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TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

Are u for real ..this is big traash

Oluwasaeon:
Just 3 years ? And you can't tell her what you feel if you are really sure about it ?
Bro, my ex was 11 years older than me

Linus Mba

katlord:
Op go and work! Women deserved to be taken care of young and old. If not, why do men send cash to their young sis and old mothers? Simply settle down if you don't want to throw your money everywhere

this is big trash!!!

Womanofchange:
When a man is truly interested in you, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue women. Yes, you can pursue a man if you want to but in most cases that's just an obvious sign that he's not into you. It's not natural for a man to sit back and let the woman do all the work. For a man who claims to like you to sit back and allow you to do all the calling, texting, dating arrangements, talks about the future etc, it's pretty obvious where you stand in that man's life. When a man really wants you, you won't have to chase after him like he's some celebrity who barely has time for a fan. You will be his priority.

..how this one take concern Buhari

Amuocha:
Buhari sef

chenzen:
define Adult?

biologically, one who has reaches sexual maturity

...potential bad guy

chenzen:
what does an 18,19,20 or 21 yrs old know about sex, relationship or marriage... before we say Jack Robinson u ll start introducing ur díck into her naive vagina... all in the name of love, u should be helping her find her feet... most girls in their teen or early 20's are yet to discover themselves or their purpose in life... majority of them have become victims of peer pressures cos guys like you wouldnt let them focus or help them achieve targeted goals.


period!!!

This is big trash bro...an 18 year old girl is an adult

AntiMCU:
Apologies, didn't see that part.

However I still insist you were scammed.

No time to go into details.

HRHQueenPhil:
for someone like me fully led by the HOLY SPIRIT, i can assure that
1. that man will call u everyday even its just 2 hear ur voice
2. he will introduce u 2 his family, friends and refer u 2 pple as wife2be
3. he always want to hold ur hand in public and stay near u so even the blind will know ua re a couple
4. he begins 2 ask or seek ur opinions and see ur reactions to issues relating to marriage
5. he will try 2 have sex with u, but if he sees u are a good geh, he wont force. the disciplined ones wont ask at all

This is arrant nonsense

RosaBerry:
Asking for a brother who has really tried all he could to get over a relationship of 4years.

How is the best way to deal with a break up.



Lol I didn't even know that boys can cry. Chai

By becoming a real man

Kingsley10000:
I'm thankful to the Almighty for Naira Marley.
Dude has subliminally made Naija folks feel less
hypocritical about masturbation.
I'd say it and say it again,
Masturbation is a gift, if you aren't using
it....you're worse than the biblical servant who
buried his talents.


Have you ever sat back and imagined the number
of unwanted pregnancies, STIs, rapes, forced
marriages, heartbreaks, financial losses that could
be prevented only if folks masturbated more?
There woulda been no prostittutes either.

I know this, I am always awed by its realization.
That's why I never fail to reach out my hands and
grab my preek as a sign of appreciation to the
most high.

Our God makes all things perfect, but his people
perish for lack of knowledge.

So masturbation is not a sin?

DonEd:
Guys, let's face it.

The guy no get the cash to spend. Forget all this noise.

You asked a girl out on a date, u expect her to drink water because she is modest? And worse off, u are planning to leave her there?

Abeg, grow up joor. Stop thinking like a poor man.

I really don't agree with this.. All these girls need to start being responsible, mature and classic.

futurist369:
Yes, you read that right;a message to all stupid men on nairaland.
This message is going to be focused on two groups of men:
1.the ones that have been through previous heart breaks, and decided not to love anymore but just fvck;
2. the ones that constantly chant "make money and girls will rush you".
so lets begin.
number one men
Due to their previous relationships, this set of men has decided, or should i rather say link up in their minds that relationships equals pain, and made up their minds never to love again.The bitter truth no one has ever told this set of men is that they are living in pain.Yes, they're in pain and they dont fvcking know..Lemme give a case scenerio of this.
Lets say a man meets a lady he eventually falls in love with, but for other reasons best known to them, the relationship failed..the man is in serious pain, in a serious limiting state, and his brain says:" hey, whats unique about this relationship"?
lets say trust was the unique thing common in this relationship, and the lady breaks the trust of that particular individual, then the man brain links trust as the cause of the failure of the relationship...So the man sets out to never again trust any lady anymore, any subsequent relationships he enters again, will be devoid of trust and it becomes so obvious.....dont you know some men here that fits this descriptions?
how about love?what if there was strong feelings of love in the relationship, and it fails...the same
procedure happens again, and the man links love to pain, and resolves never to love any woman again..havent you seen those type of men here ladies?they say:"all i wany is to fvck without emotions attached"..and other sort of trash.....the moniker cosmicphoenix is a member of this group of men.......so any relationship the man enters, will also be devoid of love.....
i will be back to modify this post, because if i type all what's here, the lazy ones here wont be able to read...
to be continued.........

This is 'nonsense' in pure, undiluted form

futurist369:
Yes, you read that right;a message to all stupid men on nairaland.
This message is going to be focused on two groups of men:
1.the ones that have been through previous heart breaks, and decided not to love anymore but just fvck;
2. the ones that constantly chant "make money and girls will rush you".
so lets begin.
number one men
Due to their previous relationships, this set of men has decided, or should i rather say link up in their minds that relationships equals pain, and made up their minds never to love again.The bitter truth no one has ever told this set of men is that they are living in pain.Yes, they're in pain and they dont fvcking know..Lemme give a case scenerio of this.
Lets say a man meets a lady he eventually falls in love with, but for other reasons best known to them, the relationship failed..the man is in serious pain, in a serious limiting state, and his brain says:" hey, whats unique about this relationship"?
lets say trust was the unique thing common in this relationship, and the lady breaks the trust of that particular individual, then the man brain links trust as the cause of the failure of the relationship...So the man sets out to never again trust any lady anymore, any subsequent relationships he enters again, will be devoid of trust and it becomes so obvious.....dont you know some men here that fits this descriptions?
how about love?what if there was strong feelings of love in the relationship, and it fails...the same
procedure happens again, and the man links love to pain, and resolves never to love any woman again..havent you seen those type of men here ladies?they say:"all i wany is to fvck without emotions attached"..and other sort of trash.....the moniker cosmicphoenix is a member of this group of men.......so any relationship the man enters, will also be devoid of love.....
i will be back to modify this post, because if i type all what's here, the lazy ones here wont be able to read...
to be continued.........

Summarize your point in one sentence

carter009:
So many people are in love but not together, and so many are together, but not in love.

Trash

Jochabed:
i am a Christian and I am unapologetic about it. God says in his word, that he hates fornication but it's obvious that most people have engaged in the act before. I just need your honest answer, why do you knowingly go against God's commandment by having sex when your not married. I'm not gonna judge you, I just want your honest answer. Or are you like Paul in the bible who doesn't want to do it, but you just find your self doing it?

Because it's sweet

mmadu5:
OK so i met this girl 3 days ago today we went out for a date we got to the place she started saying she's feeling hungry and want to order food I told her to hold on a bit I'm thinking of leaving her here and leave I hate this kind of rubbish . why can't these girls respect their self for once . must you girls order food every time you go out with a guy I need advice on what to do now cos I can't spend 1800 for Food on this girl just like that

Very hungry �

iamgprince:
Hello pals please i am writing this here just for you guys to suggest a non bleaching cream and cheap one at that that bring out ones true color or maintain ones color

Egg yolk if u want a brown skin...thank me later

Lonestar124:
Mix your cocobutter cream with car brake fluid.

emmanj:
[b][/b]i shy and don't know how approach girls i crush on. What should i do

Ahh!! ...in this time and age where we have great guys like Ubunja, Harddon and Ilegend...i guess you're new here...

Amatarasha:
He wishes and dream of dating me Nna ..dont mind him

I'd like to think of this as your wish

Dessy96:
Nothing wrong with that... If u know you like the person and u want to Bleep the person u Bleep.... I'm a man and I'll tell you the truth... Whether first day or 2years after the sex is not really a factor.... If a girl is a shitty person or doesn't have good character whether she holds out the sex for 10yrs once he gets it he'll move... But if the girl is woman of value whether first day or last day he won't want to loose her..... What I'm saying sha is sex on the first or last date isn't really a factor.. What matters is how the lady is like her energy, her ambition, intelligence etc

Well, i for one, do not think that a woman of value would stoop so low to have sex on the first date

Small boobs
Small head
Pointed nose
Flat behind

mmadu5:
Guys i need your help this evening one of my beautiful cousin came by we all sat and watch a movie one thing led to another she started touching my dick b4 i know what is happening she already had it in her mouth i couldnt stop her my brains got locked out briefly I busted in 5 mins in her mouth and she swallowed it she said she loves it and it Makes a woman's body look fresh . My main worry now is will she get pregnant .?
Thanks

Yes, she'd be pregnant with a little bit of your stupidity contained in your infected joystick milk

I just realized that marriage comes with more cons than pros.

lefulefu:
but u certainly cant expect a girl a dude hooked up with from codedrunz.com or from inmessage to be a good girl. Some guys will know fully well that d girl they eyeing is a runzgirl but wil still go ahead to start a relationship wit her arguing that they will change her.its like someone dating cossy orjiorkor and expecting her to be faithful to him.

True talk bro!!!!

I'm actually a freshman...and my number is 09014181407..thanks...

Please, someone should add me to the whatsapp fresher's page if there is one..im actually new here