veraiyke:
Imo

Congratulations bro!
so Imo and Oyo states will be writing that same day.

SAMBARRY:
enle.Pregnancy NA disease.WHO the opinion of many ep?

E pele ooo
na only disease dey shame person ba?
SMH

adusco:



Shine your shoes, iron your shirt, get your tie, look smart and you are good to go.
N.B back belt on black shoes likewise brown belt on brown shoes.

Is it compulsory one goes with a tie

Omolego:

It's normal. For mothers to. Complain, sometimes we forget there's no time for. Us. But me am happy when mama tells me to go and marry it means she still takes interest in me with all my stubbornhead.mother's love is bae

...just as you're bae. God bless you sister.
Instead of the said lady to channel/manage the pressure/insults (or whatever they call it) wwith calmness,patience,maturity and prayers,she reacted by moving out.
We have no idea of how the mum pressured her but she should rather tell her mum that she understands her concerns and just hoping to meet the good man.The old woman can then remember her in prayers.Not forming the oversabi girl.
Westernization has really cost us more than it has favoured us,esp we youths.

Offpoint:

right person? lol, there are no right persons out there, there has never been. we all get married to the wrong persons... then we convert them to the simi-right person. If you need a right person... then I'm afraid you need to email heaven for an angel.
married is not an achievement... it is a necessity.
just know as a lady the order you get the wronger your partner will be and the lesser your chances gets.
And don't tell me you're single too... cuz I'll look for you whenever you are and Marry you by fire by force

contrary to your moniker,this comment is sooooo on point!

PDPGuy:

That type of man is most likely the one that is scared of “independent” women. Because the fact that she lives alone, in her own apartment, should be a positive not a negative.

so,that a woman still lives in her parents' house means she isn't independent. Kwantiniyu oooo

givenny:
some mothers should please stop all these nonsense. A young lady committed suicide last month in Enugu because her mother was telling her to go get married. Instead of you to pray for your daugther . You did well young lady

How on earth will telling a matured young lady to go get married make her commit suicide? There were probably underlying problems,not the mere talk of 'go and marry Nne'.

SAMBARRY:
and so what? If she gets pregnant before marriage,big deal?Na she be the first?

Pregnancy before marriage no be sickness

she isn't gonna be the first neither will she be the last,but many see it as a shameful thing to do.

Tobycharles:


You v not seen the ones that were later made incomplete courtesy of battering n domestic violence in the name of marriage.

That's because, apparently, dey made bad choices.They didn't look before they leaped.
The fact dt someone ends up in a bad marriage shouldn't discourage one from marrying, but rather,one should learn from their mistakes,believe you won't end up like them and back it up with fervent prayers.
Do you stop boarding a cab/driving coz someone somewhere has had an auto crash? Definitely not!

MhizzAJ:


Don't be scared and don't let anyone pressurise you into settling down with any man that comes your way simply because you wanna get married

Don't even let people's comment make you feel bad
There's still hope

Hope that's fading with time

What update do you need again? You got your date,venue and time of interview,so I don't know what kinda update you need again.

Preciousify:

Nooooo.
We were 15 that went for the interview from my state. 5 guys were called to camp. The rest of us accepted our fate.I continued with my studies and I'm currently serving.
They went to camp last year DEC. Then, sept this year, they were given 2 weeks break to go and prepare for exams. They have written the exams and their POP is 16th DEC.
That's for DI.

how long did it take for those that were called to camp after the interview and how did you know only 5 were taken?

Seahawk:
I wish your fiancée would dump you and your meddlesome mother. Nonsense

when she go come find another man? And for how long?

makydebbie:
Five weird facts lol.


1) Once we start a conversation and you're using shorthand to type, I'm sorry. That's the end of our conversation, I'm never going to hit you up. Never.


2) I hardly smile, always minding my business like it's a full time job, I'm never bothered about what people say.


3) I wouldn't like to see my cum on your body, dick, beards or fingers. I'll lick it all off, it's so hot and turns me on. I don't just wanna see my cum on your body. I love licking my cum. So freakkkyyyy.


4) When I'm lonely or depressed, I suck my boobs, it makes me feel better for some weird reason I don't understand. I calm down immediately.


5) I never lose arguments, once my mind is in that shiit, forget it. I always win baby.



6)My mood swing is crazy and I love people who make good use and also understand sarcasm.


7) All my life, I've had a running nose. And I'm allergic to smoke and dust.

No wonder some virgins have saggy boobs

Be sincere with yourself,you meant some diabolical stuffs right?

sisisioge:
Madam...your husband will one day come home with a biological baby. Try to spend your money on surrogacy and have another child. This is with assumption that you intend to continue to stay with him. It is well o, everything just dey scattered these days.

At your last statement....abi ooo
...and the moral decadence,which is on the rise and intended to be portrayed as normal will make it even worst. I feel for the Op though but she didn't give any insight about her past that made getting pregnant pretty difficult for her. If her past was however free or stains or just a bit stained,i will say MORE PATIENCE is all she need but I cannot guarantee the sanity of the hubby through the patient period though.

ifyalways:
LMAO!

What is in a name?Nothing.Its just the spirit of ego and stubborness worrying you both.

I don't know why your husband is insisting you change your first name to something you obviously dislike but if you too would just stop sulking and frowning,you would be able to get your husband back to his senses.I daresay the simi thing might actually be a harmful joke on his part but your rejecting it vehemently and seriously made him persist at it.

way to go:when he calls him Simi,respond with Chukwuemeka my love.hahaha
He wants you to be his simi,you want him to be your emeka,simples.

Please mellow down so that soon you guys wont fight over baby names(when they start coming).

Lol!
Op,you should go with this piece of advice,that way,you both will laugh it off and he will know in his mind, you the smart lady he married.




God! I want an intertribal marriage oo

The situation here is complicated more than most posters see it.

I wouldn't blame your dad,i would only implore him to do more.He should rather be thankful to God that you've not been coming to them to ask for soft loans even after marriage and should have asked for how things are if he is so considerate as a father. Coupled with the fact that he is still working, even if what he has left in active service isn't up to a year,he should undertake his responsibility until he can glaringly do it no more.
Some fathers who are even retired are still footing the bills for their children jn school and even some that are still married, so he should count himself lucky.

On your husband's part,i really commend him for his maturity and patience in handling the demands from your parents,however, that patience isn't gonna last forever coz it's only a matter of time before he begins to get irritated.
He shouldnt be blamed for your job exit and even if you quitting the job was his idea,he should rather be commended at it,for putting your health first over money.
Would your father rather prefer you lie in hospital due to a job they might still fire u for at the end? I'm sure he wouldn't.

As for your kid bro,i once met a young lady of 22yrs who hustles like there is no tomorrow to pay her bills and that of her younger sister in a polytechnic (school fees and all) and I'm sure she has been doing so before I met her.It should be known that this lady's parents are alive,although, i wouldn't know how they're faring and why they've neglected their responsibility to a young lady (i didn't press further).
What I'm saying is essence is that your bro should find something doing even if it fetches him as low as 10k monthly, that way,whatever comes from you elder sisters and parents will just be like bogus bonuses and you people will even be encouraged to give more no matter how little.Besides he should have known the situation in each of his guardians/sponsors lives too to know he should get himself busy.



PS:I won't be surprised if this kinda kid bro still spends and flirts with ladies on campus.


Lesson to all:MOUTH WEY SWALLOW BOTTLE,NA HIM YANSH GET WAHALA....for those that understand.

Amoshie:


Yeah, thank you a lot.

You welcome bro!

I would advice you first of all change her location. Get her really busy and above all,always have heart-hheart talk with her on regular basis.

You can also take her around to see how those that engaged in those things early have ended up.

Finally,if you think her libido is just too her,get her married asap and let her continue with her education there,that way,she can minimise the fornication.

PS:Don't forget to back all these up with fervent prayers.all the best.

NafeesaAA:


The current recruitment is for Rank and Files

What does it mean?

nnamdiosu:
The truth is the mindset of Nigerians needs to seriously be worked on before we as a nation can prosper....either financially, spiritually or economically.
For Gods sake, any marriage can fail. Any marriage can be successfully.
Yes, granted that inter tribal marriages has its own peculiar challenges, it doesn't mean that people who sincerely enter it won't succeed. For Gods sake, intra tribal marriages also fail too. So what are we not saying?

Marriages from people of different tribes will prosper and can prosper if both parties do their best to stay the best. Its God that keeps a home standing....not money or same tribe or same language.
Wisdom is profitable to direct

I appreciate the words of encouragement in this,thanks!

Obinkita:
Inter tribal marriage is a no no. QED!

Parents don't give their total blessings!

There are always key family members opposed to the marriage from onset. Many silently pray it ends in divorce to discourage others. When the travails of marriage set in and reality dawns, young couples fade in their professed love. Challenges of marriage make d man and d woman wish they had listened to those who had not supported the union. Besides there are cultural shocks, language barriers, partial acceptance by family members, and disconnect from own family. Adaptation is not easy. The woman is worse off - always at the receiving end, with many regrets at later years.

Offsprings are neither fully here nor there.

The success rate is about 50% for the rich and some 35% for the not rich.

Thanks,I really appreciate this.

stainless239:
*

what is this one now
oya, what's your opinion about it?

NwaAmaikpe:



It looks appealing.
Most folks do it either out of desperation, curiosity or plain stupidity.
The stupidity of seeing themselves as the ones to unite the country through their marriage.

One thing I am very sure of is that,
The bible discouraged inter-tribal marriages.

GENESIS 24: 1-6

. 2 One day Abraham said to his oldest servant, the man in charge of his household, “Take an oath by putting your hand under my thigh. 3 Swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not allow my son to marry one of these local Canaanite women. 4 Go instead to my homeland, to my relatives, and find a wife there for my son Isaac.”

GENESIS 28

28 Isaac called Jacob and blessed him and commanded him, “You must not marry a Canaanite woman. 2 Go to the house of Bethuel, your mother’s father, in Northwest Mesopotamia. Laban, your mother’s brother, lives there. Marry one of his daughters.

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INFERENCE AND MORAL

Intertribal marriages in Nigeria are known for their low success rates.

Also at old age, most wives go back to settle in their maiden homes.
Children from intertribal marriages have been proven to be more inclined to their mom's tribe while seeing themselves as strangers to their actual tribe.

You'd tolerate a wrong from your spouse if she was from your tribe.

Lastly, since it is biblical; don't use your marriage for 'try-your-luck'.
PLEASE!!!

Thanks man!

Good morning fellas!
I've always wanted and pray to practice a intertribal marriage right from my mid-teenage years. This is however becoming a daunting task by the day.I mean intertribal between core tribes from Southern and Northern Nigeria without any political game attached to it.
For those already in such marriage,pls,kindly share your experience on;
1) The challenges faced before tying the knot and how you overcame it?
2) How you managing the cultural differences?
3) Managing the in-laws and other close relatives
4) Your fears before you finally made up your mind to Damn all unforeseen consequences and propose to your woman or say i do to your man.


I eagerly await your inputs.....thanks in advance.

olasaad:


Yeah

wowww!
How sweet?
I also did....at Sibre,but I do not think you served in Taraba state,did you?

olasaad:


Lol Jalingo/Abeokuta 2015.

Did you camp in Jalingo that year?

ikemesit4477:
bros hijab is meant for the poor!

Imagine what this son of Adam has written!

Pataricatering:
where did you get approached by Muslims? That's a lie ! I'm not Muslim but I can confidently tell you lied just to counter the dude s point ! Christians accost people every and anywhere as the guy said and still scream " islamization " ! Muslims NEVER approach people to convert except you go to the mosque or you ask them about Islam !

May God bless you ma'am!
I did not quote you because you supported the guy's point but because the OBJECTIVITY in your comment gladdens me.
Atleast, im not surprised by comments coming from some unrepentant corrupt-minded christians and some quarter-baked muslims alike. How do expect a nation like ours to move forward wben you try to counter a proven fact with a fabricated lie just to make a point.



'AYAM NOT UNDERSTANDING GASKIYA'

ollah2:




Some of your just write without using your brains. The owner of this thread is a sworn atheist. He makes his rules according to his wish, he placed the rule there but the bigotry and intolerance in you blame Muslims for that.

This thread is a Muslim thread and like always, it will he hijacked by Christians inorder to ridicule them yet Muslims are intolerant .

Churches exist virtually everywhere, you are preached to join Christianity on the road, buses, they will invade your house, et al telling folks their gods is false and ONLY Christians are destined to go heaven yet Muslims are the ones not tolerant.

The bigotry, sentiments, hatred and intolerance in most of you stinks to high heavens

This reply couldn't be more aptly written.

MhizAJ:
What's wrong with youth of this generation

How can a relationship be built on sex and money

If there's no sex in the relationship will men die? I don't understand

If she's a virgin and she's saying she doesn't want sex then respect her decision even if she's not still respect her decision

Men especially Nigerian men don't have regard for ladies...They don't know how to apply wisdom in relationship...I can't deal!

They think they can use money to just trap women

Walahi,the thing just tire me.
The moral decadence in this generation sickens me to the bones.Only God knows how spoilt the upcoming generations would be?