₦airaland Forum

epelumi42:
Lol. Well, its well over a year since I wrote this and unfortunately in Irony, It matters not anymore. Let her read it self. Lol. Will you reconsider if your ex sent you this.

the cogent question is are you still together now? If not, then its a sheer waste of precious time and energy cooking this up.

kenonze:
Guy, u went too far

I know I did, that why I asked God to forgive me earlier. Some ladies can dig out the bile from an angel.

stan241:
With regards changing of relationship status i don't necessarily think that's true....most ladies are hardly ever single cus the minute they break up with tom, they start dating jude in less than a week and also very insecure so the minute a new guy is in their lives they change status ASAP...my opinion though

True this!

DrGroove:
She even tried




50k salary only and he expected what?



A bentley?


A mansion?



Indeed! I blame the girl...



Why buy boyfriend a gift in the first place?


He fuccks you ( and his side chicks) n you still spend your hard earned salary buying him gifts.... Tufiakwa!!

so he fu#ks her, its a favour for the money right? She might as well become a full time dirty lowly prostitute. To put this mildly, from your post, you are most definitely a cheap lazy slut who sleep with men for money and other fringe benefit or if married ,did so singularly for the financial benefits with nothing to contribute than the dirty ,bloody hole between her legs, such an empty head. Get a job, and stop leaving off your back! God forgive me.

Pamcrest:
Op, don't be ungrateful. I would love to see d kinda gift u give this lady sef. But if u don't appreciate d perf, then return it naa....instead of embarrassing her here. If she does this kinda thing to u, d menfolk will call her ungrateful, greedy, not wife material...so what do we call u now?
My humble submission

this lady here in the real world would probably be claiming Miss Independent, probably a self acclaimed feminist fighter, with Dps and PMs to show,.


Just answer this one question: how many Nigerian girlfriends give their boyfriends 50,000 per month. They are always dependants, always expecting choice gifts but giving nothing or worthless gifts in return...and don't even mention SEX, except of course,you are a social worker.

VickyRotex:
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If, I'm right, I guess she gave you that with a genuine mind. And maybe she's tryna test your appreciative spirit...

You should be grateful, some guys dont get a single thing from their girl friends

lol. So she's trying to test his appreciative spirit?! Is she God? Nigerian ladies ehen! Although I do not know all the facts about that ladies life, most of you are greedy individuals, maybe the economy is to be blamed ,i am not so sure. I have had girlfriends that give to a fault, and those that are as greedy as mearcats. They are mostly in the second group.


Those guys that do not get a thing from their girls do not know what a relationship is, its a give and take venture, why do you ladies prefer to be a drain on every dude? Even though, giving might not always be in material terms, there are even fewer ladies out there that can analyse, and give critical, deep thoughts about issues to their boyfriends, MOST of them are as shallow intellectually as the mass graves of Rwanda.

Lisaflex:
Op u r very ungrateful! Der's d slightest chance dt ur gf spent all she had getting dt gift u consider cheap ...Don't luk at d cost of d gift, luk at d heart dt gave it

he pays her 50,000 monthly. You have a point, but he deserves more.

Omotayor123:
Some weeks back, My friend Complained about her Boyfriend telling her Not to come visiting him if she's on Menstral.

And then I was like; Maybe he's only dating you for s3x.


Yesterday my neighbor boyfriend came visiting. And when he realized she's on Menstral he refused to sleep on the same bed with her. She said when she tried to touch him during sleep he pushed her and rolled away from her reach.

I have seen a guy who told me he can't eat a food prepared by a girl on Menstral save he doesn't know.



Isn't this injustice and barbaric towards women folk
Does this happens among married couples as well

I see it as unreasonable torture to womanhood.

What are your views on this matter...?



Cc. , orijin101, wristwatch, Freeman, ipledge, tosyn2much and other Romancelanders.

I have realized that my reaction to a woman in her period often depends on her importance to me. When am dating a lady, it doesn't make any difference to me if she's ON or not, we do almost we used to do,even coitus, except being more careful.
However, for ladies I have a relationship with just for sex, I detest having them around during their flow, it doesn't mean there would be no fore play, my only displeasure would be that I can't do the only thing I am dating them for((sex).



Opinion. -its very like that those guys are immature, or are just dating those girls for the sex.

Cutehector:
Especially "whateva"

whatever is an insult if sorts like go to hell, f#ck or I don't give a hoot.When a lady says that, I just ignore her until she craves my attention

Its no describable, I don't want to say anything abusive as she didn't create herself

jrerico1:
Lol, so awhich you were not the 1st child you'll die happily?

lol. Good question, funny post!

jrerico1:
Lol, so awhich you were not the 1st child you'll die happily?

lol. Good question, gunny post!

Ok.

Maxymilliano:
The conversion is not as easy as it seems, the emphasis is more on the qualification at entry level.

conversion is no as was as it seems? Who's even talk in about conversion here? Pay these guys right!

Maxymilliano:
The dude is right, only contract and support staff earn peanuts

you are spewing gibberish! Those guys contract staffs are graduates too and deserve better. I feel people like you are probably full staffs that think others shouldn't earn as much as you.

So we should make do with livnin darkness till God-knows-when right? Pls, sir reedit your 3 point agenda, how can there be increase in employment without power? Would companies run on thin air? ...and when companies spend millions running generating sets 24/7 how will they increase their work force? Oga buhari, do not put the cart before the horse.


Security, and corruption fighting are in order though, the third should be power.

Dollyak:
Nawa for some people tho. Eating human flesh like its a food.

Edo people are not indigenes of Anambra, didn't you read the topic?

It must be a brake pad sorry, on second thought it looks more like a work of art, probably Nok culture or Benin origin.

Go and fucking get married!

showbobo:
Is it just me or this girl truly seem a wife material

I thought same too.

aflyingbird:
you're citing things not stated in the op . op never said anything about content. he saw her chat history , which , as far as i'm concerned , doesn't confirm she was "cheating " on him. all he saw was the chat history/call history/logs . the content is unknown . he said "chat history" which's synonymous to call history or call logs . the only way we would be talking about content is if he saw texts but he saw call history . don't start putting words into his mouth . op also knew the young man ( both of then knew him ) so he noticed his number on her chat history , which is why he concluded she was cheating and wouldn't listen to what she had to say . stick to the facts, abeg .

op never said anything about content? When he said contents of the chat revealed she was cheating, and she didn't even attempt to reute it later on? Whats her business calling a single, guy so much? Look you are either in support of cheating, or you do it yourself as you have deliberately decided to ignore Ops points.

Rapmoney:
Yeah, I reminisce how it was then to pose with ur papa motor. U would want to show ur friends that u know how to drive a car . Na wa o!

Oya, make una come in...mayor2013, Eyop, cute2peg, lourash, arinzeasika, Akapela, qmd24, Habiolar, toosoon, empron, Fulaman198, Biolargurl, eshadiamond, UncleJudax, Homguy

ok. Make I share my own. I had not really mastered controlling the clutch with respect to braking and acceleration but I could move a car then. It was a Pug 504 Gr or so. Packed at our backyard, so you would would have to carefully reverse out to avoid hitting the concrete water tank stand, while avoiding the fence behind.

My uncle who was a mech just brought back the car after working on it, and since papa was not at home, he handed the key to me and left. Immediately, I got into the car started it, raised it, and put it off. Then I did saME again, by this time my younger brother was out and excited that we would go for a ride. I checked the gear pattern on the gear lever ,depressed the clutch, and changed to reverse, released the clutch a little and the car started moving backwards slowly, I hadn't even turned the steering so as to avoid the tank stand behind. As my younger ones were cheering, I got cocky, and decided to move faster, somehow, I left the clutch pedal while further depressing the very soft accelerator, all I knew was the car roared and there was a very loud noise that even attracted my neighbors. I CAME down to see the damage and nearly fainted. The car's back fenders were severely dented as I ran into to concrete holding our water tank, the 2semi curved lights of the peugeout was broken, and the boot lid and plate no area were depressed, the water pipes that serviced people who came to the compound to fetch water was broken so there was a a sudden fountain, worst , that external pipe used same control with that entering the house so we couldn't lock it. All water in the tank gushed out, luckily it was late when pop man came back, he saw the tap, and I lied with the connivance of my younger ones that some street children broke it, he was vexed, and decided the tap would be permanently closed to the public, meanwhile i was crying inside. The next morning was ... I can explain here.

Mekybliss:
That guy is materialistic. Please tell him to refund the sex

so the sex was the only thing sue contributed to the relationship?! Are you for real? Sex? Was she forced into it or did she not enjoy any bit of it? Do you know there are women who pay for gigolos? There are male prostitutes that GET paid for sex in Lagos and other places? I don't know you, or what you have been through but please change that mentality. The moment you start having sex with anybody for money, comfort they offer , or other material things and not because you really want to doit out of love, you are a lowly prostitute regardless of what pushed you to it.

Ochiske:
Zenith Bank!
Their interest rate is superb. They dont do all those silly hidden charges neither do they bug your sim with irrelevant messages (removing money off your account by proxy)

Dont even bank with Eko bank those folks are terrible! Very crappy banking system

Union Bank is another terrible bank
GTB is okay sha

I use zenith and Gtb bank. From my experience, I could say you are right about zenith bank, I haven't had any hassles with them. Whenever I make withdrawals that I don't receive due to ATM error its instantly refunded. No need to see anybody or make complaints. However, I have got to say gtbank is the most innovative bank around , always springing up new ways of depositing and withdrawing cash. The only problem I find with them is an often overcrowded banking hall, and relative sparse branches, otherwise, they are on top of the game. Cheers.

Hilarious! But in reality I wonder how many oranges they were sharing. They wouldn't share oranges between three people in that manner, again, their voices would give them away as children. Anyways, the pastor may even be drunk

Be more specific pal, besides car prices vary by brand, model, year, trim, seller bias etc. But from 500k upwards, you should be able to land a tokunbo. Its could be a 2nd gen Micra or a golf mk II. You should be more specific.

They a particular reason she might have forgiven them was because her parents had no way of bringing her offenders to book. However, her reaction to her husband maybe due to her initial rape, most sexually abused women are very unstable. Its possible that during the normal couple misunderstandings that the husband may have threatened to take another wife but only inadvertently got another woman pregnant, and she saw it a a deliberate act. He was also a source of hope to her, more like her defender, so going to have another woman was like open betrayal. These IMO are reasons why she probably couldn't forgive her husband.




However, low sperm count, and an infection por hormonal imbalance are very easily treatable by good medical practitioner. Are they so poor? Further, there is a slight chance that a brutal rape may alter a woman child bearing capability , but its very slim. Very slim as only infections and hormonal imbalances were pointed out.


Last shot: this story seems quite fictional, but if its real, considering the mans stance I would have urge her to forgive him.

paschu:
_________________________WARNING_________________________

Please this is not a joke. It's happening right now as we speak. So only thoughtful and ACTIONABLE responses are to be given. Please if you're not pretty sure that your advice is super good it would DEFINITELY be better to ONLY scroll through this thread, and just read and enjoy without talking. Thanks in advance for cooperating.

___________________NOW THE SITUATION___________________

A 36 years old pastor had been dating a young girl since the past eight years. He met this girl in her late teens and was actually very instrumental in shaping the young lady's moral perception and persona - though he NEVER supported the girl financially all those years. And that was because he was very, very poor, unschooled but probably better educated than many of our graduates today.

To give a few background, he single handedly guided the girl through the process of gaining admission to university after about three years of waiting. He also helped the girl develop self-confidence which eventually helped her to become a VP at her campus fellowship among other leadership roles.

Now the girl has graduated from the university, but her family opposed her intention to marry this pastor which ultimately contributed to their breakup late last year before her graduation proper.

Now an important point to remember is that this girl was a virgin when the pastor started dating her eight years ago, and according to what I heard, she's still a virgin up till now as a graduate about to go for her youth service.

Now the twist is that this pastor met another girl online early this year who lives in another state quite far from where the pastor is based but that's okay. But what's scary is that this second lady is a complete opposite of the first girl both in good and bad sides.

- She's a single mother with a three month old baby. (Though She's a graduate too about to go for service.) But the first girl is still a virgin.

- The first lady is a complex and classy type but the second lady is simple and almost-naive house wife material, according to what the pastor told me.

-The pastor has known the first girl and her family for years but he has not even met this second girl face to face.

- The first girl doesn't talk much and would rather bottle-up her emotion than let it show freely, which kind of drives the pastor nuts most times. But the second girl is said to be very, very expressive both vocally and emotionally.

Now the oddity is that the pastor has not only proposed marriage VIRTUALLY to this second lady but had actually fixed a wedding date and made lots of profound promises to her WITHOUT seeing her face to face.

Now I must also point out that the pastor's background is strikingly similar to this new girl's background based on what he told me. And I think that's where the stronghold is, even though he may not want to hear that.

Now the twist again is that the first girl WANTS THE PASTOR BACK as in right now. And the pastor is currently having a squabble with the new girl because somehow the girl wants him to accept her little son as his own son in a way the pastor thinks is kind of too demanding. The pastor told me in confidence that accepting another man's son as his first son is a big chunk to swallow but he wouldn't mind giving it a try if not that the girl is kind of making it appear like it's a condition for marrying her.

The reason I'm asking for your advice is that this pastor feels confident to move on with this second girl which I think is not a smart idea, but he's the pastor here.

What I want to do is to get a thread of unbiased advice and then try to get him to read it up.

Please let the wisdom juice of brilliant advice begin to flow now.

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Thank you so much for participating.

NOTE: For those who are picking on the pastor, let me make few things categorically clear to you.

1) The pastor is NOT asking for your advice. For goodness sake READ the story and COMPREHEND it before commenting.

2) The second girl was in DEPRESSION when the pastor met her (because her supposed fiancé dumped her on the day of their traditional marriage). The pastor inspired her to come out of depression and get closer to God which she did. And she actually joined a major Pentecostal church in her state AND EVEN GAVE HER LIFE TO CHRIST, as the pastor told me. It was after all these events that the pastor made his intention for marriage known.

3) The first girl wants to get back with the pastor and has called severally.

4) I posted this here to help the pastor see the matter from an unreligious but still REASONABLE perspective.

5) I'm pretty sure that Nairaland still has a bunch of intelligent people who are ABLE TO READ the story, UNDERSTAND it AND RESPOND to it in the proper context without insulting anyone.

sorry I had to quote your epistle.

1. As regards the 1st lady, she might be a virgin. She might want him back, they might have been together for a long time, but the ultimate questions are about her personality and family.
Does our pastor think she has got the will to go against her parents? It takes more than her wanting to marry your friend. She might be calling him back out of loneliness, but remember she would be going to service, and would meet a plethora of people, situations And temptations. Do you think she would still stick to our pastor when richer, graduates propose to her as her parents are gainst the marriage and our pastor is unschooled?, I think not. Ladies like that are rare, and far in between.

2. The fact she is a virgin is a good. But its not a sure predicator of how marriage to her might turn out. Neither is the fact that she was an exco on campus anything serious to go by, especially as you stated that she's classy, maybe flamboyant, and hides her emotion from her supposed love, which expectedly drives him nuts. Would he want to deal with that for a lifetime? I personally won't.

3. The second lady might be as naive as your friend pointed, because very few ladies get pregnant out of wedlock and keep it despite the various methods of evacuation available. Her acceptance by our pastor has more to do with his personality than hers. Can he afford adopting another's child as his 1st? Can he cope with the divided attention of this new mother? Is he ready to take that child as his without unfair discrimination? There's also a possibility that he's just a rebound but that shouldn't scare him so much. I have a hunch she would be indebted to him and try to show her gratitude by giving him her all, as opposed to the 1st lady.

4. This isn't directly related to what's happening, but does your friendwork and earn? Can he cater for an extra or 2 extra mouths or is he as poor as former? It determines to a large extent how things might turn out, if he's not making any decent income, the 1st lady might just be about using him AS A seat filler because on few graduate ladies would marry a poor man who is unschooled for that matter . Besides , I don't subscribe to jobless pastors.

5. Finally, if he were my brother, I would ask him to consider a totally different lady from both, but if he is bent on either one, he has to answer affirmatively to questions I asked as regards both ladies before I can give an advice.however, The second lady is IMO a lesser risk to a peaceful marriage than the fresh, virgin graduate, who i doubt would want to marry against her family's wish, and to a pastor who might not be earning much. Ladies like that are rare, if she is, if he can answer affirmative to my questions about her,then she's a gem. Give me her number,lol.

Scambuster1:
I am compiling a list of LINKS of "LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCIES" both in Nigeria and in the USA, which I will place here for all to send petition to. I will also embark on a "MASSIVE SOCIAL MEDIA CAMPAIGN AGAINST THIS CRIMINALS".
One thing I must achieve even if they are not arrested, but lagtech Must Pay For His Crimes, and the USA authorities will be made to know about his activities.
I am going to the USA embassy at V.I, Lagos to physically submit all the evidences and my petition against him on Monday Monday.



#operationcatchlagtech

am still waiting. Pls post relevant links. Thanks

seunlayi:
The whole thing may be a set-up by some people who may be wishing for the downfall of the man of God. How I wish we can get the other side of the whole story

this is quite very possible, however, its more like that he was guilty as accused for a sincere man of God would most like go with a female to such places. But again, its a world of possibilities.

Purity! That's why. It made sense in past times when chastity was the vogue. In these days when immorality is celebrated, am not so sure of the significance of a white wedding gown.