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repogirl:
you miss the point I am passing across.... Did you see the part where I said I chose to be married? My marriage is awesome because I have chosen to make it that way and thanks God for giving me an equally awesome husband but I can assure you if marriage didn't come my way, I would have been content being alone because I understand its about making myself happy and not looking for someone to make me happy.

I can tell you those ladies yearn for husbands,most of them cry day and night to their different gods they worship for husband. No woman whatsoever doesn't want kids not baby mamas especially in Africa,at least they haven't copied western culture in that regard .

repogirl:
I am just saying it as it is...life is what you make of it...being single or married is a choice and both come with their challenges.

The original aim of this topic was to make it seem like being single was dreadful and I simply told the OP that some people enjoy their life that way.

In reality you are a real man or woman when you have people you look out for,having kids to cater for,having a wife/husband and a home that you make sure it works and that can only be possible in marriage.

repogirl:
I never said marriage was bad, did I? I said it comes with its challenges and anyone going into it must be ready for it. Even good marriages have their trying times, you can check 1 corinthians 7:28 to see what Paul said about getting married.

You mentioned a few people that are enjoying their marriage, I can mention the ones that did not...in fact the ones that break up are even more than the ones that seem to be enjoying it.

Just as you think marriage can be bliss, so can spinsterhood for those who choose it to be. Its based on your choice and Life is what you make of it.

Didn't know singlehood doesn't have challenges . What in the world that doesn't come with challenges? You people make marriage look like one scary thing. You could go back to being single if you so cherish it.

repogirl:
I never said marriage was bad, did I? I said it comes with its challenges and anyone going into it must be ready for it. Even good marriages have their trying times, you can check 1 corinthians 7:28 to see what Paul said about getting married.

You mentioned a few people that are enjoying their marriage, I can mention the ones that did not...in fact the ones that break up are even more than the ones that seem to be enjoying it.

Just as you think marriage can be bliss, so can spinsterhood for those who choose it to be. Its based on your choice and Life is what you make of it.

Didn't know singlehood doesn't have challenges . What in the world that doesn't come with challenges? You people make marriage look like one scary thing.

repogirl:
let me repeat myself and risk sounding like a broken disc...it is a choice, some people don't want to settle... You can't force them. If they eventually decide to marry they will.

I don't understand what the big deal is about marriage.... Do you need it to make heaven or live longer? Or does it guarantee happiness?

It comes with its own challenges and except one is really ready for it and what it brings, I won't advice anyone to get married just because its what everyone does when they reach a certain age.

What do you even mean by trauma of single hood? A woman who knows herself will never be going through any trauma just because she is single. I guess Oprah Winfrey's life must be traumatic as hell.

A good marriage is heaven on earth biko,marriage is a good thing. You mentioned Oprah those have their culture and believes OMotola has been married since are 18 from all indication mercy Johnson is enjoying her marriage but you choose to use Oprah,over there you can choose a man to have a child with without getting married. Marriage is a great thing if you marry a great person.

H2Ossss:
do u honestly think that king david or king solomon waited till they got married? like seriously? anyway.. really dont want to blaspheme but my type of person never follows blindly... if they can marry so many wives and its not a sin... or keep concubines... y will it be a sin if i do? as long as i aint raping or taking anoda mans wife... the only situation its been recorded as a sin is when a married woman commits adultery... and Jesus still did not condemn her... so who re u to play God telling me its wrong?

You always refer to the old testament and am sure you are trying to justify why you should have sex before marriage,you quote bible passages that suits you and leave out the passages that condemn it,that's deceiving yourself,I won't answer for you on that day but remember this things will be presented to you on that day of judgement cuz you tried twisting it not cuz you have no knowledge of it.

gemale:
morality (ryt & wrong) is in its essence relative nt static as most pple tnk. It is often determined by factors such as tym, individual preferences, situation & overall lyk & dislikes of D society 1 finds his/herself in. Typical examples include consumption of pork, polygamy vs monogamy, etc. D fact is dt 90% of most issues in d world 2day r of relative morality. Personally d only reason dt makes me feel uncomfortable abt having sex is due 2 religious indoctrination (I actually find it quite enjoyable & relaxing) & let's b very honest religion is rili man's perception of God (hence d numerous religions present in our world). No mata wt anybody says, all d Holy books were written/compiled by men (d Bible, Quran, bagavad Geeta, Torah etc) hence dey r nt totally infallible.

The bible is God's word and it is infallible. It is real and they re not just ordinary words please.

Beauty is not a criteria for marriage or a good marriage,beauty disappears after one month it's character that matters doesn't mean there aren't ladies with both but those you mentioned can hardly stick or be answerable to a man.

oglalasioux:
First try to determine what is wrong and what is right. The key to determining what is right or wrong is asking yourself what the world will be if everyone did something. My brother, if we live by religious values the world's gonna be one shit place. Religion says multiply and fill the earth. African values say a man must have a male child so his wife that bears only female children keeps giving birth to more. The man marries another wife just to get a male child. My question is; can the world handle such stupidity with such limited space and resources?

We are not talking about religion...we are talking about Christianity there's difference between the two. Not everyone that goes to church is a Christian. Not everyone that goes to the mosque are Muslims.

oglalasioux:
You cannot be living in the world and claim not to belong to the world. If Christians think world dynamics don't apply to them then they should go back to stone age and 'wait for the coming of their Lord'.

Dude, what is wrong is wrong don't try justifying it.

gemale:
Dude most of our folk were afraid/embarrassed 2 talk abt their sensuality dt dey did wt their generation did best... play d ostrich & pretend it didn't mata whilst a lot of dem suffered in silence. U said u like 2 stand 4 D truth & it is dis... We (humans) r wired 2 lyk having sex. It's our default setting. D only reason some pple mite nt lyk it is either due abnormalities lyk hormonal imbalance or largely due 2 - VE social & religious notions abt sex. Most of D peeps supporting d op actually lyk sex bt r just feeling guilty abt it so as nt 2 b labeled a sinner.

You missed the point,liking sex or not still doesn't make it right to indulge in it before marriage am not playing saint but truth never changes. It's wrong to be done before marriage.

Freakypinky:
My BB PIN 2A5BCC39

You haven't responded.

Going through this thread my heart gladdens to see our people interested in government and how it is runned,I see optimism and believe for once by most people in their government basically cuz we have an upright man at helms of affairs but we need to hold thwmnto their words only way we will get the best from them not sentimental critism but objective critism without hate but for the growth of the country.

Descartes:
Look at this brownie calling one a 'broken individual' when is evidential that he lives in brown roof with his parents claiming that he reserves the culture of his brown roof Republic

You are really broken in every word of it, go fix yourself.

joseph1832:
I never expected you to. Our native and customary laws are old and archaic, all the more reason why they should be thrown into the bush.

You can go own and do what you want but the law is law and can't be changed for peeps like you. Truth can't be changed to lie.

winner01:
Its funny what we have become as a people.
A highly promiscuous man hoping that once he gets married, infidelity will cease.
Or a lady who sleeps with several men at will expecting to be satisfied by just one man after marriage.
And we are unrepentant about this


The world is gradually going over to the dark side, insanity is fast becoming legal all over the world. People now want to do things the way they like with no one to call them to order. That pretty explains the reason for some of the negative comments above.

We keep stressing how corrupt our leaders are, but this generation is far worse.
A generation that endorses evil without remorse, a generation where bad is said to be another word for good, a generation that rejects accountability to God, a generation that tries to modify the principles of God, a generation that rationalizes evil, a seriously reckless generation.
I weep for our children.

You have just stated the very truth may God bless you. Even though i indulge it,truth be told it is wrong simple. This generation will probably be the worst in history.

Curlygirl:
My brother leave that marriage before this your wife kills you.at least ask fot the sake of your children before you become a murderer.
She needs deliverance. This is a story for other young unsuspecting men to read. Look before you leap.

Are you married?

EggovinMma:


I need the belle ooooo.Make I see weda this crase wey dey worry me those four days of every month go come down.

Get the belle naw. Boko haram dey there?

EggovinMma:


I need the belle ooooo.Make I see weda this crase wey dey worry me those four days of every month go come down.

You no know where or how to get am?

Dear Op,

Truth is it depends on your personality, if you have a trashy personality they will assume you are a runs girl and that's why you could afford to buy a car but it's a obviously a good thing because you will only attract men who are men enough not to be intimidated by a woman's success that's a woman who worked hard for it not one who used what she has to get it. I have female colleagues who owns cars,they are good girls and has good personality but the society are scared of them n see them as high class girls so few men approach them but they are really nice people. My advise get yourself a car but have a great personality eventually real men won't be fazed by it.

Dear Op,

Truth is it depends on your personality, if you have a trashy personality they will assume you are a runs girl and that's why you could afford to buy a car but it's a obviously a good thing because you will only attract men who are men enough not to be intimidated by a woman's success that's a woman who worked hard for it not one who used what she has to get it. I have female colleagues who owns cars,they are good girls and has good personality but the society are scared of them n see them as high class girls so few men approach them but they are really nice people.

Sincerely you have few options left...I say Bleep your pastor and in-laws ,they are not the ones living with this woman,you are the one feeling the burnt. So the options available to you is divorce her or lose your life. Expect you are enjoying this marriage the way it is. There is better life out there and I must admire your calm n patient nature if na me na tey tey a for Don happen.

Joel3:
even when I am concluding not to get married, seeing this post and reading from up to down it only gives me more assurance that I had always been right.

in my dictionary marriage is the biggest scam in 21st century. very soon in 22nd century it will be too obvious and clear to all. I need no marriage neither do I need a kid.

just me only after all the world is full of nonsense. I am fed up and tired. their is no meaning we all will die. and here comes tales of hell fire. so I don't want to bring anybody to this world to suffer in any form. enjoy and while it last. good bye.

Dude the problem with people like you is they think their opinion counts and they re the best thing to happen to humanity when in truth they are bunch of morons. Keep your opinion about not getting married to yourself,it's your personal decision don't justify your position because of bad marriages and you left out awesome marriages. There are marriages you will see and you want to marry the next day but you choose to see what you want to see.

Davido is behaving like a kid. Have you seen tuface display wealth or don jazzy,Jay z, R kelly? Thats the difference between men and boys.

Drchristian:
My bf has dis exact cloth..hmmmm

What's special about the shirt ?

Drchristian:
My bf has dis exact cloth..hmmmm

What's special about the short ?

ab4real15:
stewpid Goat.

Exactly the point am making,they are all like this.

Darey is too decent to have originated from kogi.

RedCard1:
he doesn't need to pay her for sex for you to know that Tiwa is an olosho. Call a spade what it is

How do you know she is an ashawo?

OCHOdee:
send me a mail

Mails hardly work. Expect you do twitter or others.

luckyboss:
Am alwys ashame any time i see Buhari as a Nigeria president; Nothing qualify him to be.

How can you be ashamed? You should bow your head in shame instead only few people attain that position kindly stop hating and thought for being ashamed you wouldn't be a Nigerian again.

Jennifer89:
Ekweremmadu be like 'see these two mumu people shaking hands mtchewwww na the masses i dey pity'

Start by pitying yourself.