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[quote author=Sisi_Kill]If this is a real life situation. . .lay it all out, so people can evaluate it well. All this your coded and very weird phrasing is not helping, just makes you sound. . .errr. . .ehm. . .

Anyway, just explain the situation on ground and let people take it up from there. One size obviously does not fit all, so generalization isn't gonna work here. After all there are hundreds of married women doing what you think is such an herculean task and their homes haven't suffered for it. Not to talk of the the widows, single parents, one person guardians who don't have anyone else.[/quote]Sorry ma'am, maybe i'm not good to writing but i'm doing my best. Like i said, the post is about knowing if it will work, how it will work and what it entails. If it's worth it or not. Alot is involve but this particular one matters.

[quote author=Man_51ut]And what makes you think you'll have time at home when you're your own business owner. Yeah you can be your own boss, but for the first few years at least, expect to not have as much time as you think you will. if you think you can just chill as you please, chances are your business will go into the toilet. Even you yourself won't be able to leave your investment just like that.

Basically, the time factor is a non-issue. [/quot


maybe this is why the need to be on the right path is coming up now that they're yet married?

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]You are talking about time management. . .last I checked, you both have 24hrs in the day assigned to you and as far as I know, no one (not even a woman) conjure up more hours, so why is the burden on her alone to deal with it?

Here's a radical idea. . .husband and wife, sit down, talk it out and come up with a schedule where no one is losing out completely. You know, come to think of it sef, The one who is his own boss is in a better position to take care of things on the home front. . .don't you agree? There! Problem solved!!! [/quote]When a home is driven by one party, it's likely going to bring up alot of cons, when one party contributes most time to the health of a home, don't you think it's likely going to lead to feeling like the sole owner of the home?

kutchs: Well said sister, everyone has a right to pursue his/her own career and dream and everyone has a right to invest in any business he/she feels inclined to. That she is my wife does not necessarily make her property in my hand, she is a person, an individual that stands apart from me and thus must follow her dream. Besides forcing a woman to give up a paid job 9-5 job as the op calls it may be counter productive. T

Sure everyone's got her/his dream but is it advisable marrying someone with an opposite dream?

What are the cons and pros that can be associated with it?

You're missing the point.

Let me ask you this question, how do you intend having quality time with your kids and hubby as a 9-5 career woman? i mean how do balance an 8-8pm (including traffic and other unforeseen situation) with the hone front?

Time freedom's what is paramount here. Maybe its about family time and not just money. The lady in focus is also not a good multi-tasker.

penelope9: Op, you sound like a user.Men like you are the type that use women to achieve their own dreams and replace her after use and she will have nothing to show for it afetr several years of building your own dream.Why are you a man? Build your dreams by yourself.You are a lazy man.

Sound like a user? How? Where in the post did the op say the wife should work under him?did you skip the setting up the biz of her choice for her? Did you read the post at all? Do you understand English language? How's the man a lazy man?

debrief08: I have my career my husband has his, it makes our lives easier and sweeter. Married couple shouldn't mean being joined at the hips. Let her have her career and her own fulfilment, have yours. If she chooses to help you build finacess or with time its her choice not under compulsion as you make it sound.
With all I have gone through one thing I have always been proud of is my career. Working for "another man" as you put it pays her bills gives her a sense of worth, let her make her choices, if you don't like it find somebody else who keys into your vision. But its unfair to demand that anyone let's go of their own dreams and visions to build your own.

You mean working in a similar career with that of her hubby wont give her a sense of worth? The point is actually about time freedom and not really about money.

Kobojunkie: Technically she does not owe you financial support in this. If you want to start your own business, you have to consider the risks involved and plan accordingly. Don't drag your woman into it just because she happens to be your woman. If she does not want to be involved, she has the right to say that and be that way.

For instance, if a man decides he wants to set up a hotel business in Nigeria(women and all involved). The wife may choose for religious reasons not to support that in anyway. She has that right. Just cause she is married to you does not mean she needs to be married to all the silly ideas in your head as well.

This reminds me of the case of a man I used to hear of from another friend, who lived in South Africa. The man and his wife moved to South Africa and started their family.They had five kids. He later went into 419 business, and she believing it was her place to aid her husband in all, joined him in it. When he got caught, she was also implicated since she was in it with him. They both got jail terms. Ask how those kids of theirs are doing today with criminals for parents?



Not everyone is designed to be a business owner. Some prefer the 9-5 setting. If this is the kind of job she was doing before you married her, I don't how it should be made a problem afterwards. As long as she is working, working hard, you probably should look to help her so she can better have "useful time" that you would like for her to have. Make yourself useful. Help her prepare that report or presentation that is due or run to the store to help her print her papers so she can maybe not need to spend time past 5 at the office. You are human being and so nothing should stop you from making yourself useful in the case that she is stressed or overwhelmed.



There are so many people with future goals of owning businesses who in the meantime choose to work the 9-5 for so many reasons. One being that they likely know it maybe too much risk at the current time so they would rather wait till the right time to do it. I don't see why you, or anyone should make an issue of that though.

Then why does she want to work to earn money and also be married if she wont be at one time helping his partner with her money when need be?

That's why i'm asking how safe it's marrying someone who can't watch your back. I thought marriage is a partnership?

Your example is actually bias, why use hotel or ilegal biz? I used businesses though. Which decent man would set up a 419 biz?

You mean the man should help her manage the time she uses to build another man's biz rather than her using that time to assist in building that of her husband?

What about in the case of a woman who's yet to start working but won't key into that of her hubby? How advisable is that?


The concern here is FAMILY TIME AND TIME FREEDOM, NOT MONEY O.

efe22: Yes I know... 10 standard lot to be traded in 2o working days. I later changed my mind yesterday and ended up with a positive note closing $30 on 0.02 lot on both GU and EU. Those guys are really harsh with that kind of conditions. Anyway my initial target is 5 pips T.P every time till 1 lot is completed daily. Is not going to be easy but the journey has started lol.

not hard either, pick 6 pairs n trade them targeting 5 pips per trade. Use 0.05 lot and u need just 10 trades per day. Not a must all of them must close in profit but make sure your green is more than red. Just trade a plan that you have.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I'm sorry I am just having a hard time understand how number 2 is possible. So if you don't mind please can you give example of "Not willing to work with you" I mean does she put down what you do? If she does then that means she doesn't understand your goal.

Secondly, why does she have to pursue the same thing you are pursuing? If you enjoy being boss of your company and she enjoys 9 to 5. . .why is that a problem?

Thirdly, Does it have to be you support first the I will support you later. . .why can't there be concurrent supporting, you both help each other achieve your goals.

Well sha, in my opinion. . .if you marry someone who understand you and you her from jump, all of these will be none issue.[/quote]1: She won't stop you from setting up businesses or services but not ready to help in kind, finances and efforts. (hope i explained it better?)

2: I see it as a problem because she's likely coming home late, she won't have monopoly over her time and can't plan her time (useful time) compared to if she's the owner of her biz, she would only come home when she's released from work, she's a slave to her salary and can't decide when to work and when not to, she only works for the dreams of her boss/company. she's helping building another man/woman/people's dream while she believes she's building hers. (i mean if she prefer working all her youthful life for someone else) and there's going to be friction with both parties. (the couple).

3: Both can hardly help each-other in achieving their goals because they are going the opposite way. IMO

I am not married yet and i am willing to read from some reasonable people who are married and if possible have experience in this kind of scenario.

234GT: Mutual understanding and respect for eachother's dreams are the very important. Never marry someone who has a different vision from yours. Its two visions or di(2) visions or division. If you really need someone that would fit into your plans, then take the pain to find that person, because he/she is out there. Dont rush to marry someone whose vision doesnt fit yours thinking you will 'manage' who is available. I go with option 1.

And what happens when she tries to tell you it's going to work out by saying she's only going to work for a while and not for ever?

ballabriggs: Shut up! Shut up!! Over sabi. How e take concern you now.

Na the same market me and you dey buy from?

Kindly tell us where you buy ike-oda of garri at 800 naira. i am above you so i won't go into insults.

Which is more advisable?
1: A woman who understands, agrees and is willing to work with you to achieve your goal

2: A woman who understands, agrees but not willing to work with you but won't stop you from achieving your goal

3: A woman who understands, agrees but prefers her own goal more than yours and expects you to allow her achieve her own goal (having a contrasting goal to yours).


Is it advisable for a man who loves to be a boss of his own (an entrepreneur to marry a woman who prefers a 9-5 job (corporate job) and believes your not wanting her to follow her dream is to limit her even when you try to let her toll your line by preparing to help her fund any business of her dream?

I AM MORE CONCERNED ABOUT THE HOME FRONT, THE FOUNDATION OF THE FAMILY AND THE KIDS THAT ARE LIKELY COMING IN.
i believe women who have power over their time look over their home front and kids more than those who can't dictate their own time.

ballabriggs: one 'ike oda' for 800 naira!

Life done spoil O, I remember when we dey buy am for 20 naira. SMH

you're lying, ike oda of red garri is 350 naira. White is 380 naira.

ooseven: Enemies of progress. A Chinese girl broke the world record in swimming, they all screamed DRUGS. The poor girl was unable to enjoy her success. Usain Bolt and co did a 1.2.3, they are still screaming DRUGS!!!! However, when their flying squirrel won gold in Gymnastics, we no here word. Even CNN interview im mama and foster mama, Procter and gamble use them do advert. Its all well and good now that they are No1 at the rankings, if it was China, they would have started showing "propagandic" videos of the Chinese rigorous training regime for kids.

Their arrogance is going to be their downfall

I don't mind yaekwando either, i can throw my left leg above a 6 footer, my fan head is now my practise target but would i be picked justfully if i tender myself?

na e-race u wan run?

osanobua! Chei

[quote author=Mr.chippychappy]The girl who ran the third lap killed the relay team , She was so slow and couldn't pass the baton properly to Okagbare. If she passed the Baton faster who knows , we might have gotten Bronze[/quote]so nothing again? Is there no copper for 4th place?

infofirst: Boss,me, i appreciate, i deliberately did all d noise to see if my set up really worth it n am sorri all.

Bro nothing to be sorry about, i just wrote that so u don't lose guard.

infofirst: try to work more on those points i wrote on page 0 of this season thread, then halla me n i will give u a code n u will really enjoy it but u need to learn abt those thins so that u can appreciate the codes, some one using Peach tree software in accounting will never appreciate it except if he has good knowledge of principle of double entry n shd in case of trouble, d fundamental knowledge will guide u. i want to stay out of gu but my set up says no way n that he will alert me n that i shd just keep increasing my positive sl.

Bro u're doing well and your view always reflects mine. Just limit your 'talks' because some are lurking around to mock when it happens. I want you to keep up with your view.

This week was worth it.

To your tent o pipsters.

rozayx5: Live to PIP another day

FOREX TRADING IS LIKE A SIGNED BLANK CHEQUE FROM YOUR BROKER ON YOUR COMPUTER SCREEN, your job is to fill the amount you want or the amount you want to pay them

nah so everyday is salary in forex, no paycheck, nah wire transfer, or shud i call it pips transfer in na de kentro level Arab money in the forex business, or shud i call it legal dollar transfer.

do not forget to remind them of the opposite o. Forex na 2 edgged sword, you're left to decide which side to grab.

be careful of the bandwagon effect. Plan your trade and trade your plan only.

ednut1: I laf at ur ignorance, there is only one hostel for boys and 3 for gals, wen d link for boys hostel come up it will all be gone before 30 mins, because d hostel is not enough . Getin male hostel is harder dan getin admission self

Still waiting for his own's informed response.

1.25**EU
1.57** GU
98 EJPY
82 CJPY
78 UJ
0.95 uchf.

Preparing to take position.

topecole: pls guys lets b honest with ourself chk unilorin.edu.ng/portal and click d news there is already automatic accomodation 4 freshers(newly admitted student) dnt b misinformed

Automatic accomodation for all freshers? You mean they have enough rooms for all freshers coming to the school DE or jambites? So no need to rush you say? Where's the mis-information?

dohiswill: yes but just try to visit the portal from time to time you cant predict them. Unilorin can do and undo o
but i remember they reserved some space for freshers last year but it was still first come first serve

thanks, not for me though. Are the rooms for 6, 8 or 10 people and does the prices vary?

dohiswill: visit the portal from time to time as if you are going to toilet because they may open the hostel application any time and may some time last for 30mins b/4 den close am back,
one bed space last session was 28000 so lets expect something like that this session too

I personaly will advise you try hard to get hostel accomodation because transport na waya o both going and coming especialy on mondays ask from other unilorites then go tell you u go fear.

just 30mins? Dont u think its after admission acceptance deadline closes before accomodation'll open?

abhosts: I find it quite Ironic that Nigeria's best ever sports spell took place during the Regime of a Dictator. Our democratic leaders need to start taking sports seriously.

Nations Cup Triumph 1994.

First World Cup 1994.

Best Olympic Performance 1996.

This is to show that Nigerians perform well under strict leadership.

Does it e...jaculate?