₦airaland Forum

optionalY09:
What concerns EU with Africa are we still slave. If biafra want to be slave they can sign off their states

IconicR:
Maybe yahoo boys

seunmsg:
30k per month is 360k annually. You belong to the poverty stricken category. You should apply for Tinubu’s monthly 8k. No offense, please.

adedola5:
Yes I can't sleep and I have heart palpitations. It makes me worry alot

whizzler:
Nigeria ! New governments trying to paint the preceding one as bad at all cost. When did the health commissioner become a structural engineer to determine the structural fitness of the facility? Let us leave politics of bitterness biko

Putinofrussia:
Continue to deceive yourself.
SW has the highest SMEs.
The SW has the highest number of middle class in Africa.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

jmoore:
You didn't state how many kwh units you bought.
7,000 naira worth of electricity won't finish quickly with those appliances you listed. Someone is probably tapping electricity from your apartment/meter.

Higherthan:
Nice one , but wait, children of perdition will still come and wailing no matter what.

They just detest good things, while their region ion fire 🔥.

samuelson06:
Earlier today, I read a story about a young man whose dad sold his gallons of palm oil to solve some problems in the family. I was sort of smiling within me because his story reminded me about how my dad reacted when my eldest sister spent the money he saved with her for my school fees.

On the thread, I could read some comments attacking the guy because to them he's a bad son. Meanwhile, if the table should turn, I don't think same dad would be a good dad. The fact is that poverty is a very big enemy. One that every young man should defeat before building a family. It has nothing to do with same blood or outsiders. It'll make enemies out of you guys.

Once poverty establishes itself in the family, everyone is on their own; every member of the family fights to deliver themselves first. And for the guy whose story hits the front page, I don't really blame him about the way he felt with his people selling his palm oil. Poverty kills bond, regardless of how the other person relates to you. Sometimes, you can even choose to bond more with outsiders because you feel they can help you or you can work out something meaningful with them.

Now, back to my story and why I said I don't really blame that guy. I was a teenager then and staying with my sister who had brought me to the city. Probably, my father had abandoned me to her and wasn't ready to contribute to my school fees or upkeep again. So, my sister was paying my fees in the university but it was tough for her that year. She was also giving me transport to&fro school everyday, paying course registrations, buying textbooks, etc., but she wasn't doing too well either. Meanwhile, my dad had given her money to save for him. He had sold his palm oil which he stored in drums. Earlier, my sister had talked to him about my fees and he said there was no money. Every weekend, I'd go to the village to help him but the man wasn't considering that. Even the palm oil that he claimed was all his,' I entered the bush with him to harvest them. I worked with him to processed and take them to faraway mill even while I wasn't there with him again.

Finally, my sister took 40k from his money without telling him and gave to me to settle my fees. Later, she told him about it and the man was mad at my sister. For a long time, he was very angry, but my sister wasn't having his time or planning to refund him. She only told him, "I took your money to pay your son's school fees and you can ask him how much I gave to him." Man was angry but we all ignored him, afterall, he' wasn't even staying with us in the city. Probably, he moved on from the grudge after a long time.

Looking back today, I can say my sister did far more than my parents to raise me. She would complain when I ask for money, but eventually she'll help me to sort myself. In my 300L, I got a job and left her. Since I've been on my own. God bless her for me.

Why am telling my story? It's easy to blame that guy for being a bad son, but do you think his dad would sell his stuff to help him? I doubt.

Don't mind these African fathers, especially when poverty sets in. They don't fu*kin' care. Sometimes, they try to sell the little asset of the family and tell you it's their own. Only the moms try to help but many times, they can't because they don't have, but they show concern better than the man.

To end my story, I'll advise every young man to perish the idea of raising a family until they have defeated poverty. Even if you have to hit 40 before settling down, bear with yourself. I keep telling people that I don't see anything wrong with a dad being 70 and the child is 30. Even a 20 yo can comfortably take care of themselves with the right parenting. On the flip side, I don't know what's wrong with girls of these days. They just believe in a man foolishly thinking that one day a certain miracle will happen and they'll be rich. If I were a woman, I won't marry any struggling man, especially the type that's not ambitious. Girls, please, learn to insist on contraceptive during sex. No be only una lovemaking or fu*k dey sweet. Stop swelling the poverty index of Nigeria. You'll be shocked that 80% family problems is because of poverty.

A poor girl + a poor man is a very deadly combo. Your guys life would be a waste after marriage. Your poverty status will swell up. Even your children may turn out to be a waste. Poverty would scatter the family and make everyone to stay on their own.

Beware!

Cooly100:
Most of those guys have not left their villages in places like these...so they trust all their old folks who told them lies since 1970.

Donkogbe:
I have been married for 14 YEARS and 'we' have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me.

5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road.
I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died. I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children.

I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident.
In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process.

I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me.

6 years into our marriage, my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child.
To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine.

I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.
My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don't know.

I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about the situation.
I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.

If you don't have any meaningful things to say, please don't comment

MS247:



Jews achieve nothing but genocide

Japanese invented more than Chinese even with the population

SouthEast Nigeria is in an underdeveloped state


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Sharpsharp00123:
many Nigerians want to live above their means n they don’t want to cut their coat according to their size

I have stopped discussing money issue here cos I see majority of them as unreasonable

How can a bachelor tell us he’s earning 450k per month n it’s not enough n some foolish people will start blaming d economy

Even if u are living in v.I as a bachelor earning 450k per month u should b able to live reasonably

Another mugu posted it here that he’s earning 250k n has 2 kids n his kids drank garri to bed

It’s just annoying cos I know people who are earning 150k with family n they are fine

Even an okada man with 4 children n a wife have built house n he’s okay but many people here will make 500k look like 5 naira

Prexy:
Pls an advise, u travelled for some months last year for business, spent two months, came back to discover that my pastor whom I trust so dearly infact I call him my daddy, was capture on my hidden camera sleeping with my wife, when I confronted my wife she confessed, now what should I do? As am so shocked at the betrayal of trust from them both, pls am confused.

SpecialAdviser:
Give us from which location these street kids are from. If South East make the list, let me break my legs.

It will favour me and my family mo.rons need to learn.

Rootprof:
Things are harder presently, many students now skips school, lectures and teachers not punctual, few worshippers, many cars parked, many selling their properties, girls now offer their body for less, guys do unimaginable things to get money both legal and illegal. But I still don't understand something about the price of fuel ( before it was 215 now 515 was government subsidizing more than 60 percent before? Cos 515-215 is 300.

Sprints3:
Sporty no time to waste. Which business dey yield return for this country

Hamachi:
What's the %

Tekahashi:
thank you sir, I replay the incident in my head wondering if given the opportunity I would had acted any differently but truth is I don't think I might have, so I'm thinking of quitting it, I don't like anything that would endanger my life in a quest to look for money

Hamachi:
Which of the mutual funds?

KingintheNorth:
Guys I'm asking for a friend , if you are based abroad and earn 2.5 million naira after tax, what would you invest in Nigeria??