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Soldier go; soldier come! Gallant soldier, enjoy your wedding, and may your marriage be filled with joy and fulfillment. Opaik, tiaun!

Oh my goodness! Make-up is a fraud, I swear! Check my blog at www.securitymattersafrica.com for your security and safety matters.

Good job Mr president: Keep it up. When drones are deployed, a 360 degree arial view of the border land mass is captured. Moreover, it will deter foreign intruders from acessing our borders illegally. Check my blog at www.securitymattersafrica.com for all things security and safety.

Good job Mr president: Keep it up. When drones are deployed, a 360 degree arial view of the border land mass is captured. Moreover, it will deter foreign intruders from acessing our borders illegally.

MakaveliTheDon:
Guys please help me check the authenticity of this interview







Good day, You have been invited to be part of interview session with the Management of TGR.
Date: Wednesday, October 16th, 2019
Time: 9:am
Venue: 2, Odegbami Crescent, opposite RCCG Agape, off Olorunsogo Road Abeokuta, Ogun state.
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N/B: Come With Your CV And Be Corporately Dress. Best Of Luck.

Most of these random invites are from Network Marketers. The question is: did you apply for the job? If the answer is no, then, you ought to be careful. Check my blog for everything safety and security and even on employability: www.securitymattersafrica.com

Reading comments here crack me up already. E be like say I go dey fear to ask question now oh. LOL

FSARS or whatever they are called need a lot of high-handedness; reforms alone will not help. Even with the recent facade of reforms by the Nigeria Police, nothing seems to change. What a big shame! Three young kids whose death could have been avoided. Those security operatives should be made to face the wrath of the law. RIP to the dead. Check my blog for all things safety and security: www.securitymattersafrica.com

The Nigeria military reek with putrifying corruption. Unfortunately, it will be hard to curb. When my dad was posted to the Finance Department in the Nigeria Army, he refused to join his colleagues who cornered pensioners funds, contract allocation, salaries. He was later transferred as an instructor. If not for anything, I love him for his integrity and honesty while in the miliary. Check my blog for security and safety articles, security tips, etc: www.securitymattersafrica.com

Speaking from a security perspective, the closure of the border is a good thing. If not anything, at least it will deter every terrorist groups from smuggling illegal weapons into Nigeria; foreign banditries inclusive. Check my blog: www.securitymattersafrica.com

In this age and time, people still think pants will make them rich. I pity youths of this generation; lazy youths that refused to believe there is dignity in labor. What the youths need is total reorientation and 'refurbishment' of the brain. What is my state turning into, Jeez?! Check my blog to know how to spot a ritualist: www.securitymattersafrica.com

@fratermathy It is quite unfortunate that you got scammed by a company that promised to live above board in terms of ethics and integrity. It is a shame that not only are fraudsters involved in fraud, the so called corporate entities are overtly guilty as well. We must continue to expose them. If you are a victim of scammers, please, send their info to info@securitymattersafrica.com(phone numbers, names, etc). I will forward it to the EFCC. Enough is enough. Visit my blog for other security and safety articles: https//: www.securitymattersafrica.com

Whizkid, keep the hustle alive and spend the money the way you feel. It is your money after all. Your security and safety is of utmost importance too. To know how celebrities can stay safe, check my blog: www.securitymattersafrica.com

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is what a lot of Nigerians are lacking, especially teenagers. With EI, he could have controlled his anger and channelled that energy to something meaningful. Check my blog to learn more about EI and other safety and security issues: www.securitymattersafrica.com

Na so.

odaniel1:
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I thought he used to teach swimming class in Havanna?

odaniel1:
I love Havannah hotel, gowon estate Bouncers especially Sunny. No time for rubbish!

I thought he used to teach swimming class in Havanna?

The challenges of unemployment and underemployment has encouraged the springing of fake recruitment agencies across the continent of Africa. Unfortunately, gullible and vulnerable job seekers fall prey to these agencies who milk them of their financial resources and time. They are desperate and will go to any length to short-changed their victims.

Moreover, due to increased population which invariably leads to contest for the few available jobs coupled with increased in transportation, food and rent, more and more people are jostling for any kind of jobs they could lay their hands on if only it could feed their families and cater for their basic needs. Unfortunately, recruitment agencies have taken advantage of job seekers’ desperate need to get jobs even if it means compromising their moral and religious tenets.

From Lagos to Johannesburg, from Kenya to Egypt and from Rwanda to Cameroon, the story of recruitment scammers has left bitter taste in the mouth of job seekers; sad and dejected. These fake agencies are all over the place especially in major cities whose preys are readily available. But why are these job seekers scammed easily knowing fully well that they are in a better position to decipher wrong from right due to their level of education.

Questions need to be asked as to why this trend is unbecoming of desperate recruitment agencies in the hunt for vulnerable job seekers.

• Why are the relevant security agencies too docile to arrest these recruitment scammers?

• What can these job seekers do to prevent being short-changed?

• What other alternatives do job seekers have aside recruitment agencies to increase their chances of getting jobs?

• Should the Senate and House of Representatives initiate stiffer measures like initiating Bills to frustrate these criminal agencies?

• Can the state and federal government arrest the joblessness in their countries by creating jobs and encouraging small and medium scale
businesses and even creating the enabling environment for businesses to flourish?

• Are there collaborators (with these recruitment agencies) profiting from these recruitment scam?

• Who are those frustrating security agencies from arresting these fake agencies?

These are just simple questions that can help us to understand the gimmicks of these agencies?

Now, what are the signs that are visible in these recruitment agencies?

1. They ask for money before attending to you

Most of these fake recruitment agencies ask you for a fee before processing your application. This is wrong because the process is supposed to be free. Some ask as low as #2500 (two thousand naira) and as much as #5000 (five thousand naira). Please, don’t look back when they ask you for money: flee.

2. Their office environment looks unkempt both inwardly and outwardly

Check their office environment and you will be surprised at what you will discover. The environment is nothing to write home about as it pertains to a proper office environment: dirty stir-cases, garbage everywhere, dusty furniture, cobweb at the ceiling and across the walls, etc. This is just one sign that they are recruitment scammers.

Please, leave when you discover the office is unkempt.

3. The staffers are not smart looking; dress-wise

Majority of the staffers are improperly dressed. They look dirty as well. They look like people from the public market place. Their shoes are not polished and their attires are not iron as well. They sweat a lot in hot offices with no ventilation in place.

4. They have poor communication skills
The most glaring of detecting them is that they lack good communication skills. They cannot communicate properly and they have low self-esteem. You begin to wonder if they are really serious about what they are doing.

5. They keep postponing and dodging potential companies job seekers are supposed to visit

They are in the habit of dodging potential companies that they referred job seekers to. When the companies called, they would not respond. Again, when they issue you receipt when “no refund” is a sign that you will not get your money when you asked for it.

6. They connive with potential companies to frustrate prospective employees

They connive with potential companies to frustrate job seekers. When they referred you to these companies, they keep pushing you back and forth. Unfortunately, these fake recruitment agencies are reluctant to participate but due to greed from these scammers, they unwilling participate.

7. The potential companies are fraudulent in nature by using the new employees referred by these recruiters and not paying them their wage and salaries

Even if these job seekers get these jobs, the employers do not pay them salaries for months. These are tricks they use to scam job seekers. When the job seekers are frustrated, they resign and these companies go back to the labor market to fish for vulnerable job seekers to scam using these fake recruitment agencies.

8. They do not use well-known recruitment sites to advertise vacancies to avoid being spotted security agencies and authorities

Due to the fact that they have been discovered to be scammers, they do not use well-known sites to advertise for recruitment. They would rather use unknown sites, thereby deceiving desperate job seekers.

9. Majority are not learned; their write-ups are full of typographical errors

Most of them are illiterates and cannot write simple sentences. Their write-ups are full of typographical errors. This is just one sign that it may be a fake recruitment agency.

10. They are always tensed; their body language gives them away: either shifting in their seats or sweating profusely

Their body languages always give them away. They are not comfortable when addressing people in the office; shifting in their seats. Again, they sweat profusely due to fear of not being discovered as fraudsters.

11. They are diabolical, using charms to influence their victims.

This part is controversial and debatable but people believe it happens

I hope you have learnt a lot from this article. Please, visit my blog for more interesting articles at: http://securitymattersafrica.com

Every day, stories of husbands beating up their wives mercilessly abound. They posit that it's done  to put real sense into their stubborn heads. These shameless women wrappers also believed there can't be two masters in the same house. 

Sadly, these women had to endure these endless and abusive relationships, putting up with different forms of domestic and physical abuses. Perhaps, these women are in it because of their children, maybe because they love the man or they believe one day,  he'll change. Yet, nothing improves; nothing changes.

There's this notions and misconception; these backward and forward debates between the male versus the female superiority: the gender debate to put it more succinctly. There's also this archaic belief that the male is supposed to be the head of the home while the female is supposed to be the neck. There's also this school of thought that the male being the superior of the two is meant to dictate what goes in and around the home; the woman should just follow blindly. Therefore, the rise of women empowerment and emancipation: equal opportunities for women, equal rights for women, equal pay for women, equal positions for women, etc

Some shameless men had begun to abuse this misconceptions. They see it as an opportunity to maltreat these poor and vulnerable women. Unfortunately, a lot of them have ended up in untimely graves. Some in psychiatric homes and others as slaves. They're scared that if they try to leave  or submit damning reports to the Police authorities, the abusive husband will hunt and deal with them.

Furthermore, we've heard of stories of women losing their lives on a daily basis. The stories of two men comes to mind. The story of  Kolade Arowolo, a 30-year-old man who was alleged to have murdered his banker- wife. He claimed he did it in self defense. Another alleged case was that of a dock worker, Olalekan Shonde, a 51-year-old, who brutally killed his wife in the Egbeda area of Lagos, Nigeria. He denied killing her. These're just few homicide cases perpetuated by heartless and troubled men in our societies.

Perhaps, something needs to be done or maybe a lot of these men need help somehow: psychological or otherwise. Some of them are suffering in silence and they've no one to confide in. They should be bold enough to come out and seek for help instead of bottling it up until it spew out of control; until they do the unthinkable. Until it's too late

There're various women non-governmental organizations (NGOs) catering for helpless women.  These NGOs are doing their best even without individuals or government supports. But these domestic/physical abuses still rages on.

Is there a way these helpless women can protect themselves against their rampaging husbands? What should be done to safeguard the lives of those trapped one way or the other and have no ideas of how to leave? These're questions we should be asking ourselves.

Strategically, women who suffer domestic and physical abuses should form a bond; somewhat like support groups where they share ideas on how they can support and protect themselves against such acts. When they're in such places, abused women find comfort and hope when others - who've had such predicaments - share their problems. These experienced women also talked about how they were able to battle their way out of it successful. Again, they benefit a lot when someone from an NGO, affiliated to domestic-and-physical-abused issues comes forward to give advise as well. They can organize conferences and invite these NGOs to give talks on such salient topics.

Now, how do you spot a wife beater?

1. They've anger issues

When a man is always prone to outburst  without any justifiable cause, know that he'll raise his hand(s) someday to hit you. Men are less emotional beings than women, so the only way they can express themselves better is through shouting or throwing tantrums. Probably, these men have issues that have piled up for months or years. These issues filtered to the forefront when the nervous system couldn't tolerate it any longer. It's like a balloon bursting to shred when it has gotten to its limit. What should be done? The men should be subjected to counselling either from their Pastors, Imams or a competent psychiatric.

Some women are known to be talkative, as though a tap gushing water without control. They can talk you to provocation and even insult you. Their tongues can raise and provoke the dead. It can push you to do the unthinkable. But my fellow men, self control should come into play when you're tempted to hit her. Leave the scene: Look for a comforting and relaxing place to calm down.

2. They've inferiority complex

Any man who raises his hand to hit his wife is a coward. He has an inferiority complex. No matter what a woman does to you, you shouldn't make her your punching bag. When a man can't take advise from his wife, then something is amiss somewhere. Some men always want to dominate. They love to flex their muscles against their vulnerable wives. Men who can't share their wives opinions don't deserve to be call husbands. Still, men who can't take advise are selfish. For you to claim to love your wife, you should respect her opinions. Even if you don't feel like it, just give her a listening ear. Women love it when they feel their opinions and advise are taken into consideration. They value men who just listen while they talk and talk.

If you claim to be the real man you are, bring down your ego, humble yourself and give her that listening ear.

3. When they avoid you like a plague

When a man is always avoiding you, know that all isn't well. If you're the talking type who like to bother him, please stop it. He might be going through some emotional issues. Instead, inquire from him why he's in such foul mood. Pamper him like a baby, massage him gently and dig deeper into the reason(s) while he's isolating himself from you. Men are compassionate too. But if you go the wrong way, you might provoke him to hit you. Most of the issues bothering him might be from the office environment, from traffic gridlocks, or from crazy drivers.

4. He might be considering a divorce.

The first sign you notice from him, apart from isolating you is that a divorce matter could be beclouding his sense of reasoning. Sometimes, he doesn't eat the food you cook. He comes home late at night and he's always on the phone 24/7 chatting with his girlfriend. Because he doesn't know how to pass his issues across, the best he could do is to either punch, slap or worse, manhandle you.

5. You're not good in bed

Ladies you see, we men love to explore. If you don't give him what he wants, he'll avoid you and look for somebody else who can give it to him real good. Some young girls who're adventurous will give him what he wants. These ladies can explore at any length; style-wise. Oh my God, these little devils are super-pro. Then he starts keeping late nights. He starts spending the money meant for your home on these young girls. Your children's school fees will remain pending. Meanwhile, he's spending all the money meant for house keep on his concubines. A time will come when a slight provocation will make him go gaga. He might hit you! A sign that he's fed up. My advice is that you should wake up from your slumber and make him come back home. Hit the gym; get into shape. And do the needful. As the saying goes: A word is enough for the wise.

6. He's always intoxicated

When he starts getting drunk, something he doesn't do before, please know that there's an issue bothering him. He gets home, shirt rumpled and stinking like a sewage tank. Eyes as crimson as zobo drink. He has foul mouth odor. Then you questioned him where he's coming from. He gets provoked; slaps and abuses you. Perhaps, something deep inside has been bothering him which you fail to notice. While not take the time to ask him why this sudden change in behavior? Do it when he's sober enough. Ask him in a loving and caring manner. Be the counselor in his life, the comforter he so desperately needs. Pamper him. Arouse that man he once was. Men are very understanding. You'll be surprise at his turnaround.

7. He's psychologically imbalance

Stress might be one of the reason he's hitting you. The stress would've degenerated into something beyond his control. He needs help ASAP. Let him see a doctor who will evaluate him thoroughly and recommends the right therapy. Although his ego wouldn't allow him admit his psychological challenges, you need to persuade him. If he refuses, get the assistance of an elderly person, probably his parents, uncle or aunt. Anybody he respects a lot.

8. They don't admit their faults

Abusive men don't always admit their faults. They feel they're always right. Therefore, they'll beat you when you try to correct their mistakes. Men who're egoistic are very hard to bend and pleased. They don't respect women. They see women as trash who should be disposed as at when due. Men who beat women to a pulp are in that category. They're good to others outside but terrible husbands at home. Such men can do and undo. Because he's always trying to defend his foibles, the best he can do to exert his superiority complex is to maltreat you. Avoid such men as much as you can. For the meantime go and stay with your parents or relatives. When he's back to his senses, and he promise to have a U-turn, then you can consider coming back home. Give him a condition that if he ever raises his hands on you again, you'll never step your foot in that house.

9. They've friends just like them

Birds of the same feather flock together. This expression might sound cliche, but that's the perfect words I can use to describe men like that. They congregate at a particular spot and discuss anything under skirts. These men are womanizers. They've different sets, shades and sizes of girlfriends. They talk, eat and drink anything that has to do with womanizing (the escapades of womanizing) . They discuss their adventures and how their foolish-shapeless wives can't do what they're supposed to do as real house wives.They talk and make fun of how they beat their wives at home and use them as punching bags. Meanwhile, their wives are out of bed at the middle of the night and waiting for them to come back home.

10. They're ungodly 

Men who beat their wives are ungodly. They don't go to church on Sundays. They don't pray with their families and they don't want to have anything that has to do with the preaching of the gospel. Anytime a man of God comes to the house to share the words of God, they've one form of excuses or the other to give. These men don't have the fear of God in them. It only takes the grace of God to pull such men to His presence. They don't respect women especially their wives. What women with such husbands should do is continue to put them in prayers. Commit them to His hands. Pray and fast. With God all things are possible.

I hope you have gained a lot from this article. You can visit my blog http://securitymattersafrica.com to follow or like my page

Life is full of hardship and challenges. Everyday, we battle and struggle, we search and scratch and nothing seems to be working for us.

Landmines are military weapons used by Armed Forces around the world to terminate and destroy their enemies. It is a bomb-like object planted in the ground to stop the enemies from intruding into their territories. Literally speaking, landmines in our lives are the many obstacles that's preventing us from moving forward and achieving our God-given potentials.

Most times we feel these landmines are insurmountable, but they're easy to overcome if  only we know the little secrets.

Again, there are strategies we can use to navigate the issues in our lives. Instead of calling them issues and challenges, I choose to call them landmines.

Below, I'll be sharing with you 10 landmines in our lives and strategies to overcome them.

1.  When we allow despair to override us

Sometimes, it gets to a point when we're stuck in our lives and there seems to be no exit door to our escape. Hopelessness is one dangerous landmines in our lives we need to deal with before we can move forward. When a man is hopeless, he thinks he has lost all the vital ingredients that will give him meaning in life. For a man to kick his problems out the window, he must be focused. Challenges will come, but it takes a man of steel to trample-pass those obstacles standing on his way.

There were times in my life when I was confused and hopeless. I was asking myself if something was actually wrong with me. But in order to break through, I had to look inward. I had to realign my priorities in life. I had to ask myself some salient questions and put it down in writing. That in itself set me on the right path to optimism and positivism. I gained back my confidence and I was hopeful again.

2. When losing your self-esteem and direction in life

There are times in our lives when we seems to lose that steam that make us human. That thing that make us believe in ourselves. The insecurity issue. We cannot find those things that drive us to follow our dreams; that pushes us—those reasons why we feel alive.

I was going through the motions of life like a zombie: no meaning and direction. I didn't know which way I was heading. People were pursuing their dreams and passing me by. My self-esteem dropped and dipped, like a man falling off a cliff and heading down into a dark abyss; a bottomless pit.

I couldn't look people in the eyes and speak. My business network nosedive. Perhaps, there's a missing link in my life which I had to fix. I had to reappraised my priorities and find out what was causing the insecurity issues. And I found it. Hurray!

3.  When the blame games supersede our objectives

Humans love to blame their fellow humans. Nobody wants to take the blame. Chief Executive Officers (CEOs), parents, mentors, friends, relatives, etc don't want to take responsibilities. We're scared of losing that thing that is dear to us, so we blame and blame.

I was like that in the past. Blaming others for my problems and mistakes, thinking I wasn't at fault. I refused to take advise even when I knew it would be beneficial to me. Unfortunately, I was at the losing end. I was missing a lot and it was setting me backward.Pride was my stumbling block. It was getting in my way. The most difficult thing for a man to do is to deprogram his pride. When a man is adamant, life swept him aside and uplift those who're willing to humble themselves. I learnt it the hard way before common sense took control of my life.

I struggled with my pride but with time, I learnt to control it and I'm better off than before. People associate with those who're willing to let go of their pride and learn.

4. When we are selfish 

When a man is born, he is as pure as a purified glass of water. Nothing is learnt. But as he grows older, certain behaviors set in. One of such behavior is selfishness. A lot of people are struggling with this issue. The 'me, myself and I' syndrome.

The opposite of selfishness is love. We should learn to love others. We should learn to share and the effect it'll have in our lives will be huge. When we give without expecting nothing in return, we'll continue to experience good and positive things in our lives.

Again, selfishness was burning me out. I decided to put myself in other people shoes and feel the pinch. We should learn to position ourselves in other people predicaments and feel their pains. Let's assist the underprivileged in our society.

5. When we are impatient to get to our peak

Sometimes, we're impatient to achieve our goals in life. We want to get there now; not wanting to sweat it out. When we are impatient, we rush things through and lose focus.Take one thing at a time. Don't rush or you get burnt. Life has programmed us to take our goals, plans and dreams one step  at a time. Short, medium and long-term goals. You can't jump from zero and success. It is a process; a strategy.

I was tempted to be impatient. However, I stop along the way and think things through. I mapped out a road map. Little by little, I'm getting results.

6. When we procrastinate and our time kept ticking away

Procrastination is an enemy of our time. What should be done now, we postpone till tomorrow until it never gets done. Laziness is another best friend of procrastination. They work hand-in-hand.

Moreover, the more we procrastinate, the more we lose out in life. Time just fly by and our ages depreciate too. Then regrets set in. But it's never too late to do those things we procrastinate about.

Perhaps, if we don't start now, it might be took late to accomplish. It takes doggedness to overcome procrastination.

7. Envy and jealousy in the midst

When we envy others, we cannot move forward in life. This is so because we put aside our goals and focus our attention on the goals of others: we can't move forward with that mindset. We should learn to appreciate others and the same will be accorded us. Supporting others, lifting others and encouraging others will put us in a higher pedestrian. It'll open doors for us.

Jealousy is another thing that pulling us back. It is an emotional issue which we all struggle with. Our emotions is one thing we certainly can't eliminate but we can control.

8. When we are pessimistic about life

People who're pessimists have negative mindsets. Nothing good ever comes out of their mouth. In the long run, it affect our confidence and outlook. We all have those kinds of people in our lives, right?

Still, when we mix up with those sets of people, we're indirectly destroying our plans and our future. The people who associate with have a negative impact in our lives.

9. When we are the dream killers in other people's lives

Yes, dream killers are those that will do anything to bring anybody down. They aren't happy when others are succeeding. They are unhappy until they achieve their aims of maneuvering people to be below them.

It is either people are below or at the same level with them. People can't surpass them. Again, they're always in a sad mood, because their friends are achieving and they are not.

Unfortunately, this attitude drains us, we can't move forward. We're stuck and boxed in a corner.

10. When we accumulate bad habits in our lives

Bad habits are ruining our lives on a daily basis. These are things we've learnt over the years and unlearning it is almost impossible. Common habits like smoking, drinking, masturbating, pornography, etc are a few of our bad habits. I was indulging in masturbation until I was delivered through self rediscovery. Learning to unlearn these bad habits takes time and efforts.

It is one step at a time. They say it takes 60 days to learn a habit. So, it is not something you can just unlearn within a short period of time.I wish you the best in life. You'll overcome your landmines. Stay focused, stay positive.

I hope you have learnt one or two things from this article. You can follow or visit my blog at http://securitymattersafrica.com

@Born2Breed: You are definitely right. But, life is about risk. Again, it is not every abused, raped or kidnapped victims that are armed. Emotional Intelligence is about controlling your emotions. It can be pain, anger or stress; putting it under control can help a lot.

In most African schools, especially primary and secondary, it is unfortunate that kids and teenagers are not equipped with safety techniques and intelligence. They are not taught how to stay safe in and outside their school premises. They are deficient in safety but knowledgeable in core subjects like mathematics and English language. However, without knowledge in safety, these kids are vulnerable and handicapped in protecting themselves when faced with dangers. The Chibok and Dapchi experiences in northern Nigeria (the school girls were kidnapped by Boko Haram and taken into custody) are typical examples of why it is important to teach these kids safety.

Eventually when these techniques are spread across the African continent, it will be the catalyst that will ignite a culture of safety anywhere they go. It is unfortunate that the Chibok and Dapchi incident happened. If these kids understand safety techniques, they would have evaded the terrorists.

The most important questions to ask are:

a. Do these kids know anything about safety?

b. Do they have any idea of how to detect danger and evade it at the slightest opportunity?

c. Do they have a culture of safety intelligence and techniques? Are they informed, enlightened and equipped with tools that will safeguard them against kidnapping, ritual killings, rape, etc?

d. Do they know how to ask intelligent questions that will eventually safeguard them from dangers?

e. What type of questions should they ask if a stranger approaches them and sweet talked them to partake in things that are illegal and against the law?

f. Are they interested in safety topics? If not, how can instructors and coaches imbibe and stimulate those interest in them?

g. How safety conscious are they?

If the questions above can be answered with all sense of honesty, I believe a huge part of the topic is solved.

I am amazed that a topic like safety intelligence and techniques are not included in our school curriculum. This is despite the fact that kids are the most targeted and endangered when security issues arises in a particular region. If the African continent is to progress from backwardness to prosperity, it needs to start impacting safety knowledge in kids and teenagers who are the future leaders of tomorrow.

It will be meaningless if these kids know every subjects in schools yet ignorant of simple safety techniques that will make them enjoy the fruit of their labor in the future. How can a society impact students and pupils with different subjects but allow them to be deficient in safety techniques and intelligence? It is sad that Africa government puts the cart before the horse in matters that involve safety of their citizens’ lives.

Now, why is it important to teach kids safety techniques and intelligence?

Below are reasons why safety techniques and intelligence should be taught in African schools

1. Safety is the new reality

Without safety, the kids are inept in protecting themselves from all sorts of danger. What is the essence of coming top in their classes yet ignorant of what will help them to enjoy their hard work in coming years? What will they do when a desperate and dangerous man points a gun at them? What will they do when a fraudster approaches them and tries to brainwash them to steal valuables or part away with useful information that can wreak havoc in the family?

Safety is part and parcel of their everyday activities and it is as important as mathematics and English.

2. Safety brings high assurances

With safety, parents are assured of their children’s’ safety. The confidence of knowing that their kids are safety intelligent is the best thing that can happen to a parent. The fear of leaving their kids and teenagers in the hands of house helps will be a foregone thing if these kids are armed and equipped with safety and security.

3. Safety coaching in schools will breed kids who are super intelligent

Of course, when kids are taught different safety techniques in schools, they are well informed and equipped to face society’s security challenges. The case of the Chibok and Dapchi experiences in Northern Nigeria would never occur if the girls know a little bit of safety and security techniques.

4. Safety will make our society super conscious

If kids who are future leaders of tomorrow do not know anything about safety, they will be susceptible to all sorts of dangers, especially in our society. But when they know safety techniques and are intelligent enough to differentiate between good and bad people, they will be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor.

5. Safety can rid our society of crime

Do you know that if each and every kids and teenagers know safety techniques, they will not go into crime willingly or coercively. This is because they will know the implication of going into crime due to their well-informed security upbringings. The rate of cultism, kidnapping and ritual killings will be at a minimum level if our schools proactively inculcate safety and security techniques in our kids.

6. Safety will breed a new culture

A new culture of saner minds will be cultivated in our society. Our kids and teenagers can even begin to pass their knowledge of safety to other kids who are ignorant. It becomes a chain-reaction where many kids will protect themselves with less supervisions from their parents and guardians.

7. Government will be the big gainer

With safety, the government will begin to spend less in taming crimes in our societies, instead, the monies meant for defending society against criminally minded persons will be channeled to important issues like infrastructural development, youths employment, etc. With safety culture, every evil persons will be cautious about going into crime because society is informed and enlightened.8. Schools will also benefit When kids are knowledgeable about safety, the schools will not be spending unnecessary on safety tools and gadgets. This is because the kids are safety conscious. When schools equipped teachers with tools that will impact safety knowledge, they must have educated and informed future generations.

9. Making safety a subject in schools

Making safety and security core subjects in schools will breed pupils and students who will never be prone to insecurity in our society. Is it that the government is too lazy to formulate a compact syllabus that will teach pupils and students about safety and security in our schools or they feel it is unnecessary? The government of Africa should be up and doing with their responsibility of ensuring society, especially our schools are safety driven by formulating a syllabus that will make pupils all-rounder in terms of safety and security.

10. Our security agents will have less work to do

With informed kids, our society will be crime free and giving less responsibilities to security agents to undertake. Instead, our security agents will be more concern with protecting the territorial integrity of the African continent

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Emotional Intelligence has diverse definitions depending on the field of study you are defining it from. Emotional Intelligence has been used in psychology, medicine, consumer behaviors, safety and security, education, etc. to improve the well-being of individuals.

Emotional intelligence from a safety and security angle, is "using your intelligence to control and manage your emotions in the process helping you to think critically, strategically and logically in the event of dangers."

Again, Emotional Intelligence gives an individual the peace of mind and calmness which is valuable in a life-and-death situation. Example of cases where Emotional Intelligence can come in handy are in the areas of kidnapping incidents, ritual killings, armed robberies, hostage taking, rape cases, domestic violence, etc.

Still, techniques like yoga, deep breathing, patience, self-control, etc. are other ways to evade dangers: all these techniques encompass Emotional Intelligence. We live in a society where dangerous people, natural disasters, dangerous technologies, environmental pollution, family responsibilities, etc. are always hitting us hard in our faces. It takes a super human to live in a populated continent like Africa in general and Nigeria in particular. It does not only take away your sanity but leaves you depressed and anxious. This is where Emotional Intelligence comes into the fray.

Our minds are stormy weather that require us to navigate it towards calmer water. Unfortunately, the more we force it towards calmer water, the more difficulty it becomes: it is a daily struggle. Emotional Intelligence is the answer if we are to keep our minds sane and healthy. The mind is the engine room of our emotions therefore the need to continually align it with our body and soul. If anything distorts these engine rooms, it distorts our entire self-worth and being. The consequences of distorted minds are uncontrolled outburst, chronic depression, high level stress, emotional pains, uncontrolled fear, evil thoughts, etc.

On the other hand, the positives of keeping healthy emotions can give us peace of mind, clearer mindsets, healthy well-being, harmonious inter-personal relationship, etc.

How can emotional intelligence help us to stay out of harm’s way? Emotional intelligence comes from the mind and our minds are housed in our brains. It requires untainted intelligence to keep it in a healthy shape and state.

When you fall into danger, these are steps you should take using Emotional Intelligence. It helps victims to:

1. Stay calm by taking deep breathing

When you stay calm, it ensures you are in control of your emotions. It gives you a deeper and clearer mind. This process can only happen when you take calculated deep breath.

2. Forgo your fears by imagining the opposite (bravery)

The opposite of fear is courage. If you keep imagining the bad things that will happen to you in the event of danger, it kills your initiatives to act proactively. Fear gives hopelessness while courage gives hope. Therefore, think positives.

3. Remain positive; optimistic

When you believe you will escape from danger, it lets you see light at the end of the tunnel. It fuels your optimism as against your pessimism. It gives you that rear hope your so desire at that critical time and moment. Belief is very important in the face of danger because it allows victims in danger to plan without losing that positive fire and energy.

4. Be selfless by thinking about others in our situation

When you put others ahead of you in event of danger, it ensures team play. It encourage others to add their inputs without being judged. Selflessness in the face of danger allows brainstorming. It ensures synergy of purpose. It accelerate success like the ability to escape seemingly impossible dangers like kidnapping, terrorism and hostage taking.

Selflessness persuade instead of discourage. Victims of dangerous incidents act as one which ensures free flow of positive inputs from every victims.

5. Avoid overacting by trying to be the hero or heroine.

This could also be attributed to impatient. It first rule of being a victim is trying to be the hero or heroine. It spells doom for the victim. The criminal elements know this that is why they try to stay alert at all times and try to counter any slight moves from their victims.

Do not over react but try to calculate your moves; know the weak and strong points of your abductors or hostage takers. Patient is key here.

6. Spot loopholes with a calmer and clearer mind.

You can create strategies and brainstorm with others in your situation. When you fall into the hands of criminals, the first thing is to spot his weak and strong points. But to do this, you must be calm; take deep breath. Point number 4 comes to mind as brainstorming with others helps to accelerate that.

7. Create options with a clearer mind; we can create options e.g. Option A, Option B and Option C

Creating options from Option A to Option C and so on can be your number one saving grace. When you create options, it helps you to interchange your emotions to suit your escape goals.Your mind must be in a clearer state to be able to create workable options

8. Suppress your fear

Courage kicks in and energizes us towards our escape if we can suppress our fear. Your fear keeps resurfacing but if you can courageously put it under control, you have defeated your number one enemy.

9. Be in charge advantage-wise.

It allows us to spot the fears in our enemies and use it as our strength e.g. kidnappings, armed robberies, assassins, etc. It even helps to put the emotions of others in the same predicament as ours in check. If others are scared, we help them to remain calm, urging them to remain positive and optimistic.

10. Time your options and strategies

Timing is very important in the event of danger. You must time your options and strategies

11. Task your mental endurance and prowess

Emotional Intelligence helps to test and task our mental endurance and prowess. It is in the face of danger that our mental endurance kicks in and helps us to remain optimistic and hopeful. Therefore, do not give in and do not give up when you find yourself in dangerous situations

12. Test and retest your strategies using concentrating breathing

Concentrated breathing helps while you keep mapping your strategies.

13. Look for allies among your enemies

By filtering the good guys from the bad guys through strategic manipulation, it helps you to find allies among your enemies. These allies can work with you to ensure your escape.

14. Look for weaknesses in your enemies’ strengths

Try to find weaknesses in your enemies strengths

15. Be logical in your decisions

Logical thinking ensures logical decisions.

I hope this article on Emotional Intelligence has really being of help to you?

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How To Protect Yourself Against Ritual Predators

You read and listen to horrible stories both in the print, electronic media and social media platforms of people falling victims to ritual desperadoes, risking everything including their lives to make money especially during this ember period: from September to December. This is the peak period for this barbaric act. Moreover, they're everywhere, lurking, searching and waiting to launch an attack on their latest victim(s). This barbaric act is common among Africa countries as against countries in Europe, South America and North America.

"A ritualist is someone who uses people to make money through human-body-parts. It involves some incantation, voodoo of some sort to make sacrifices. This is to make the process a reality."

Not a lot of victims had lived to tell their stories. And those lucky enough are left traumatized, sometimes needing medical evaluations to bring them back to stability. They use different modi operandi to set traps for their victims. It's like a huge net spread across a prey, trapping and entangling it; and making the victim unable to free itself. These ritualists are protected by powerful individuals in the society who have the wherewithal to bribe and cajole the Police service and judicial system.

Families have been left to mourn their love ones they can't see to bury; left to search endlessly and hoping-against-hope to see their love ones coming home again. The chances of seeing them alive are very slim indeed. They expect to see their love ones walking through the door. But the positives are far against the negatives.

Unfortunately, people don't believe this evil act exist. They believe it's a myth, something cooked up by some grandpas and grandmas, like some fictitious stories - it's a reality. We see it everyday, yet we ignored it. Then somebody close to us becomes a victim. The 'haily-waily' begins.

The act is carried out in different ways and everybody can fall into their webs. They use commercial buses, charms and money (huge) to deceive their victims. Once the victim is trapped, getting out isn't easy. They use the body parts - heads, breasts, private parts, etc - of their victims to carry out their dastardly acts. Although it's very difficult to know them, vigilance and learnt-security-skills can save you.

These six (6) tips can save you from falling victim to money ritualists:

1. Stay Alert: You've to stay focus. If you noticed anything suspicious in a commercial bus, please step out as quickly as possible (that is before it begins it transit). Once it starts moving, the chances of you leaving is very slim. If you're walking in isolated places, please avoid areas you can be exposed to harm like clustered trees and bushes along a bush path, isolated buildings, etc. LESSON: Don't be careless and nonchalant when you're in places you know can endanger your life. Watch out for suspicious movements. Run if you can.

2. Don't Board A Stranger's Vehicle: This is another trick the ritualists use to ensnare their victims. These vehicles are very flashy. Although commercial vehicles are used too. They take them to hotel rooms, charm them before using them for their evil deeds. LESSON: Avoid vehicles you suspect are prone to risk. Sometimes, if you see three or more people in a vehicle, please avoid it especially if they look suspicious. Don't follow a stranger to a hotel or a place you think can leave you vulnerable. Once you're in the mercy of ritualists, the chances of you leaving unharmed are very slim.

3. Arm Yourself: It's best you protect yourself before it's too late. People think nothing will happen to them, so they avoid using gadgets that can protect them when the need be. LESSON: Aside from fire arm, you're allow to carry pepper sprayers and other licensed security kits. If you've the chance, design their faces (the ritualists) with the pepper sprayer, then run for your dear life. Life has no duplicate my friend.

4. Carry Your Mobile Phone Along With You: Your mobile phone can perform magic when you find yourself in a dangerous situation. In fact, mobile phones are the most effective ways to call for help. LESSON: Carry two phones: a smart and a none smart phone. Store your important contacts in the smaller one, because it's portable and can easily be reached and concealed from these people. In emergency situations, make sure your close contacts are within reach so that you can dial their numbers conspicuously. Put it in the pocket you know you can quickly reach without alerting them. Put it in vibration mode. Charge your phone before leaving home so that it doesn't disappoint you when you need it urgently.

5. Don't Panic: When people are scared,they put themselves in further danger. You can't think straight, you can't strategize, and you can't focus. Your mind is one powerful weapon you can utilize if you're to free yourself from these monsters. LESSON: Self control is important at this particular time. Don't show panic so that you can have clear and focus thought devoid of distractions. When you're under panic, your mind becomes cloudy and thinking of an escape route will be difficult.

6. Learn Defensive/Offensive Skills: There're lots of martial art skills you can learn if you're to free yourself from ritualists. Skills like Taekwondo, Karate, Kick Boxing and Judo are the best you can learn. LESSON: At least, try as much as possible to learn one of these skills. It's hard work, but the endurance you put into it and the pain you face wouldn't be in vain.

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