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Family / Re: My Son's Behavior Is Getting Out Of Hand by Homguy(m): 1:01pm On Mar 26, 2022
klassyguy:
I have two lovely kids with my wife - a girl and a boy. My son is six years old while his sister is eight. Both were born here in the US. I’ve done what I feel is right as a father to train these kids, but I know not everything can be done accordingly.

My son is restless. He has the attention span of three seconds before he gets distracted by something else. My mum tells says he is a copy of me when I was his age, but that was in the eighties and the way children were handled back then is totally different from today. He hardly wants to do anything in terms of school work and almost every day I get complaints from his teacher that he does not do his work or he is disruptive in class. When other students are doing their work, my son will be the one falling off his chair or hiding under his desk. His teacher told me he acts out when being corrected. Only yesterday my wife told me the teacher met her when she went to pick them up in school and told her that my son started yelling when the lights in the class started flickering. His behavior got so bad, they had to call the school security officer before he calmed down.

This behavior is really bothering me. I know my son is smart. His pre-school teacher once told me he was the smartest student she had. My son can do complex mathematical equations off the top of his head that even his older sister struggles to do. He has a very good memory and can list off all the types of trains that exist in the US, things that even I don’t know. It’s sitting down to be serious about work that he can’t do and can’t seem to focus on.

I enrolled him in a soccer club to see if that would help him expel his excess energy. At first he seemed to be lazy as he gets frustrated easily, and rather try harder, my son would rather give up and cry. I mostly have to encourage him to put in more effort, and most of the time he does not pay attention to what the coach says. The coach told me a couple of days ago that he wants to move him to a lower group level to see if he can build his confidence there.

I want to believe it’s his being the last born for now that’s worrying him. He seemed to start being a bit more mature when my wife got pregnant last year and he learnt they had a younger sibling on the way, but unfortunately, she miscarried and we lost the baby. I’ve been thinking for a while now whether to move back to Nigeria with everyone so that we can build some sense into both of them (my daughter’s story is another one). I’ve thought of taking them both for an ADHD test, but my wife is against that. The only time my son pays attention is when he’s doing something he likes, and that is when he’s playing the PS5 I got them or watching videos on YouTube Kids.

Any advice would be welcome from parents out there.
at his age, you should have him assessed for ADHD. 3 main signs are Inattentiveness, Hyperactivity, Impulsivity. If these 3 symptoms are present at this age enough to affect school and home, he needs to be assessed for ADHD.
Health / Re: External Hordeleum (Chalazion): Do You Know Anything This Please? (Photo) by Homguy(m): 3:24pm On Mar 15, 2022
Error401:
Been there for 2 months and I went to a government hospital where I was diagnosed of External Hordeleum (Chalazion)
I was referred to another Government Teaching Hospital in Osogbo for the surgery.

I just want to know the probable cost of the surgery
And how risky it is! Thank you
P.S - it dosent bother me at all, aside from the bulge
thats called a Chalazion. Use a warm compress on it daily till it resolves. It's usually filled with pus. Eventually it will leak out the pus.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russian Soldiers Kill Brent Renaud (American Journalist) - Pictures by Homguy(m): 6:10pm On Mar 13, 2022
Goodmarlian:
This zenolesky comedian guy wants to drag the world into war this is plan work by him to bring in NATO.
Smart! This is just a plan to force NATO!
Politics / Re: Nigerians Protest In Abuja Over Russian Invasion Of Ukraine by Homguy(m): 12:39am On Mar 01, 2022
Romance / Re: Help: I'm Love With One Of My Staff by Homguy(m): 2:59pm On Jan 19, 2022
Vicktorhmustjap:
Hello everyone.

Please I sincerely need your help in terms of advice and counselling.

I am a young man in my mid thirty, has a beautiful wife and 2 kids. I have about 32 staff working for me. Just recently, December to be precise I started developing an emotional attachment to one of my staff. I told her I want her to join me to see a movie and she said she was travelling and she won't be around but January was fine. I knew she was avoiding the outing so I bought a ticket to the movies and sent it to her she never showed up and I didn't call her until work resumed on January 4th and I asked why she didn't come for the movies and she apologise that she was busy.

I told her we can go see the movies now since she initially wanted January, she said she can't that she doesn't want to be seen with a married man, and besides my wife is nice to her and also she doesn't want any girl with her husband when she eventually gets married so she won't want to be with anyone's husband that I belong to someone else.

I told her I don't want sex from her, all I want is from her is a squish relationship. she practically turned it down that she can't because she will be hurt in the end because belong to someone else.

Honestly, I felt hurt because I truly love her. I am more emotionally drawn to her even more than before. We spend considerable time chatting every day and on phones in the evening till night after the day's job. She is not so comfortable spending time in my office as she told me the day I was not in the office everyone kept asking after the boss from her and she felt embarrassed and asked them why can't call to know why I am not in the office.

she said we should please remind her the way it is, just chatting and phone calls and she can't afford to be seen around with a married man.

I really love her and I feel hurt as she is turning me down. I wish I can stop loving her, I really don't know how to stop loving her as I really wish not to hurt her.

Please I need the mature minds here to help give workable suggestions.

please Move to front page

lala



in a sane country she would sue you for serial harassment. It's totally unethical what you are doing or feeling.
Family / Re: My Wife Poisoned My Mother With Salt by Homguy(m): 9:59am On Jan 02, 2022
Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.
your wife did not deliberately poison your mother. I am almost certain of this. Pls forgive her

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Politics / Re: New Year: Yahaya Bello Remains Only Avenue For Youth Takeover -Bello Ambassadors by Homguy(m): 6:52pm On Jan 01, 2022
Oluboh:
New Year: "Yahaya Bello Remains Only Avenue For Youths Takeover" - Bello Ambassadors


https://cablenews.ng/2022/01/01/new-year-yahaya-bello-remains-only-avenue-for-youths-takeover-bello-ambassadors/
To think some alleged youths are marketing this total failure is so sad.
There's no hope for Nigeria with people like these.
Education / Re: Don Davis: Deeper Life School Principal, Others Remanded In Prison by Homguy(m): 5:11pm On Dec 03, 2021
Asquare84:
Fear woman, what did this woman really want. The way she is going my fear is that the son may even turn against her one day. Some of us while growing up weed grass in school, fetch water in school, go to farm for our class teacher, then we taught it was punishment but I bet you, those training made us to be whom we are today. So what this woman gaining from dragging people down.
you are a fool! And may your children/child experience what hers has experienced from evil people like you

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Education / Re: Don Davis: Deeper Life School Principal, Others Remanded In Prison by Homguy(m): 5:06pm On Dec 03, 2021
Asquare84:
Fear woman, what did this woman really want. The way she is going my fear is that the son may even turn against her one day. Some of us while growing up weed grass in school, fetch water in school, go to farm for our class teacher, then we taught it was punishment but I bet you, those training made us to be whom we are today. So what this woman gaining from dragging people down.
you are a fool! And may your children/child experience what hers has experienced from evil people like you

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Crime / Re: Nigerian Arrested With 513 Grams Of Heroin In Delhi by Homguy(m): 10:00pm On Nov 18, 2021
handyman90:



Who is this one wishing death on another who did not commit murder?
hehehe, if only you know the harms that illegal drugs do to people and families. It's worse than death! Not to mention overdoses that happen as a result.
Crime / Re: Nigerian Arrested With 513 Grams Of Heroin In Delhi by Homguy(m): 7:32pm On Nov 18, 2021
HonNL:


ABP News



catch them?, death penalty! This has been going on for too long tarnishing our image out out there.
I had a family hangout with my Indian neighbor, immediately I told him I am Nigerian, he said "a lot of Nigerians carry drug into and around his country, but off course not all Nigerians are criminals" ,and every week I keep reading this sort of news undecided
Health / Re: Painful Menses. Please Help! by Homguy(m): 10:14pm On Nov 01, 2021
Lollittaa:

what's COC?
combination oral contraceptive pill. I practise outside the country and its a routine drug for managing this condition if you do not have any reasons not to, as in contraindications and do not mind taking oral contraceptive pill daily.

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Health / Re: Painful Menses. Please Help! by Homguy(m): 9:28pm On Nov 01, 2021
Lollittaa:
As far as I could remember, I've always had very painful menstruation. To a point that it affects my ability to work or be productive.
Painkillers hardly work, so it's about 4-7 days of Pre menstrual cramps +5 day period of agony. Almost two weeks every month. Sometimes I fall sick during or after my period.
I talked to my doctor. I was thinking family planning pills might pause my periods for sometime. But he said no they don't. He advised I be taking painkillers prior to my period and I have ulcer.

I'm tired. NL doctors, what can I do?
Hehehe, I dont know what doctor you are using, but if you want fairly painless periods, reduced blood flow, and do not have any chronic illness like hypertension, or risk for DVT/PE and do not smoke, I would suggest you go get a COC Pill packet try if for 3 months and see how you feel and if it works for you. painkillers work but come with their own slew of side effects. I can probably help with guiding you if you are open. All the best.
TV/Movies / Re: What's That Movie You Can't Get Tired To Watch? (Pictures) by Homguy(m): 2:55am On Sep 24, 2021
JIREN01:
Hi sir, it's been a long time. Kindly indulge me. Have you any idea if a pharmacy can get PR through PNP? I'll appreciate any heads up from you sir. I'm 24 with roughly 3 years of working experience.
Hi Jiren01, sorry it's coming late.
Sure! You can get PNP and it's not so hard. Main thing is to get into the pool regardless of what your score is. Contact the province you would like to get PNP from and hope they like your profile.
My Bro-in-law just got a letter of interest from Alberta with a CRS score of 437. So it's definitely doable. You should reach out to as many provinces as possible just note that you will have to live in that province for 2years which is definitely better than anywhere in Naija.
Have you written IELTS or assessed your Pharmacy degree yet?

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TV/Movies / Re: What's That Movie You Can't Get Tired To Watch? (Pictures) by Homguy(m): 3:43pm On Aug 29, 2021
The Great Gatsby

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Romance / Re: We Had Sex 2 Months Ago And She Is 3 Months Pregnant Now by Homguy(m): 3:48pm On Aug 09, 2021
DanielAlhassan:
Please I need your help according to doctors report she 3 month pregnant and i calculated the period we had sex it was 2 month ago
Am confused if am responsible for the pregnancy

She has been swearing that for the pass 6 years now she has not had sex with anybody until 2 month ago which she had sex with me

Don't know what to do or believe
I need your advice
this is totally normal. Gestational age is calculated different from normal time/ age. There's always about a 2 weeks forward offset. It's most definitely yours bro

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Politics / Re: Bye Bye To You All. I'm Tired Of Life. Let Me Go And Rest by Homguy(m): 4:42am On Jul 23, 2021
nairavsdollars:
Bye. Greet my great grandfather for me
for a lady, you are such A Dumbo encouraging suicide.
Romance / Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Has Ran Away With The Pregnancy by Homguy(m): 10:37pm On Jul 15, 2021
22o62021:
[b] Our patents are aware of the pregnancy.

She traveled home and she told me that she has no money to come back, I sent her #12500. But I was surprised that her number stopped going through and I was restless. After the first day on the road, she called me to tell me that her step brother took her two phones inside her back and went away. I was surprised and asked her if the brother dropped her sim and she said yes. After three days on the road ,she finally came home past 11pm . When I went to open the gate for her, I saw that they were two girls outside, I let the both inside, she told me it was her step sister, I said ok because at this moment I thought maybe her sister is going somewhere else.

In the morning I woke up before then and I was at the bathroom when my girlfriend came in, I asked her , that she planned bringing her sister here without informing me , she said that it’s none of my business if she bring her sister, that her sister will not stay with me because she already has a work for her. I was angry but I kept quiet since she said that the said girl won’t be staying in my house. Before this my girlfriend stays with me but her belongings are not in my house, they are in her own place.


After about 5 days later , I got her another android phone because she was already asking for it because a guy bought a phone for her sister just in her four days in the city.

They will always come to my house to eat in the morning, on one particular day, I have yam at home and I bought everything that we will need to make porridge, I called them to come in the morning. Immediately they came, her sister opened the fridge to check for bread but couldn’t find any,my girlfriend gave her money to go buy one and eat, when they are done eating, I asked them to go cook the food, I followed my girlfriend to the kitchen but her sister stayed back, put on an earphone, on the fan and television, laid down. After 10 minutes in the kitchen I went inside to meet her and asked her to go help out in the kitchen, she just stood up and left my house. I told her that I don’t want to see her in my house again. My girlfriend after preparing the food, she fished in the flask and took it to her, I did not even ask her why because I know that she won’t have the heart to eat without her sister.

Right from that moment, my girlfriends behavior changed too, she will no longer call me on phone or come to my house, At their working place, her boss started complaining of her change in attitude since she brought her sister there.

Her boss was tired of complaining and sacked them. They came to my house when I was the kitchen, she joined me in the kitchen but her sister was inside. After cooking , we ate together in the kitchen and I went straight to stay at the balcony, she came to me and told me that they are going to her brothers place that she will be back.

It had been days now and she doesn’t pick my calls and I don’t even know where they are right now.

I have called with different numbers and she wasn’t picking.

This morning I called the numbers severally until a guy picked up, I asked after the owner of the phone and he told me that she is not around now, I told him whom I am and the said girl is pregnant for me. She was shocked and told me that they are together now in a different state with me. This is to say the said girl has ran to meet another girl with pregnancy.

My friend also called the guy and introduced himself as my elder brother, he explained everything to him and he promised to call us back when he get home, that he was not aware that she is pregnant, that he is going to send her back to where she cane from by tomorrow.

This evening they flashed me and I called them they will busy the call. Her number hasn’t been going through since then.

Many women have advised me to let her be for now that she will come back begging when she sees that no man is ready to take her in when the pregnancy starts coming out. Others said I should pet her to come back then talk sense into her.

To me right now, I have tried my best and I have chosen to stop looking for her.

Many people on this forum warned me about TIV girls and their promiscuous nature but I defended her thinking that she is different.

I have been avoiding my moms calls because I know that she will ask after her

I can’t sleep and I can no longer concentrate on anything I’m doing. It’s affecting me psychologically .[/b]


#modified



But this evening when I came back to the shop

My boy told me that she saw her sister and called her to the shop, he asked her about my girlfriend and she said she was at home (their brothers house) she said it’s the next street after mine but I can’t locate the particular house.

But I’m sure she is no longer in this state
you may not be the father of that child, I know many a lady that pinned pregnancies on unsuspecting men , also you are acting really gullible...like a door mat . Grow a backbone.

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Romance / Re: His Fiancee Went To Her Ex Boyfriend's House To Visit After Engagement by Homguy(m): 5:12pm On Jul 01, 2021
HRHQueenPhil:


Mr importer, I will never allow him break up with the lady, she was honest and made a mistake..if he dosent have trust and understand his woman, he shldnt have engage her
you realize it's about 100% likely they had s3x again when she visited weeks to her wedding right? I don't know if you are just acting naive, do you realize if she did this just weeks to her wedding that she would have no qualms going to visit him after marriage when hubby travels? Would you act in this way? Yes or No? Before you answer remember the internet never forgets.

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Romance / Re: His Fiancee Went To Her Ex Boyfriend's House To Visit After Engagement by Homguy(m): 3:46am On Jul 01, 2021
HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
if you advice him to Marry that lady.
If he was your brother would you still encourage him to go ahead? Too many h.o.z here.

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Family / Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Homguy(m): 8:00pm On May 13, 2021
family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused


I am a married man myself, I feel your pain. There are so much red flags with this lady. She seems to be in a hurry to fit in without giving you time to grieve. Also, if she abhors the memory of your wife, don't be suprised when she starts to abuse/hate your children behind you as they will always represent the memory of your late wife.
Please give yourself and family time to heal. Peace.

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Crime / Re: Video Of Baba Ijesha Begging After Being Caught Molesting Minor by Homguy(m): 1:21pm On Apr 29, 2021
SQLmastar:
These videos are doctored nau....Mtcheeww!
He who is without sin should draw his blood!
you are a fool! and leave the earth as one.

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Family / Re: I Don't Know What To Do About My child out of wedlock by Homguy(m): 3:38am On Apr 12, 2021
Orld777:
Six yrs ago I left my city to a different city for a greener pasture, I left behind my wife and 2 children. I was a faithful husband to my wife and used her whenever I can everything was peaceful. Then come 2018 I have had planned to return back to my city in 2018 ending because I have had saved a lot of money to start business over there. Then the devil came to tempt me by sending me this beautiful woman till now I don't know how I gave in to her because I have vowed all my life to never cheat on my wife. But this lady won me over. We started dating and always sleep with her with condoms on to make sure that she doesn't get pregnant. But I was shocked jsut three months into the relationship, she drop a bombshell that she was pregnant, I was confused and I asked her what about all the condoms that I have been using and there's no way she could be pregnant but she insisted that I was the father. I told her I wasn't ready for the baby and I am married all I could ever do for her is to give her the money to terminated but she refused. She wanted to keep the pregnancy so I told her to keep it at her own risk because I will have nothing to do with her or the baby. I gave her the money incase she change her mind and decided to opt for the abortion she can use the money. She left my place in tears and she blocked me. I didn't know see her again till I left the city back to my city, actually I knew her house but I didn't bothered to go look for her. It has been 2 years plus since I am back with my family and I have never told my wife anything and she has never found out about my affair too. Last week I was in my office ( I am self employee) to my suprised the lady I had an affair with show up with a small girl who just look like me first time seeing her I was in tears . I was in shocked  and started wondering how did she know my office I was angry what if my wife was there but I decided to keep my cool and listen to her. She said she was attending a funeral jsut 10 mins away from my place and she begged me to watch the child for her and she will be back in an hour. I asked her about the person who gave her my office address but she didn't respond she said she will tell me when she return back. She gave me her number to call her incase of any problem. Honestly I don't know how I have accepted to watch the child for her thinking that she will be coming in a hour like she said, but she never came back. Her number was not reachable she also gave me a wrong number. I was shattered and I didn't know what to do with the child, I was at my office until 10pm trying to figure out what to do with her. At the end I have to drop her at my cleaner house where she is now. My cleaner hasn't been coming to work because she is taking care of the child and I am restless because I have no idea what to do with her. I blamed the lady for everything when I have asked her and given her the money for the abortion and why did she choose to keep the pregnancy then later to abandoned her with me when she fully know that I never wanted her in the first place. What will I tell my wife and will she forgive and accept her that easily. I love my wife and kids so I don't want to this my illegitimate child issue to break my home. Please house advixe me.
There's no illegitimate child. Do not let her suffer or damage her psyche because if a mistake you made. None of this is her fault.

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Romance / Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Homguy(m): 12:05am On Apr 07, 2021
Hacked her facebook years ago while in Uni and found she had been having this very intense chat with some guy she told me was bothering her but she wasnt interested. I decided to check up on her facebook when my calls were always waiting anytime I called. For hours she'ld be on call. Once i found out, call her up and told her twas not possible to look at the sky and the ground at the same time. She should choose one. She went with that dude. They got engaged or something.

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Crime / Re: My Experience Travelling With A Fulani Yesterday by Homguy(m): 7:29am On Mar 03, 2021
MejiLoyon:
Suspicious but...
There are also other reasons he didn't continue that journey.

Maybe the way you all shouted at him made him decide against completing the journey with people who won't hesitate to kill him and dump him by the road. Maybe he suddenly feared for his life. I have been in a train where I had to disembark because of sneers and stares form racists. I could feel their disgust seeping through their pores. Omo I japa. It could be anything. I can imagine how you guys shouted at him.

You could be right bros and he could be a bloody assassin. He could also be innocent. Not all fulanis are cold blooded killers. We are all Nigerians.

Feel free to bash, you'll be ignored,just warning you ahead
hi, what country was this?
Car Talk / Re: Check Engine Light And How Do I Resolve? by Homguy(m): 8:09pm On Dec 09, 2020
lekki1444:
NAH BRAH NOT ALL CARS HAVE ABS AND SOME PEOPLE DISABLE THE ABS IN THEIR CAR. abs was not in cars till recently. so its not important. but quite essential if you brake on snowy surface so you dont skid in cold climates

https://itstillruns.com/disable-abs-brakes-7762579.html
Okay bro. Do you.
Cheers!

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Career / Re: Pharmacists, Pharmacy Students And Interns. At Home Or Abroad, Let's Meet Here. by Homguy(m): 8:07pm On Dec 09, 2020
Velluto:



good evening boss , I've been trying to reach you. I even sent you San email. please can I have your contact, I'd really love to speak with you. I'd appreciate if you reply.
Okay, send me your email
Car Talk / Re: Check Engine Light And How Do I Resolve? by Homguy(m): 7:23pm On Dec 09, 2020
lekki1444:
Oh ts nothing get an ODB2 scanner to clear the codes.. ABS and VSC are not auto essentials. they are only useful if you live in a country where there is snow on the ground. get an ODB2 scanner and clear the codes

tire pressure just check manually every week

emmision ? no wahala.
Lmao, what are you saying? Stop misinforming . Your ABS/VSC are very important safety components of any vehicle stopping you from losing control when hard-braking at high speeds and on rough terrains.

From my little experience Vehicle speed sensors, or a misalligned/bad clock spring can trigger these two lights.
Check emissions may be due to a bad O2 sensor or failing Cat or leaks
and check tire pressure may be due to low tire pressure in your tires or a bad sensor.( This is also the easiest to remedy.IMO

Ultimately, you need to scan your car and get the exact codes. Reading live data from your O2 sensors may be a guide to weather you have a bad Cat or your O2 sensors have failed. I always pray its the later.

goodluck bro @ Kelvin30286063
Car Talk / Re: Your Trusted And Faithful Clearing Agent @your Service by Homguy(m): 1:11am On Oct 27, 2020
Hello, whats the cost for an 09 Camry clearing.
Autos / Re: MEGA SAVING!!!! Buy Cars From Copart And Impact Auctions Canada! by Homguy(m): 9:24pm On Aug 23, 2020
DominusPrime:
What's the total cost of getting a clean Toyota Camry 2011 XLE to Nigeria? From bidding to shipping, clearing etc. I don't know how it all works pls. I just need the total cost.

Hello Dominus its rough about 2.6-3M total depending on how clean vehicle is.
Autos / Re: MEGA SAVING!!!! Buy Cars From Copart And Impact Auctions Canada! by Homguy(m): 9:21pm On Aug 23, 2020
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Nice...the second car tho... grin
lol
I will try to find more. Are you interested in Mercedes alone?

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