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My online family, a wonderful day to you all. I feel so blessed and grateful for all the advice, knowledge, support and help i get from this platform directly and indirectly. My family ( wife and 3 kids) arrived safely to join me in the UK 2 weeks ago, and little by little, we have been acclimatizing and trying to settle down as a family. I have been here since October 2021, but based in Coventry as I am doing my Msc in Coventry University. But I rented a place in Birmingham as I preferred to settle there and my extended family (2 brothers) also live there. The whole process of 'japaing' with the entire family, the mental, physical, emotional and financial stress will be story for another day. This post is to give accolades to all the elders and everyone who regularly give feedback, responses and information on this thread, which i believe might just be the last genuinely world-class level of goodness and humanity left for nigerians to nigerians who despite being strangers are so good and kind to each other. May God continually bless you on here. There are too many people to mention here who have been towering icons of knowledge and help, to both me and hundreds, requiring information for life changing decision, God will continuously richly bless and keep you and your families. From my experience, and following the give back culture of the elders of this thread, these a a few of what i learnt that might help other people as well; 1. If a family plans to relocate, It helps a great deal if the husband or wife comes alone first, to try to settle things down in terms of accommodation especially, and other arrangements especially if 2 or more kids are involved. I know this isn't possible for all families, but from my personal experience it helps sooo much especially in terms of cutting down initial expenses and ensuring the best decisions are taking without too much pressure.....e.g kids in winter cold..arrrgh. 2. Try as much as possible that you have family or very close friends in your final destination town. The help of people already settled in a place can be invaluable in terms of all the help they can give. I can testify to this. My brothers saved me over and over, from helping me pick up household items that i bought, to helping me install beds and carry couches, standing as rent guarantor, to doing grocery shopping and helping me set up the house before my family arrived. As much as possible, base decisions on where you have a deep prior relationship, it is very very hard when you do not know anybody. 3. The couple should endeavor to save as much as possible, in terms of the partner in UK as well as the one back in Nigeria. Plans for selling properties and possessions should start early enough and be organized for maximum returns. We started a month early, itemized all the things we would sale in a excel table with predicted prices and actual prices to guide us. You will be surprised how much can be done with Jiji website as well as a page called Declutter, as long as you know how to navigate these platforms. Try to avoid selling or listing things to family and friends, you won't get good prices but rather gift them what you can spare and use social media to sell your stuff. 4. Use scale at home to weigh your luggage before going to the airport to avoid some boxes being rejected due to overload. 5. Utilize all the free websites available in UK and ebay used sections when you arrive. You will be amazed the good deals on offer if you are patient and know just where to look. These are all i can quickly remember for now. I am fully settled now, done inspection for schools for my barely 6 year old(in 2 weeks) who will join Year1 in April for their third term, and my 3 year old who will be in nursery. We are trying to get a healthcare job for my wife while I try to round up my Msc program and and simultaneously look for a sponsored job ( I am construction project management in case anyone can refer...Lol), so I am just looking forward to the next chapter in my family's life. Thank you all so much, sorry for the long long post, I am just so grateful to God and all of you...especially those that constantly responded to all my constant questions and inquiries here even when searching for accommodation etc. Lol. Long live this thread. |
Thanks so much Bro. jesmond3945: |
Thank you Bro rayralph: |
Good evening guys, this thread has been such a great source of information and blessing to me and my family. My wife and kids visas are out as dependents on my student visa, but on my wife's visa is written restricted work. Does this mean she can't work full time?? @TheGuyFromHR @Lexusgs430 |
Hello guys, can you transfer money from your dorm account in example first bank to a another dorm or naira account in another bank in Nigeria? Also, can you withdraw from the dorm account through an ATM here in UK or its only payment you can use the card to make |
Lol....Na wa oh. I understand sha. But do you have a favorite?? Lexusgs430: |
Hello Guys, considering the rising energy costs generally across all providers, I know there would really not be any clear standouts, but who would you recommend as having the best rates for electricity and gas? I am yet to move into my own place and using the comparism website ended up confusing me so much. All pointers will be truly appreciated. |
This is also the case now in Nigeria as mine had to obtain their NINs before their passports could be obtained. But I am not sure why the high cost of 40 pounds for registration. You might want to really look into that. Endlessgrace: |
Thanks my Oga, this certainly clears it up. I really appreciate your direct response. TheGuyFromHR: |
Madam, please your reply is still not clear on your status oh...so that proper protocols can be adequately maintained. ![]() I will be waiting for your response though. My friend said that he agreed with the lady because of a rule that you must apply for any visa change with 6 months remaining on your current visa I.e student visa dependent to PSW dependent. My own question to him was now that how does the 6 months rule now apply to the main student himself if he needs to finish his one year program and apply for the post study visa at the end of it which will definitely be at the end of his student visa as well. The whole thing is just confusing especially as there is no definite statement on these requirements on any official website. @dubaiprince @chreze @justwise Aprokodaughter: |
Aprokodaughter:I don't understand Madam. Se i saw above where they said you are very happily married. I have even been picturing a UK topshot madam with 3 kids in primary school. Lol.Regards the topic, I couldn't find any reference to 6 months on any government site, but because there was no other time statement, my friend who is very fearful and cautious said he prefers to err on the side of caution. |
Thanks. My friend was so sure and confident and had already started making very hasty and drastic moves based on this belief...selling properties and all sorts just to fast track bringing his family over. Na wa oh!!! Sheer damage false or incomplete information can actually cause. This is the link he believed https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHTvXVPVVpY&t=292s rayralph: |
Good Evening Everyone, hope we are all having a wonderful day. A friend just told me something that I have not been able to confirm officially anywhere and i would appreciate clarity. While I am well aware that your family must be in UK to be eligible to apply for the post study visa route, He said that they must be residing in the UK not less than 6 MONTHS to the planned date of application and sent some youtube videos to back it up. I haven't seen anything like that in the government sites concerning durations and so I decided to bring it here for more information. How long is officially required as stay period before application? |
Much appreciated Bro!!! Thanks dubaiprince: |
Thank you AirBay: |
Thanks Bro. I think Erdington is also close to Kingstanding as well. I will take a close look at it definitely. Thanks captainhoo: |
Thanks Bro. I have seen here something concerning the energy rating as A to D was considered good, so that was what I was a bit vague about. Also the 2 older kids will be 3 and 6 by April, will they both have to wait till September to get into school or is there any kind of unofficial school program for such kids that just came into the country. I have heard a lot of good things about catholic schools as well and will check them out based on your recommendations. dubaiprince: |
@ TheGuyFromHR @Chreze @OSCARTM @dubaiprince Please just reposting this here more responses to help me take a decision please. Hi guys, Happy New Year to you all. My spouse and 3 kids are coming to join me in a couple of months and I would deeply appreciate recommendations for decent and affordable areas to get accommodation in Birmingham. Someone told me of King standing and advised that I should go for areas like that as my budget is around £600-£650 for a 2 bedroom. Also really good Christian based primary schools will be a great attraction for me, I get that most of the schools are great and so I am just asking for personal reviews or recommendations based on individual experiences for what I should look out for when narrowing down my choices both for the accommodation and the school. |
Hi guys, Happy New Year to you all. My spouse and 3 kids are coming to join me in a couple of months and I would deeply appreciate recommendations for decent and affordable areas to get accommodation in Birmingham. Someone told me of King standing and advised that I should go for areas like that as my budget is around £600-£650 for a 2 bedroom. Also really good Christian based primary schools will be a great attraction for me, I get that most of the schools are great and so I am just asking for personal reviews or recommendations based on individual experiences for what I should look out for when narrowing down my choices both for the accommodation and the school. |
jesmond3945:As other people have said, I would advice you seriously to just focus on yourself and completely ignore external comments or opinions. They NEVER matter in the long run. |
TheGuyFromHR:This is my view as well. Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy. |
Raalsalghul:All this have to be part of the worst case scenario planning of the couple even before they apply for the student visa. Not when they arrive in UK which will increase the chances of failure. |
EmmyKing86:I think you are right about the increased number of matured people trying to emigrate from Nigeria case in point myself. So I will attempt to address your very candid observations from my own situation. Due to the Covid situation of 2020, as well as the sheer number and strict requirements concerning approval, Canadian PR was always a tall order for me and I am sure a lot of people, so when I made up my mind to move I needed a situation where I could have 90% plus assurance of visa application success i.e. UK student visa. All the points you made about the financial requirements are extremely spot on, in fact I will go on to add another point which I am not sure many people are aware off, and i only came to know a couple of weeks ago, which is that if you intend to apply for post study, and you came alone like me, your spouse and kids must be in UK 6 months to the time of application for them to benefit as you won't be able to bring them over later unlike the student visa scenario. However, I must remind you that you failed to put into context the current situation in Nigeria. Not only are things not how they were in the 90s/00s, they are not even how they were 2012 -2014. What I mean by this is that if you are looking at the overall picture like me with 3 kids aged 5,3 and 7 months living in Abuja, most of the success indicators of the middle class in terms of land acquisition, building, good schools, holidays etc are gradually moving out of reach year by year. Primary education is the foundation of the child and yet you have to pay anything between 50 -250k per term per child for an standard and acceptable school exclusive of those upper class brands. What now happens at secondary school level which is just 6 years away despite the fact they are not even on the same planet with what the western world can offer? Buying of lands and building of houses are no longer the sensible investments they once was, Nigerian insane inflation has ensured that. I am in that industry and I can guarantee you that, except you can afford going into the proper real estate sector which we all know what that means financially. I think the main issue is the fact that most people coming out do not plan meticulously, have a complete picture of how both spouses will complement each other through out the first year in terms of monthly expenses and inflow, try and get extra funds to bring to UK to act as buffer/safety net even while studying/working, understand and accept how tough the first few months will be even before stepping foot in UK, target and plan for a white collar job/profession even if for the first year they are doing warehouse or whatever, try to always budget for every target properly using excel or simply writing each line item down in a specific book - don't leave anything to chance or memory. I got here in October, and I get the fear of not getting a sponsored job in my field here especially as i left a good job back home, but I just try to compare the next 5 years here or in Nigeria with the spread benefits on my family and not just me, and i have to say that the only reason Nigeria is even in the conversation is because I do not have a job here yet. I feel that folks with families that want to emigrate should treat it like how they approached marriage i.e. there is a level of maturity required that would ensure that just making more money here than Nigeria or just for vanity purposes is not the sole main reason why you would take such a huge step. This would ensure a level of wisdom and patience to approach all the endless trials you would face as I having been facing myself as well. Lol. Let me stop for now. |
Afmaag123:Was a reason given for her case or how did she go about it? or is it because her course is for a year and a half. I though MSc programs in UK were all one year. |
cerezo:Thanks Bro. If I get you clear, the rates provided by Oanda gives an idea of how much should be in my account as Proof of Funds for my family which is around £1/N551 today right ? While I can just pay straight for the Visa and IHS fees straight from my Dorm account regardless of how i funded it. |
dubaiprince:Right. Mine is Tier 4 though i.e Student Visa. Maybe that is the reason why the set rates are £470 for everyone and while there was no visible option for discount. Even for PoF it is shown as £680 for 9 months for each person still not stating any discrepancy between adult or infant. What is the safest conversion rates to use for these official payments as i am very sure it cant be black market rate of £1/N750 right? |
dubaiprince:Oh really. That's really good to know. On the official website, it wasnt clear at all because it just stated £470 as the blanket rate for the Health surcharge per person. Was that the same amount that was discounted for you at 25%? |
Thanks Bro the clarification. Greatly appreciated. So in essence you are saying the chances of me getting a construction sponsored job before September is very low right?? Also is it possible for my wife to get a care job in a service home when she arrives. TheGuyFromHR: |
@justwise @TheGuyFromHR @fatima04 Please I posted this earlier Hello Guys, this is my first post on this thread even though i have been following for some weeks now and I have to say it has been very wonderful seeing all the invaluable contributions made here for our benefit. Kudos to you all. I am currently doing my Msc in Construction Project and Cost Management in Coventry University and I got here in October. I am hoping to bring my wife and 3 kids over latest by April hopefully, so I was hoping for responses from the house on the following; 1. Is it true that it is not permitted to get a 2 bedroom if you have 3 kids? 2. Are Visa and Health surcharge same for kids under 5 years old, the last will be one next year May 3. I have around 8 years construction and project management background as I have been based in Abuja, what are the chances of getting a sponsored construction job here before my student visa is up as against the post study visa which i have already calculated as over 9000 pounds for me and my family. Thank you so much for your anticipated responses. I have a lot more questions but this will suffice for now. Happy holidays everyone!!! |

