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Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

My advice is that you try 2 look for his mumu button first..every man have it.

Another thing is that try 2 talk 2 him about it.. Marriage no be anybody mate o. Once u re in u re in.. So 2 talk 2 him about it.. A 40years old man should be mature enough to make decision on his own.

His kind are many in Lagos still active and been used.

madridguy:
Abba Gida-Gida should calm down, dry land dey fall person.
Ganduje have done his best for the people of Kano State, so make youself start your work now, another four years is around the corner. No too make enemy because Ganduje and Kwankwaso go later settle their matter, no go dey inherit enemy.

This is the major reason why this country is not growing. People don't pay for their crimes.. Abeg leave am make him go, him try..

I have notice over time that the major problem facing the world today is racism and many countries around the world have done and still doing everything possible to silence it.

In some countries like England, Italy, Germany, Russia etc have engage in this racism so much that it has cost lost of life and dis unity among the blacks, Caucasian and even people Frm different countries and region living with them. More so these countries are doing everything possible to kill racism. In there movies, football, leadership and even at workplaces.

I believe we are all humans doing everything possible to make a living whether black or white, Caucasian or otherwise. It's very important for us human to live as one in unity. For instance today in Nigeria when we hear that a Nigerian man is now a minister in America we become happy and excited why, they don't or hardly discriminate because they have laws that frawn at it..

Now coming down to Nigeria Tribalism(which I call Nigeria racism) is our major problem both online and offline you see all kinds of people using tribal languages against one another even on Nairaland here.. Our politicians re the worst on earth.. U can be living with a neighbor for over 30years who is of different tribe and over night a politician will come from nowhere in less than on week they give u reason to hate that ur neighbor who have always been living with you for years.

Am hoping and believing that one day a very strict law will be pass so that anyone who use tribal language to insult anyone should be sent 2 prison for at least 6month without bail..

Am hoping a day will come when an Igbo man will become a governor of Bornu state.. When a Yoruba man will become a governor of Delta State, when an Hausa man will become a governor Cross River state.. Do u know that if stay in Lagos I breathe in oxygen and breathe out carbon dioxide the same as u.. If I travel to America or United Kingdom or Asia I still breathe in the same oxygen and the same carbon dioxide and the same as you too if u travel there. But if it happens that I can only breath in and out only if am in my state of origin I will never leave my state, and the same applies to every too who is living outside their state and country..
Lets find it in our heart to live peaceful with one another.

What was it before... Aboki sef..

Not even up 2 amount of money stolen from one aboki on Friday in Lagos here as stated..


Shebi na $11 million dollars the aboki carry dey go bank.. Nai a whole club they find 2 fix there stad..

YourNextLevel:
Dey don come again.

Shey LQBGYZX ( gay whatever) never do una ?

From AI to this ?

Na waooo

This is also AI.. Except u re referring to robotics.

Truth be told... In the future technology might erase human existence if care is not taken.

She should go n beg him 2 accept her back instead of talking trash..


Kanye has focus more on his business after she left.. U think say na simp u dey deal with?

Many will insult him... Because they don't know anything..

yemmight:
Thief no dey loose.

And u no dey thief.... E mean say u dey loose?

shadrach77:
This Rufai guy is gradually becoming a nuisance. He thinks his position in Asleep TV means he has a legitimate view on every issue

What is wrong with what he said?

Na wa for u o..

Tinubu boys hide out..

Clothe wen person no fit wear go anywhere.. Nai go win award for red-carpet... This life no balance.

Astra101:
This zelensky of a guy hate being told the truth and if the pope tell him the truth he will not hesitate to drag the pope on social media.



Do you think Russia is fighting just Ukraine? Can you count the number of countries that has donated billions of dollars and weapons to Ukraine? Having you seen the role of NATO(32 nations in one) in this war? Always have a holistic view of things before you vent.




Bro i have created many threads about this nonsense on nairaland but got deleted by the mod.

You see Nigeria is a lost nation, lost beyond redemption. Even the brightest mind in this country is a religious fanatic.

@seun osewa is too daft to know that Nigeria is multi-cultural and Multi-Religious nation hence the users of this forums are of different religions and cultures as well so everyone deserve to be treated equally regardless of ethnicity or religious affiliation.

After the presidential election there was a hit of tribal war both online and offline. This same guy @seun osewa hypocritically created a thread here telling people to stop those tribal bigotry. I called his attention to what's is happening in the religious section and how he elevated one religion above the other by forcing anyone that want to comment on Islamic threads to confess Islam but allow everybody to comments on Christian threads but again my comments were deleted by the mode.

Truth be told, @seun osewa have several monikers on this forum where he attack and bully people from other tribes and faith.

I concor with u bro...

U will want 2 comment on a Muslim trend, they will ask u 2 confess of been a Muslim.. But when it concerns Christians everybody can enter..

Seun do the needful u re not aware of it.. And if u re aware and such is still happening u re a tribal biggot.. No other way d discribe u.

I have downloaded all of them n more

He went there 2 charge his phone..

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

Rule of marriage.. No 1...None of ur family member is suppose to live with u once u re married.

I remember wen use to carry gas product to ph from warri...

No death record but its a very risky of job to do.

Na wa o..

Apc hand must dey there... They can't win a free n fair election..

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

I will advice u focus on ur new carrier... Beside where do u apply for it.. I will love 2 apply too.

The owner of tictock said tictock is for jobless people..

Everything is wrong with it..

dominique:
Op are you sure this is a recent video? Even Hakimi himself knows he can't dance yet, the court is yet to rule on child support and alimony payments. His monthly income will be used to determine this. Then there is the rape case still hanging on his neck. Trust me, Hakimi can't possibly be dancing wherever he is right now. This is most definitely not a recent video

Meanwhile, the wife was using her money to run the home while he was busy stashing his own money away to his mum. Then he went on to cheat on her in their home, now he expects her to walk away without a dime and Nigerian men are applauding this? May Hakimi happen to all your daughters born or unborn.

U will love 2 have an Hakimi as a son.. But not as a husband, right?

mylove4God:
Sometimes I find it hard to believe these type of stories despite know it's the reality.
Is the traits of resemblance not meant to have expose or lead to suspecting? I think if I am the man I would have suspected long time ago.

For this story, I cannot say anything till maternity test have been carried out. They might have exchanged her children during birth.

Exchange how many children?
Stop reasoning through ur anus..

His name is not Ashraf Akimi alone.. Add Chigozie to it.. Confirm smart Igbo man..

www.. yahoo..com

I use it 2 get my first love.. I went 2 look for her brother wen I saw her reading this book.. I told her I like the book n that I could read it offheart... She doubted.. So I start reading it offheart while she was follow through.. The rest is history..


Love happens..