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Denique:
How I think it will play out:

Bayern and ATM

R.Madrid and Inter-Milan

Porto and Man-City

Liverpool and Ajax or Atalanta

Sevilla and Chelsea

Dortmund and Lazio

Juventus and Barca

PSG and Leipzig

Man-U straight to Europa

Booked for future reference

Just try to erase all the memories of her from ur head, it's not easy but try please

IamDavid:
Of course I learnt a lot. Trust your partner but reserve that little percentage of doubt, in case things go south, you won't cry. Never express the doubt anyway. As a man, be on top of the relationship. In my case, I was initially on top for over a year, she's always the one chasing me more than I chase her, gradually I felt I wasn't treating her like a queen... I started being too nice. started calling her more than she called me, sent money, pampered her, gifts, visiting her more than she visits me, and gradually she fell out of love. I wanted to create a perfect and balanced relationship but in reality, someone must be on the advantage. It's better the man is in control/advantage, God designed it that way because ladies can't quite manage their emotions.

Treat her like a queen, but only once in a while. like......... almost rarely and unexpectedly. Let her pant for you, then give her the best you can. let her pant again....... then give her. Don't just keep loving and loving like a ful. don't say "I love you" every now and then, let your "I love you" be powerful/rare enough to make her night.

Read the red pill on nairaland, it will help.

Even with all these, even if you're rich enough, your relationship can still fail. Have that in mind and hope for the best! Cheers

I'm so sorry David
I know what you passed through, especially someone u like, it's not easy David.
So sorry, please try get her back if u can and let her know u never took her for granted and on the contrary, let her understand u are not a simp either.

David please try, u know sometimes relationship is about communication and understanding. Please David.

IamDavid:
Na me f up jare. I been dey simp. I don learn now.

So sorry about this, if there is anything you learn from the relationship, what piece of advice would you give on relationship please?
I'm willing to learn

studM:
R u in lagos?

Yes I'm in Lagos

Kingdomcome:
Can I have ur contact so I can find u small work. Ur story is pathetic please.

Pls, I need the job too and I'm not lazy, I reside in Lag

Is alright

Na wa o

Alright

Abcruz:
Try and visit other stores so you can compare the prices and try as much as you can to negotiate because they might want to exploit you with exorbitant prices seeing that you're new to publishing.

Correct

Good inputs

IamDavid:
Mr Adamu, how far? When will universities resume? Students are getting depressed at home o, seven month break from academics isn't even healthy. Please like my post for no reason, my girlfriend just broke my innocent heart.

How did it happen?
Wetin she say u do?

tinnyailes:
barks once in a while

Don't kill me with laughter please, at first I didn't laugh, but seeing the way you are mocking d once in a while barking dog, I also have to

When it doesn't no anything Dan to be playing around, see him ears like rabbit's own.

Who knows if na rabbit impregnate d dog mother, once in a while barking dog oshi

Ishilove:
By someone unspeakably evil

By one of the family members, who detest the dog's attitude because it was too extreme and territorial

But ur dog self should av perceive the poison nah

Ok

jumper524:
bros I was in the op shoes years back.
I did what this guy did and the story is d reverse today.
then my dad would beat me, call soldiers when dey front of our house(dad was a military officer) to beat me join.
until d day when I carry jack knife to treatment my dad and promised to stab any soldier that interfere.
men I did it out of depression cos my dad was exploiting my weakness.
today me and d old man na partial friend, yeah we were never alike in nature though..

Dis saddens me, cos I understand better.
U b my parent doesn't mean u can do anything u like with my life

U know what? Dey always forget dat dey will need u to be closer to dem in d future

Another problem b say, if ur character doesn't tally with ur father or guardian, best thing is to depart, for there will always be misunderstanding

inumidun2010:
It is finished.... Imagine beating a Woman of age 31.. The aftermath is my PROBLEM.... It leaves scars... Even when you Cane a child for too long.. The child assumes you HATE him/her ... God knows once I marry my Wife, dem never born her PAPA or BROTHERS to touch HER... I revoked that license when I paid her BRIDEPRICE..

Inumidun, my niggar, I gbadun u
In fact, inu mi dun , upon seeing ur comment

Same thing, happened to my younger brother on his wedding day, my dad and his wife wanted to intimidate my younger brother's wife after the wedding, I trust my brother he stood for his wife , and also stood by her. Yelled at dem, changed it for every one dat is trying to intimidate his wife, deep down I was happy.

In my mind, I said dis is d main man.
I wanted to intervene before, but seeing dat he has fought and won d war, no need

AtoningBlood:
Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way.

Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....'

My Dad beats me at 26, yes after my service year and waiting to get a job, I went for an offer I wasn't supposed to accept all because I told my self 'it is enough'. Left to another state where I had to live with a stranger before saving to get a place of my own. I later got a better job n left to a better place. All through my single time working I dare not go home cos I know the messages he was passing on phone would translate to beatings if I dare visit him. I hastingly got married to have a cover. And guess what, one thing lead to another this year, I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!!

Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak.

Under no guise should a child or an adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible children are being abused daily even in the so called Christian homes, they have taken the responsibility from God. Spend time beating than praying for the children. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes.

If I hadn't shouted and he beats me, my husband will hear it, certainly, he will never regard him for life, in addition, the little children around will never regard me again. Tell me what that will bring to me in the long run?

My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast. Look here, she is a Christian, she'd pray to forget but for years, she was bitter and kept malice with all my family members except me cos I wasn't there when it happened.

Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way, they were wrong.

I once forcee my son to brush his teeth and in the process, his tooth got removed, I laughed at him and the next time I picked up his toothbrush, I heard a voice rebuking me for hurting the boy and never saying sorry. Wow, I looked up and said am sorry, then hugged the boy and apologised to him with a promise not to force him again, till date, I don't force him, he do it by himself.

Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive. Am not saying we shouldn't correct where necessary, never, we as children of God knows what He did to Eli. But beating and leaving marks on our bodies? That negatives God's Word, our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost now. Why beat till blood gush out, can that blood be replaced by us?

We should rather keep quiet on some things like this, or advise the party to pray and be settled on time.

If you train your children like your grandparents did, be sure to be a failure like they did, still flugging their married sons.

At d first bold, I do tell some abusive parents dat because u are his or her father doesn't mean u can do anything u feel like with him or her, citing dat "don't u know I'm your father or mother?"
This is wrong

At d second bold, somethings are best achieved with a little bit of madness, because u are my dad, and I don't want to offend God doesn't translate to treating me like a goat, even an animal deserves to be treated well in some situations.
U wey u say u be human being, Na u create urself, talkless of say u and dat animal Na same soul wey u get him get too, we only outshine dem with knowledge and wisdom.

And at d bold, 'train ur children with......'

Right now I work in a school, d treatment I got from my father reshaped my life thereby treating each and every kid in my school with respect and love except for some stubborn ones dat I know that d only language dey understand is cane.

U know pple are different, some kids, facial expression is enough for dem to correct dem, some, clicking of fingers is enough, some treating dem with love is OK, while some shouting is what dey want, but some if dey never receive beating deir brain will not return to default settings, I understand dis due to what I passed through and my observant nature.

In short I've not been beating most of them and I treat dem with respect, u know what happens to me by treating dem dat way

Midadeola:
I understand, I do. ..and your decision?, trust me, was brave!

Thanks, I must confess it wasn't easy for me at dat moment and I didn't want a situation where my child or children would be rude at me, and I just fem
But deep down I was burning, but assuming he's my brother or someone I could fight, it would have been bloody dat night, because as I chop dat igbati my energy, strength raised to power ten, not even power ten but infinity, I swear mo ma ba nkan je la le ojo yen.
Though I did something stupid dat look scary to him as a result of anger but never did I fight him

Midadeola:
It's [b]"would" [/b]and not "will" though!

@ d bold, I know
I just av to be honest, I do use "if I was you" too
Instead of "if I were you " I know it will be followed by "would"

Thanks mo de ade ola
Please me too I wants to de adeola, though, I av got adeowo already o

puremaker7:
I swear, baba was like... Se ofe na mi ni, emi o na baba mi ri (Do you want to beat me, I did not beat my father) and[b] I said I will neither beat you nor will you beat me too.[/b]
That was how that shit ended, he never tried to beat me again...and I left his house at the age of 30.. we are now in very good relationship

"Se o fe na mi ni, emi o na baba mi ri
Ha, eleyi pa mi lerin o, it has really got to the extreme end.

@ d second bold, u funny sha, " mi o ni na yin, eyin na o de ni na mi.

@ d 3rd bold, ur dad na good man, till now we no maintain good relationship, but if he needs me to do something, I always try to do it.

because since I chop slap @ d age of 26, I just detest him.
I chop slap sotey my colleagues who respect me dey ask me say wetin do me for face.
Me wey I don dey command respect since d age of 16, @ 26 I've got good reputation both from workplace and at home.

I just couldn't fight him. But hate him much. Now he wants a good relationship
Ko le shele
I made him know that I can't train my unborn children d way he trained me

And I told him that, in life u try to buy bond from ur children by maintaining good character with dem not demanding for it when u didn't create it initially

[quote author=CoolJulian post=94453889][/quote]Oh God
Na we d first siblings dey suffer am most

Humanoid01:
The problem isn't the discipline, the problem is the method used. You only flog a child because counselling them is almost always futile. When you flog a child, it leaves a trace of caution in them, even though it doesn't always last. Cane is the language most stubborn children understand.

For an adult [26 years old in this case] who should know the difference between right and wrong, there are mature ways to discipline them, especially when you are still responsible for them. Flogging them only depicts that you do not value them, and that's harsh and utterly disrespectful. There are ways to discipline an adult, and flogging is most certainly not ideal sir.

Good

puremaker7:
same thing my dad was doing when I was 25, I made him stop it in hard way, I changed it for him on that good night.
on that certain night, it was around 10:15 pm, I was coming from my babe, so my dad thought it was a business as usual, I collected the cane from him and destroyed it at the front of everybody in the house, then I issued a treat to him, never to try to flog me again, baba was scared like mad, though I tendered my appology to him the following morning for raising my voice at him.

bless you
We plenty for this matter
I just shouted and rebuked but didn't do anything for the fear of my unborn children not to do the same thing to me,

God bless you guy.
Sometimes one just need to display a little bit of madness to settle some matters and at the end of the day, u just tender ur apology to normalize everything.

And behold, the nonsense would stop

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mrblessed:
Lol
Your statement should be written thus: "The statement correctly goes: "If I were your father, I will cane you." As you can see, there is no need to put a comma in the front and back of the word "correctly."

Will, not would, is the correct word because it is a direct speech, not a reported speech.

Thank you

Una wahala too much oo
English Na una mother's tongue?
Ah, make two of una dey careful o

Make I no go report u pple to patience Jonathan make she come examine ur English o

CoolJulian:
I understand this perfectly... Some people are simply ignorant here!

Thanks
Would you mind sharing urs too, if I can learn two or three things there, please?

because for u to understand it, u must av passed 2ru it

Richy4:
I'm so loving you already [b] u deserve daddy's hug.[/b].

Bia b careful o
She's my bae

kkins25:
Your FATHER

Just ignore him please, ishilove has given him the required answer

Ishilove:
The problem with many African parents is they don't know where to draw the line. See the young man here lamenting and resenting his father because he is being treated like a little kid. Will you say this so-called discipline worked? No! Instead the father is driving his son to despair, just as the bible warned. The bible exhorts us to respect and honour our parents, but the same bible also warned parents not to provoke their children. Many men are married at 26 and are living in family homes so your position does not hold water

Good, u are on point my babe

Richy4:
I'm sorry about your case dear but sometimes it's better to eat mushroom in freedom than to eat meat in slavery..

In Op's case, I see it as bullying.. @ 26, what kind of correction was that.. What about ABC, I have warned you not to return late in the night, if anything happens to you, I will not bla bla bla..

Without some kind of stubbornness, he might still be flogging him at 40..

Correct
Na bullying o
Something that can even lead to hatred