₦airaland Forum

Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

Ebus12:
My fellow nairalanders
Good afternoon

I have been a member for close to a year now.... Even though I have been a guest for about 2 years before joining.

I have sought advice here twice and your advice has really helped a lot. Please help me once more my people

I just got admitted into a school in the south East while my parents live in the North.

My parents (my mum especially) pleaded with me to stay with her eldest sister and her children for a while, at least for my first year in school

I didn't want it at first ... But I had to agree just cuz of the way my mom was now on my neck.
She worried I knew nothing about the east.... She wanted me to get a bit used to the East

With the help of my dad..... She succeeded in convincing me to stay in her sister's house.

My first weeks in the house was quiet peaceful and fun not untill my cousin brother started looking for his biscuits

Funny right

It seemed funny that a 23 years old dude would turn out to be a devil just cuz of an ordinary 100 naira biscuits.
Mind you ... He is the only son
He asked everyone and everyone denied taking it. He asked me and I too denied it.... Cuz I didn't take it.

He beat hell out of me... Insisting I was the thief.
We became almost enemies and didn't talk to each other for about 2 months.
Aways from that ... We reconciled tho

But he still remained a trouble to my life
Always beating me as if am an animal.... He beats his sister too.

But it seems mine is worst
He has stopped me from sitting on a particular chair in the parlour.
He bullies me ... Telling me there is nothing I, my parents, or anyone can do to him.

I received the beating of my life today because the Tv remote got spoilted and he is insisting it's me. He accuses me of virtually everything that goes wrong in the house.

I'm getting sick, depressed and it's affecting me alot.

I don't want to disturb my mum about it ... It might cause problem between she and her sister
I don't want to be the cause of anyone's quarrel with another person.

I wish to go home. And I can't go back home now ... Cuz of the Corona virus and the inter state lockdown.

Please what do I do ?
Help me out
He gets worst by the day.

Deputy1111:
Some can be funny sa, calling Osinbajo to okada matter in Lagos. I beg direct your question to the right channel, let Osinbajo have some rest biko

Davash222:
I rather use that money and start training Broilers. After 4 months, I'll sell the fowls and make alot of money.
Training a Nigerian girlfriend in school is Investment of no Returns.

Obierika:
As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon!

PotatoSalad:
She no suppose quit na.
If someone digs up my old tweets or posts, I'll just comment wow and move on.
Everyday Facebook reminds me of how dumb I was in the past and I always be like "wow"

icetrimz:
I would like to go symmetrical to the point. But before I proceed, I will like to say sorry to whom it may concern. Yes people I did it, I went through her phone. I broke the rule and went against my instincts.

In fact, I'm writing this with pidgin so as to carry the street along. so I invite ma babe come house today, the babe too cool, silent and has this innocent look and all. As she enter house, the first thing wey she ask me be say make i go buy her pad... i swear i shock. i nearly fall sef, but as a "niggarrrr" i no tok, i just waka jeje go buy am come, i even buy fruits join sef as a beta pikin ... lol [ well, im not laughing shaa o] I later move go market buy catfish cook for her, just to make sure Jesus is happy with me, his son.

So later in the day, i went to play around with the boys as madam dey "flight mode" I came back around 9pm and met her sleeping. I waka go kitchen go take something, then i see her phone for there with 8 missed calls from the same number. As a retired agbero i sensed something was not right about the calls. So i jejely and smoothly snicked back to the room and placed her finger on her phone sensor to open it. After unlocking the phone i went straight to the rest room to settle my curiosity. omo, as i open whatsapp, enter the caller name chat, naso i collapse.......... athink say na only that one, as i enter others naso i paralyze. what i saw was UNBELIEVABLE and beyond my mental absorption. The one wey one paddy dey complain give am say she no sabi suck preeq na im wound me. I lost my breath for a moment and nearly went to join my ancestors.

Please help me. This is 3am and I'm still in deep pains. I can't seem to walk, my sight is going blurry too and i don't know what to do about her hereafter

Please how do I get my legs working again so I can at least walk back to the room and sleep first??

larrypourl:
What pained me most from your writeup was the FG job he missed. He go hear am now. What do you do for a living since you want to get married next year.

klenton:
SMH... you my dear is the problem, the world does not revolve around your big dreams according to you, and your perceptions about life does not amount to reality

your type i pray never to encounter, your just a ticking time bomb with ur gigantic imaginary way of life

look at what you wrote up there, coming to your inlaws house without money will make them look at the person somehow, then the problem is you and your family

meanwhile this is a guy you said that have a car and a manager in a company, yet look at were you classifieds him, is your type that will leave a man if he ever gets broke

let me ask what if he is rich now as you expected and after marriage life happens and he goes back to square one, what will happen?? what will you do?? probably you will nag him from morning till night for a change and when nothing happens you will abandon him as a woman with big dreams

is it not someone that married a teacher that later owned a school, an office worker that later became an employer of labour?? but in your case you want the guy to be made before coming to your house honestly your obsession for money and big things is actually very dangerous and evil.

Godoverevery:
hmmn....too much pressure.
I hope you also doing your masters aswell.

Maybe you should channel all this you are telling him to yourself.
Is not cool Wen a lady is pushing her guy to work harder , complaining about him not earning enough while she is doing nothing herself..
if the 90k is too small what are u adding financially or u just want to be a leech.

No man likes a nagging woman.

Stop pointing him where the money at....why not go get the money yourself.

Evercurious:
Why are you guys just VISIONLESS? Are you expected to bring MONEY to the table or VISION? Come with vision and idea and money won't be an issue..

Oluromantic:
This guy is a strategist. Stylishly seeking working class or connected ladies who would say ...oh he's a good handwork and a bright future, he just need support... It's good but such ladies don't exist on NL

Exc2000:



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Candoit:
This seems to be the case many at times.
Leave her alone, she would leave when she's either dead or near death.

I was barely 2 months in my apartment and my landlord who lived in the same compound had beaten his wife more than 3times. It happens every Sunday morning probably because its the man's day off. His brothers and their wives who lived in the same compound would never bother to say a word, little did i know it was a norm.

One of the days he beat her so badly. I met her on the road limping and full of blood. He had broken her face and leg cos he used a plank that had a nail on it to beat her. She was holding her first daughter who was about 4 years by hand leaving her 5 months old at home. I tried taking her to the pharmacy but she insisted she was going to the police station.

I had no choice but to take her there myself as no one in the compound even followed her. My friends who I later told about this said I took a big risk. On our way, she was crying and shouting at the top of her voice and people were making a video of us. She even swore to leave the man that day. But guess what?

She went back to the man. Though, that was after a month or so in her father's house. Her family had begged her to return and asked the husband to pay N20,000 for damages. I knew this because he came to me to plead I help him with money. Well, I gave him part and counselled him to stop beating his wife to this he agreed. Soon after, she returned with her kids one Sunday morning.

Exactly, the next Sunday morning, the beating started again. This time around the drama was outside and everyone around the neighborhood came to watch. He climbed onto his wife and gave her serious blows that day. You would think he was fighting his fellow man. To cut long story short, the woman collapsed that day and was rushed to the hospital.

This time, she never came back to the house. She ran for her life leaving both breastfeeding baby and 4yr old.

So, OP leave her. She would learn.

PS: the law and the family is part of our problem. When we went to the police station to file a report against the man, more than 5 police officers kept asking her question one after the other like " u dey give am the thing at all", " hope say u no dey stingy with the thing" , " like how many times in a week una dey do" and so on. Mind you, this was not what had caused the issue but N200.The man gave his wife N200, she bought bread N100 and pampers retail N100. He beat her up because she bought pampers instead of foodstuffs. At the end of all the questions, the police came to the house and had a chat with the man. No arrest. No charge. No nothing

Also, her family kept encouraging her to keep her marriage even after they saw all she was going through.

In this life, you just need to know you cannot please everyone and make some tough decisions for yourself

albertatrina:
They don't want to lose the security, children, prestige by walking away from the marriage.


The signs are always there during courtship but....

Dpharisee:
I still blame Jonathan for this, when General Ihejirika was dealing with Boko Haram, Obama conspired with northern leaders to frustrate his efforts, they denied him arms and he went to the black market to acquire weapons, then to satisfy the northern propagandists he removed Ihejirika and that cost him his re-election.
Who is giving Boko Haram information about troops movement to set up ambush?
1. It must be people who practice same religion with them.
2. Those who are sympathetic to Boko Haram in the Army

humilitypays:
I have said it over and over again, 99% of the problems in today marriages is as a result of money and then sex!

Guys don't allow anybody to push you to marry when you are not financially ready and settled because majority of ladies today want a flamboyant life even in marriage....social media have influenced today women, they now live for the gram!

Op, with the kind of life most Nigerian ladies of today want to live in marriage, no federal civil service job without corruption can afford it. How much do they pay most civil servants; NGN250,000 at most for level 12 above which most young people cannot attain until they have approached 50yrs+.


It is not a must to marry. If you cannot find a lady ready to work and till the soil with you to make that billions she wants to enjoy and flaunt, please stay single oh, the world is already overpopulated, we have enough humans so if you no born, its not a big deal!!

If you must marry, marry a working class lady, working class ladies seem to have sense small, more than jobless, unemployed ladies who only sit at home watching TV and fantasising to live flamboyant life like those they spend their whole time watching on TV. Guys stop glorifying unemployed, manner less ladies with wedding ring!!!

Marry financially productive ladies, they understand the pains of making a dime, they appreciate the little you have and are ready to put effort with you to build that dream future, not all those lazy, jobless ladies una de marry all because of big ass and big breast that you will still get bored and tired of after you marry her

DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

Leece:
My 50 Yrs Old Boss Shows A Lot Of Cleavage When We Meet, What Could She Want?

So I got this job around 2019 and I noticed from the very day I went for my interview, there was this woman who happened to be very lenient with me and cautioned others when they asked me tough question. All she did saved me from disgracing myself in front of 5 panelist. After the interview I waited till they closed just so i could say thank you.

When she came out around 7 pm she was more elegant and had this carriage that suits her age. I approached her and she recognized me immediately she was happy to see me and I thanked her. As I was about to leave she offered me a ride and being a very good conversationist that I am, I began to talk and she became very free with me. She told me a lot about her husband and his drinking addiction and how he neglected her sexual needs. I tried comforting her with words and ended by saying she is 50 na her libido should be dead by now, she didn't take offence but replied and said I cant handle her if we ever get down.

Fast forward to when I resumed, I realized she was the CFO of the organisation, now fear don catch me. I couldn't even look her in the eye to start a conversation. I think she noticed and she called me to her office and was laughing at me and later told me she would like us to keep talking the way we did yesterday cause she doesn't have much friends.

There was this day she was dancing to an old Fuji song in the office, her office is sound proof moreover it was already past office hours, i went to say goodbye, she called me to come in and didn't let me leave. I thought to myself another free ride.

She jumped up at a point and had a nip slip, i mean both breast were literally out. I just closed my eyes, she fixed it and was smiling at me.
Since that time till now she has been showing massive cleavage anytime i'm around her. She has started calling me my dear and other staff are calling me omo mummy and they dont know what I am facing

Ayomide11111:
If You've Done This Job Before, Pls Tell Me Your Experience Too

This my thread is just mainly for single men and guys outside there and I would like to share my experience with you guys on what I have undergone and experienced as a Security guard.

To be a security guard is not a job I can advise my enemy to opt for let alone my friend or relation. The job is a regardless one and very disgusting.

As a security guard, you are more or less a beggar in the street, should I say beggar has a little regard more than you.

When people see you, they see nothing in you. Most especially when you're trying to speak to them in English making them to know that you're educated...(laugh..) You just did it wrong, to them it means you are having mental problem.

The image impression of 98% of people on guys who do this job to hustle for their lives rather than involving in criminal practices is that they have no future; is that they cannot make it in their lives; e.t.c.

Since I've started this job when I finished my program in the polytechnic, any lady I made to know about the job I do turns me off later, some said it's a beggars' work.

And currently, I hardly have female friends not to talk of girlfriends or marriage.

Though, I didn't mean to start this job before if not condition, but now I'm planning to quit the job and find another.

Sometimes, I cried in my room, begging God to show me another way.

One of the workers in the place of work that I'm guiding once told me that his dog is better off than me. This is even the person that cannot even compose simple correct English, he said his dog is better than me.

Your experience too is allowed... Thank you.