Some of you might disagree with this article but it is what it is. Sending periodic allowances to your folks for upkeep does not make you fully matured and responsible as a man or woman especially when you have attained a marriageable age.

Let me give you an analogy: if Mr A pays 10% monthly to an anonymous charity club and Mr B doesn't. Does this periodic payment make Mr A more responsible than Mr B?
Some people's parents do not need a stipend or an allowance to stay afloat.

Working in a corporate organization and motivating your team gives you a sense of leadership but doesn't make you matured and responsible ( ask those bosses that sleeps and threatens their subordinates). Leading your team to achieve set KPIs and targets doesn't always involve close emotions.

Coordinating your family as a man or a woman is what maturity and responsibility is all about. When you are fully responsible for another; financially, morally and emotionally that is when you can say you are responsible. I thought Patience was one of my virtues until I attended PTA and getting my kids to do their home became another full-time job

Maturity test is not just about being tolerant. When I was single, maturity was about "tolerance" and using the appropriate language even when you take offence and also keeping your cool all the time. I could remember when my dad was prepared for a major surgery, I presented my group's performance at a QPR session. At the end of the day I called and surgery was a success.
When my son had malaria and was admitted, I couldn't think straight for 10mins at the office. Maturity was no where to be found.

Truth be told, getting married and having kids will reset your brain. I was a no nonsense person before marriage and I will not hesitate to dish out a query or escalate an erring subordinate but in the last 5years I have not queried anyone because the case I settle on a daily basis between my daughter and son is energy sapping.

Please get married and have kids before you talk about maturity and responsibility biko.

Alero3Arubi:
Wife food represents your level in life.
Side chick is the lie you tell your self everyday.
If you have better money na your house you go spend am.
But when you are broke that is how you will be trying to impress person outside.

Sometimes the lie tells people where they want to be. It motivates them. Perhaps side chick food is filled with motivation.

phemmyfour:
From my POV

Wife's food: Predictable and lacks varieties

Side chick's food: Full of varieties and attractive

Experience...

paulolee:
wife food is davido n sidechick food is burner boi..

Lol

VickyRotex:
Let's start by asking why he has a side chick or whatever you call it

Stay within the topic...

the person that asked u the question pls tell him his uncle needs deliverance oo.wen u don abandon ur wife"s food and don dey eat side chic food full time that is when u know the person needs immidiate help

Everyone needs help.

punisha:
Wifey's food is like using clippers to cut your hair.
Side chic's food is like picking ur hair strands one by one in a bid to cut your hair too.
Thunder faya that mumu side chic wey go cook better pass my wife.

Have you tasted both?

AfroKnight:


Bro, you need to change your side chick.

...seriously he needs to...

RisenJoe:


Having gone through your topics, I can say you are in a position to give advice but fear about getting married is type of ladies we have now, that is I have never seen a lady who is ready to bend down and be married, the few I saw are first born in their family and am afraid that being a first born and marrying a first born will give you a lot of responsibilities which would be a stumbling block to achieving 50% percent of your goals, now let me ask you what particular amount of money do you think that a business man should have in his personal account before talking of marriage and am not talking about the business capital ooo

Let me start with the issue of choice. Firstly never marry a lady with no source of income; unless she is young(20-23), " brilliant this should show in her class of degree" and just thru with school. Don't be afraid to marry a firstborn if she has her own source of income and you love her.

Attitude wise, before you approach a lady you want to marry, first observe how she treats the people around her. Her attitude towards random people is her true self. Also when you have found the one, ensure you agree on the terms of the union.

Do you have an apartment? ( I was in my sisters BQ when I got married. I was earning 185k then). Money is important but you just need a little to start.

Since you have your working capital, once you find the right person, you do the introduction few bottles of beer, then you do a little ceremony that is all.

With 600k or less you're good. The money in the bank depends on your taste.

Daveambition:



I don't believe a jack u said
Una sabi lie inside this forum

My intent is not for you to believe. It is for you to organize yourself early, get a spouse and bring beautiful kids to the world. That is what you should focus on.

Daveambition:
Yes! I told the officer whenever he decides to get married, I will take care of all the entertainment.

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I have done it before nothing new. I once paid for a Gardner's children school fees for a complete year three of them. Still paid for the wife's medicals when she had complications. I don't joke with family.

I arrived very early at the office, earlier than usual, the cleaners were still busy inside and I decided to wait in the car. I observed the security guys pouring diesel into the generator and the herbal medicine hawker filling their cups with several herbal mixtures.

I was just going through my KPIs and the % of my budget target I have achieved in Q2. When I saw that they were signalling me. I understood they wanted me to pay for the mixtures and peppered beef. I nodded for them to continue. The CSO later walked close to my vehicle and greeted.

I asked about his family and he said he wasn't married. He asked me " oga say na this 35 naira security work I go take marry"? This man should be in his mid forties and have stayed on the job for close to fifteen years. First I was disappointed and later I discovered he was just ignorant. I asked how much he earns he said 38k ( that is a ridiculous amount)...I asked again how much were you earning 15-16 years ago he said 35k.

I told him about my dad who was a bank security officer for about 22years with 8 children who were/are all bankers. Today you are calling me boss. Tomorrow your children may become bosses. I made him understand that life may be unfair to you today, but if you persevere, the sun may shine on your part tomorrow. Whatever you lack, today your children can double it for you tomorrow.

I explained to him that as a banker, money is just like paper, they (government) print it everyday. Therefore, it is not the most valuable resource. You cannot get 15years of your life back but you can make all the money you have missed right from your childhood Till this moment in the next 20mins. No matter how you feed your child he/she can't start walking at 2months.

Money has grace attached to it. I have seen clients who started with peanuts today they have private bankers managing their accounts. I have seen clients who gave birth to efulefu and today they are in court because of sharing formula after depleting all the current assets.

It may not be you that will set your family to the part of glory; therefore don't delay the ones who are supposed to. "David wanted to build the temple but God said I have given that task to Solomon". Stop delaying go get married and give us beautiful kids.

Yes! I told the officer whenever he decides to get married, I will take care of all the entertainment.

FalseProphet1:
For our lazy brothers and sisters who couldn't read the whole article.

Our dearest op played the whóre role in the banking industry 11 years ago, and although some ladies hammered heavily through that channel our op didn't, money she no see, husband she no see, now she's 34 years with no job and husband...and very sad. Please help her.

This I have seen.

receive sense

Quality20:
women are majorly misers. Many of them who are wives would never assist with home finances even if they earn more than d husband, even if they as much as buy fuel for d gen or food for d kids in d husbands absence, they are gonna nag on him when he comes back

That's not true. My mum was the rock behind my Dad. My wife doesn't mind giving you her entire pay if she sees that you are in need. She is incredibly supportive. The topic focuses on tipping. Which is just an extra money paid for a service or just a random act. The receiver didn't ask for it, you gave willingly. I trust you get the point. Women are beautiful creatures!

Guys stop being ignorant. Every year all bankers (including drivers) do fill asset declaration forms. Every year it is being sent to CBN and EFCC. Even if a banker is corrupt, asset declaration form is the least of his worries.

Deicide:
Topic should be "Why my wife don't give tip?"

you can change the topic.

descarado:
The 28th law of power.
Be a smart tip asss.

And tip generously. You will never understand the benefits until you start.

In occultism and spirituality, its a prerequisite.
Unless you don't want the balance of nature.

OK o

butterfly777:
The average woman is naturally kind to her children, but also naturally mean to everyone else. The less related you are to her, the meaner they will be to you. I have noticed this.

hmmm but there are exceptions. Pocohantas said she is different perhaps there are other ladies like her too. My observations were based on tips and not giving in general.

Carchoice:
Most Women prefer you give them the money instead.

Mixedfruit:
tip tip tip

mor tip

pocohantas:




I don’t have such grace. I simply cut them off.

That said, many Nigerian women are not generous with their money and even when they tip, I find the amount embarrassing sometimes. I know it shouldn’t matter, but I won’t give a grown man N100, I won’t even give N200.

I was looking for a place today and the network was crappy. I pulled over and asked one woman, she thought I wanted to buy her market, but when I said I wanted to ask her a question, she said doesn’t know. She didn’t even allow me to talk. I saw a newspaper vendor by her shade and asked him, I knew they must know it because it is quite popular and I was sure I was on the road, just didn’t know the exact diversion. Before asking, I told him I don’t want to buy a newspaper o, he smiled and said, “NO PROBLEM, ASK ME”. I asked and he gave a very accurate description with landmarks. I hurried into my car and went there. On my way back, I went back to him and thanked him. Gave him 2k in appreciation. The nonsense woman was there looking. Some people are just so ***no words***

That's lovely. The vendor will never forget that day in a hurry. For the woman, it is simply depression. You did well.

Oluromantic:

Heavy. On top how much. Lol. Abi na sharp sans tipper you dey talk

Bros focus na just talk your own in respect of the topic.

pocohantas:
I can’t relate, I am a heavy tipper. However, if you show entitlement mentality as is common with many of those cleaners and security men, I will stop giving you.

That's nice. Well for the "entitled" ones, I always remember a prayer "look not on our sins but on the faith of your church ". I will just look the other way and still do it.

Goldbw122:
Is nature, and the way the person handle money, way of financial life..

I am quite prudent but sometimes I like practicing the act of random kindness like just give a Lil cash to the security guy or the potter at the mall. It makes life beautiful

Whenever my wife and I decide to eat out, I often notice that she does not give the waiter the tip I had added when giving her money to pay for the bills (although I have never informed her that the additional money was a tip for the waiter. I just wanted her to willingly tip the waiter since she has excess). However she is quite generous and often assist others when they are indeed.

At the office, I observe others during lunch and I have never seen a female colleague tip the waiter. It is not about the grade or earning capacity because I have seen my subordinates (male) tip the waiters.

Let's say perhaps they don't like the waiter what about the cleaners that assist them to wipe their cars? The cleaners charge 1k to wipe your car and a lot of times the ladies do not add a dime to the 1k.

My sisters have never tipped anyone neither my mum. I know ladies do have a large heart and the are often filled with emotions hence they always love to help but what about a tip?

A tip lightens the day of the receiver. Ladies learn to give tips

joeluv:
Do you even know the billions that would be lost due to this. Una no Dey ever get sense all this IPOB supporters. Where in the world have you seen people force people to stay home. That is bin ruled by fascists . Make una Dey supper nonsense. Peopl are just home because they are scared for their lives and that should worry everybody.

Money is printed everyday. Tomorrow new notes will be printed. Money is nothing

It is a bit difficult these days looking at the present economic situation of the country. Young men are scared of relationships. The financial implications of marriage etc but like I will continue to say: Marry on that low income, pray and work smart .

Everyone Dies!

CharisEleos:


Who says maturity is by age?
The illustration you gave about youreslf and your Gramps just buttressed my point. Maturity is not by age.

OK, educate me. How do you measure maturity? What are the criteria or criterion a person should achieve or attain before he/she can be qualified for the maturity status.

CharisEleos:


You're right but getting a Mature fellow these days is not that easy.

I like my peace of mind.

Ladies and this "matured" nonsense! I was very young when I got married. Wifey and I were so young that people often thought we were siblings and schooling. We had and still having so much fun. My grandfather once told my dad that he doesn't want to share same room with grandmother. In fact he left the building for her entirely. At that age with all the maturity? Is bill gates not matured? My recipe for marriage is marry a honest person that is tolerant and hardworking.

chukwuibuipob:
focus beta that suicide mission

it doesn't matter whether you die now or in a hundred years time. The cause of death doesn't matter... What really matters is your legacy. Fidel castrol died several decades after Che but today thy're both dead. Guess what? The name Che Guevara will never die. Let them die fighting!

chukwuibuipob:
105 ways to DIE

everyone dies