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Call her what everyone else calls her.

I'm a lady.
30, AS genotype, yoruba.
I'm a working class lady.
I'm looking for a guy 30-36, AA, working class, honest and kind hearted, goals and family-oriented.
Any tribe is fine. Abuja or any northcentral location though I'm open to other locations too.
Please send me a PM.

The real question here is...
"Wetin concern you?"

He's a scammer.
Your cousin spent 3 years in a relationship with him, yet she doesn't know much about him?
Everyone should move on until you catch him. Since he's from imo, he will return.

I think it is appropriate to be decently dressed in front of your growing children.
Also, parents who bathe with their children,
Stop it!!!!
Bathe the child and then take your bath. Stop going naked with your children in the name of taking a bath.

I hope that employees will learn to understand the social media policies and code of conduct and ethics of the establishment they work with.
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Bringing organisational matters to social media is a big NO.

What is your own plan for the future?
You're talking about if you die and your family comes to take everything, is he your spouse?

Monfeels:
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Mr. Fifty Shades of Grey!!!!

I'm truly sorry about this.
No one should ever have to decide if they can afford healthcare for their own child.
I'm sorry.

Vikky1425:
Thank you
He smokes and drinks, he promised to stop. wants to bring his friends over so I can cook, because he likes people around him and he cannot buy food outside neither can he cook. I am just fed up. I'll call it quit. We are clearly not compatible. Toxicity is of different shades

More cooking assignments.
Apart from food, you will clean the house, go to the market, stock the fridge, do laundry and go lay on the bed to fulfil his sexual urges.
He gets a maid and a sex partner almost for free.
What does he bring to the table?

This desperation to become 'wife' will make you end up in a bad marriage.
He's even manipulating you, asking if that's how you will behave when his mother is there....
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One month relationship and you are already slaving away in his house, and very soon his family house. At the end of it all, his family will say they don't like you, or you're not from their village.
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Better wise up and set the tone for your relationship. What you can't continually do, don't start.
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P. S If cooking for the world is your passion, please do it. But don't grudgingly do it and come on Nairaland to ask us if his attitude towards you is appropriate. Let traditional man go and marry traditional woman. Don't think you can change him.

Maybe I don't understand the thread.
My thought is this.
Discovering who you are as a person is key and the concept of 'purpose' is based on personal interpretation.
While some people believe that they are on earth for a 'reason', some other people believe that you create your own purpose.
This is multifaceted. Not everyone derives joy and fulfilment from marriage, kids, work, and there is no formula to achieving happiness.
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If you're basing your argument on your religious point of view, not everyone believes in that.
If you're making an argument on
Marriage vs Work= Fulfilment of Purpose
Then it does even begin to cover the idea of fulfilment of purpose, which some people do not even believe exists.

Are you saying we should place emphasis on 'marriage' over 'work'?

You didn't direct us to where we should focus on

I'll pay a certified counselor and attend with my husband to be.

obiagelilouis:
Happy anniversary to Adesua Etomi and Banky W

Change your demonic mindset.
Go and give them a child na, since you're the angel that distributes children.
You mock them today. Do you know what your future holds?

Spice1:
Good for them!


After all how many lives did they safe?

I wonder if they gave out palliatives to their kinsmen , environs, establishments and et Al than given to the Nigerian government


Mtcheeeew!

Bone head!!
Their establishments gave jobs to thousands of people, who were in turn able to make a living and feed their families.
Now that their businesses are down, they will be forced to disengage many staff, leading to an increase in unemployment and poverty.
Having a job after this pandemic is more important than any useless 20k palliative anybody can give you.

No.
You can have masters degrees, but job experience trumps many certificates.
What's your area of specialization?
Work small jobs that are related to your field. 6 months, 10 months, 18 months work experience and do the masters degree on the side.
By the time you are done with the masters, you should have like 2 years combined experience.

You went out so you can see those who went out?
I can see that we are not ready for covid-19. If you have no business outside, what are you going out for?

Even if you wear bubu, or tie iro and buba, and walk on the other side of the road, men will still be wanting sex.
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Men be blaming their lack of willpower on women since the start of time.

DaInferno:
a "wife" should ask the husband for help if the work is too much for her alone, or better still get a househelp... and not reject sex for the reasons u mentioned. you make it sound as if men just sit around and gbam: baby I need sex!

I agree that communication is key and one should request help when needed.
However, my post is not to bash "Men".
He can take the initiative to assist around the house. I also said they should do things 'together' as this could serve as a form of bonding and the wife might be more inclined to reveal what the real issues are.
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Getting a househelp is not the easiest thing in the world or the solution to all problems. It is also a financial burden on the family which we don't know if they can afford.

It is tasking running a home, taking care of kids and husband and doing chores, cooking round the clock.
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If you want more sex, help her in the house chores. Do some work together in the house to ease the pressure on her. If she's not so under pressure, she'll be more open to your sexual needs.

Everyone is talking about the ladies who have had abortions.
What of the men who rejected the pregnancies and encouraged the abortions? They are abortionists too. Some of the men commenting here have had 2-3 abortions too.
Infact, it is difficult to find a man who has not had an abortion.
Guys who have had 2-3 abortions would be complaining about a girl who confessed to one abortion. Hypocrisy!!
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Let birds of a feather flock together biko!

Guy wants to get married, but still live the single life!
Oga, that is not how it works oo.
When you decide to get married, it means you have made room for another person to be in your space.

I'm a 5G wife material.
Send a PM if you're a 5G husband material

The old husband, the escaped wife, the belleful wife and the Op are not serious.

bukatyne:
@bold:

Biko permit me to laugh

Is your hair natural? I used to find the mixture of rosewater + extra virgin olive oil or water + evoo softening.

Apply overnight and wear a plastic cap. Yoi can also have a small spray bottle and apply little while rhey are making the hair.

Opposite sex masseuse, I feel you jare.

Unfortunately, the boys are thr best for the job.

Thanks for the hair tip.
I'll try it out.

I don't like male hairdressers.
I know they are good sometimes, but in my 2 experiences with them, they approached my hair like they were hunting in a wilderness.
It hurt. So I stay away.
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I wouldn't want Masseurs for myself or my partner.
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Also, those local guys who help you get on a horse at the beach, or help you cross a river/flooded area, uncomfortable.

What has eating rice on sunday got to do with washing of hands?
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You just want to open a thread.
Thanks. We have acknowledged your presence.

Mirabellek:
Dad is always abusive he beat my mum a lot including all of us. If he found out he will kill us

He cannot kill you all.
Like I said, talk to family members he respects. They will handle the matter.

See, the sky doesn't usually fall when a child gets pregnant. Forget all the brouhaha.
Las las, everything will be fine.
Ego will not allow your father admit that he failed as a parent.
You guys should go tell elders in your family, like aunts or uncles he listens to. They will be the ones to inform him of the pregnancy.

I'm a lady.
30, AS genotype, yoruba.
I'm a working class lady.
I'm looking for a guy 31-36, AA, working class, honest and kind hearted, goals and family-oriented.
Any tribe is fine. Abuja or any northcentral location though I'm open to other locations too.
Please send me a PM.