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most times in relationship, talking is to doing as imagination is to reality

there are some things you dont talk about but do

you dont talk about how sweet the food you ate last week was. you GO out and prepare the food and eat


YOU DONT TALK ABOIT GOING ON VACATIONS. YOU GO ON VACATIONS

pansophist:
Cook together. Talk. Plan trips. Surprise gifts. Go for a walk together. Jog together. Cuddle. Watch a movie together. Plan life together. Philosophize together.

Be vulnerable together. Be each other rock in the storm and sun in the rain. Spend time with each other's family. Help each other grow spiritually. Be heartily naked.

And that's just to name a few.

A successful relationship is based on intangibles, immaterials, and essences. Material stuff and things of the flesh (eg sex) are just toppings, not the core.

If you and your partner cannot enjoy each other's company without spending one kobo, then both of you are business partners, not in a relationship.

damn

thanks!

got my inspiration from psychacks (Dr Orion Taraban)on youtube. i learnt from him and i had to get it out

Pukkalolo:
I just read your post, EVIL ISNT DARK.

I must confess, it's highly thought provoking. And a food for thought.

u dnt need to fap any more

https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction

ive been there. im out now. u can be free like me too.

PinkNature:
Hesitate to make a move to a girl?

I just fap my life out yesterday night.

go online and search for the worst of the worst songs without good flows and beats of not just seyi vibes n burnaboy song but others and listen to all of them. listen to them, sing out their lyrics and all and dance to the songs. those songs you hate


thats for songs
what about food? what kind of food do you dislike??

hansomb:
Almost all Burna boy songs, recently seyi vibes, recently TI Blaze songs and recently Wizkid song.

sweet!
love your take pukkalolo

women are emotional while men are logical

safe space for a LOGICAL man means vault-like encryptions, steel gates, barbed wire walls, 24/7 security personnels filled with ex-navy, automatic shoot on sight machine guns etcetera etcetera but for an EMOTIONAL woman it means being vulnerable with her weakness with the right man and trusting she wont be taken advantage of. thats safety to am emotional woman

and i tell people, evil isnt dark anymore.
evil is the new light thats why people are attracted to it now. darkness doesnt attract anybody by being darkness. it has tl borrow light for a while to draw people in before it reveals its true nature

heck! even wrotee a topic about it: EVIL ISNT DARK

dont go promising women marriage all in the name of sex. doohhhh!
dont go fuckin your fellow mans fiance because you feel you "gamed her right" lolzzzz

karma is real n so is reincarnation. what you do to others, good or bad, will be done back to you. but this is the bitter part of redpill thats rarely everrr talked about

every player has a code. even rom wills said he dont ever try bedding a drunk girl. lolzzz funny enough

to be good, you MUST have a capacity to do evil but choose not to do evil. same as someone being evil...they had the capacity to do good but chooose not to

Pukkalolo:
Apologies bro. I thought I've responded to this already.

I just noticed Rizzputin, adambeatz and SPAMBOX7 great inputs on the matter.

So, let me just add mine.

Let's begin.

You are already smashing her, so you are way ahead of the other guys who are yet to even get a hug from her.

She wants you to commit to her, but you're not doing that, so she wants to end whatever sexual relationship going on between you and her.

So if you want her to keep giving you the pussy, you should commit to her. That's the simple answer.

But if you don't sincerely want to commit her, then don't. Otherwise, that's deception and manipulation. I don't encourage manipulation, deception and games. Don't commit to a woman because of you want to be getting sex. That's weak. Commit to her because she adds value to your life.

Never make marriage promises to a woman because you want to keep sleeping with her. If you have no intention of committing to her or maybe marrying her, then for goodness sake, leave her alone and move on. It's wrong to mislead someone into something you have no true interest in. It's totally wrong and evil. Remember, Karma is real.

The above statement might not sit well with some guys here, but remember you have sisters and you'll have daughters too. I'm not tryna act like a saint here, but at least do on to others girls what you like other men to do on to your sisters and daughters.

Ok, let's begin properly.

So kobams, here's the thing...

She's trying to protect herself and her heart. That's what every girl does.
She said she wants to stop giving you the pussy because it feels "safer" for her.

Take notes of the word, "Safe"

Making a woman feel safe is the blueprint to getting her.

The nice guy doesn't make the woman feel safe because she assumes he have a hidden agenda or expectations of getting sex as reward.

The way I show my women love is totally genuine and even "tough"... I'm not expecting anything in return. I don't need sex from them.

Last week I was talking to one of my girls on phone, along the line, she told me she's feeling headache. I was like, "Ok." Then I immediately hang-up the phone.

30 minutes later, I appeared at her place with drugs in my hand for her headache. She was surprised. She was like "are you for real?" I looked into her eyes said, "I can't fuckin just sit around and watch you have headache."

That melted her heart.

That's the way I treat all ladies I've already slept with. I show them I genuinely care. This way they feel safe with me. Many times, the women I'm already getting sexual with are the ones always disturbing me for the sex again and again. Infact, I'm the one always pushing the sex away.

That's because I make them feel safe about getting sexual with me. I make them feel safe by showing genuine interest in them.

Sounds "basic"??

But that's how most legit Playboy actually show love to women... If you've hangout with Real Pimps, you'd understand what I'm talking about. This is why women easily fall in love with them.

Yes, you've already bleeped her. But you still need to make her feel safe about continuing fucking you.

you made me learn something

couldnt help but notice your moniker:
"wahaladondey"

thats like prophesing doom to yourself unno
your moniker is in the -ve
same as a whole lotta moniker i see here.

if your name doesnt resonate with positvity, you shouldnt feel bad if wahala keeps happening in your life unno
since its what you clearly want

yeah its an old moniker. so what?
scared to start afresh or wat

wahaladondey:
Okay, keep defending yourself, don't take corrections.

what are those songs without good flows and beats you know of

hansomb:
I listened to any kind of music. Provided it got some good flow and beats to match from amapiano, to afro jam, to country music to Indian son, Hausa song, Yoruba song, Igbos song, Arab song to Chinese song.

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nice take on submission and love

u need to understamd something though: jesus did.not die for anybodys sins. he came to teach aboit his fathers love and he was murdered. just like the parable of the vineyard tenants.
jesus was killed. everybodys deed (good or bad) is on their head.
karma is real and so is reincarnation.

blessings!

AlphaHakimi:
No man can perfectly explain submission more than a woman and no woman can perfectly explain love more than a man.

For instance, if you had asked the jews what love meant, they would have given you several definitions. But the one the one time Jesus christ was asked what love is, he demonstrated it on the cross of calvary. There are actually no words to describe what Christ did on Calvary.

In essence, submission to your husband is a gift which God has designed for only women to understand and express while love is a gift which God has designed for only men to understand and express.

For the sake of your question, submission simply means " AT ALL TIMES, MAY THE WILL/WISH OF MY HUSBAND BE DONE TO ME".

There are no exceptions to submission. You cannot submit today and not submit tomorrow or you cannot submit in this matter and not submit in the next matter. Submission is absolute and this is why Men must choose CAREFULLY whom to love and women must choose CAREFULLY whom to submit to.

Jesus christ did not say, I will only die for the Jews or for Israel, he died for everyone.

SHALOM

its quite easy to get the things you dont like by reversing the things you like

say the songs you listen to...

what kind of songs do you listen to for instance?

hansomb:
I hate it with my soul. The only thing I know I like and hate or as you put it I will enjoy but dislike is women/sex.

intelligent!

pansophist:
Obedience can be an expression of fear, submission is an expression of confidence.

Obedience is succumbing to superiority, submission is affirming competence.

The obedient have no choice but to be obidient, submission can should not to submit.

Obedience is punishable, submission is rewarded.

Obidience is enforced, submission has consented.

Obedience can't bargain, submission can.

Obedience negotiate from a position of weakness, submission negotitate from a position of strength.

If authority is a vehicle, then obidience is the chicken tied in the boot, while submission is the passenger beside the driver. The chicken (obedience) have no agency or say in the destination, route taken, speed limit, lunch breaks, etc.

But the passenger (submission) has a say in the general agreement of the trip, and the driver dare not do things unilaterally that deviates from the original agreement. If you paid to go to Abuja, driver must take you there even though he controls the steering.

A submitter can probably do what the authority is doing (eg a passenger can drive), but submitting is allowing you do it, since its convenient in this team work. Submission is not slavery, its not surbodination, and its not a position of helplessness.

Is it clear now?

i tried and ended my addiction finally

https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction

greypencils:
Addictions are difficult to give up. I have tried to and failed so I know what I'm talking about. The first thing is to take care of yourself. Your children will be fine as long as you are fine. It is better to be temporarily separated than for you to collapse and die because of stress. Tell your husband that you are not feeling ok. And that you need a change of environment. Take as long you feel it's necessary. If you guys are meant to remain together, he will come looking for you. If he doesn't, stay right where you are. Your children will be better for it.

https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction

end your addiction here like i did

nairalanda1:
Heheh...where to start

1.People lie. Especially during courtship. Am sure the joker was lying and hiding his gambling when they were dating. After...

2.Most addcits know how to hide their addiction

3.It is also VERY possible that the man was not a gambler at all when they were dating and when they married. After all, all it takes is to place the first bet....which he probably did after they married.

people do change. i had an addiction for years and look at me now. totally free

i wrote the steps i followed to my freedom from addiction here

https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction

BigIyanga:
Do what works best for your kids. A stark reminder that people dont change.. Gambling b4 marriage and still gambling

for those looking to end their addiction, this helped with mine

https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction