“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"- Col 3:5-6

@charcon, you're kidding right?

They say that "the family that prays together, stays together" -

"[b]Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband[/b]" - Eph 5:21-33

@op, i know you're hurt, but try to work it out, watching and praying all the while, because only GOD can touch his heart. Let him know how you feel, how hurt you are, and let him know that there are consequences to his actions, both physical and spiritual before GOD.

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"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

One of the many, many signs of the times, not only here, but all over the world.  "And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold." - Matt 24:12

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"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring;  Men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken.  And then shall they see the Son of man coming in a cloud with power and great glory." - Luke 21:25-27

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." - 1 Co 7:10-11

"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Mark 10:9

@op, i sympathize with you, truly. Please, pray continually (1 thess 5:17 & Phil 4:6-7) for GOD's grace to forgive him and pray for him. You must try to work it out, in obedience to GOD, for the sake of your child (it adversely affects children i tell you who grow up with resentment), and also because of your vows

"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

@op, pray that GOD takes you from that situation, believe me, there are consequences. You are married for better or for worse, until death do you part. You made vows to GOD, before witnesses. Humbly, stay in the word of GOD and in prayer.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband" - 1 Co 7:1-2

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

@op, be advised, most men are after sexual relations, so don't let anything go to your head.  

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  "Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Prov31:30

^^^ "No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day." - John 6:44 

“So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of GOD.” - Rom 10:17

We see this sort of phenomenon (and more) occurring all over the world in similar fashion, from Europe's austerity to the Arab Spring. They are all end time events -

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring; Men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken. And then shall they see the Son of man coming in a cloud with power and great glory." - Luke 21:25-27

We see this sort of phenomenon (and more) occurring all over the world in similar fashion, from Europe's austerity to the Arab Spring. They are all end time events -

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring; Men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken. And then shall they see the Son of man coming in a cloud with power and great glory." - Luke 21:25-27

"Behold, thou hast made my days as an handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah. Surely every man walketh in a vain shew: surely they are disquieted in vain: he heapeth up riches, and knoweth not who shall gather them." - Psa 39:5-6

@op,

you're to love and submit to your husband unconditionally. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:18-19
Try reading the word of GOD and praying together. "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

true, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." -Matt 19:6

@op,

The fall of man into sin and consequent degeneration / separation from GOD. - "For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:" - Matt 15:19

"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:19

"So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:" - Eph 5:28-29

It isn't easy, but pray for GOD's strength to love your wife unconditionally. In essence, what's yours is hers and what's her's is yours. It is "for better of for worse, until death do you part." Your love and affection and prayers just may cause, by GOD's mercy, a change of heart in her for the better. Salvage, don't destroy further.

humbly

@op, (and to me too & all) - re: porn, and the like - "And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell." -Matt 5:29, "For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever." -1Jn 2:16-17

re: trust in any human being?? "It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes." - Psa 118:8-9

@op, it isn't just Africans,  its a human condition before true salvation and regeneration through The Lord JESUS CHRIST.  “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23

"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" - Jer 17:9 

"For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:" - Mat 15:19

“Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but GOD shall destroy both it and Them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.”- 1 Corinthians 6:13

"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"- Col 3:5-6

@op,

"Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."  - Phil 4:6-7 ("be careful" = be anxious, for nothing)

Humbly ask GOD for help, believing that HE in HIS goodness and mercy will open doors for you to earn, and glorify HIM.  Work as hard as you can, and i pray GOD may bless you efforts. "But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him." - Heb 11:6 

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"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." - Matt 6:33

Just a humble exhortation to all, self included -

"Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that." - Jas 4:13-15

"And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him." - Col_3:17

The Lord GOD protects whom HE will in HIS perfection and mercy.  "As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him."- 2Sa_22:31

As far as sin / offenses go, no one will escape who has not been justified in,by and through the Lord JESUS CHRIST by HIS grace.  Where can one go in this universe to escape GOD HE is the perfect judge.

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"And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold" - Matt 24:12  

"Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!" - Matt 18:7  

"For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad." - 2 Co 5:10

@op, pray for the grace and strength to love your wife and be reconciled back to her.  "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." - Eph_4:32 

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." -1 Co 7:10-11

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"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." -Matt 19:6

@op, If it all possible, try to be reconciled unto to your husband because there is to be no divorce for any reason, it is until "death do you part".

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." - 1 Co 7:10-11

After this, pray / beg The Lord GOD for a child and according to HIS will HE will bless you. "With GOD all things are possible". Sarah had a child at the age of 99 (Rom_4:19). If not, its isn't bad to adopt, in so doing you give the child a home and a family. May GOD bless you.
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"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

Divorce is never the answer, and it is against the law of GOD - "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." -Matt 19:6

We always pray for GOD's help. Phil 4:13

Because with the exception of those who truly have hope in the salvation from the wrath of GOD through Himself in The Person of our Lord JESUS CHRIST, - "The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away." - Psa 90:10

"Therefore I hated life; because the work that is wrought under the sun is grievous unto me: for all is vanity and vexation of spirit." - Ecc_2:17

Praise GOD for so great a salvation and reconciliation back to HIMSELF.