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Orikinla: My dear, be honest and don't be afraid to admit the truth in your relationship.
Are you really in relationship or in bondage.

You may say you are not in bondage, but you are only living in denial of the reality.

Address the following:

1. Is your boyfriend dictating your lifestyle?
Like you must be a Chelsea FC fan or a Barcelona FC fan like him?
You must like whatever he likes whether you like it or not?
Does he make you feel proud or he makes you feel beneath him and his peers?

2. Does he love you or just taking advantage of you while flattering you?
Using you to mark time while targeting another girl or lady he thinks is better and higher than you.

3. Are you his only girlfriend or just one of his girlfriends or his alternative expendables?
Like a girl going to visit her boyfriend and met another woman spending the weekend with him. No, he was not cheating on her. She was just one of his bed warmers when his main chick was not around. Of course, he never told you that.
You are just his "Sex Mugu" or ordinary girlfriend and not his special one.

4. He gives you money or gift and demands sex and gets angry when you refuse to sleep with him.
Or goes out to sleep with another girl when you don't sleep with him.

5. He is not proud to take you to the end of year party of his company and goes alone without you.
You are only good for sex, but not good enough to be introduced to his class or for marriage.

6. He rates another girl or lady above you.

7. He thinks you should give up your dreams once you are married to him.
Majority of Nigerian men don't want their women or later wives to be "Miss Independent" of Ne-Yo.
They like it when Nigerian girls and women have to always be at their beck and call for their handouts of money.
Nigerian men feel very insecure and uncomfortable with women who don't depend on them for regular cash.

8. He thinks the best skills you have should be in the bedroom and not in the boardroom.
The worst mistake you can make is to give up your dream career to please your man who will never do the same for you.

9. He is a bully and disrespects other girls and women.
Any guy who disrespects other girls or women is indirectly disrespecting you and you will sooner or later be his next victim.

10. He is afraid of you traveling overseas when he cannot or does not.

If you are in a relationship with a man who keeps you in any of the above situations, then sorry my dear, you are in bondage and he is only taking advantage of you.

M glad it didn't work out m not in dat bondage

vivian chinaza: Not in a relationship anyway. But the guy I really really like is not like this one bit.

u have been talking about this guy u fancy,wonder hu he is

dagr8: Na who teach u pidgin sef? dnt tel me NL

Na me cook dis ones sef.

CrazyMan: There's nothing wrong with a born again christian going into modeling, provided you stick to the job and remove your mind from the temptations attached to it.

in any kind of modelling?

[quote author=190-the-clown]Come and crown me [/quote]don't derail the topic

[quote author=190-the-clown]Crowning [/quote]wat r u crowning?

[quote author=190-the-clown] abeg I kant shout it should be d woman

Nor be d man dey put her for house ni, she shud do d more lovin

I kant shout, if she kant - she gets replaced, so many oda women out there [/quote]ur still clowning

missbond007: In relationships most people claim one person has to love more, that it can't be 50-50.

Some say it's d man. That if he loves with all his heart he is willing to forgive if you hurt him.....even if you cheat on him.
Some say it's d woman.Unless a woman loves you, after sometime she would start misbehaving.

So guys please answer the question....who should love more?

I think a man plays a big role in a woman's life.But anyway our views might differ,I really appreciate it if he takes centre stage,treats me like his younger sister not his mother

lordbayor: ha... maybe u should ask should a born again christain look BEAUTIFUL or HANDSOME...

we just fit dey fine(beautiful) wether art no dey?

Its all about waiting on God

While we wait He restores us, heals us, sustains us, comforts us and loves us. 

We don’t see it because our human flesh wants to see everything in the natural but if you take a moment to sit still and rest in His presence and Shhh! No words!  Let His presence fill you with hope, joy, peace and love. Does this not heal us? Empower us? Sustain us as while we’re waiting? Yes it does! Remember to be still when you are feeling anxious or impatient.

Why do we have to wait?

 

Trust – Teaches us to fully rely/trust Him.

Humility – Prideful people like to move ahead of God and be in full control. They also worry too much about what other thinks. Humble people wait on God and demonstrate trust.

Purify- It purifies us from greed, instant gratification, and worldly desires.. when in fact we need to be living a life of integrity and holiness keeping our eyes on the Lord.

Protection – There are times when God will make us wait if He knows there will be difficulties especially when we move ahead of Him. Patiently waiting on the Lord will protect us from unforeseen circumstances. Be wise and keep this in mind.

Gentle Reminder: Don’t get ahead of Him with your own agenda and solutions. Instead you wait on Him and for His direction. Do you want His best or second best and miss out on what He had for you?  Resting in the Lord is not passive but active.

As for me, I look to the Lord for help. I wait confidently for God to save me and my God will certainly hear me. Micah 7:7

What happens if we choose not to wait on the Lord?

You miss out on God’s best

You’re out of His will

You’ll get second best and end up being disappointed.

Disobeying God has consequences. You may experience hurt, painful circumstances, disaster,  suffering,  grief, and much, much more.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. -Isa. 55:8-9

 

My prayer is that you wait patiently on the Lord and reap the rewards. Don’t get ahead and miss out on God’s perfect will for your life.

No one has heard or perceived by the ear, no eye has seen a God besides you, who acts for the one who waits for Him. Isaiah 64:4

@Op thanks brother

sammy329: MUST READ STORY :
story of the day

There once was a man who had nothing for his family to eat. He had an old shotgun and three bullets. So, he decided that he would go out and kill something for dinner.
As he went down the road, he saw a rabbit and he shot at the rabbit and missed it. Then he saw a squirrel and fired a shot at the squirrel and missed it. As he went further, he saw a wild turkey
in the tree and he had only one bullet left, but a voice came to him and said "pray first, aim high and stay focused ."
However, at the same time, he saw a deer which was a better kill. He brought the gun down and aimed at the deer. But, then he saw a rattle snake between his legs about to bite him, so he naturally brought the gun down further to shoot the rattle snake.
Still, the voice said again to him, "I said 'pray, aim high and stay focused."
So, the man decided to listen to the voice. He prayed a short prayer, "ooh, father in heaven help me, in Jesus name, Amen".
Then aimed the gun high up in the tree and shot the wild turkey. The bullet bounced off the turkey and killed the deer. The handle fell off the gun and hit the snake in the head and killed it.
And, when the gun had gone off, it knocked him into a pond. When he stood to look around, he had fish in all his pockets, a dead deer and a turkey to eat.
The snake (Satan) was dead simply because the man listened to God.

MORAL LESSON:
Pray first before you do anything, aim and shoot high in your goals, and stay focused on God.

Pass this message, in order that someone else might be blessed.

NOTE:
Never let others discourage you concerning your past. The past is exactly that- " the past." Live every day one day at a time. And remember that only God knows our future and that he will not put you through anymore than you can bear.

N.B:
Do not look to man for your blessings but look to the Lord. He can open doors for you that only He is able to do. Doors that you will not slip through but doors that only He has prepared in advance for you in your favor. Wait, and be still, be patient: keep God first and everything else will follow.

Through it all I have learned to trust in Jesus...
Our daily tasks are not easy but praying before the start of everything gives meaning to the day ahead

bin gbagbo:

Don't be sad please,look further

k2039: Atimes I just wish I was older,so I could have married you(just joking o,you married your husband,I'm happy for you,you attracted what you were,you know reading your posts really gives me hope that I'm going to have a wonderful married life)


@HumbledbYGrace,I think the OP is referring to you,in the little time I've knowned you,I think you've exhibited the 7 characters described by the OP(this are your core values),keep it up and I'm proud of you

There is no good woman without Christ in her

Malubi: Go and marry from chinese or America and compare them. Woman is woman everywhere U go. MUMU

After all we are just women but others just don't have class