toyboy1:
Alsatians are generally friendly and smart.
Quick to learn and above all, obedient.
My dogs and I

Babaaaaaaa!

Where u dey all these years? You still dey Sok Town?

Abeg call ur guy. It has been ages...

holyeye1989:

TALKING LIFE U ARE TALKING MONEY HERE

Surprised to see a clone

@ Post,

If true, then it is most inept. No one should be under compulsion to change or use Lagos State Plate numbers.

The laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria take absolute precedence.

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deshclones:

Wrong advice bro...no offence but u r wrong..d more d op stays on his own,d more d gal clings to the new guy..dats d bitter truth..the no contact technique doesnt work for people that have been in a long term relationship..it is for people dat dated for like 4-6months nd broke up..in op's case,d gal don see am finish..nothin is new unlike her new guy dat she is discoverin new things about him daily...gosh..don't u knw ow a new relationship is?how all u do is hangout with ur new catch,all d dates,s3x,games ,outings etc...abeg put urself in d gals's shoes..wouldn't u be so keen on knowing ur new gal than ur old gal...abegi tell op d truth..his gal is gone full stop...think d best advice we can give him is on how best to heal..not giving him hope where there is none.

You misconstrued my post.

The theme of my post was not for the poster to get his woman back, but to ensure whatever decision he is taking ends up a win win, hence reference to both scenarios.

Often atimes during our relationship cycle, we tend to get too comfortable with our partners in long term courtships that we end up quenching the flame that cooked the relatonship in the first instance. Thus my emphass on the pertinence for him to 'change' in all ways possible. This may endear her to him or may not. But his ego would be boosted and she would definitely realise he has changed. The sooner he faces the fact that she may be gone the easier it is for him to heal and move on. The earlier he moves on, the greater the posibilty that she would feel the vacuum his absence has created. Her new found solace has a cycle too. It starts great but transcends gradually to other realities.

Having spent 5 years with the poster, it is only natural that someday very soon when the next phase of her new relationship starts she would feel the absence of the former.

Nevertheless, I reiterate that her attitude is not unusual of a relationship that spans that long however, my concern is that she is drifting so far away by the day with her grave actions. To this end the only win win scenario is for the poster to propose an end to the relationship in a more amicable manner void of the nags. He needs to stop playing the victim to ascertain the true state of events.

We have all been there. I courted my wife for 9 years and I would only lie if I say she didn't give me suspicion cramps once in a while. Though not as bad as the OP's case, I ventured to walk away many atimes. Today we are very happy together amidst the challenges of marriage. The key was that I had to change into a more appealing, less nagging, sexy, outgoing, fun loving, top of the notch fiance. The business of chasing was no longer mine but hers to keep me at bay.

Finally relationships work better when the woman has a higher level of affinity for the man than vice versa. A last straw to set things right through 'change' by the poster will harm him in no way except there is a sexual deficiency that the OP didn't inform us of; then it can be said, that the woman is on a 'no turning back' sojourn.

El Rufai is loosing my respect for him more by the day with related unwarranted utterances.

None of the lot has shown signifigance impact or appreciable level of intelligence.

He is starting to sound tribalistic in my opinion. The comparism is unnecessary and may promote an unhealthy environment between the duo.

Nevertheless, I believe there are more intelligent NLers tham these ones.

Lastly, of the trio, El Rufai is the least intelligent!

@ OP,
Bleed no more.

Wash your mourning raiment.

Get your swag on. Act differently.

Do some turn around to everything around you.

Your relationship is obviously unhealthy at this time.

Efforts to address this issue will make you two drift apart more.

It will be seen as nagging which is very unattractive for a man. Nothing is unusual.

Spice up your life with or without her. New cologne, new shoes, clothes, gadgets, work out, smile etc are all you need.

Though you may hurt deep within, it does not kill, try nd shun it.

Thereafter take her out on a very romantic date with the new you. Laugh all through, play all through, look into her eyes affirmatively all through d date with absolute forgiveness. It is important you do not fake it.

Please endeavour to resist every attempt to bring up the gory topic of her ineptitude. I forsee a very passionate night afterwards.

This may mend your relationship and put an end to her new found place of exciting solace OR may result in complete confession of her undying love for her new found lover which will enable you both part amicably. Please note that she has a right to be happy irrespective of the nature of events that lead to same. It is safer than marriage under pretense.

If she opts for the latter, that is confessing to love the new guy more, there is a high probability that in 5 yrs she may regret the decision especially if the romantic date and passionate night unfolds accordingly. The graphic image of the new you will never leave her memory. When you eventually find someone else, she would grief with envy because she would notice a trasure is lost, if indeed you are a treasure.

If you both choose the option of mending your relationship which implies that the new you worked, please do not be regimented. Be dynamic in everything.

To answer your question, pend any discussion on Marriage with both families for a few more months and please disregard any attempt to cajole her back to you by sharing the ongoing with her family members. What happens between two dating or married couples should be kept within.

We all have failed at one time or the other. Expect less, Love her more!

@ OP,
It is not out of place to feel the way you feel. It is absolutely normal during the marriage life cycle.

Monotony may set in after a short while. It can be really nerve breaking especially when associated with incessant cases of disputes.

What everyone here has said is totally correct because flirting will temporarily steer you to divert attention to another man. Nevertheless, if you truly love him, you would retrace your steps after a certain level of adultery perhaps after a bout of sex with another.

A state of remorse will set in and you will cool down for a bit of time and may revert again and again and the process will continue until perhaps caught.

What you need is state of absolute control and if not helping, seek for a male friend to confide in and not flirt with. Healthy friendship can be built. It has its consequences but is better than a base thought to flirt.

In conclusion, I reiterate you are perfectly in order to feel how you feel and must commend you for sharing on this forum.

NB

Guys, this is a lessons learnt that our women are no logs of wood. They should be treated with dignity at all times. We should be sensitive to their needs and avoid causing havoc at home always. It creates yearnings for another. Please if married, endeavour to treat your woman right henceforth! as

Beaf:

^
I hope you understood what you just said? Do you see contradictions? Your argument beating itself into a coma?

Tell me what part of your post contains an iota of logic or common sense. You simply made a very wretched appeal to sentiment rather than simple logic; its the sort of thing one would expect from a meat seller who hasn't gone to school. We all need to recoil from such crap.

Just to address one of your points; "Especially in a country where our natural resources earn plenty"
How does the above add up to even the most rudimentary application of common sense? How does this affect the cost of food security for the President? Why should the fact that Nigeria earns a lot from natural resources mean we should care less if the President is poisoned through lax security?

Dude, you have rocks in your head.

@ Beaf,
You need not turn a simple appeal into an avenue for fits cuff. You have become more ferocious with every mistake your boss makes. What has logic, sentiments and contradiction got to with my previous post? Gradually your reasoning capacity and ability to understand is being clouded by your rigid support for GEJ that even healthy constructive criticisms leave you wavering, tremulous, quavering and gasping for breath.

I broke the previous post into simple sentences for ease of understanding.

A recap, it is thought provoking for you to tell us that an increase in budget allocation for food is imminent because 'feeding anybody in Aso Rock is a matter of national security and that will never come cheap'. I strongly believe it is high time your boss and his cohorts (including you) embarked on intense fasting; you guys ate too much in 2010 thus the maligned actions these days.

Secondly, despite our huge deposits of natural mineral resources and corresponding returns, Nigerians still work hard and earn peanuts.

Lastly, such vote for food within the presidency is not apt when majority of Nigerians go to bed with little or no food.

I will overlook the insults in your previous post on the premise of your psychological instability. Our concerns are geared towards a better Nigeria where we all shall be beneficiaries God willing. Cheers

Hmmmmmm,
A country of evil thespians in the corridor of power,

Beaf:

I really can't undesrtand some of the donkey comments some clowns are making here. Do some of you think cooking for the Aso Rock is the same as simply going to market and getting a couple of yams? In todays Nigeria where opponents are threatening mayhem and bombs are exploding? That is idiocy!

Feeding anybody in Aso Rock is a matter of national security, and that will never ever come cheap. Hang yourselves if you like or go lay more bombs, we will crush you.

Yar Adua's govt spent N405.3m in normal times, in these unsecure times that, has naturally gone up to N574m. Die if you don't like it, but Aso Rock will be kept safe and GEJ will continue to be President.

This post is worrisome and shocking!
Can't believe you would contribute that.
In my opinion it is gibberish
Especially in a country where we all work hard and earn nothing
Especially in a country where our natural resources earn plenty
Especially in a country where my people go hungy
It is very sad because boys are not smiling.
Please do not utter such in defence of GEJ anymore

@ Poster,

Awwwwwww. She needs no prayers. D healing has commenced.
Her inability to talk is a phase that will pass.
Like a poster rightly said d game was too weighty.
Anyways, she should sing 100 hymns as she has just been relieved of a luggage not hers.
They were not meant to be.

Jakumo:

That girl in the plunging blue top is STACKED, and I get a serious boner just imagining how it would feel to grope that heavenly pair of jugs from behind while urgently thrusting in doggie mode with her. Examining that shocking picture further, I wish I was the lucky mediator trapped in the middle of that lust-fest. What a way to go.

Praise the Lord !

hehehehehehehehehehehe
d anomalized passion displayed in that picshure can subject d rod to a 100 nods punishment daily.

@ OP,

Some battles may never be won.
Expunge all plans to take vengeance.
I fear lives may be involved.
Wldn't want yours to be.
You sound like remorse is close.
Many will condemn you, but many have dirtier deeds.
Allow your babe to heal.
Let her know you accept responsibility for the intense abuse.
She may or may not want to continue with you.
Assert not.
Above all, learn a lesson - Cultism cuts.
We have all passed tru d four walls of a higher institution of learning.

If true, i am excited you are on a 1st class CGPA.

@ OP,

funny stuff.
Anyways, if d evacuation was mutual without any bloody oath, yu can get your freaking self off d relationship when yu feel d steam is off.
Do not be cajoled into trepidating for fear is the biggest enemy of man.
Try appeasing her sometime later when she would have healed of the pain. Thereafter move ahead and leave yur life.
Next time b careful sha ooooo.

THE ART OF BEING SINGLE

To be single is fun
to be single is freedom
bt what is freedom without committment
many places
many booze
many quests
many women
bt none really cares
no deep affection
a short term enjoyable adventure
what happens many years thereafter?
isolation
depression
frustration
had i knowns
kindly note, there is a time for everything
play hard when you can, be responsible when you have to
keep moving, don't stop
Single parenting is worse
unnecessary exposure of the children to vices
incomplete care
partial control
menaces to the society
societal deliquents
every parent got a role in bringing up a child


NB: I am a die hard niggi that believe in having my freedom being single. I love to be in total control of what i do, who i am with, where i go and how i live my life. The truth be told, many times i have returned empty. Many I have met, many have gone. I love women and sex to a fault but I disagree I should trade marriage for these cheap things of life. Will I forever be out Friday nights? NO. Will forever desire to attend wedding and naming ceremonies of pals? NO.

Everyone should ascertain the limits. Plan, choose the right time and eventually get married(if possible). Nevertheless, like a poster rightly said, not everyone will marry. Above all search within and seek deep what will give joy many years to come.

@ Poster,

Your friend's marriage has gone sour.
A total disconnect between the two of them.
Nevertheless, he should sought the services of marriage counsellors.
If there is an iota of affection or reason to love left, then they can remain married.
If there aint any left, then they should separate immediately.
It happens all the time.
It is a phase in the marriage cycle, especially when there is inactivity or progress.
Let him subject his mind to those great times that led to their choice as husband and wife.
If she has offended him, and still loves him, he should forgive her and be happy.
If she loves him no more, then he should let her go.
Marriages are made to work. Thus he can.
Marriage is one of the best thing that can happen to all.
Marriage can also be one of the worst things.
To discern a good or bad marriage at inception is bleak.
Marriage is by faith.
I feel for him. But I feel for her more.

@ Poster,

Pilfering is worse than frolicking with dciks.
Send her away or someday your Will will be written ahead of you.

@ Blackmann,

I must commend you thus far that you had an iota of resistance, willing to discontinue the cheating match and refocus on your Naija babe.
In all sincerity, it aint easy these days. I concur with preceding posters that this is a major occurrence in a long distance relationship. It is very true that a man's body aint wood. The koko of d story is you must not get caught.
The temptation of an alluring, pretty woman is likened to the desire for sugar by ants. lol
Anyways, i recommend you inform the ghanian babe that you got a deep relationship back home. This in my opinion is the only anomaly so far.

A true hero
Simple and modest even at death.
May your soul be blessed wherever you are.

@ Poster,

y spend expensive useful hours deliberating on how to devise if your wife is cheating?
y not spend those hours and expend energy on how to make your wife desire you more?

put on d swag. get the class. raise yur head up. up yur game. and yu wil not nd to deal wit worries nor need to employ Joey Greco to contend with your supposed cheating wife. she wld not let yu off her sight. marriage is an interesting game. always keep d spark on else yu wil be left many yards behind.

my 2 cents

@ Poster,

Amazing Story.
Nice message.
I will tag it " Path to self discovery for optimum excellence"
i buttress my title above coupled with the summary of Beautiful Missy B's comments: For everyone you meet on the road of life there is a purpose, there is a reason,
So touchin,