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I just dey sit down for one corner dey laugh. Anyways, you need patience, resilience and creativity to succeed. As for me, I am coming back stronger and better with a touch of controversy. Good luck!

Chai, na wa oh. Shi*, toilet and water. Na wetin people dey argue with all seriousness for 2021. Dis OP sef, na wa for you oh.

RiyadhGoddess:
Hahahaha
I'm sorry I laughed.
Did you go with a photographer or the spirits assisted you with the pictures?
Anyways welcome back Prophetess, what did the malaikas tell you? How many candles did you burn?
Speak for your sheeples are listening
Shiooooorrrrrrrr

Riyahdgoddess swimming in the glory of the lord. god bless you. As an atheist, maybe god will do mad wonders in my life. Amen

Farid24224:
How true is this??

It is very true. It happened while I was still an undergraduate. I saw my girlfriend turn into a snake after doing the above. She confronted me by asking, "What did you see? You saw something!" I denied it outrightly. After I slept with her, that was the last time I saw her. She refused to visit me. We only spoke on the phone. She was stingy with sex initially though. My life never remain the same. I am serious. I have been struggling ever since. Men should learn from my experience. I have attempted s* * *de several times. I couldn't managed my father's business. Shame will not let me to mention the menial job I am doing right now even with my talent and skillsets. Everything has fallen apart. Maybe . . . just maybe.

OP, if your girl friend has a marine spirit, you will know. When next she sleeps on your bed, stand a feet from where she place her leg and look from the side of your eye (do this by backing her). You will probably see a snake or something strange. Again, make sure you use a white bed-spead. OP, please and please, do not fu*k her. Na beg I dey beg you. I am talking from experience. On a side note, it takes a gifted person/eyes to spot THEM. I can spot them from afar. They are everywhere my friend. if she discovers you know her secrets, she might confront you. tell her you saw nothing. Please, where is Safari-girl? I miss her so much. I miss her wisdom.

[quote author=ATEAMS post=96007149][b]It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.

Maybe Mr. Bismark Rewane woke up on the wrong side of the bed. This is a man I hold in high esteem. I do not believe this bed room research. Trash I must confess!

Access Bank branch in Victoria Island is on fire. I thought it should be on front page by now?

But people are wicked oh. Why'd the boyfriend, after harassing you, said you looked queer. Thank God you came out of the car in one piece. Hmmm, o ga gan oh . . . See your knuckles. You dey . . .

Good job OP. Let me add this: your rhymes and melodies must sync with a banging beat. Again, different genre called for different song strategies. Most Nigerian artistes are lazy. They will use a banging beat on a mediocre song, then pack half naked girls on their videos to deceive their fans. Artistes like Asa, Adekunle Gold, Burna Boy, etc know what producing great songs entail. Songs are like stories. It takes listeners from one plot to another. It builds the tempo; catches the interest and hook them for a long period of time. I have written more than a hundred songs of all genre, lying in my hard drive. I am not an artiste but a song writer.

See what people are saying in this forum. What a shame! The policeman who was interrogating her was doing that based on his level of intelligence. Don't blame him. Blame the system that condone such impudence. You don't expect an illiterate to ask strategic-based and fine-tuned questions. The Nigerian police should hence forth recruit people with higher IQ and knowledge. Their level of education is key. When a suspect is being interrogated, there are patterns and techniques that must be followed.

Why should they resign? They should stay and fight! Is that not what they sign for? It was stated in their various forms. I am a barrack boy and I know how passionate I was to join the Army and face the consequences of my actions. I was ready to die. But those selfish red necks won't let it be. The guy whose story surfaces on Nairaland sometime ago and whose legs were decapitated by a landmine is my childhood friend. We were all passionate; a lot of barrack boys were. Now, the chicken has come home to roost; the cowards are scampering. They blocked opportunities for guys whose passions were diminished. You see, guys like us and many others in the barracks are . . . because our papa no be rednecks. Those resigning are sons of rednecks and the well-connected.

Good initiative but wrong approach. Instead of enticing them with cows, I would prefer the government use the re-integration approach. This approach is holistic: it covers the religious, social and psychological well being of the bandits. Again, another method I find appalling is de-radicalization. It is a one-sided approach where the instructors use religious doctrines to remold, rebrand, reshape and renew ex-terrorists. It is equivalent to religious brainwashing. Re-integration is a process; a step by step approach. If one process is ineffective or faulty, it must be corrected before moving to the next stage. It uses Emotional Intelligence. Society must accept them (sociological), fear of god religious), mental fitness (psychological). Let me stop here. DOM DOM, I MISS YOU.Thank you.

May her soul rest well. Firstly, a lot of theories might have led to her death. 1. What was the distance between the decease and the vehicle? 2. How many people were in the vehicle at the time? Was the drive licenced to drive or even experienced enough? 3. Was there speed limits around the vicinity? If yes, what was the impact of the vehicle on the deceased: high or low impact? Who were the witnesses? I don' know the circumstances leading to her death, so the relevant security agencies should do the needful. There are a lot of 'BUTS' especially the impact which I believe is high.

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The hashtag #SayNoToRape has been trending this week all over the social media space in Nigeria. Now, what is the hashtag all about? On the 27th of May, 2020, an undergraduate of The University of Benin, UNIBEN, (Vera Uwaila Omoduwa), had gone out to study at a popular new generation church, The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Ikpoba Hill, in Benin City, Edo State. Sadly, she was brutally raped and left unconscious by her attackers. Unfortunately, despite all efforts by sympathizers to save her life by taking her to the hospital, she died.

Now, more women are coming out of their closets to speak out after years of stigmatization. The death of the young lady was a catalyst.

How serious is rape to the emotions and well-being of victims? In a lot of societies, rape is seen as a stigma, especially against the victims. Sometimes, victims of families tend to cover it up as they see it as an act of God. Painfully, the perpetrators are forgiven at the end. Tell me, how victims can speak up when they believe the society will not only reprimand them but also stigmatized them?

Moreover, these rape victims carry the scar of rape to adulthood and into their respective families (the children and spouses get caught in the emotional and physical reactions). Sadly, the victims may withdraw into depression and isolation. The consequence of that is a hyperactive sexual drive or an emotional sexual withdrawal. The majority of them becoming prostitutes later on in life. Their marriages become messy due to low sexual drives.

Unfortunately, society plays a part because they start mocking victims. They call them immoral for dressing in provocative ways, therefore, attracting rapists.

Sadly, rape can be carried out by family members such as uncles, aunties, cousins, family friends, fathers, and mothers. The victims are coerced not to voice out their fears with the threats of deaths. It is a societal problem. Shamefully, the government is not doing enough to curtail and arrest those involved. But, how can the government arrest perpetrators when the victims themselves cannot speak up?

In Africa alone, 70% of rape victims do not speak up. In Nigeria, the figures can be higher (85% and above). Cultures and traditions play a huge role in preventing victims from speaking up.

In Europe and North America, victims speak up because the government and society encourages them to do so. They have functional NGOs that fight for victims and see to it that they get justice. The justice systems expedite the process without cases adjoining unnecessarily.

How can victims speak out?

1. Government should set up correctional and rehabilitation centers across the African continent

Both the victims and the perpetrators can get justice and punishment respectively. Perpetrators are taken to correctional facilities immediately they are released from prisons. They are enlightened and informed. Therapy should be prescribed in case it snowballs into a psychological issue. Victims should receive proper medical treatments for STDs and other sexually transmitted diseases.

2. Use the print and electronic media to educate people

The print and electronic media is one viable tool the government can use to encourage rape victims. It can be used to persuade victims to speak up against their perpetrators. Social media is another tool. The media will embolden them.

3. The government should pass laws against rapists

The rate of rape cases will reduce drastically when laws with stiffer punishments are enacted. But in Africa, the government is docile in the area of enacting laws that should protect victims. That is why these rapists get emboldened to perpetrate more crimes because they believe the system will not prosecute them.

They will not hesitate to pass such laws if the victim were to be the family member of a politician,

4. Parents should educate their wards on decency

Most parents in Africa shy away from teaching their children sex education. They fear it will encourage waywardness. However, the reverse is the case because it will guide them on the proper need to be decent. They will compose themselves in public.

Protection is better than cure, although people can dress the way they like.

Provocative dressings that influence sex perverts should be avoided.

5. Schools should join hands in enlightenment campaigns

After homes, schools are the second place children get to learn proper societal upbringings. From time to time, schools should educate students about the dangers of rape. They should encourage victims to confide in them. Eventually, this works wonderfully because the rape victims confide in their teachers and confess who raped them.

6. Boost their self-confidence and self-esteem

Victims of rape are left traumatized. Their self-confidence and self-esteem drops to its lowest ebb. Virtually, they lost interest in everything that used to interest them. Parents should encourage them. After all, it is not the end of the world and they can still achieve something meaningful in their lives.

7. Parent and guidance should ask probing questions

When questions are asked in caring manners, it fosters trust between both parties (parents and victims). Again, because of the shame that is involved, a lot of victims retreat into their 'shells,' and are unwilling to expose perpetrators. But, when parents and guidance engaged them in conversations that foster love and care (without being judgmental), rape victims eventually open up.

8. Societies should desist from stigmatization

Why can't society show support and care to rape victims, why put shame on them? This action could lead to active withdrawal. Gradually, depression and suicidal thoughts could creep. Questions like, “was she not the one that dressed that way for her to be raped?” or “why will she not be raped when she keeps jumping from men to men?” Or “did she enjoy not get pleasured while they raped her?” Such silly questions would be very traumatic.

9. Family members should not cover up rape cases

This could be a result of the shame of a loved one that was raped. Or they could attribute it to the will of God: that it is the will of God for allowing their daughter to be rape by the perpetrators.

Finally, the perpetrators are forgiven. Is that not foolish? Perpetrators of rape should be severely punished by the court of law. The National Dailies should publish their pictures. Others will desist from such an evil act.

The confidence of victims is Re-energized when families keep finding justices.

10. Engaged the services of qualified counselors (psychologists or therapists)

They are knowledgeable in their professions. They have the experience. They have the qualification to attend. They can handle any sensitive case like rape. They know what to do to psyche victims up. Also, they can handle additional cases of depression and stigmatization.

11. Non-governmental organizations can help out

They can seek justice for victims without taking a dime. There are numerous NGOs in Africa that are set up to seek justice for rape victims.

#SayNoToRape #JusticeforOmoduwa #SpeakUpNow #RapeIsACrimeAgainstHumanity #MeToo

Rape is very technical as against hearsay. I have written a lot of articles about rape. But, the truth is before you accuse anyone of rape, you must have solid evidence to back up your claims in court. For instance, a doctor must take samples of sperm stains in the v**gina, panties, injuries and cuts, evidence of rope tied around arm or neck to mute or incapacitate the victim(s), etc. Do not wait after 3 years and accused anyone of rape. #SayNoToRape.

OP, I feel your pain. I have a brother who is as dull as your brother. He is more than 20 years. We have done everything for him to make him independent all to no avail. I believe he is just too lazy to use his brain. But thank God we did somethings and it is working for him. This is my suggestion for you. 1. Take him to a psychologist; 2. Motivate him from time to time to boost his self esteem. 3. He might be plegmatic. Get him involved in church activities like joining the choir group, drama group, etc. 4. Get him games that boost his memory and build his mind. 5. Look for someone in the family that he relates with easily, and use him to encourage him from time to time 6. Sometimes, a lot of dull people love food: Ration his food. Too much food prevent them from taking initiatives. 7. Sometimes, too much love from family can make them believe they do not need to be hard working in life; take him out to learn vocational skills. OP, I know why. 8. Pray for him always. 9. Teach him how to give out change.

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

Millenniumlady . . . How are you?

Ahh! I remember in the early 90s, when I was filled in the Holy Spirit; preaching and spreading the gospel. I almost died the day I fasted from 6 am to 6 pm. I even cooked dinner before before the time; looking at the food, the food looking at me.

What a sham coming from a shy president with shambolic, and shoddy show of shame. This shuddering shadow shall shatter them to shrapnel. Shalom!

DonMustafa:
How dare u talk to me like that? How dare u?

Donmustapha my foot!

DonMustafa:
and the shut up technique. You should practice that

You kworo-chewing mallam, are you OK? You will always be backward in your life! Nonsense. If it is not useful to you, it will be useful to somebody else.

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Anytime I read cases of rape in our society, it gets me angry. Not because of the act itself but because of the endless trauma and emotional pain the victim might be going through. Justice to all rape victims. op please, don' let this matter lie low. Pursue it to a logical conclusion. Email me at info@securitymattersafrica.com let's discuss. I have written numerous topics on rape. OP and others who want to learn can search for the word 'rape' on my blog at www.securitymattersafrica.com

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To me, this probably looks like homicide. 1. The position of the corpse can attest to that. If it happens she committed suicide, the corpe could either be facing upward or sideways. Again, the law of gravity can sway our theory both sides. A push from the back (I am sure he applied force). If it were to be a suicide attempt, I am sure she would hold on to the railing, front position could be facing the building and her back against it; fear of height too is a factor. The husband too could want to distract sympathizers by pretending he wasn't aware about the fall to her death. Were there bruises or injuries on her wrist during struggle? Did he kill her, carry the corpse and dump it (corpse) down the building? How come no one heard the fall? Was it midnight? www.securitymattersafrica.com

First and foremost, rest in peace to the young boy. 2020 is the year of anticipated disaster and every body should be highly prepared (I am not a prophet of doom). From north America to Middle East, from Africa to Europe and the Australias. Calamities upon calamities. That is why your safety and security should be uppermost. The world is on the brink. In Nigeria, men of evil mind are on the prowl and looking for who to devour. Ritual killings, kidnapping, one chance, fraud, tribal and religious sentiment is already gaining the upper hand. If you are a parent reading this, protect your children. Know their whereabout at all times. Know their friends, know their pains, their wants, their needs, their goals, their dreams, their aspirations, their desires and their state of minds. Children need directions and care. Teach them safety and security techniques. Above all put them in the hands of God. Check my blog on how to avoid there societal vices at www.securitymattersafrica.com

I am furious right now. OK, let me take a deep breath . . . I am a bit alright. MURIC or whatever their name is should stop trying to incite religious war between christianity and islam. So, Amotekun is metamorphosizing into a religious outfit just because it has just a muslim governor as member? Amotekuo has come to stay and there is nothing MURIC can do about it.