ATEAMS:
We need fantasy to survive because reality is too difficult.

Ayt27:


Hey! Where you been?

amazingspiderma:
You just found a man who knows how to treat you in a way you would have loved to be treated.

Please make time to speak to your hubby about how you would like your relationship to improve.

Express yourself without reservations to him.

Until you are open in a relationship, you will not enjoy your marriage.

AntiMen:


Thanks for the admonitions sir, I'll sure make use of the advice given,but I just want to ask if it's okay to tell him directly to stop calling me out?
This is the source of the infatuation or lustful feeling...

I liked him as a brother from the beginning but it metamorphosized into an unusual feeling....
I'm just in an entanglement...

Just Today again, there was a program in church, I tried as much as I could to avoid him, but guess what as soon as the program ended, just when I was about leaving, I sighted him, but avoided him only for him to call me as he often does, then I proceeded to just talking generally with him before another senior pastor came to interrupt and that's how the discussion ended...

I serious feel I'm in an entanglement ....

But one thing is sure, I'll never ever sleep or have any form of intercourse with him.....

AntiMen:


I wish you could understand the situation of things around me..
I've said it before that my husband can't leave the church because of the key position he holds in here, also the issue that my pastor and I will end up sleeping with ourselves is a fallacy, I can't bring myself to doing that shit...I will never hurt my family nor his..

I only need ways to quench this feeling ,I'm having....

Someone adviced that I speak with the reverend to stay away from me, like how would I bring myself to telling him that I'm listing after him so therefore he should stay away, what if the feeling isn't mutual, wouldn't be feel some type of way about me?

SeaTrade:
I didn't go off on you,thought you asked a question and was just responding to what you asked.
I'm sorry if you feel that way.

SeaTrade:
First off,I didn't runaway from you.We went pass small talks obviously, I think we were curious to know more of each other, I asked we talk on phone,you weren't sure about it,I could also not keep talking in public,then things got hard.
I didn't and still don't know what exactly it is you do,so there's no way I will run from you for being a succesful career lady.
And if you notice,I didn't say all career women are bad,was looking at things from my experiences and want to know from other people's experiences.

SeaTrade:
I was talking of men that can comfortably run a home without a woman's input.
You don't need a career woman because her contributions she will make to run the family will be insignificant to you,so much so that you can't let go of your sanity cos of it.

FalseProphet1:
Send the nudes privately to my email and I will offer prayers on it, and it will disappear permanently from his phone, and you will be safe.

This I have seen.

Contekbbc:
Good day OP
I so much like the way you handle the whole thing.
Some things happen in such a way that they go beyond our control.
But God knows the best.

My prayer: may the Lord heal your relationship and be your strong counsel when you're confused.

My prayer and love is with you guys.
This is a storm and it will pass too IJMN.

DevilsEqual:



Its actually a no-sex relationship
We've been together for 3 years so as sex no dey,no other reason to hold on to her self

Thanks a lot and really do value and appreciate your time... I'm grateful

DevilsEqual:

Hmm...thanks for your input,ma
Don't mind me, she's my first love and the only Lady I've known all my life,so I guess that's why I tend to struggle to move on from the heartbreak

But let me also add that she's a hardworking lady too,she's currently learning a trade (fashion designing),just finished her NCE and decided to work for a year before going back for her degree, Her plan is to save up all her earnings, get a shop,buy sewing equipment,plus refrigerator and generator,stock up her shop with drinks and all,pay her school fees and still rent an apartment for herself before resuming for her degree next year January


You can see that she seems to be visionary too ,ambitious and feels my slow pace visible movement isnt a good indication of whatever she wants for her man and that's why most of her harsh words tend to pierce and break me down

Even when I think I'm on the right path,whenever I look around and see how well she's been fairing, i tend to experience self doubt and start thinking maybe I'm not doing enough too or maybe I'm as lazy as she thinks but its not so...


I used to feel I lost a value-packed lady and I'm not sure she feels same, I don't care though ,just that I'm not sure if I even have values embedded in me...I don't even believe in my own self and my journey again

SeaTrade...kindly read this sir

siofra:
Who is this one

I'll not be surprised if it's one stupid redpiller fantasising his future life.

SeaTrade:
hahaha how are you?

DevilsEqual:


Hmm...I just finished Nysc and enrolled my Nysc savings in acquiring some professional certifications...and been trying to do some menial job to hold body while applying for major ones, so practically I'm not gallant but she does few things and she claims she earns 100k every month for many side hustles so she seems bigger than me for now

That's where it started and she feels everyone who doesn't earn as much as she does are very lazy, claims I'm too lazy,hence the reason why I earn that low, its even more funny that whenever I tried to ask her link me up to some of her hustles, she'd tell me it disgust her to meet a man who'd be asking a lady for his whereabouts and would never share any insightful business idea despite claiming she does 3 stuffs that earns her that much(although I only know of one thing she does,which is working for a woman who sells baking stuffs in one of Lagos markets as a sales rep and she claims she gets paid 2,500 everyday...as for the other hustles that top it to 100k,I don't know about them but she goes to work every day so she can't possibly be a runs girl)

According to her,if she could juggle all these together, then I'm lazy if I can't... I'm learning video editing now and wanna try out my hands in E-marketing and start anyhow after undergoing some tutorials yet her tough words have created a strong self doubt in me I don't even have as much confidence as its required


There's more to this though...I don't even believe in myself

SeaTrade:
We can talk,the only issue I have is you trying to move over to WhatsApp.
I can't compromise my anonymity over this I'm sorry.
If you can talk here then its fine by me.
Cheers mehn.

BOOKWORMLUX:
Nairaland is now doing interview for members

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