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ProfDview1:
There is this lady I like so much, even my friends know that I like her so much and will love to spend the rest of my life with her.

One day, I saw her with my friend and I later asked her why she is so close to my friend. She said they are dating each other, that she cannot marry me simply because I am tailor.

My friend is a yahoo boy, he doesn't have any work. The only way he eats is via internet scam. To be honest I was so pained, moreover she is not the only lady to have done this to me. Have met several ladies that told me that they can't marry a tailor and they end up dating yahoo Boys for my street.

They always tell me to leave my tailoring job and go hustle like my frnds to make cool money.

Guys, I am tired.. Should I leave the tailoring job and join my friends to do the yahoo stuff?

Girls keep rejecting me up and down and I am fed up.

Pls advise me

you need to package your work bro. You know swankyjerry?

Stephenomozzy:
It's hard to comment one's opinion o... This is a marriage. If it was a dating relationship now.. Men would have said something.

What you should do... Stop checking her phone for the time being so she's not overly on alert (deleting messages), put away your apprehension for a while and love her as your wife... Start showing her attention more than before that she will be so busy with you that she won't have time to be online to talk with figure 3.

Especially in this lockdown period.... Are you a boring person? She may not really be cheating (in the general sense of the word) but just having fun discussions with someone who makes her feel good..... Fill that void, engage her same way you engaged her before you both agreed that marriage was the next big step for your love.

She can't leave the house to go an "cheat" so wean her off from the guy before lockdown is called off!

Operation Win Your Wife!!!!


Everyone who has quoted me to talk BS.

If you know that everyone is entitled to their opinion, you would rather have shared your opinion to help op rather than countering mine.

All of you saying point blank that she is cheating....are you saying the Op should divorce her? Give her hell in the marriage? Cheat on her also?

One even went as far as saying na only women like my comment... One said his mother is a single mom. Lol... Who nairaland likes epp?

I just threw in my two cents. Op can do whatever he likes. Naim go say "I do"

I am married, but i daresay this comment is the dumbest comment ever. You are already assuming the man does not give his wife lover from your high chair, he should kill himself satisfying her so that when he dies she can move on to her lover?
Op regardless of if a womannis your wife or not, smothering her with too much attention would make her tired and want to have fresh air through some other means. Be careful of advice from girls with a similitude of a phallus between their legs.

Bosun13:
Please house ,have been read on nairaland that V6 engine consumed more fuel than others .and I just get my first car which is sienna 2000 model xle trim as we all know sienna came with V6 engine .....and I do see it bn used for transport which I believe if it's not good naija won't even near it at all .... or is there any trick transporters used to cure its fuel consumption. Pls experts in the house should help me out.

Just sell the Sienna, buy a camry and manage it for transport

ToyBoyAaron:
I have been in this relationship for almost 3 years now... I never knew I could love a lady this much because I am the kind of guy that doesn't give a sh*t. Things started changing when we started working at different places. She have a neighbour that claims he loves her and wants to marry her. I warned her about the guy and she assured me nothing will ever happen.
Few weeks ago she confessed to me that she dated him late last year just to push him away by frustrating him. She started with she must confessed she cheated on me, i almost stopped breathing and asked sex? She said no she dated the guy. I was shocked because the way she demonstrated her love to me makes me believe nothing can ever go wrong from her side. I forgave her after she explained the whole incident claiming there was no kiss or sex.
She visited me today and slept off, I decided to read her chat with this man. Guess what? They actually kissed because he said he can't focus after the day he kissed her. Scrolling down I got the biggest shock of my life. She asked... What if she was pregnant.
What do I need? I must confess I have anger issues and wants answers almost immediately (I don't get violent but I might yell and refuse talking for long if not clarified) she's sleeping now peacefully and I am at the verge of exploding. How can I demand answers calmly. Please experienced folks calm me down.

they fu*cked, thats the only reason she woild ask him that. You dating a public property. Do you think she would have told you they kossed and f*cked herself ?

CoronaVirusPro:
You are mad!

you should be countering my argument with a superior one not this.

CoronaVirusPro:
Insult you can only make.

You can't constructively criticise what he sent.

Even America with the while Military hardware's will not take it's president for a raid.

Una Sha go won talk!

Idiot! So now its convenient to compare the Nigeria and America? Son of a took! Why dont you compare funding of the US millitary and Nigeria? Do you want to compare generals in the US army to those pot-bellied thieves siphoning military funds only to buy prime properties Around Nigeria and Dubai?
I am sorry i am insultive, but i feel so pained living outside the country and seeing how things work while unintelligent scruffs like you go out of your way to support the ineptitude of a govt like Buhari's.

Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.

I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......

Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....

Pls ignore my grammatical errors...

Here is the story......

I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..

We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..

It was way back 2014..

We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.

She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.

Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.

Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.

Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.

About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..

So we starting dating.

So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).

This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.

HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..

So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....

Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?

Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..

I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....

And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......

All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....

Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks

@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls

he doesn't mean well for you. He's probably jealous or vexed his wife agreed to endorse tge relationship.
You really should be careful of that friend.

Millenniumlady:
The both of you are very stupid

this is exactly what a very dumb person would say.

sparog:
I'm so sorry to say but you're an idiot

i said same about her response before i saw yours. She's as dumb as they come.

Millenniumlady:
Yes you can every relationship has it fights so yours isn't new.....Just apologize to her and try as much as you can to change so what lead to the fight won't repeat itself......save your home and be a better man

this is the dumbest post of the century. Must be a sad experience of a life being so empty.

I am sure you know a lot of people around you think you are very unintelligent, right?

Highest so far is 170km/hr in a 2009 Toyota corolla.

Respect to all the speedsters here, but speedometer readings can be way off your actual speed especially if your tires are not factory spec by switching to larger rims or other mods.

9icetoo:
Many many years ago, 504's and 505's didn't have any of those stuff and they still clocked 180km/hr. People who drove at those speeds in those cars devoid of all the bells and whistles in today's cars are still alive.

did we have the degree of bad roads and lack of maintenance back then as now?

HRHQueenPhil:
the prophet part is we're am hoping for it's not an easy position at all

yes sure. Its gonna take some time before you start raking in those tithes and offerings you know.
I live outside the country and when i see what the government here has provided for everybody living in the country, i feel sad for Nigeria.
Churches are offering free meals and clothing and not mentioning tithes or whatsoever, landlords are asking people not to pay rent for the next 3 months, restaurants are offering free meals for students not going to school. Government is now paying salaries to individuals that are not employed or laid off, so that they dont go out. Everybody is just trying to see what they can do to help.

But in Nigeria churches are busy still holding services and scheming ways to continue to collect money from people who may not be paid for the next few months.

The government is also doing nothing. Most of any funds given will be embezzled.

Its sad to see people like you nt speaking up but tacitly encouraging the impoverishment of the poor in the name of religion.

Good luck!

HRHQueenPhil:
give what u have,there is nobody that doesn't have something to give..if u don't want to leave it be..it's not compulsory
May God give u understanding..in the meantime this back and forth is over

lol.
Pastors wife. Or prophetess

Pascalville:
don't.. pls I'm begging.. do not read it.. yesterday... I saw a black spirit Angel with dark large wings.. standing at the corner of my door all night.. I'm really shivering now... I have even offloaded my fone like this.. pls oo.. Nigerians be careful

are you joking? Or serious?
Which book did you read?

jesusbaby01:
The first picture is Edmonton Downtown, My office is in one of the tall buildings

Awon ti downtown! These days i lose my rest of mind every time i drive to work. Car has been vandalized 4times in 6 months. Sadly i cant avoid driving. Crazy place!

adanny01:
Good advice even though OP did same.

From your experience which 3 locations are best for a copart newbie to get vehicles at minimum stress.

Great! Unfortunately, I dont live in the US and dont know much about buying and shipping from the US as most cars coming to Nigeria are bought in or sent through the US.

LOL!
I live about 15 mins drive from a Copart garage, and about 2 hours drive from another. I would never even look up cars in their garage just 2 hours from me, because I don't want any unnecessary stress and expense for my self. First thing to check is the location you are bidding on. Op learnt the hard way.


Just ignore the truck its not worth it.
Do not mind those people asking you to pay $400 dollars to Copart for an account that's likely not a dealer/paid account. Your account will be barred and you will be unable to bid on any cars. You can get a new account using different Names, addresses and details. An assessor would most likely go through your new account to ensure its not a duplicate before you get your ID number. So be sure that you are providing totally different details. e.g Wifes Name as new account owner.
All the best.
cc; Odogu9195

Mutemenot:
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...

what sort of men are we raising these days? Prove to a non repentant, and manipulative LovePeddler that what, you are talking like hes got no choice, like shes doing him a favour??!
Sad for our future generations.

HopeSpencer:
This job is like the job of a newscaster. Oratory is my best gift. But I have hearing impairment. My ability to hear is about 50% of humans' ability to hear. Let say you start from level 7. As you grow older, you will be getting promoted. Being in level 8 means that level 7 guys receive orders from you while you yourself receive orders from level 9 folks. The pay is about 80k. But if I get a different job that pays 150k, I will still stick to my current job because this oratory thing is my existence. If you are promoted and to be giving orders, that will mean you will be holding endless meetings, but I can't preside over any meeting with this disability.

What can I do? I'm still feeling jobless because of this problem.

you need to get a good, adapted hearing aid. They work

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

stop deceiving yourself that she loves you. That lady is just out to catch fun. She s also manipulative as f*ck. You will get some dreaded disease Soon then you will understand.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

wait till she sticks a knife into your heart. You don't have to marry her because she's pregnant. Are you ready to live a life of constant sadness and strife?

Kobicove:
It's obvious you also went to a backyard school otherwise you will know that the above media statement which is written in Igbotic Grammar is of very poor quality!!!

if you spent more time giving a half f#ck about your English, you would write better than the gibberish you posted up there.

Kobicove:
The person who wrote this statement for the chief must be a 'backyard lawyer

obviously your brain went to take a dump when you typed this post

Enemyofdarkness:
I opened a mini shop lately and I employed one fine girl there as a sales girl. Based on my observation, she has every quality a girl should have.

And most importantly, she took my business as hers, running around, doing all sort things. Everytime I visit that shop and its surroundings, I always met it tidied up

Yesterday I overheard her asking my friend if I have a girlfriend but my friend said no.

My issue is, if I should date her, won't she start disrespecting me and acting shenanigan?

if you do that, get ready to lose your shop because she would start treating your profit as her right too.

Readonee35L:
Some of you are happy about someones downfall that you'd prefer that than having a solution to the problem.


Make God Help Us.

downfall of a crook you say??
What solution are you talking about
Nigerians!!! We have plenty problems.
If you subtly support a crook, you are a crook too.

Riele:
Such a weakling of a man .



Oga controller , is she suppose to be making a daily list of places she wants to go ? . Does she need your permission ?

He's a cheat , so says the wife and he should be treated as one .

this here is a model poster girl for those that call ladies "fish brain"

Mywd:
This is a lady who wanted to impress by twerking with her head faced down but ended up killling herself...

What will she tell God??


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXnqZLqyOr4

Idiot posting fake news

Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

so she gave you a child that's not yours this time, be ready for when she shovels some good load of HIV and what not to you.
Enjoy your living your lie.
Cheers!

Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.
I am a married Man with a Kid, before marriage my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.
We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.
I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.
We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.
She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.
I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.
I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.
What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

where I live, I would rather have my child and wife enjoy the comfort of a car while I stride public transport.
To put it mildly, you are selfish putting yourself before your child and wife.

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

She doesn't love you one bit. If you love or mind some sanity in your life, break up the marriage now.