmmm. It may sound derogatory but evidence abound for this assertion. If the Europeans had not come to settle in South Africa from 1652, the black south Africans surely would still be living in the deep jungle. Even in so-called WEST African countries, you still see elements of backwardness amongst the people and the system. Africa needs rebirth oooo

No evidence for generalizing like that

ANTIlSLAM:
Are you one of them?

What do you mean by 'them'?

Temptee101:
Who is worshipping anybody here?

So, you think SA would be what it is today if the blacks were left to rule themselves?

Haba! Try and reason guy.

Show me a full black man's country that is working?

That a country is called poor doesn't mean ALL from the country are poor!


My point is that a country is never working simply because all its members are wiser than all the members of some other country.

Being an American doesn't make you smarter than anyone in Nigeria!

Princedapace:
Is it not this nonsense Nigerians even do here on Nairaland.
Nigeria runs an unworkable system of govt but have vowed that they will neveer ever change it all because of ethnic sentiment.
I hail Nigerians

Still no evidence that it's ALL Nigerians.


In addition to that, is any government alive the choice of ALL the citizens?

Olowosaudi:
Hmmm. It means that you have money to spend and you are better off than millions who don't even have a car, a generator ot even shelter over their heads. It means that you are in good health and not in a hospital where so many are right now without any hope of getting out of the hospital alive.

Whatever

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Princedapace:
hahahaahahaahahaha
I laughed at ur last statement.
Do u know why Nigeria is how it is? The people will always defend nonsense. These countries u mentioned arent as rich as Nigeria o. But at least, u will have peace of mind and sane society. Try visit Namibia and Bowstwana too. See, naina na scam. U will see how they will attack u here.
I always tell people that I love these African countries, peaceful, small and sane especially their cities. As for SA, that one no be our mate at all. lol, SA na another level

Are you with a video evidence of ALL Nigerians defending nonsense?

ModCaller:
Black SA people too lazy. They won't even be using the toilet to shît if not for white people.

According to you and your type

AfonjaPriest:
If she like, make she do ashawo, which one concern me?
After all, there are people who commit suicide because they find life meaningless.
If that's the way she wants to enjoy her life, wetin be your own?
Abeg, jump inside your oba's lagoon if e pain you too much.

Exactly

mariahAngel:
Now, how do you know I wouldn't react the same? Because it's Rihanna? Oh come on!

We all know Rihanna's fashion has always been hoochie.
It's only of recent that she's been adopting a more classy style.

Would you ever compare Rihanna's fashion to Celine Dion's? What's classy is classy abeg!

Well, everyone doesn't reason the same way.

Developer404:
If we talk they say their just "embracing western life"

So na we embrace western life pass westerners

Westerners started nothing!!!!!!

mariahAngel:
Hey God! lo jade l'enu mi.

So classless!

If Rihanna does it...., you guys won't react this way...... never means she's copying Rihanna.

When I was a person that attributed certain things to divinity,
did you not attack me?



Did you not accuse me?


Did you not blame me?


Did I not pass through sorrow most of the time?



Since I accidentally stopped finding anything divine..., has anything been lost because of that?




I still pass through inevitable ordeals most of the time but never because I stopped finding anything divine.


All I await now is the day I will die

ANTIlSLAM:
Yes.. They do mention his name during shahada





Arab Christians do pray in the name of Allah that has a son called Jesus Christ and not the one (allah) that was caged inside the shrine and black stone of kaaba




Does that make sense to you?





Even if you blasphemy against muhammad, you'll be killed and burn to ashes but as for ANTI.ISLAM, the guy is only using Quran and hadith to reveal the secret of islam




In fact, these rascal Muslims will cut off your head for ogun (the god of iron) if you don't provide concrete evidences from either quran or hadith but as for ANTI.ISLAM, he do show Muslims what their Quran and hadith says during discussions which is far from being deceitful because their holy books testifies to his contributions

Shahada

Hadith

Quran


These things are meaningless to me.

CANDYDADDY:
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As long as his ball sacs never dry of semen,one gender like that, they won't produce that thing once they reach certain age.

But they can always produce issues

obinna58:
Obamamessi go and rest and NL some time, your moniker reach 50 here. Go and rest for Christ sake

Meaning?

Quality20:
But why can't you get a village girl to marry even. If she is not educated or she is hawking things around

Let me see if I will see next year

ANTIlSLAM:
You mean there are some Muslims that don't follow Muhammad right? But why are all Muslims mentioning his name during shahada while praying if you're of the opinion that not every Muslims sees himself or herself as part of muhammad?






That's according to you but not according to Quran





Such can't be the commandments of allah because allah is not the author of hadith that forbade Muslims from wearing rings





Muslims don't considers lying as a wrong thing, taqqiya is permissible in Islam for spreading their faith

Do they worship Mohammed


Well, I wonder why anyone that's not a Muslim will pray in the name of Allah.


As for the commandments... whether Allah's or Mohammed's...,they can always be disregarded even after prayers.


A Muslim can kill you for deceiving him or her whether or not the Quran says it's ok for you to lie!!!!


In fact,anybody can seek your demise for being deceitful even if such had also deceived some other person!!!!

Nelllson:
Wetin dey sup with our Nigerian girls?

There is this beautiful girl that stays around my guy's area. Each time I visit my guy's place I do see the girl around, I'm really crushing on her.

I told my guy about it and he said I should shoot my shot. 3 days ago was the first day I talked to her and we exchanged numbers. We're just getting to know each other and she's already begging me for toothpaste money. Only God knows what would happen if we eventually start dating. I will definitely be her father.

Here is our chat below and I don't know how to reply.

Stop generalizing.


Not every girl or woman in Nigeria will ask you for anything

diogo23:
You want sex she give you but you can't maintain that body when you perceive odor on it you complain. No need i know people like you

The manner of concern you have towards someone determines how you treat the person...... that's the thing.

G00DHardDick:
Dear boyfriend,

The only duty you owe your girlfriend is courtesy. You don't owe her maintenance or footing her bills. Emancipate yourself from that slavery. If you want to look after a woman, look after your mother and sisters!

The problem is attraction.


What happens when you're attracted..... you spend your time first...then the rest is history.

You may not call it attraction.. you may call it something else..all I know is you won't mind having the person's attention.


If you say it's all about 'banging pussy' , that's your cup of wine.

However,there's no pussy that you can address without doing certain things.


At the end ... you only prove that the world is twisted.

ANTIlSLAM:
So his people will go against some of his commandments had it been he is alive right?

His people have to be defined.

Not every Muslim or person that prays in the name of Allah sees himself or herself as part of Mohammed's people if at all any Muslim does that.



A Muslim is defined by me as a person that prays in the name of Allah.


The reason is faith that causes the person to pray in the name of Allah.


The commandments of Mohammed have to be defined.

What if Muslims regard those things as commandments of Allah?


Even if a Muslim considers lying as wrong according to the 'commandments of Allah' or whatever that means,does it mean the Muslim never lies

Nazgul:
There's no law in Nigeria, the Bible or the koran that says a man must get married before attaining the age of 40.

Stop allowing people's self centered opinion about marriage give you sleepless nights.

Exactly.

I don't know why certain people say certain things.

I am here to live till I die...... that's all I know.


If I don't have children to bury me....., that won't change my name......Hell Victorinho.

If a male human being doesn't get married before 40....,does it mean he deserves to be called names?

ANTIlSLAM:
Limits to what extent?

What he can enforce

gforce5:
So many Nigerians, especially on blogs such as this, have this warped mindset that all you need is money. They will tell you that traveling abroad is a waste of time. So many "patriots" will tell you that getting a second passport is a waste of time and that you are still a second class citizen abroad. These "patriots" will tell you that the money and time you wasted in getting a second passport would have been used to set up "several businesses" in Nigeria. What's that saying "money is the koko!"

Yes, money is very important. However, money is not enough. If you are up to date with global news, you would know that Russian billionaires are being denied visas to many western countries for political reasons. These are guys with serious money. Look at Roman Abramovitch. Dude's visa was cancelled. This is a man who was once the richest man in the UK. Even richer than their own billionaires. We are talking about a man who has invested more than 2 billion pounds into the British economy. He's only saving grace is that he's entitled to Israeli citizenship courtesy of him being of jewish descent. Israeli citizens do not need visa to visit the UK for 3 months. Where am I going with this? If this could happen to white Russians, who are Nigerians?

If you want further reasons why having money alone is not enough, look no further than the richest black man in the planet (Aliko Dangote). Nigeria's richest man said it himself a few years ago that despite all his wealth and influence in Africa, he needs several visas to travel to multiple African countries. Yes, the man so many materialistic Nigerians use as a template for success has admitted that his vast wealth is not enough to enable him to travel to multiple countries at once. As long as he only has a Nigerian passport, he will have to apply for multiple visas at different embassies and go through so many hurdles.

Look at the situation with Nigerians in UAE (Dubai). They have stopped issuing visas to Nigerians due to the idiotic behaviour of our compatriots over there. This visa ban applies to everyone regardless of class. One could say that Dubai is not in your to do list. What about others who have business there? See the way the U.S. embassy is treating Nigerians.. They don't give a damn who you are. They are rejecting applications like it's going out of style. Even the visas issued to Nigerians is no more than 2 years. Think about it. You have to renew your B1/B2 visa every two years. That is a lot of money. Meanwhile, South Africans have a 10 year visa.Turkey has cancelled electronic visas (e-visa) for Nigerians. What used to be a simple procedure is no longer the case.

Young Nigerian, it's time to give yourselves sense. Don't listen to people discouraging you from giving yourselves options. With all the so called money they are making, what is their quality of life? Health care zero. Education zero. Infrastructure zero. A second passport gives you access to better health care, education, business opportunities and other benefits. Most of your elite have it. Bukola Saraki, Ben Murray Bruce, Ahmed Lawan, Femi Gbajamilla to name a few have second passports. They are not fools. A lot of those Nairaland diasporans have it and discourage people from getting it due to selfishness and hypocrisy.

Can you help me?

ANTIlSLAM:
Okay you mean Muhammad will be like a double mouthed if at all he's around today because he won't be able to caution them after he himself kicked against such in his sunnah bah?

I never said Mohammed will be double mouthed!!!


All I mean is that Mohammed will also have limits!!!!!

Zarzah:
Oga please I'm not here to drag any rubbish with you.....By your Logic, Morocco shouldn't have finished ahead of England in this world cup.....Have a nice day.

Which useless logic??