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Murda, Murda - if she's a teenager and under my roof somebody go DIE o, as for the guy he's definitely being castrated (if he doesn't die - and if not right den and there, then later) - b**ls on the guy, n stupid enough to get caught! As for the girl she's getting shipped to a convent, damn what her mother has to say about it.

@anothaviv - Omo i feel yo pain and understand the dilema. U've obviously invested a lot of time in this relationship, but at the same time u ave to understand that he's done it 3 times already (n probably still doing it). At some point u're going to ave to mak a stand, before u reach breaking point - there is no doubt that he luvs u, the question is can he be faithful, n are u prepared for the truthful answer?

@donenick - WHY, me i go skip all those classes.

Truth be told - Dat A*S and the sex so was wild and adventurous.

@sexlover - U're a bigger man than me o

One was too busy and kept advising her girls to go n date him, the guy was tormented and confided in u, u advised him of an obvious options and he jumps to it (umh!), he now dates the friend and the 1st girl is now jealous and wants him bk. Both ladies know about eachother and neither is packing their bags and leaving, this throws the emotion on his sleave guy into confusion.
- Umh sorry o, can't relate this is a dream come true for most men, next time u see yo friend check if him gt balls, then advise him to go date another one.

Yes it does - out of sight, out of mind! No longtins

chiegemba:
@ IBDat u can't tell that the girl would never change! there is something like 2nd chance, and besides u maybe the girl needs some form of "help" u really can't tell.

Where is the period of remorse, she's going off to see other guys already, knowing full well her partner doesn't like it.
Which kind help does she need? Unless she is a self confessed nympho - no offense my guy.
The next step for her is to flip it around and arguements arise from you not trusting her with/around other guys. Please don't be mumu and swallow that BS otherwise your ship has sunk.

@Chiegemba - assuming the girl will NEVER change, how long would u say he should wait around b4 he concludes he can't take anymore?
Personally i don't like to make assumptions and will give the benefit of the doubt, but i would also judge you by your actions. The girl had already cheated, apologised, i will never do it again, blah blah - the next day she is again hanging out with men (if they are news or the same one - we don't know). Sorry but this doesn't strike me as someone who is indeed remorseful, it WILL happen again and this time she will NOT tell him.

mekoyo:
Reading romance novels has some effetcs on nigerian girls.
They tend to practice what they read in these novels.

the question is what do we do about this?

Although some of them has good effects but the others,

Purely based on this response - my point would be to unite as men and stamp out such stupidity. Why should we have to change and act differently just because someone picked up a book.

Truth be told, they are not reading anything new that hasn't been said and done before. If you think back in the days of our parents that was the norm (most even practised no sex b4 marriage). It's a challenge - rise up to it and proof yourself worthy.

Rhodalyn:
I think that happens when U Really love that person your Seeing. I did da Same thang and i had to tell him Cuz i just Couldnt bare the thought Of him finding Out 8ter. I Still kept On doing it Cuz i Couldnt help it! Of Course i aint going to tell him bout that, thats ma game and Only mine! Bleep

Told u (she will not tell u again!) My guy go shine yo eye instead of professing luv, if u stay u 2 better get in the game too!

Nah Shakespeare - bush man!

Here u go Harvard:
Come on, men! That's the way to do it! Quickly! Quickly! Take in the upper sail. Listen to the master's orders. —Blow your heart out, storm! So long as we have enough room to avoid running aground!

@naggi_b - seriously what contributions are u expecting from us? Okay she is a liar we now know that u know that! Are u trying to justify u still being with her, if so there is a Yoruba sayin that goes like this 'Whomever lies, will steal'. That is not the right foundations to base a serious lon-term relationship on. Shine yo eye n get right!

moondust:
Madam na wa o! u said somewhere that u just cut d long story short, thank god we didnt get the full story, them 4 need 2 expand internet for you

Stop it!!!tears in my eyes can't hold it back.

My story is that we were both at fault, it wasn't going anywhere as i sure as hell was not going to marry her, she knew that, by the last few/6 months to end neither of us was faithful, we went on holiday to the US for 3 weeks, flew back and i called it quits at the airport.

@Viee - Fortunately so. soz

@Dirax - Regarding your trip to Ghana the prevailing point here is that from get-go you both knew you were on a short timescale. The question is did a relationship develop or was it began and concluded/existing as purely friendship?

Regarding the proven things the girls want - again this can defer from person to person, but there are general things that we all know to be:
- Someone to be truthful and honest
- spend time
- make them laugh
- a confidant and friend
- someone that listens and pays attention
the list goes on and on and in no particular order, as long as you are both genuine with your feelings towards each-other the rest is history, but the hardest is getting through that initail barrier and only you can find out how to do that, some do it with looks, money, car, talk etc play on yo strengths.

@ Dirax - To an extent i can seen where you are coming from, but you're wrong thinking it's only Nigerian girls. Fact is any respectable girl nowadays would want to stall u (even if it's on purpose) as she would not want to rush into anything that had not been proven.
You also need to practise that patience, as they say 'the chasing game is the best part', don't take it negatively but think of it as your opportunity to sweep her off her feet, because when she falls its for the long-term.

What he's working 24hrs a day? We are just talking about a phone call! Not visits or flights.

Well even with work you would always welcome that little distraction. If he doesn't call consider these options:
1 - His he someone that doesn't like talking much? my brother is like that and so the family makes that excuse for him.
2 - Do you argue everytime you speak? If so might be a reason for his hesitation.
3 - Even if he has other girls on the side, he would still call you to at least keep you sweet (mind state of a player) unless of course you are on the way out.
Just some considerations,

Dirax:
@IBdat : come out plain and say your mind. u can only get better 4 that. u only let a cockroach out of d bag and not a cat.

I was referring to my statement about SWEET T's pic. Pls i beg upload the guy's pic mak i green wit envy.

So u hav a digital camera all along b4 u did urslf an injustice by uploading that pic, my guy u shld learn to put yo best foot forward!

LondonCool:
I use to live opposite the Prince of Wales Club off Old Kent Road. Its a nice joint to pick up lots of unattached Black babes without much hassles. The girls do always outnumber the guys there.

I can't drop my name here

I agree, no longtins - although the last time i was there a fight broke out between these three groups of girls - funny as hell.

I beg mak u clarify which one u r after girls, ladies and/or boys or men?
- not that i am interested just confused

@presidonsi - nah wah 4u o, "serious, faithfulness"? while u're posing by yo master's car - u get burn't sumtin cronic! ole

@dakitten - if ya raised up u'll see us all around ya!

Shocking!!!

@masterpwar - they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, my guy u get 2 options:
1 - Drop yo standards
2 - Prepare yoslf for a solo life
Because even branching out of Lagos no go help your matter.

@sin - unfortunaely i have to agree with da ladies on this one.
London is full of Naija ladies very much interested in Naija men, if u live in London there is no need to relocate - just broaden your network area N/E/W/S and even Greater London.

goddas:
I have shaved before and promised myself never to do it again d/t the discomfort i had to endure when the hair was growing back. I prefer to keep it trimmed and clean.

See - if only u had someone scratch that itch for u, it would ave been heavenly.