BewareOf419:
Christians are not desperate like our brothers in second religion. If you like take Jesus name eat Chicken that won't move Christians to kill. Christians don't believe in blasphemy

Thank you for your response.

The comment before yours now want another round of abuse to start again between the adherents of the two ways of relating with God!

Most Christians don't even know the Jesus they want to defend or fight for!

Most of the time we're the ones making these people think they're important.

Remember the day Apostle Peter cut somebody's ear off? Jesus said there's no need for that!

When you read the bible as a Christian, you'll realize where your power lies and you don't need all these contentions.

Litmus:


This sort of thinking is pure African.

Even setting aside patriotism, which is important and rewards loyal fans and children's hopes, Winners don't need bonuses with the amount of money involved in today's commercialisation of sports. People will always remember Ajunwa for winning gold medal. Even today she could make money given the right agent. Wouldn't take much effort to get her on sports shows, radio, autobiographical work, endorsements, seek her opinions etc. Who remembers many of our past sportsmen and women who sulkingly wasted their great talents because one Nigeria sports authority or another forgot to buy the right uniform, got them poor hotel, short-changed allowances and so on.

Thank you for this perspective on the loose-loose approach to things in Nigeria.

Nigerian officials may be a rudderless bunch, every opportunity to be on the field for the nation is the time to sell yourself.

Today's selection of super falcons was below the standard they've put up after their bismal opening game.

tony0806:

*MODIFIED*

2,000,000 monthly

As at 2019, Nigeria had about 11,877 professors (though this include both those on private and public higher institutions).

That means; monthly, the government will pay 2,000,000 x 11,877 = 23,754,000,000. That's over twenty three billion naira monthly.

As at today, Nigeria produces about 1.2m BPD of crude oil (Our main source of income, excluding mineral resources from the north which I don't know why they don't mention it. Only God knows where that money is going to). Using the official exchange rate of about 414 naira/dollar,
If 1 barrel is about 93 dollars, this becomes 1,200,000 x 93$ = 111,600,000 per day



that's a total income of 111,600,000 x 414 = 46,202,400,000 (Nigeria's income from crude oil).

THEN; 46,202,400,000 x 30 days = 1,386,072,000,000. This is over 1.3 Trillion naira monthly.

Boy o boy, This country is making money.

SUMMARILY, THE GOVERNMENT CAN PAY ASUU COMFORTABLY.

Go ahead and calculate the overhead cost for the civil servants in the federation as well.

Serious Nations spend just 40% of their income on recurrent expenditure. So let's know what you think FG should spend on capital expenditure.

nnamdi640:
You might end up as a teacher. Just avoid anything that will make you become a teacher in this country.

I'm compelled to respond to this statement because this is the thinking of most Nigerians, students and their parents inclusive.

What an error to think you'll end up as a teacher? Even as a teacher what's bad in being a teacher as long as you're not a liability to yourself or the economy.

The days are gone forever whereby you study because you'll be looking for job to earn salary, and you think that's the end of the world for you.

Life really begins after your graduation from the tertiary institution or whatever level of education you have. So, don't just aim to collect a certificate and be called a graduate!

Nobody is after whatever certificate you're holding. It's ordinary paper if there's no solution to the world's problems in your head.

Any of these listed courses can take you to any level in life. It is a question of what difference do you want to make in life.

Do you know how to become wealthy and successful in life? Provide solution to huge numbers of people from where you're to the rest of the world.

Let me stop by saying that if all you know and care about is where to collect a huge salary in this life, you'll surely become a liability before you leave this world.

This is not to say working in an organization to earn salary is bad, think of being an employer yourself, even if the only person you'll employ is yourself.

Have you not heard of bank managers always asking for salary advance even though their salary is about #4m monthly?

So, it's not just about the size of your salary, but the size of your brain!

hungkee:
Peter Tsunami Obi 2023

Na true!

DSC7:



But is it right to have a church inside an Hotel as a Genuine Man of GOD?..

For the purpose of discussion, let's enlighten you as you requested.

What you called house of God isn't a building built with human hands, it is the human bodies that God inhabits if you're saved already. Without salvation, there's little to anyone's religion as far as God is concerned.

So, between a place of worship and the worshippers, which sanctifies the other?

It is not the place you meet that makes you holy, it is you who meet in a place that makes the place the holy.

So, if meet to worship God or for any purpose, either in a hotel on in the moon, it is the people that attracts God's presence and not the building.

Anything apart from this is business as usual!

Maverick777:

How many things are you even saying oga?
only you said he shouldn't complain
only said report the wife
only you said discuss with her
did anyone force you to comment?

it's obvious you're bereft of ideas, let's all learn to be empathetic in our posts and advise to people here..

Men are not robots ok!

Thank you sir.

Emphathy is different from sympathy.

I didn't know he's looking for sympathy.

You the chief counselor why not go ahead with your own counsel?

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

The fault is yours.

As a husband, you're the one responsible for the family. Chikena. You may not like this statement.

It's your responsibility to plan how to take care of your home. Your wife is your helper. The person wey dey help person carry him load, no be the owner of the load.

Meanwhile, not all wives are helpers because they're not told that they are by whoever, parents or priests in church.

You may think I'm supporting irresponsible wives, no! If a wife is a helper and your own isn't helping you, keep doing your duty as husband and report the matter to the person the instituted marriage. He will soon bring sense into the brain of the woman you call your wife.

However, many will call my advice old school.

You're not compelled to do more than your capacity for your home except you want to steal.

Sit down with her and tell her what you can afford to do for her and the children. If she's not satisfied, show her the door.

PavillionEnergy:
The heading sounds funny and I trust Nairalanders to take a swipe at me. But this has been disturbing me and I want you guys to help me look into this matter.

In 2021, I came across a young lady. She is beautiful and she has the right curves in appropriate dimensions. I liked her instantly. We exchanged contacts and we started talking.

I was very busy with work and we spoke like twice in a week though I used to see her briefly whenever she visits my Uncle's shop.

I later noticed this girl usually hangs out with a lot of guys. All these boys who wear stockings, carry cross-bags, lock their hairs and wear 'oroma' earpods.
She is constantly on TikTok and all my 'crush' for her has disappeared.

In April this year, I received a call from her and she told me she went to Abuja for a programme. She said she was stranded and needed some funds to sort out something.

I wired her the money and I relocated from the town in May. I waited till June and she never called to dicsuss the money.
I started calling her two weeks ago and she wouldn't pick my calls. After series of unanswered calls, she picked and told me to send my account details.

She did not send the money and has not returned my calls since then.

How do I get the money back?

You'll soon overtake to Alibaba in comedy.

Vahat:
We got married two years ago. My challenge is that my partner has a higher sexual drive and love sex so much.

Ever since we do make love,she has never for once be the one to say she is satisfied and that I should stop despite that most time it takes me between 10 to 25 minutes atimes to cum. The highest I can recall that i stayed long was 32minutes before I cum, yet in all these it looks to her as if I have not started the work and she feel disappointed anytime I cum because from her body language;she demands more and can withstand even up to one and half hours to 2hours before she can be satisfied and I can't go such.

I tried all I can but honestly I don't feel like a man for not even for once tell me or appreciate me on bed by telling me 'thank you, please cum na, your have stayed long,I am satisfied etc but will always rather willing to consume more and more despite that she needs sex most time and I responds to her demand. Even when I am tired and sweating profusely I keep on just to please her and I am getting fed up over this. I have never taken sex enhancement drug and will never take such.

I don't want to complain to her about. her insatiable sexual drive and how stressful it is riding on me to avoid her hiding her sexual feelings to me or taken it as insult or hurt her feelings and at the same time the fear of her looking for satisfaction from elsewhere. Please advise on how to handle this challenge.

Your wife falls into the minority 5% of the women that have high sex drive. Most are opposite of your wife. They may love sex, but won't ask for it.

Your story smells of ignorance on your part as per what satisfies a woman sexually. She wants stimulation but you don't achieve that by thrusting or what you call penetration alone. If you do the needful, it's your wife that'll say it's enough.

pre-intimacy is what will meet your wife's need and you need to learn how to do that correctly. If you're both friends of each other you may ask what she wants you to do to her for pleasure.

If you're not friends, you'll need to find out from her yourself.

The amount of time you need for penetration that won't kill you is not more than 10mins. The pre-intimacy can be as long as 1hr.
You may even give her orgasm 2 to 3times before you penetrate, with that she'll be ok.

Let me hear your response to this.

Creamypie:
We deltans will be obedient. Okowa is a propagandist governor, who only works on media. And his media execution of youth empowerment programe. What of his billion dollar Asaba drainage? Useless governor

Atiku knows what he's doing! You can see the reason why Atiku choose him.

As hard as Woke may be when it comes to interpersonal relationships, he's not a deceiver!

Wike is too blunt to be Atiku's vice president.

Atiku knows that Wike can slap him if he messes up in that office. Wike wants to touch the lives of Nigerians and not a looter of an Atiku.

Wike will work for Jagaban in 2023, even though he remains in PDP.

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

The only language she will understand is divorce papers.

Don't come here with any complain again. Most likely she's still sleeping with that guy.

You're not even sure who owns the twins she had for you and most likely the current pregnancy isn't yours.

Use your head brother.

Anobody:
I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.

They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.

My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.

What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.

I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.

I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.

Please help me push to front page

Hmmmm!

I can feel your pains madam! It's quite challenging to be a male or female single parent. Parenting is a job meant for two people, mother and father.

Painfully, you lost your husband 10yrs ago, and you decided to nurture tboth of them to adults. Kudos to you ma.

It's not a tea party to go the route you took, but your rewards are on the way.

Now, listen to me.

This generation isn't the same as yours, so they will never think like yours. When you're aware of this and ready to believe it, your troubles are half reduced.

Next is that you didn't have your fingers on the fundamental principle of parenting, many of us don't have it. We do parenting like our parents did it, and that's why we seem to be failing. You need to calm down ma.

There's a way to relate with your child according to their age range.

Ages 0-5years You should handle them with the iron hand of a parent, most of us miss it here. We believe they're babies who don't know anything and we condone their excesses, and this is the best time to clip their wings. The wings are still soft but we mostly loose the chance here. You've gone past that stage with the two boys. Meanwhile, keep following me.

Ages 6-12years, you're supposed to be the commander in the garrison. You roll out the rules of the barrack and they don't have a choice but to follow. You can even flog them to line here.

Ages 13 - 20years, you're a friend to your teenagers here. No shouting, no threatening. But this is what you're trying to do. So calm down, call them for family conference and explain your pains to them. It is not an overnight business o! This will take time, but if you're consistent and truly relate with them like a friend, you'll succeed. Do you also know that they missed a father figure over their lives? You're trying to play that role, but it's not the same thing. Empathize with them on this loss of a father.

From 21 upwards, you're just a mentor. Your advice will be sought when they need it. If you miss the mentioned stages above, you might be unprepared for the mentorship role in their twenties upwards.

Now, call for that conference and stop assuming anything. Be real, they'll be real with you. If you're humble in doing this, those two guys will cry before your presence for hurting you ma.

Above all, call on God all the time for His help in enjoying this stage. If you do it quickly, they might settle down, and Then you may be having a suitor coming your way for a new life.

No serious man will want to marry you with your tensed life now. Calm down with the boys, and your new fiancee may play that fatherly role in their lives.

Wish you all the best sister.

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

What's your skill level, I don't want to ask about your qualifications. If you have skill, money will chase you with little intelligence. All you need in addition is a mentor in that area of skill.

Skill, skill and skill.

That woman MAY actually want the best for anyone she'll be dating, but at the same time investigate her thoroughly to be sure of her lifestyle.

Truly, you need a job far more than a babe now.

Start earning a living and babes will be all over you if you're ready to settle down.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

joseph,how can you claim I killed her when she's been back to the village twice this period when she was sick with several tradition medicine you all gave her still it had no effect. I had to borrow money to take to several hospitals for test and different expensive drug's, while you all were just sitting there with no monetary assistance.
I said am tired.
I can't marry your sister dead body, am expecting the worst from you

So, felimax and the OP know each other?

Anyway, my brother, all you need do is cool down and face reality, you have a tough case in your hand. Apart from the legal implications of your relationship with the girl, the serious one is the traditional/spiritual aspect of the matter.

Save yourself all the headaches by following some of the advices here. I'm not too sure your concern is just the monetary aspect of marrying the corpse but the sense in it, but that's the problem of tradition, particularly in Africa.

Like somebody said above here, take some cool headed family relations, probably including your mum to go see the girls family and iron out the amount they will collect for the dowry which you should've paid since in the first instance. That's the marriage they're talking about, nothing more.

Plead for their understanding that you're still the person that will foot the burial ceremony, no matter how simple it will be. Look out for one of the elders in her family and start from there. Let him or her be your intermediary in the resolution of the matter, you'll be surprised how this matter will end in a jiffy. Go with a gift acceptable in that community to that proposed intermediary I mentioned and explain things.

Thereafter, a bigger meeting will now be called to sort the matter out.

The real peace you're looking for is in this wisdom to calm down.

Finally, that son of yours that you're so eager to keep with you may not be happy upon being told when he grows up that this is the way you handled this matter. So, bury the matter by this simple way.

God will help you in this, and this is a lesson for the future.

If you don't have money to pay dowry on any lady don't go into intimacy with her. God disallows it, true traditions also disallow it.

Islandlady:
Imagine you had a fight with your girlfriend b4 going to work and you came back and see that she has destroyed your hard earned properties like the pics below

What would your reaction or first action be??

Remember violence is not an option

CC:
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Just lock your entrance door and go dinner outside.

Return and have a good sleep after clearing your bed.

Wake up early before going to work and clear the little you can clear.

Take dinner before coming home again and go to bed on returning home.

Wake up the next day again and clear the remaining mess.

The following Sunday, look for a church if you're not a Christian and offer thanksgiving.

You've just escaped sudden death, and God has helped you to send her away without saying another word apart from the initial quarrel that led to this destruction.

Please snap pictures before commencing the clearance I spoke about so that you can show it to the police and filling a case in court.

Anything short of the last sentence before this one is foolishness on your part and your obituary is not too far.

AntiMen:

Thanks for telling me the blunt truth, but my husband holds key position in the church, there's no reason I give that would be meaningful to him except I become opened about the issue...Actually I didn't get close to him, but he ( Reverend) seems to be interested in my spiritual life, often times he wants me do certain church activities which I usually dodge, since then each time he sees me in church, he doesn't fail to call my name, if I'm seated amongst my friends, he will call me, greet me and pass, every time , since then I began to have this funny feeling for him...

It's not that serious though but it's becoming intense unlike before.

If all you said thus far is true, then your Reverend isn't serious and may actually be terrorising your emotions by those funny callouts among the crowd.

He may actually be setting you up till both of you will be so engulfed in the heat and fire of your emotions and be ready to damn the consequences of your respective broken homes.

I think the spirit of God has been fair to you with all these warnings and your enablement to share this story in public.

My solution for you:

Schedule a counselling session for both of you to be handled by your Reverend.

Mention what you're going through without mentioning the pastor's name. Let him give whatever he wants to as counsel. I'm sure your husband will ask who the person is when you get home. There and then, tell him it's your Reverend. Except your husband is a dumb, he should believe you without any drama about this. If you want to cheat on him, you won't organize such a counselling session.

I'm ever sure the demon pushing either you or your Reverend to break the two homes will disappear.

Pray of course before setting up this counselling session.

Wish you all the best.

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo, okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

Her generalization may be hurting really, why not also sample other's opinion on the Igbo factor. Don't be like her, be open minded and see how non-igbos think of them.

Religiously, she wanted you to have a taste of what she's having. However, she doesn't need to be abusive on that, you simply part ways if you can't seem to agree on that. A man is simply what he believes.

Your stand on her belief is also intolerant you know. You're not as open minded as you think.

Sixfiguresmart:
I have passed 4 stages and this is the final interview. On the overall, I did very well but towards the ending my anus could no longer hold this big loud fart. I tried to squeeze the tip of my anus but it overwhelmed me and the fart came out like an oil drum exploding in a cantonment.
The smell that ensued sent the interviewers running for their lives. In a few moments, the security guard asked me to leave that they will contact me by email.
So, I have been home since thinking how and why it happened.
What are my chances of getting this job?

You simply lack manners and it paid you off on your best day.
What will it cost you to ask for a moment to use the restroom?

You've been doing this and it looks normal to you.

To even come here and be asking if you can still get the job showed how poor mannered you are.
You need help.
Manners far outweigh any kind of skill you may have.

sorosoke101:
So I was billed for an interview today by 12pm at an event center on admiralty way lekki, on getting to the venue the security guard told me there was no such interview on there schedule .

I tried calling the Hr personnel I sent my C.V to and her number was switched off.

The funniest part was that I wasn't the only one at the venue I met 9 other people.

So they started calling the Hr personnel to no avail and we all went back home looking sad.

In fact I came all the way from festac and spent 1800 for Tp. "Me wey broke like broken plate"
So my brothers and sisters you can imagine the disappointment.

Anyways am still in the job hunt in case there is any job opening just holla at your boy BABSODIQ007@GMAIL.COM trust me I can do any legal work because I am versatile though I hard a 3rd class degree in microbiology

Hmmm! You must Have been pained with your money wasted on transportation.

You must be grateful though that you didn't fall into the hands of ritualists or kidnappers.

Meanwhile, you grammar indicates something that you may be short in employability.

How do you mean by saying that you can do any legal work, I thought that means you're a lawyer, only to read that you studied Microbiology! I can see a lack of understanding of the meaning of that word.

All you're trying to say is that you're open to do any legit work!

You need to keep reading good books, particularly on self development or any English novel till you get any job.

Poor communication in English will always disappoint your efforts in landing a good job.

Don't wait for a salaried job as well. Think out of the box on what problem you can solve.

Further your education while waiting for a good job by attending a good school on YouTube.

Learn anything on YouTube.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Though difficult to be fair in judgement here, we've not heard her own side of the story!

If all you said is true and she's not yielding, though your marriage is still young, I would've said that you stay calm and maintain peace, and that's what I'll say for the sake of your son.

See your travail as an opportunity to discipline yourself in perseverance, and watch what she'll do in the next 1year, while your son grow up.

If there's still no improvement for that length of time, wit all your continued efforts to broker peace, just file for divorce and move on, far better for you to be alive than be dead suddenly.

zicoraads:
Not true. Maybe this is the reality in your own area or where you're based.

But don't run a generalisation.

Can any small private school start a teacher's salary with 250k?

It doesn't have to be 250k now, but surely not 30k like some of them are still paying.

ElonEmpire:
GoodMorning all ,

I will make this as short as possible.
Before marrying my wife she seems to be this very generous and accommodating fellow . I felt fall in Love with her because this is just the kind of partner I want,

I have not really stand very well financially, though comfortable and contented, but I have this great dream of, because of what I pass through to help as much people as I can.
While dating her, she told me all kinds of stories of her philanthropic and generous gestures to people.

But moving forward to today, she seems to be direct opposite of everything.
She detests people coming close or we offering any kind of help or assistance to family both hers and mine not to talk of friends.

What about suggesting to assist a relative that can't afford, with their child education na war
We have not born but I have more than enough space to bring one or two children to see them through school but my wife is not buying is at all at all.

I know who I am before I marry, this is the only thing that gives me joy, and my only reason for asking God everyday to bless me so that I can bless people.

But right now am seriously confused
it hurts me alot but I don't wanna force anything against her will.

I have tried discussing it over and over with her but she is still not buying it, with the excuse of that we have not stand enough to carry anybody .

What could be her reasons and
What should I do?

Sir, you're touching on a sensitive area of God.

At the same time, God won't want you to fight this put with your wife. So what should you do?

Just discuss the matter with God, and let God convince her about this.

When God is done with her, you'll be laughing!

Just take it calmly.

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

For me your not serious! With this your thinking, you may even be the problem!

A woman with all these attitudes is what you're planning to take abroad. You'll rot in jail over there.

Your village people are behind your thinking.

Travel with her tomorrow.

Mineralzz:
Hello everyone.
Am an active member on this forum, I've have my main account but I wish to remain anonymous, i just want to hide my identity and i will deactivate this account as soon as I get a solution. I'm so heartbroken right now

I thought my fiancée was different from every other guys, despite his gentle and innocent face I never knew he was a liar and a cheat

He's fond of connecting his laptop to his smart TV (65 inches). What displays on the laptop automatically displays on the smart TV screen. See what happened, he went downstairs to pickup something, So I wanted to see a movie on Netflix, while I was looking for a suitable movie to watch, a message popped up from Facebook and it stated "Whr are U? Check ur phone...6 missed calls "

At first, I wasn't triggered to open the msg but what drew my attention was the "cry emoji". When I opened the msg my heart melted, I was crying . Their secret affair has been going on since April last year. A married woman with 2 kids, I checked her profile I saw her kids and husband photos everywhere, she has visited my fiance at home several times, I saw lot of romantic messages.

I videoed their chat conversations as evidence, thank goodness his TV screen is wide enough for the blind to see. The moment he came inside he noticed my mood has changed, he was smart enough to know I opened his msg. He's started begging me, he said he can explain. Explain what?

Am on my way home now feeling devastated, heartbroken and sad . I plan to upload the video on Facebook and tag all the woman's friends until her husband sees it. I will also send the video to instablog, Linda ikeji.. Honestly I feel dejected and heartbroken. Help I don't know what to do .

Painful to be cheated on.

If you're not persuaded to forgive him, just simply move on and forget the relationship.

I'll advice you listen to whatever story he has to tell, for other life encounters.

The last you should do is to go the route of social media embarrassment. Internet don't forget things, you don't even know who is going to read your post on all these media.

Why look for headache, move on with your life.

He's even your fiance and not your husband. Better break courtship than marriage.

Don't go to any social media. No other man will hear that you do that and be comfortable with you.

All the best.

Chiefecho:
Dr olufunmilayo Popularly known as OurFavOnlineDoc on social media took one of his patients he counsel's on iG and Twitter page to help her aid looking for a partner/lover
Dr olufunmilayo wrote on his page,



https://mobile.twitter.com/DrOlufunmilayo/status/1489168171068235782

HIV is no longer a death sentence now. What you lack is not willing partner, but knowledge.

Magic Johnson, an American basketball player has been positive now for over 20yrs. Looking good. You'll only get an informed man to marry you too.

This can only happen by asking God to linking you to such an informed man.

Meanwhile, be positive, add value to people among them lies your future partner.

All the best.

Righteousness2:
Brother, as a young man born in Deeper life Bible Church in the Early 80's and Grommed in DLBC until 2004 when I moved to the The Lords Chosen, I must say you have a very Valid Protest!

I Perceive GOD is using you to Pass a Very Strong Message to HIS Church and HIS servant. The ways of GOD ALMIGHTY are not the ways of Men.
The ALMIGHTY HOLY GOD will not change HIS Standard because of a Changing World.

I Pray HIS Servant and one of the Core Holiness Apostles and Generals of this Generation, Pastor WF Kumuyi takes note of this Peaceful Protest.

Hmmm! What a sad moment this will be for Pas WF KUMUYI. To have raised you all in the way and manner he did!

It's ironic and laughable that when this same man was teaching you all he did, you didn't reject his teaching! How come you have now come to know better than him?

The thought he gave you the authentic gospel, but having realized that he was wrong and wanted to correct himself before facing his maker, you're saying he's wrong! Good luck to you all.

If you want to disagree with him, it's your right to do so! However, on what basis will be your disagreement? If you contend that is wrong in what he's teaching you now, how come you're sure that he wasn't wrong in the former things he taught you.

For instance, Baba told all of you that the t.v. is a devil box, and nobody should touch it, however now its a different ball game entirely! Yes not only preaching on the same t.v. but it's like Deeper Life has a t.v. channel now! Why are you guys connecting to the headquarters online to hear him preach?

I took this long post to advise you guys to leave religion alone and embrace the word of God!

Be like the Bereans by picking your bible to read with clear mind before joining protest!

God bless you.

Realchairmann:
This is kinda confusing to me. I've been married to my beloveth wife for 11 years and counting. God has blessed us with three kids of ten, four and a year old. We are having a wonderful Union and time of our lifes.

For sometime now, I've been nurturing the idea of relocating abroad. My wife has BSc and MSc in Microbiology but has been jobless since she concluded her NYSC the year we got married. I'm ready to sponsor her for PHD to any country of her choice to pave way for I and the kids to follow later.

However, she has turned me down whenever I brought up the issue. Her response is always tied around the bond we share and that she can't just leave her kids and travel abroad.

I have a good paying job but I really want her to explore her potentials too. She's a very good wife and an excellent mother but I'm confused why she's skeptical about leaving this Country.

Or am I the one taking too much risk?

Oga, madam is afraid of another woman taking over her home and husband. She's suspicious of your motives. Women are highly intuitive like no man's business.

What potential does she have that can't be explored with two degrees?

Ask her, what does she want, not what you think she wants.

Please DM me if you have such a property in this estate or in OMOLE 2, any other estate with good and tarred road network, regular power supply.
This is urgent. Pictures will fasten this transaction.
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Rapmoney:
I have a friend who is not a member of this forum. He's been seeking advice from circle of friends as to which business to invest in as a new year is about to start. His budget is 600k. Below are the choices:

1. Music production studio
2. Autorevamp shop (panel beating and spraying)
3. Driving school
4. Pig farming

He has skill in the first and second businesses above. Which do you think would be more lucrative and fulfilling?

Thanks as we expect good advice from brothers and sisters here.

Pls mods, help move to front page.

No 4 is your best bet with this budget!

Make your research, as you can double that money with 12months.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

I'm not going to disparage you for your concern about not being sexually attracted to this lady despite scoring 70% of the requirements you desire to see in a lady.

However, let truth be told. Those things you look for in a lady are valid but for a short time. You'll soon get tired of them. Unfortunately, that's what we grew up to see about people. It happens to ladies too.

You'll see someone with qualities that will outlive each of you and you're jumping at what will soon fade away in 10yrs if not in a lesser period of time.

Let me tell you, what creates passion for sex aren't external things! Theyre internal ones! The real person inside of the body that is attracting you now.

You've not met the real person inside that smallish body of the lady, if you do, you'll want to sleep with her all day if you have the strength to do so!

Let me tell something. Develop the idea of sitting down with her in gists and the more you'll be more willing to be with her.

If you've ever met a lady with all the external traits you're looking for, but she's a beast in the inside, that's even the one you'll cheat on!

The joy to you in sex isn't all about what you want but the things you hear her saying while giving her the pleasure of her life.

You might not agree with me till you meet Jesus though!

steveneche:
My uncle died early this year. He was the head of finance in the company he worked before his demise.

Now due to the level of influence he had in the company, I was made an offer because they know me well in the company.

5million cash, or I get employed in the company with 100,000 monthly pay starting January.

Please Nairalanders help me decide... Candid opinion please

Take the 5m if you have business intelligence, not just an idea o!

Any Dick Tom and Harry can talk about business idea! If you have one that you're learnt with a mentor and roadmap, take the money, if not take the job.

Somebody suggested buying two cars for Uber cars! Fine, if you have business sense.

There are other multiple sources you can also put your cash and use the returns to keep yourself going and start one or two others.

Make your choice based on these thoughts.