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@op,

I used to, until The Lord JESUS CHRIST took it from me in HIS mercy, no joke.  Thus, i humbly encourage you to pray and read the word of GOD, bearing in mind that our bodies belong to GOD.

"Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." - Matt 26:41  

“So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of GOD.” - Rom 10:17

"And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come." - Matt 24:12-14

One of the very many clear signs of the times. Watch and pray.

"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Prov 31:30

Yorubas are not better or more advanced than any other people (i was raised in Lagos and live among them, so take my word for it).  People are people!  True wisdom and knowledge and change of the heart for good towards GOD and fellow man comes from the Lord JESUS CHRIST and from HIS holy word the Bible

"For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart." - Heb 4:12 

“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” -2 Tim 3:16-17

@op, I may "sound" like a broken record, but tell him, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

Also gently ask him if he would like if another man repeatedly did this sort of thing to his sister, or mother? Exposing them to emotional hurt and the risk of diseases? (i speak humbly, not in personal judgment, GOD is the judge).

But ultimately, pray for him, because only The Lord JESUS CHRIST, GOD can truly touch the heart of a man / person.

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"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col_3:19. This love in unconditional love, no matter what, until death do you part. However, one cannot do it alone, thus one would stay in the holy word of GOD and in prayer for The Lord JESUS's strength. (Phil 4:13)

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"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." - Matt 18:21-22

^^^ To GOD be all the glory, all HIS holy words.

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"Let all those that seek thee rejoice and be glad in thee: and let such as love thy salvation say continually, Let God be magnified." - Psa 70:4

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@op, it may or may not be the Lord's will for you, thus, put it in prayer, making your request made known unto GOD (Phil 4:6-7), but ultimately praying that HIS perfect will be done in your life, which is HIS. "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." - Matt 6:33

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"There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." - 1 Cor 7:34

"For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." - 1 Cor 7:7-9 (that is, to burn in sinful passion / lust outside of marriage)

@op, - Unfortunately, this issue is not restricted to only teenage boys.  It is a human condition since the fall of man, thus it applies to all men /human beings. Only The Lord JESUS CHRIST, by HIS mercy and grace, can truly free a person from the bondage of sin, which includes the lusts of the flesh. Rom 7:14-25.

"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"- Col 3:5-6

“For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.”- Rom 8:6-7

"Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.  Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.  For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace." - Rom 6:12-14

Stay in the word of GOD and in prayer. - "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." - Matt 26:41

All is vanity -
"Behold, thou hast made my days as an handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah. Surely every man walketh in a vain shew: surely they are disquieted in vain: he heapeth up riches, and knoweth not who shall gather them." - Psa 39:5-6

"For all those things hath mine hand made, and all those things have been, saith the LORD: but to this man will I look, even to him that is poor and of a contrite spirit, and trembleth at my word." - Isa 66:2

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

Christmas, “the holidays”, is commonly perceived as gift-giving time. This is simply a humble exhortation for us all to remember the real essence and the substance of Christmas time. Regardless of its origins, it is a time in which the world commemorates the birth of / physical arrival of The only Savior of the world, into the world. “And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.” - John 1:14

Why did The Lord JESUS CHRIST come? To mercifully stand in the place of many, saving them from the righteous wrath of GOD for their sins, thereby justifying, sanctifying and reconciling them back unto Himself / GOD.

“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23

“For the wages of sin [is] death; but the gift of GOD [is] eternal life through JESUS CHRIST our Lord.” - Rom 6:23

So then, the greatest gift from GOD to mankind is the gift of salvation through HIMSELF, in The person of our Lord JESUS CHRIST, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son,
that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.” – John 3:16-17

“Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.” - Acts 4:12

“Thanks be unto God for his unspeakable gift.” – 2 Cor 9:15

So, this season, and at all times, by HIS grace alone, let us “Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:” - Isa 55:6; remaining fervently in the holy, true, living (Heb 4:12) word of GOD - “So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of GOD.” - Rom 10:17

May GOD bless you all.

@op, since GOD's completion of the holy Bible, there is no more prophecy outside of it.  (that includes so called prophecies inaccurately predicting the results of football matches).

"And I fell at his feet to worship him. And he said unto me, See thou do it not: I am thy fellowservant, and of thy brethren that have the testimony of Jesus: worship God: for the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy." - Rev 19:10 

"For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book: And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book." - Rev 22:18-19

Humbly, yet firmly, truly, we all ought to stay as often as possible in the holy word of GOD, The Bible, which contains all the answers and pray that GOD may open our understanding thereto because -
“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” - 2 Timothy 3:16-17

@musKeeto - the answer is unequivocally, yes! “For the wages of sin [is] death; but the gift of GOD [is] eternal life through JESUS CHRIST our Lord.” - Rom 6:23; “Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.” - Acts 4:12

Pray and try hard to forgive, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23.

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"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven."
- Mat 18:21-22

@musKeeto,

I am not referring to all who claim to be of The Lord JESUS CHRIST, and thus Christians, but those who truly are, by GOD's grace and mercy only - "Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity." - 2 Ti 2:19. "Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven" - Matt 7:21 (2Co 11:13-15)

My point basically, and it is truth, that the word of GOD is the truth and abides forever, as opposed to any knowledge acquired while here on this earth, which for the short run may be instrumental in making a living, etc, but is fleeting and will cease when one dies.

@op,

first friend, pray for her, for a change of heart, because only GOD can truly touch the heart.
2nd, pray and read the word of GOD with her (Start with Ephesians 5). You are to love her unconditionally, and woo her affectionately. She may be positively influenced by your patience and unconditional love. Also, be firm. you are the head of your household, as GOD is your head.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:18-19

"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." - 1 Co 7:2-5

Without question and of a truth -
"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever." - Psa 111:10; "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding." - Prov 9:10

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"Howbeit we speak wisdom among them that are perfect: yet not the wisdom of this world, nor of the princes of this world, that come to nought:" -1 Co 2:6

Condolences - its a reminder though that no matter who one is on this earth, that there is an end to things - “And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment”:- Heb 9:27, for anyone not find in CHRIST JESUS The Lord. “Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.” - Acts 4:12

^^^ I believe the op is referring to the sinful problems, (i.e., danger to the scantily dressed women, ensuing lust and fornication, etc), that arise from this sort of attention seeking behavior, "For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.” - 1 Jn 2:16-17

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women, truly,
"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Pro_31:30

"Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." - 1 Pet 3:3-4

"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Prov 31:30

"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

"And if a man shall take his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter, and see her unclothedness, and she see his unclothedness; it is a wicked thing; and they shall be cut off in the sight of their people: he hath uncovered his sister's unclothedness; he shall bear his iniquity." - Lev 20:17

But one needn't judge them at all, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23, “For the wages of sin [is] death; but the gift of GOD [is] eternal life through JESUS CHRIST our Lord.” - Rom 6:23, “So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of GOD.” - Rom 10:17

Strife only leads to more strife.  

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;" - Eph 5:22-25

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:19 

"Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." - Eph 5:33

I sympathize with her. It's a tough situation, but I tell you GOD is the GOD of all comfort. "Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God." -2 Cor 1:3-4

Thus, i would humbly suggest that she pray fervently (Phil 4:6-7), first and foremost, praying for her spouse - for a change of heart, which only The Lord JESUS CHRIST can do. Then study the word of GOD. She should continue to try to make peace with her husband, for GOD's sake, for the sake of her marriage (which is not to be ended for any reason - it is until death do you part [Romans 7:1-3]), and for the sake of her children.

"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." - 1 Pet 3:1-2 [conversation = conduct]. She may also influence him positively if she continues to show him unconditional love and respect, though she's been hurt, and show him how much she is hurt by his behavior and how it adversely affects their family.

"With GOD nothing shall be impossible"