Kobojunkie:
1. I don't agree with you there. Also, listening to and reasoning with a partner is different from taking correction from a partner.

2. A relationship is an agreement between two adults, not a school where one partner "teaches" the other anything. The word compromise should be used instead of the word "correction here.

3. Agreements are not reached in a flash - it happens over time.

Well, like I mentioned in my previous response to you, you have problem with the word correct, and I have attempted to explain the meaning.

Correction comes from listening and the willingness to see reason.

Agreements do not need to happen overtime if both parties are willing to make the required compromise and have the integrity to keep to their end of the bargain.

trailblazar:

lol. Okay. Before that, let me just say i have a pet peeve with helinues types. They're wont to play both sides of an argument -if you can, go to the politics section, you will see its nonsense if it has not deleted it, so yh, when i see its posts it feels like iv seen a rat.

Okay, so you channeled your disdain for the guy towards me?

Meanwhile, I don't remember monikers I argue with, I only remember monikers I have interesting conversations with.

So, if I argue with you on a thread and see a post by you in another thread that resonates with me, I'd flow with you. I don't take things on here personally.

trailblazar:

You are angry. Oya come and beat me over a fictitious story. Lmao. I cannot join you to play with sand. Ciao

Send your address.

trailblazar:

Nah not bullying -You ignorantly jumped on a somersaulters post to defend it, sweetling, you had it coming. Keep your validation to yourself as long as you are aligning with a somersaulter. Next time look very well before you leap.

You are an ignorant homosexual who pathetically thinks he can bully anyone who doesn't approve of his pervasive lifestyle.

To think that you have the nerve to come at me for reacting to someone else's post when you're doing the exact same thing!

Typical of your ilk. Always allowing your delusions cripple your intelligence.

Next time, carefully pick your victims.

It's your deluded audacity for me.

Kobojunkie:
1. I am going by the OP'S submission here. As you read there, she is worth disqualifying because she has yet to take to his corrections/schooling of her.

2. She can become better,over time. But OP'S demand seems to require it happen because he's told her it should.

She is worth disqualifying because she refuses to listen and see reason with her partner. The OP stated she becomes defensive each time he attempts to correct her. I think you have a problem with the phrase "correcting her". To correct someone means to tell or show someone that something is wrong with the intention of making it right.

If a partner is not open to correction, that is a non progressive person who'd make a poor team player. Any wise person who intends to enjoy a good quality of life, don't need people like that as a significant other.

To your second point, she will only become better overtime only if she agrees there's actually a problem and she clearly doesn't cos she fails to listen to any form of reason.

trailblazar:

Sensitive much? Youre bandwagoning with a somersaulter so u must be another closet homosexual.

Typical! Why are you gay people so closed minded? If we don't commend your perverse ways we must be like you in secret

It's pathetic the way y'all act the victim while bullying us to accept your abnormalities.

descarado:

Then you don't know how love operates. Love is never selfess.
A man appeal o you cos he cares. How does he care?
He gives you everything you can think of.
U call it love.
If he stops, love will start dying.
A man loves a woman unconditionally cos she mothers him, her pussy is so sweet to him. Remove these and love dies.
Love is very very selfish and not blind. Know this and you will never experience a broken heart

Wonderful

Ayt27:


Yuck! That's like a taking a shiiit on the expressway, nobody's seeing you but everybody knows you are there.

Your twitter or snap handle?

interesting to meet a conversationalist on here.

Would you believe if I told you I'm only active on LinkedIn?

Kobojunkie:
Your partner is not your child to be "schooled" in any way by you or anyone else. And we all have preferences so if you go in thinking it is your right to "change" the other, you are already approaching things in the wrong way. There is a difference between negotiating and correcting your partner.

If a partner can't cook well like in this case, the other can step in to do the cooking instead, allowing the other focus on other aspects she is able to do well.

Your concluding paragraph suggests that each partner focus on their strengths. I agree.

I disagree with you assuming that to be corrected is to be "schooled" or forced to change. If you have this mindset, you'd mostly have highly unproductive relationships resulting from poor interpersonal skills.

What is wrong with the partner becoming better in the art of cooking rather than give up completely because they are being corrected?

descarado:
I will break the engagement.
Very big red flag not to be overlooked.

Not meeting someone in the middle is a no no no
Stubbornness is a no no no
Most importantly,not health conscious in this age and time is a kill joy.
Sometimes love is not enough.

Love is certainly enough. It is love that makes someone selfless and agree to meet at the middle as you put it.

Kobojunkie:
You don't have a problem with it but instead you have a problem with the fact that she does not bend to your whim?

The salt stuffs isn't good for your health, so have you suggested you maybe take over as far as cooking is concerned or is this a case of "the woman has to cook for her husband or she is disqualified"?

If a partner cannot be corrected by the other, it is a red flag. Partners should listen to each other and be willing to make the necessary adjustments to accommodate each other.

Hezzyluv:
The salt u dey use for food too much and I no like am .
Case closed.

She use to vex anytime you correct her. Na BIG RED flag be that but you choose to ignore because you're blinded by love. Well, the Lord is you strength.

I totally agree, that's a huge red flag. Mr. Onepointfiveodds, I beg to digress, does she always get defensive and not take heed when you correct her on other areas?

As for the food issue, if it occurs again, say to her in the most calm voice, "if you continue to disregard my concerns and insist on feeding me with sodium filled dishes, I'd have to stop eating your food". Then, stand up and leave the food for her.

Don't say anything further to her if she chooses to argue, be completely silent and get something else to eat. Keep at it until she gets the message.

joe120120:


Hahahaha ur funny

LOL. I know

helinues:


You actually ended up saying nothing

Oh, he said a lot. He's defending the actions of his fellow callous, gay man.

GurlFriend:
They will say they want their wives to always keep shape and when you are dating them, they will manage to maintain their 2 and 4 packs. After one year of marriage, they will upgrade to 10 gallon geepee tank. Yet it is still them that will come on Nairaland to say women are hoes

ROTFL, OH my sweet lord
If in anguish you can be this funny what you gon be when in a good mood. I like you already. Let's be friends jare.

Are you a content creator?

Ayt27:


Ah! I see,

Well we gotta remedy that.

What's the workaround then?

Here?

Iyaebe:
redpillers won't like this

I am completely baffled at how the minds of these people work. This post is clearly about a man commending another man for taking up his responsibility and Mr. Ryda up there found a way to turn this post to a woman bashing post. Same Ryda that can't accept a single mother, same Ryda that can't man up like the man being talked about.

MEHN, I give up on these ones. Who raised them?!

Ayt27:


Sucks that you don't respond to DMs, although you could text me, I respond.

I know it comes off as subbish, but it isn't deliberate. Just can't remember the password to this account.

Focusmind:


People don't know that social skills, been informed about trends, general knowledge and interpersonal relationship are enablers to success.

It is not about religion, book, holiness, self-righteousness and seclusion. You will find out that you are missing in lots of life learning activities.

Absolutely on point

Aww Toke, Maje sure did you in. But my question to you Toke is, what purpose did the pain Maje cause you birth? Cos we have been hearing that you joined bad geng.

Anyways, I still commend you Sha, you are hard working.

Let me go and play lawn tennis.

LiberatedGirl, I hope you're not just a sex tool to your boyfriend cos you couldn't articulate the proofs of his love for you other than how you turn him on constantly.

I also hope you know his true moniker on NL?

doyin01:
What do you know about maturity akpa Amu....

Get your low self esteem sef away...nonsense...people like you can kill your best friend if she gets more attention than you...rubbish...

LOL. Like I said, Holla when you're all grown okay.

Myer:


Burna wey no get joy.
Heard he charged the highest for his concerts.

Even Wiz wey dey pop pass am sef no overkill him fans.
Regular for burna na 50k.
While Wiz na 30k.

LOL. The guy is stubborn.

doyin01:



And in your myopic mind ,the guest must always be the cause of the diverted attention,the other guests are now TV that they can control with remote and make their attention get divided...even if the guest wears normal cloth ,if she is so beautiful she would still get all the attention and she should blamed for it??just tell her to look ugly for the occasion so that she will not steal the show....nonsense...

I understand that you are emotionally undeveloped. When you are mature enough to contain your emotions and engage in an argument without exposing your intellectual gaps, I shall engage you.

doyin01:


Gibberish.......

Expected, predictable much...

doyin01:


There is no common etiquette which says a person must not look great or look better than the bride or whatever...only a lady with low-esteem issues and insecurity will be bothered about who steals show or not...if she was beautiful enough then no one will take the attention from her...


No wonder they say women are their own worst enemies...you will hardly hear of a story of how a groom is angry with other men that gets more attention during the wedding or hear men talking about how a man should not look better than the groom or steal whatever rubbish show...

I understand you do not know simple etiquette.

You are a guest, do not spite your host by diverting attention. It's got nothing to do with insecurity or the rant about women and enemies.

Recall the time Ebuka wore that Agbada that stole the show? Male celebrities used jokes to cut him warning that year. But, you missed the sublimal messages in the jokes.

Mercychen:
Wow.. and to think I just discussed this same issue with someone at a boutique I went to get clothes.

A lady walked in and requested for a white dress to attend a wedding. So the guy gave her one very sleek dress ( it looks like all this after wedding dress) but the lady refused it. when she left, I asked the guy why the lady didn't pick that dress. That, was it because of the price (15k) ? He said no, that she told him she would look overdressed than the bride and she doesn't want that.

I then told the guy that some ladies will even deliberately overdo it just to steal the show of the day and they don't care how the bride or celebrant would feel. Just like this one here.

Some people though. Always want to steal the moment at someone else's show. Good for her.

I totally agree with you.

It's common etiquette but then a lot of people have poor social manners

Cheeiii, redpillers, you've got mail.

MNDY:


Even if it was her, people will still not easily believe it because she seriously denied it then, and that was what I expected Tiwa to do too. Unfortunately, Tiwa did not deny it.

But you and I already know haunthy no get sense

MNDY:


A sextape involving a girl looking exactly like Chidinma in it surfaced years ago. Anybody can claim to be a virgin to other people apart from the person he/she had the sex with because none of the other people caught them. Surprisingly, even most pregnant women are shy about their big stomach because they feel ashamed that pregnancy announces it to the whole world that she is having sex. Very weird. Hahahahaha.

Wow. Just can't see Chidinma that way

tarantino1:


African Beyonce with those weak vocals.

Her song with Brandy just lemme know say Tiwa is sub par vocally.

Wow, it took you this long? Even in the Naija industry, she isn't as vocally sound as Yemi, Waje, Omawunmi etc

I'm usually not moved by material possessions. I'm only inspired by people achieving developmental milestones and achieving their dreams. Maybe that's why I'm only on LinkedIn.