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Last saturday a fellow christian brother made a very nasty example about ladies wearing pands to church,its total prohibited to wear pants to my church but since I don't wanna start trouble I can't question the laws of the church but is it really agaisnt the will of God for a lady to wear pants @ all?

Bible reference;Deotronomy 22vs5
5 A woman shall not wear men's clothing, neither shall a man put on women's clothing; for whoever does these things is an abomination to Yahweh your God. And 1st Timothy 2vs9-10
9 In the same way, that women also adorn themselves in decent clothing, with modesty and propriety; not just with braided hair, gold, pearls, or expensive clothing;10 but (which becomes women professing godliness) with good works.

Does this scriptures clearly states pants and slacks or something else?
Ur input will be appreciated and no insults pls

Faith is wen Abraham was so many years old and still believed God will fulfill his promise wen he said his children will be as many as stars in the sky.Despite that Sarah was also old.

I couldn't believe it this morning when my friend said this faith thing is driving me crazy,I was sad but I know that wen we believe in the unseen and speak the truth all the friends leave but the greatest friend is Jesus.

Thanks Op for the topic

acidtalk: Very soon.

Can't wait,exam stress is killing me

kunlejazz: 'The heart of Man (brown(Bin Ladin),black(Idi Amin) or white(Hitler)) is desperately wicked!
That's one undeniable truth.

Blackman's heart is worse man

ifihearam:
wetin you dey yarn

pls don't use pidgin.Wat on earth is that?

acidtalk: I doubt she is. So please shoot.

u call this lady ur friend but u hv guts to say bad things about her on nairaland dude!Do u seriously value friendship?

acidtalk: Well, I won't blow my trumpet. But I am the last person to bore anyone most especially a lady.

Once a lady is smart and vast, she can never get bored around me because I love discussing diverse scenes and activities.

By the way, what do you mean by I am one hell of a guy? Hint please.

Before I say anything I hope for ur sake that lady is not on NL

ifihearam: SHARRAPPPPPP

only nigerian gals r to say anything?

acidtalk: Thanks ma'am.
Where are you from?

m from the southern africa and ur welcome.I have to admit though ur one hell of a guy,and to everyone I have to confess I JUST CAN'T DO WITHOUT STYLE NETWORK but it won't be my first proriaty not now not ever but Acid u must have bored the wits out of the poor lady

acidtalk: Advice To Every Lady In Her Early 20s

* Most Guys who have reach the ripe age for marriage (I.e 29-35years) never take the relationship they have serious. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady.

* Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you, most times they just want to go between your legs and run off thereafter.

*Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have.

*Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to God for a Miracle.

*Never extort things from a guy you don't love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their friends or total 'paid' strangers. BE CAREFUL.

*Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starve him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.

*If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to extract money from him, don't complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer.

* Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with.

*A guy always taking you to the Cinema, Fast Food, Mall and Event shows is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn't care to ask and plan your future then you are just his 'social mate' and nothing else.

*If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help".

*If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.

*Don't always change the tv station from E! to Style Tv, MTV and Fashion TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.

*If the only places he doesn't frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren't welcome (only being used).

WATCH OUT FOR PART 2

Great minds think alike kea leboha

MissCorrection: His

Madam Popie pls we r not to be blamed for our typing errors.


In my language we say "phoso e tsamaea le mohatisi."M not good in english hope u translate that for everyone

nonny99: 15 things a girl wants from her guy
but won't ask for:
1. Good morning/goodnight texts.
2. Pictures taken together.
3. Surprises, especially little ones.
4. Visiting & bringing her favorite
food.
5. A hoodie with his scents all over it.
6. Really long hugs.
7. Slow dances.
8. Sincere compliments.
9. Singing her favorite song, even if
it's out of tune.
10. A cute stuffed toy to hug when
he's not around.
11. Real, deep conversations.
12. Nonsense but funny conversations
too.
13. His "gentelmanliness."
14. Comfort and patience when she's
in tears.
15. Telling her how much you love her.
15 things a girl wants from her guy
but won't ask for:
1. Good morning/goodnight texts.
2. Pictures taken together.
3. Surprises, especially little ones.
4. Visiting & bringing her favorite
food.
5. A hoodie with his scents all over it.
6. Really long hugs.
7. Slow dances.
8. Sincere compliments.
9. Singing her favorite song, even if
it's out of tune.
10. A cute stuffed toy to hug when
he's not around.
11. Real, deep conversations.
12. Nonsense but funny conversations
too.
13. His "gentelmanliness."
14. Comfort and patience when she's
in tears.
15. Telling her how much you love her.
15 things a girl wants from her guy
but won't ask for:
1. Good morning/goodnight texts.
2. Pictures taken together.
3. Surprises, especially little ones.
4. Visiting & bringing her favorite
food.
5. A hoodie with his scents all over it.
6. Really long hugs.
7. Slow dances.
8. Sincere compliments.
9. Singing her favorite song, even if
it's out of tune.
10. A cute stuffed toy to hug when
he's not around.
11. Real, deep conversations.
12. Nonsense but funny conversations
too.
13. His "gentelmanliness."
14. Comfort and patience when she's
in tears.
15. Telling her how much you love her.

Amen,I wonder where my bf is @

It means ur not satisfied with the partner u have and u go and look for fulfillment outside.My question is why don't u just don't date one person at once?hopping from one relationship to another is better than multi-tasking.

musKeeto: I have all those qualities, yet not xtian.. Imagine..

Hallo Hbg, how have u been?

*headthrobbing* *heartbeatingwildly*

U have all da qualities?So meaning u do value da bible?

#fainted#

[quote author=acidosis™]Nice piece, but I didn't see 'boyfriend' in this number. Why? You forgot to include it?[/quote]A boyfriend to us christians is someone u hope for a lifetime with,that's y its not preferable to date wen ur not ready to marry

With the questions arising on the religion section I thought this would be helpful for our brothers and sisters alike.

HBG: Question: "What should I be looking for in a boyfriend"

Answer: Anybody can say they love Jesus, or that they’re a Christian. But how do you know, when you’re falling in love with someone, whether they are the real deal? The Bible doesn’t mention the kind of dating relationships we see today; in fact, the only romantic relationships portrayed are either marriage relationships or adulterous relationships. What this means is that a Christian boyfriend should be, first and foremost, a man you plan to marry or at least someone who would make a good Christian husband. A Christian woman should be looking for someone who is serious about God and serious about his relationship with her. A Christian boyfriend isn’t dating just for fun; he has marriage in mind.

The Bible is full of verses that describe what a Christian man should be like, verses that are helpful and trustworthy for a woman who is evaluating a potential husband. The following are some guidelines based on those verses. A Christian boyfriend should be:

1.Humble and teachable: The Bible tells us that a righteous man, or a wise man, will take instruction gladly, even when it hurts him (Psalm 141:5; Proverbs 9:9, 12:15). A righteous man evidences a willingness to be corrected by Scripture and a tendency to love and listen to those who can teach him from the Scripture.

2.Honest: Do his actions agree with his words? The Bible says that a righteous man is characterized by honesty in his personal and business dealings (Ephesians 4:28). In addition, when he makes a promise, a Christian man keeps his promise, even when it hurts (Psalm 15:2-5). In short, his character should be one of integrity.

3.Selfless: The Bible speaks specifically to husbands when it tells them to love their wives as they love their own bodies, just like Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25-28). A Christian boyfriend should begin to exhibit this kind of care and love for his girlfriend long before marriage. Love is easy in the romantic beginning stages, but a Christian boyfriend should be the kind of man whose behavior and intentions will be loving in all kinds of circumstances (1 John 3:18).

4.Able and willing to provide: The Bible says that a man who doesn’t provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever (1 Timothy 5:. Provision doesn’t necessarily mean “bringing in a lot of money.” The issue is whether he takes responsibility for the welfare of his wife and children. It is important for women to grasp the seriousness of this verse. A man that doesn’t want to provide is very hard for a woman to respect, and if a wife struggles to respect her husband, marital troubles will go beyond the material. A woman’s respect for her husband and a man’s love for his wife are interdependent and life-giving to a marriage (Ephesians 5:25-32).

5.Willing to proactively protect: Both physically and emotionally, women tend to be weaker and more easily hurt than men. They need to be understood and protected and cared for in a proactive way. A good Christian boyfriend is a man who will look out for and care for his girlfriend and carry this passion for protecting her on into marriage (1 Peter 3:7).

Also, here are some negative things to watch out for: materialism (1 John 2:15-16; 1 Timothy 6:10), lying (Proverbs 12:22,19:22), sexual unfaithfulness (Ecclesiastes 7:26; Proverbs 7) and poor treatment of family members, especially his mother (Proverbs 15:20, 19:26, 20:20, 23:22). Usually a man’s treatment of his mother is a good indication of how he will treat his wife. Also, watch out for irrationally, controlling or jealous tendencies, as these often lead to violence (Proverbs 6:34; 27:4).

Finally, a Christian boyfriend is one with whom a woman is evenly matched. First, in the spiritual sense – a couple’s relationship with God should be the primary factor in any relationship, and they should be matched in that regard. Believers are commanded to marry other believers (2 Corinthians 6:14), so there is no reason to be dating an unbeliever. But a couple should also be evenly matched in the more practical aspects, having compatible temperaments, similar energy levels, and shared life-goals and interests. These things add tremendously to happiness in a relationship.

In addition to all this, if a man has a good sense of humor and a steady, cheerful disposition, this is wonderfully encouraging for his wife. Nobody can be “up” all the time, but a man who is characterized by the peace and joy of the Spirit is a real catch. Life is hard, and marriage is hard too. There will be times of sadness and there will be conflict. Because of this, a cheerful, encouraging spouse is a real blessing (Proverbs 16:24; 17:22; 15:30).

HBG: Question: "What should I look for in a Christian girlfriend?"

Answer: The sort of dating relationships that are seen today aren’t mentioned in the Bible. Marriage and betrothal are the only types of romantic relationships seen in Scripture. What this means is that a Christian girlfriend should be, first and foremost, a potential marriage partner. A Christian man should be seeking a woman to spend his life with, not just someone to have fun with. If a man is not ready to get married, he should not be pursuing a Christian girlfriend.

As a man looks for a girlfriend, the most important quality she must possess (as his potential future wife and a person who will have a great deal of influence in his life) is salvation in the Lord Jesus Christ, and a life lived in obedience to Him. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, Paul tells us not to be “unequally yoked” with unbelievers. If a woman does not have faith in Jesus Christ, a Christian man would be foolish to consider her as a girlfriend and/or as a wife.

That said, just because a woman is a Christian, she is not necessarily a perfect match for any Christian man. It is important to factor in other aspects of being “equally yoked.” For example, similar spiritual goals, doctrinal beliefs and outlook on life are all extremely important considerations. In addition, it is wise to think through more practical things like energy level, common interests, and expectations about family and lifestyle. Many men marry women based on emotional or physical attraction alone, and that can lead to disaster.

The Bible provides some guidelines about the kind of character a man should look for in a Christian girlfriend. A Christian woman will exhibit a spirit of submission to the Lord. The Apostle Paul tells wives they are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24). If she is not able to submit to the Lord, she will likely not see the value of submitting to her husband when that time comes. It is important to remember that the character of submission is a spiritual quality, not a personality trait. A sweet personality does not necessarily correspond to a submissive spirit, and neither does an energetic or strong-willed personality necessarily correspond to a willful spirit. A woman will be submissive to the degree she is influenced by God’s Spirit, and she will be influenced by His Spirit to the degree that she loves Him and spends time in His Word.

A Christian woman should benefit and bless her husband. She is to be his helper, according to the earliest biblical precedent set for Adam and Eve. She should be a fit helper for his mission and call. If he is called to be a pastor or a missionary, for example, he should look for a Christian girlfriend who feels the same call. If he feels a strong desire for a large family, he should find a woman who feels the same way. But most of all, according to the call put on all of us to be ambassadors for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20), a man should choose a woman who will help, (proverbs 31) and not hinder him in this regard. She should exhibit a commitment to prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:16), encouragement (1 Thessalonians 5:11), serving others (Hebrews 6:10) and the wisdom that comes from knowing God’s Word (Colossians 3:16). This is the kind of woman that will be truly helpful to a Christian man.

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musKeeto: Lol.. someone's really angry and about to be humbledByMusqueeto



calm down young lady, i know it's difficult to get over me...

u know wats ur problem atheists?u look into the bible for quotes to suit ur selfishness.

Go read the whole story in the bible and bring me solid back up not this trash

k2039: You not alone,a cousin of mine is also going through this

wat would u advise him to do//how is ur cuz dealing with this?

muskeeto2: oh, then there was David, killed someone's husband so he could get her..
then the 12 disciples, were any of them married.. we know Saul wasn't married and was a serial masturbator... maybe like okeyxyz...

I think ur reading ur bible between the lines because David never raised a hand on Nabal,the dude died because he was foolish.Not because David wanted his wife,David didn't even know that that Abigail was a woman of virtue until he met her,he asked her hand in my marriage after the foolish Nabal died.Abigail I would say was married to a fool like u and God saw that she belonged to a wiseman David,that's that.

Don't try to justify ur lack of understanding with man of God because David was a man after God's own heart.

Dicksocracy: It's really amazing the way somethings happen. Talking about knowing God's will when it comes choosing a a spouse. This take a high amount of grace and patience. A lot of people will not see it from the angle I am seeing or have seen it from. This is because I've seen God's grace and awesome power at work. Can I say not everybody enjoys this grace because some people will go outside the will of God for their lives and that's the end, no remedy no matter how much they try. As write this response, you might believe that I am a living prove to awesome power and grace of God. Couple of years back, I met a lady who I loved so much and she loved me too. I was financial ok and never scared of anything money can do or any problem money could solve. I gave people money at will whenever I heard they wanted to wed. I even sponsored my elder brother's wedding so that he could get married before it comes to mine, gave my cousins money when they wanted to wed. Mine became an inexplicable issue, immediately we fixed a date for the family introduction terrible things started happening. My streams of income started drying up but I never gave it a thought or look towards that direction. I looked for a way out just ensure it was done because all my friends were married and I needed to do same. We went ahead with the introduction and fixed the wedding to come up three months from that day. Immediately that was done a disaster occurred, I lost everything I had ever worked for in just a single day. Four day later, I moved into a new flat with the money had reserved for the wedding and we had to shift the wedding date. Immediately it was three months before the wedding again another disaster occurred. I lost my mum who was hale and hearty four days before her death. The day I saw her last, she said to me that if my fiancee fails to get pregnant the wedding mustn't take place just for me to hear she suddenly took ill and died. As I was planning mum's funeral, I got a message that God said if I marry that lady I wouldn't live long. This message I ignored believing my family were up to a trick. I told my fiancee what my mum said before her death. The lady and started making efforts to get her pregnant but all to no avail. I buried my mum a month and two weeks later, it was really funny that the funeral was an elaborate one going by the standard of doing things. I footed majority of the bills. This time, I shifted the wedding again due to I had exhausted all I had. We kept on making efforts to get her pregnant but all was abortive. After several scans, well-woman test and treatments, hormone profiler, abdomino-pelvic test and scans etc still nothing. Few months later, I got another message again that God said that my fiancee will soon be pregnant but I go ahead to marry her, am walking into my grave. Surprisingly, the period I was told she'll get pregnant she truely did but funny enough she took my money to abort the pregnancy after all the efforts we had made to get her pregnant that all failed. She aborted it and ran away. Again, another message can that God was against that pregnancy because He doesn't want His own to perish without achieving his destiny. God later said He wants me to work for Him but I felt how can for God when I have my own job besides am I to be a chorister or an usher? I was later told how my wife looks like but I didn't believe, I was told that God wants me to be Pastor and preach the gospel for Him but yet I didn't believe.. But can you believe that today I am an ordained pastor preaching the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ? The lady met and want to marry now matches the exalt description I was told and shown, she's also a minister of God. God made me realize that He also made me broke by bringing one thing or the other that would make me spend money whenever the wedding date draws near, at least if I don't have such money I wont embark on the wedding. Whenever I gatherd money God takes it away one way or another. To my greatest surprise, the lady I want to marry had been told about me three years ago but she doubted it then. Now she had given her life to Christ she had seen me even before meeting me, she broke up the man she was with just to obey God. I myself had gone to pray to ask God to show me who my wife be and the revelation I saw her. Who would have believed that night crawler, drinkard, womanizer, club-boy, an egomaniac, a fashion freak, a church hater like would be a pastor today preaching to people and bearing the title "Pastor"? This taught me that God is a master planner. This nothing but divine alignment. Today my streams of income has increased beyond the former and am happy. This is a true life experience which has taught me a huge lesson.

So all this time u were generuos before ur own wedding u were not a bornagain?

preshuzpearl: yes.
Not much different from modelling is it

No its not but its not something I would do ever

preshuzpearl: Been thinkin about it too for awhile. I actually considered d beauty pageant. i remembered Esther in d Bible. She didnt compromise her faith and standards. Esther 2.15. Wen it was her turn to go in, she didnt ask for more than d neccessary things, and God favored her. It was her destiny to win.
if she could do it, am sure believers, wit d right motives, can too

Beauty pegeants like miss world and da likes?