God bless you!!! That's the problem with most Nigerian ladies these days and it's sickening
anonymous1759: Totally wrong. 99.9 % of men wants to have something with their female friends. And the ladies know. Going out with them is as good opening the door wide open. She's allowed to go weddings birthdays etc but not a personal date... But most naija girls hardly resist free meals. And because of that they make up excuses, saying their boyfriend is too harsh for not Allowing them to associate knowing fully well the guy is interested in them
I don't understand why some people say this. There's something common to both relationships and marriage; and that is commitment. If you're seeing other people or going on dates with other guys/girls while you're in a relationship, that relationship is an open relationship.
kennygee: Relationship isn't marriage, I'll marry you isn't marriage. Do things the way that will please God.
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This is the main problem with most people. When some of us talk about rape and clothing, you ask questions like "Why would anyone look at children that way?" "How does my body exposing clothes give anyone the right to rape me?"
The fact is we say these things because we know what's happening. Rapists exist and they are out there. Something motivates them to carry out their hideous acts and whether you like it or not, dressing is one of them.
You can wear anything you like, but take extra measures. Don't walk around alone in places that are not safe etc. Protect your children by making sure these unfortunate pedophiles don't try to deceive them into unfortunate acts. We can't do it all but we can try our best.
For the "Sexualizing children" part, exposing children to these kind of clothings and mentality makes them develop way faster than their age, making them want to try out virtually everything they see on TV and in person. The horrible fact is pedophiles know this, and they feed on the curiosity of these little ones to spoil them. No one is saying it's a justification for anyone to touch children, but whether you like it or not, rapists/pedophiles cannot be reasoned with, and our best possible chance of protecting ourselves and our children is taking extra measures to be safe and not exposing these little minds to the filth of the world.
May God expose the evildoers and protect us all from their fangs.
Giddyperson: How would it result in rape biko. Anyone looking at children and getting sexually aroused should check himself into a mental health institution. I think shorts and tights are better suited for kids than they would ever be for adults. Ofcourse no show belle or show butt or makeup for children and I also agree with you about the dancing like strippers. It's ok if kids dress like the attached pictures
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Lol yeah that's true but you could have still told her. You'd be surprised by how good it might have worked out
Stevengerd: I Came Home From School, Last Year June To Be Precise, As A Guy I No Fit Stay At Home. So I Decided To Learn Something New So I Enrolled At a Computer Institute In My Area To Add To What I Have On Ground.
There Is This Pretty Damsel, Very Neat At The School, I Didnt Notice Her When I Started, Bt As The Program Was Going We Started Talking. She Told Me About Herself, Her School/ Course [ Imo State Uni, Medical Lab Tech]. We Exchange Numbers, We Started Talking.
So On This Particular Day On A Friday, After The Whole Lectures We Talked For Length. I Was About Telling Her I Have Feeling For Her, When She Me Told Me She'll Going Back To Imo State On Sunday Since The Strike Has Been Called Off, That She Only Came To See Her Aunty... When I Heard All She Said, Kon See As I Dey "Sweat".
Tears Nearly Commot From My Eyes, I Just Manup Life Goes On. Moral: If You Have Feelings For Anyone. Speak Out Don't Let Anything Hold You Down.
I'm not being bias (because some people immediately affirm every anti-gay talk to religion), but I think your points are invalid. I'm of the opinion that 'gay' people are just people with serious issues.
You tell us "People can be born gay", but never in the histories of our fathers (I'm authoritatively speaking for Yorubas and Igbos), have we had or heard stories about such abominations, especially for Yoruba people who would immediately spill such abominations via stories so as to warn their kids against them.
Even in the US, when it started slowly, people who were gay were considered mentally ill until it was eventually accepted. My point is you get influenced by a lot of things you learn from others and without knowing, your brain begins to accommodate the idea, and your body in its bid to explore, gets used to it and makes you think its a normal thing.
You want to be gay? Sure. Go ahead. But do not force yourself or your ideology on other people. Do not teach our kids that being gay is normal (You are a part of our society, and whether you like it or not, you teach them these things).
Did you know? some people are now fighting for bestiality and paedophilia as well, because they believe 'love' knows no bounds... Same way homosexual fights started, innit?
Coming from a religious perspective, it's forbidden. And on a final note, this post should not even be here, since the act (homosexuality) is punishable under the laws of the land.
Gentlewitch: Being a lesbian especially in Nigeria can be amazing and at the same time very frustrating.
A lot of people have wondered so many things about the lifestyle, they end up believing in lies and misconceptions. Here are the top 15 questions asked by straight people about gay people.
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Men get used as much as ladies too, sometimes it's even worse. The only difference is we men were brought up to 'shut p' about certain things and we are not taught how to express such 'girlie' emotions. Females shout about it and blame the whole male generation for what calamities befell them in a relationship (Meanwhile some of them caused it due to greed and other things).
I've been cheated on in 3 different relationships by ladies, and not once in my life have I ever cheated before. Some ladies would hear this and immediately jump into justifying the case with talks like "Maybe you didn't have money", "Maybe your dick wasn't doing the right job" etc.
The difference is Men don't talk about it and most times have no one to talk to it about.
The OP gave just one scenario and I was surprised that all our resident intelligent men couldn't figure out the other side of the coin...but that's normal. The men advised such women to count their losses and move on, with emphasis being on how they both enjoyed the sex. Why they feel it's all about the sex is story for another day.
Please, no semantics, no insults, no claiming not to understand...just straightforward answers like you all gave on the other thread. I want to learn
I'm sorry man. It's most likely she's not carrying your baby. I've had a lady swear with the bible for me before and it was all lies
MemphisRaynes: Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.
My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.
I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.
My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"
I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.
On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.
Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?
Sir, your wife needs help. Search deep and try to find out the one person she would never turn down or disrespect. That's the person that needs to reach out to her. Try one more time and give it a year (you've been married for 11 years so I guess a year more wouldn't hurt). Even though on the surface it might seem like she's slowly growing to be a huge pain in the butt, sit down, take a pen and write down a few things about her. What she was like before you guys got married, the things you loved about her (then and now), the things she keeps complaining about etc. You might need to be firm on this one. Show her you have nothing to lose if worst comes to worst. Talk sense into her head but be careful about how you go about it.
lisbonabdulahi: Hello Nairalanders, please I need you advice before I finally end this marriage. I know I was at fault at the beginning for not stamping my authority , I showed her so much love, because she is a product of a broken home, I wanted her to know there is much more to life, now she has turned my love to foolishness, I do not want my kids to grow up without a father. That is why I have been very patient, but now … please read on.
I have been married for 11 years, with 4 kids. The truth is that we have never had really peace in the home for these years, everything is trouble, from the way I talk, eat, dress, use the toilet and sleep, just name them. The situation has been bad from the beginning, but the last three years has been hell for me and the kids, my wife shouts and complain over everything, she cannot go one full day with Joy, there is always one thing that annoys her, she has to be right on all issues, The very sad part is that whenever she does anything wrong and I ask her, there will be trouble, she will refuse to speak with me for as long as she like. We can go for weeks without really speaking with each other she enjoys it, she does not just bother at all. Each time these things happen, I am always the one that try to initiate peace.
I will like to give only one example to summarise everything going on in my home: two years ago, she will just leave the home without telling me, I called her and told her it is not right, she replied me promptly that it is her life, I can’t control her, and it is my life as well, I should do whatever I like with it. well I thought it was anger, however, I never mind, anytime I want to leave, I make sure I tell her till one day she called me and tell me that even if I keep informing her about my movements, that she is not going to change, she is not under any obligation to tell me where she is going to. My people, for two years counting now, that is how we have been doing it, we just leave without telling each other. BUT OCCASSIONALLY FOR SOME REASONS I DON’T KNOW, SHE WILL JUST TELL ME SHE IS GOING OUT TO XYZ.
She always insults me and even the kids, for any mistake they make and she never fails to tell them that they did not inherit their bad character from her, that they inherited their character from me, she says this consistently even when I am there. There is no insult she has not poured on me, I have had to explain to her mother severally but the woman is simply helpless, her mother is dead scared of her. She exhibited some of these characters during our two years of courtship, but her mother and some brethren advised that she will change after marriage. She is always complaining of being tired, meanwhile, I do the dishes, do the vacuuming (sweeping), cleaning and other domestic duties, even when she cooks, I have to cut the ingredients and all that, in short she rarely cooks. We sleep in different rooms for 4 years counting now, occasionally I try to go to her room to initiate sex, but 99% of cases she chase me away, sometime she locks her door. She stopped me from sleeping in same room with her, when I asked why, shy did not say anything but after 4 months she said it was because I was snoring at night. Trust me anytime I am opportune to make love to her I make sure she climaxes…
It is so bad that even her sisters sometimes rebuke her in my presence, presently, she is not in talking terms with any of her siblings, and this has been on for the past three years. I am stuck with this lady, her mother cannot talk to her, no family member she respects. She is a loner. To the extent that she makes friends and they always break up, she has no real close friends, even if they are close, trust me, before 6 months the relationship has gone sour.
I'd advice you to use a password instead of an unlock pattern. If the situation remains the same, talk to your wife about it
kekakuz: Having a cool mother in-laws is something most people would like but its turning to something else for me. When ever she is around, she picks my phone and immediately enters my WhatsApp messages.at first I felt she make a mistake but last night makes it the 5th time it's happening.
yesterday, I slept off in the living room and by the time I woke around 12am, I discovered my phone was not by my side. I searched for it everywhere and when I still could not find it, I proceeded to my wife's room to pick my wife's phone and call my line, to my amazement, I saw my mother in-laws on my phone.
I was angry at first but I had to control myself i collected the phone and I discovered she was in my email and Facebook messaged and she even knows my unlock pattern.
am tired of this but I don't want to disrespect her. how do I deal with this.
It's not love, it's a minor disorder. Some of these girls' issues can be traced as far back as growing up from bad homes.Their parent(s) might have been abusive and they stuck with them because they had no choice, and so when that similar tends to reveal itself in a relationship, they almost take it as something normal. Others might be as a result of obsession (Not love, again) which makes them think they could never meet someone better. As much as this issue is largely about ladies, a little percentage of this happens to guys as well. Guys get emotionally abused as well (physically too, sometimes). This sometimes brings the worst out of some men because they think they will be called 'a girl' if they let their girlfriends or spouses push them around. I could go on and on but my good advice is; Men, we might be the head of the home or a relationship but always remember that the Woman is the brain inside that head. We are the Head, not Masters. We are the figure that represents the manpower of a family and a home, but when we disrespect and abuse females in any way, we are destroying ourselves. No woman should ever be maltreated and also, men shouldn't be either. If you are facing any issues in your relationship or family, please don't hesitate to hit me up. I'll be glad to help out in any ways I can.
Joel3: Understanding girls sometimes is difficult. especially when you have done everything to prove to them you are not gamed. But after sometime they still come back and you keep repeating the same.
What do girls want from a guy who maltreat them without any regards. and still they refuse to get sense. if its the sex why still they don't want to admit it it just for the sex but still carrying the same love come again.
Also I find it hard to believe a girl just enjoy sex only like guys without getting emotional to it. guys can enjoy just sex and move oh. But girls will involved emotion even when the guy does not love or give a dime.
Honestly, this is quite true for most ladies. It's also why most times men don't like marrying ladies richer than them and some of these ladies stay single for a very long time. Feminists would say the man is insecure, but a fact remains a fact. But when you understand that some people love each other truly and perhaps the traditional families in Nigeria for example still has plenty females that respect and love their husbands no matter what plus the husbands who love and respect their wives regardless of how old or how rich she is; you'd know that we are blessed in Nigeria. It's the western world that's trying to infuse senseless things into our youths these days
fineboynl: When a man is richer (by statics 80% of men) he don't make a big deal out it to take take of the family/relationship. However he sees it as his responsibility. He only gets reacted if the woman/wife is not respecting him or the woman/wife was forced on him.
But when a woman is richer (by statics 80 women) its hell for everybody in the family. Most especially the man. The woman sees it like she is doing him a favor. So with this she gets rude at any slight provocation. It always leads to disunity to every one in the house.
IratzsMicheal: Nigerian track and field athlete Blessing Okagbare-Ighoteguonor mistakenly lets her wig fall off during a long jump.
This happened during Oslo Diamond League on Thursday evening. She made sure she was behind the board, landed nicely and then... her wig fell off.
Not one to show what must have been considerable embarrassment at the unfortunate incident, the Nigerian simply waited for her mark to be measured (6.21m) before picking up the hairpiece and proceeding to slip it back into place.
Dangote has a hand in this to be very honest. Whenever he hops on a particular business, the FG bans other products from overseas then give him the power of monopoly. Corruption is too deep
froz: The Federal Government has reiterated that the ban place on the importation of packaged sugar four (4) years ago still stand and is in force.
Restating the commitment of government to ensure foreign packaged sugar loses its market chain in Nigeria, the Executive Secretary of National Sugar Development Council (NSDC), Latif Busari noted that the continued smuggling of the product into the country has posed has a hindrance to local producers who are struggling to have a grasp of the market.
Busari in a chat with the media in Abuja on Thursday lamented that, “there is no gain saying the fact that those who engage in illegal importation of this banned product are daily inflicting incalculable damage to local producers of the same commodity in the country. Government cannot afford to look the other way while economic saboteurs who come under the guise of businessmen continue to frustrate genuine efforts geared towards building our economy.”
“Regrettably, despite sustained efforts by the NSDC and other government agencies to protect the interest of local investors in the sugar industry by strictly enforcing the ban on importation of packaged sugar, we have discovered that different brands of this product still line the shelves of big retail outlets and wholesale stores across major cities in the country.”
He stated that, “since the ban was announced, Sugar Council has engaged the major importer of the St. Louis brand that even though Nigeria has been importing the brand for over 53 years, it is time it started its local production in the country if they wanted Nigerians to be consuming it. They sought for and procured an exemption for 18 months to enable them go into partnership with local producers. But two years after the expiration of the exemption, they did not set up any production facilities and while they claim to have stopped its importation we continue to see the brand of cube sugar in our markets.”
Busari noted that, “our position on this matter hasn’t changed; we want importers of banned package sugar to either produce in Nigeria or take them elsewhere. This position is in line with Section 9.3.1 (IV) of the Nigerian Sugar Master Plan (NSMP) as approved.”
“What we are saying is that importers of sugar in retail packs should invest in local packaging facilities within and bring their equipment to Nigeria to produce under the plan, and thereby also help to create jobs for our people” the ES stated.
It will be recall that the Federal Government had in 2013, as part of its efforts to grow the nation’s local sugar industry and attract investments into its downstream segment, banned the importation of packaged sugar into the country as had earlier done for retail packs of vegetable oil, noodle, cement amongst other products.
Busari reaffirmed that “cubing and packaging sugar is not rocket science and there is absolutely no reason why Nigerians with little capital cannot operate in this segment of the sugar industry”, noting that the aim of the banned policy is being defeated by the continued influx of imported package sugar, particularly by the St. Louis brand into Nigeria.
True talk. Plus there's this annoying notion that every guy cheats. I'm a guy and I've never cheated in my life whenever Im in a relationship. Two girls I've dated have cheated on me and I made a decision not to get serious with anyone anymore. All I wanna do is make money, adopt two beautiful boys and have fun.
What I’m going to share below will benefit singles the most but can easily be corroborated by married folks here. And also, this post is not written in list format. The reason is that I wanted to build the conversation properly. If you are okay with this, then read on.
If you take a close look at the relationships around, you will readily agree with me that at least, 60% of people who are in a relationship cheat in one way or the other. This practice is gaining more grounds with less offensive names like “side chicks” and “side guy.” What this means is that if the “main chick” or “main guy” misbehaves, such a person can easily be fired and the “side person” will be “promoted.” It sounds a bit funny, doesn’t it? Maybe it is, but this trend is widespread already.
Unfaithfulness may be accidental if it happens just one time. But should it occur more than once, it is no longer an accident’ it is a decision. A partner who cheats always has a reason for doing so. Apart from the reason which is selfishness, a cheating partner hopes you will be ridiculously stupid enough not to find out. You may, therefore, agree that cheating is not merely an act of disloyalty; it is equally an insult to your intelligence.
So, what is the major reason why you should not tolerate anyone who cheats during dating or courtship? Because whoever cheats has a high tendency of being unfaithful in marriage. Before you argue the previous statement, read on a bit. When anyone cheats on their partner during dating, it often starts as mere fun. Soon enough, this act of fun degenerates into a habit. Such a person would then find it difficult to be content with just one partner. And if there is anything you should know about habits, it is the trusted adage which says, “bad habits die hard.”
Now, someone asks, “what if you caught your partner who apologizes with deep regrets and tears?” Well, remember I said earlier that there is a difference between those who cheat once and those who do so repeatedly. I would say anybody could find themselves in the situation likely to result in infidelity. No one is perfect. Some uncontrollable circumstances may lead some into it while others would still be strong enough to say "no." Those who engaged in it once possibly made a mistake and learn from it to avoid a re-occurrence in future. It is a bit understandable, and such is forgivable. Remember, no one is perfect. We all have limits to the strength of our character and two persons do not have equal amount of strength.
But if that person has been in that act more than once, it was not an accident. Or better still, “it was not the work of the devil.” That partner is merely apologizing not for doing wrong but for being caught. It is better to end the relationship immediately. Anyone who is unfaithful in a relationship for a certain period is really smart. They may deploy such smartness to convincing (or confusing) you to stay and forgive, but it is better you forgive and leave. You need to remind yourself that you deserve better. Once again, someone may say they will quit such habits when they go into marriage. Don’t fall for that scam! Marriage will not take away the allure of cheating or disable the tendency to be unfaithful. In fact, marriage does not automatically make anyone a new creature. If you ever find out that your partner continually cheats, don’t be so blinded by love and hope they would change in future. No, they would not change. They would just become smarter in covering their tracks. Life is too short to be unhappy in marriage because if infidelity. Save yourself the pains to come and let them go. There are still faithful people out there who truly deserve you.
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You seem like a huge disappointment. I don't understand how you could say something like "Some men deserve it". Are you God to judge anyone else?
Xcelinteriors: Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child
Who are those people crucifying me for saying my mind? The truth is that I can't do it to my husband but seriously some men deserves it. Do you know how many men that keep their girlfriend outside, rented a very nice apartment for them and also paying them salary while the wife will be home eating rubbish food and wearing rags all in the name of marriage. SOME men are very wicked and deserve more than raising another Man's child with their hard earned money. Kill yourself if you don't like what I have said
PaperLace: This your write-up na for ajebo kids, I was expecting to see things like -Oloriburuku -Arindin -Ewu -Onye iberibe -I didn't kill my mother_you won't kill me -Before you kill me, I will make sure I kill you first. -I will disown you if you continue like this -Did the person that carry first have two heads?" -Good for nothing child.
This is the saddest thing I've read today. If they can please help us get her details to a humanitarian organization, it would be awesome. Let us open a gofundme account for her and help her out of this mess. 10 years is too young to be going through such trauma. If anyone has details of this, please forward it. Thank you.
Romance › Re: Is It Ethical For A Lady To Go On Dates While In Relationship? by iamHighDee(m): 8:17am On Jul 27, 2018
