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Kukutente23:
It is time for zombies to start attacking Kwankwaso
APC and politics without principles
Politics of greed, hatred, tribalism and divisiveness

You're so right!

It's like this Abba Kabir Yusuf man is a Yoruba man ruling Kano state. Abi?

ErnestNc:
It's better than keeping it to myself . There's no man without problem. I'm learning a lot about life as the day goes.

Thanks for your input tho.

You've learnt your lesson I suppose.

It's good you shared your experience here to get input about your experience.

Sleeping with single parent is very easy unlike settling down to get engaged with someone also planning to settle down.

If you must marry a single mum, don't ignore the red flags.

Abbeytoy:
In the last two years, things have not been going well with my brother and his wife. My brother will call me and lament about his wife's behaviour, he told me that anytime they have a misunderstanding, this lady changes the key and locks him out in the cold. Though he's the one who pays the rent and all the bills, the lady gets child support and spends lavishly on unnecessary things while the apartment is given to his wife by the government.

But the last one she did, my brother left the house and swore never to have anything to do with her again. Even my brother did it to the extent that he requested the DNA of the son; unfortunately, he's the owner.

This lady has been begging everyone, and both her parents and some family members have travelled down to our place to plead on her behalf, but my brother insisted he's not interested in the marriage again.

He was scouting with one of our cousins before, and we thought that when he got tired, he'd move back home as usual, but this man has gotten an apartment and does not let anyone know the location.

The worst of it all is that he did not talk to his 7-year-old son and didn't take on any responsibilities for him again.

The boy keeps crying to see his dad, but my brother keeps saying her mother is only using him to get his attention, saying the boy will see him when it's the right time.

This lady called me last week and said he wanted to pack from the house and my brother should come move all his belongings, but my brother sent me back to her that she should throw everything away, he mentioned that the lady can frame him up or call the police for him and turn to legal battles.

I believe whatever happened between them, the boy did not cause it, and cutting off his only child emotionally and financially is not self-protection but abandonment.

I know marriage can end, but fatherhood should not. You can abandon marriage and still fully show up as a father. The two are not the same contract

All the family are tired, and even I, his closest brother, am tired. I only want him to be a responsible dad to his only child.

Please, what can I do? I really love my brother and want peace for him, however I pity his child.

Why run from his child? If you don't want the marriage again, file for divorce and pick up your responsibility. Period.

Anything apart from this shows that he's also irresponsible.

Cherryediva:
Hello everyone, sorry for the long post
I got married at 22, my husband was 40 at the time. We have been married for 5 years and we have a child together.

My concern is that my husband is not able to satisfy me sexually at all, which is frustrating, I have talked to him about it nothing seems to change. Financially, he is struggling, partly because he gambles a lot. He also drinks alcohol heavily.

I work too but he doesn't want me to have my own money he is always collecting money from me.
He doesn’t have clear goals, ambition, or a vision for the future, and this makes me feel stagnant in the marriage.

He is a good man in terms of character. He doesn’t cheat, he doesn’t abuse me at all, and he treats me well overall.

I’m confused because while he is good to me, I feel stuck and unfulfilled. I would really appreciate advice from y'all who have been in similar situations or who can offer honest guidance.
Thank you.

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You caused yourself all of the headaches you mentioned above.

Why didn't you consider all of these points before marrying him?

Each of the issues in his life is sufficient to kill any man's libidos.

Without telling anyone, I can guess the pressure you'll be giving him without a job, apart from his alcoholism which also kills libido.

The way out of your dilemma are:

--- Calm down
--- Decide what you want; vibrant sexual life or improved financial life/condition. You can have both of you are ready.
--- the age difference between you guys is another factor. You're just arriving at the peak of your libido, he's going down from the peak. To get healthy sexual relationship between the two of you, you must grow out of the common women nagging.
--- Discuss issues without nagging. If you aren't careful, he may contemplate marrying another older woman outside for peace of mind.
--- Take care of him and enjoy a good sexual life before he looses interest in any sex.
--- Don't contemplate cheating, because he'll be too happy you continue, and he'll also find a way to help himself.
--- He wants sex too o, but without hypertension from anybody.

SmartPolician:
If you have nothing reasonable to contribute to a thread, just read comments and f**k off!

What about the comments I wrote about your crap?

jaszplus12:
The exact point the OP is trying to make is what you have just displayed!! Outsmarted yourself being too smart!
🤣🤣🤣

I no know say you see am o.

Anyway, who dey mind this mindset?

SmartPolician:
These people have removed the subsidy without telling us how much they saved and what the money was spent on. Yet, they still go about borrowing billions of dollars. This nonsense can only happen in Nigeria

Your statement simply shows you didn't go beyond school cert. At best you did back to sender in your undergraduate degree.

Even if I go ahead educating you, it'll be a waste of time.

Keep wasting your time on social media writing crap.

Your grandchildren will help your ignorance when they grow up. Only ensure that they attend school to learn and not just to collect certificates.

mrvitalis:
Atiku should publicly declare to do one term and hand over to Obi even if he doesn't mean it and let's get this election over with

All these talk na long story

My main Attraction to atiku/Obi ticket is this

You can accuse atiku of many things but not Tribalism
We need a national leader whom everyone can trust to be fair....
North dont trust Obi, that's a fact being a vice would usher him to the North and with time he would be trusted


I have always maintained corruption is not an issue in development

I didn't support Obi because he was hit corrupt no I supported him because he was knowledgeable on developmental economics

Atiku from his talk understand capitalism and how it works so not bad

A knowledgeable corrupt leader is better than a dumb none corrupt leader

Tinubu is has zero knowledge how development works and is still corrupt and tribalistic

You're the real dumb.

If you go to any school, na waste of money.

Do you know what is called DEVELOPMENTAL ECONOMICS?

All those funny statements that Obi makes for you his dumb followers is what you are calling developmental economics! Eeyah.

Atiku understands capitalism. What do you understand about capitalism?

One should pity you guys. It's even difficult to categorize all of you.

Keep dreaming.

JaySani:
Escort Biker Dies in Accident as Senate President’s Convoy Leaves Lagos Event, No Official Statement Yet

Lagos, Nigeria — Tragedy struck on the Lagos–Ibadan Expressway on Sunday following a high-profile event in Lagos, as one of the escort bikers attached to the convoy of the Senate President reportedly lost his life in a fatal road accident.

According to eyewitness accounts, the incident occurred shortly after the Senate President and members of his entourage departed the coronation ceremony of Seyi Tinubu. While the convoy was en route, one of the official escort bikers was said to have been involved in a serious accident along the busy expressway and died instantly at the scene.

Sources at the location disclosed that the lifeless body of the biker, along with the damaged motorcycle, was subsequently loaded into a Hilux vehicle within the convoy, after which the procession continued its journey. The circumstances leading to the crash remain unclear, as details surrounding the exact cause of the accident have not been officially confirmed.

As of the time of filing this report, no formal statement has been issued by the Office of the Senate President, the Nigeria Police Force, or any other relevant authority regarding the incident. The absence of an official response has sparked public concern and questions, particularly given the prominence of the individuals involved and the frequent occurrence of convoy-related accidents on major highways.

The Lagos–Ibadan Expressway is one of Nigeria’s busiest transport corridors and has long been associated with traffic congestion, speeding, and fatal accidents, especially involving official convoys and commercial vehicles.

Members of the public and civil society observers have called for transparency, urging authorities to promptly clarify the circumstances of the incident, formally acknowledge the loss, and outline any steps being taken to investigate the accident and support the deceased officer’s family.

Further developments are awaited as Nigerians look to security agencies and relevant government offices for an official account of the tragic incident.

They'll soon begin to pick people like you up for fake news. You posted a story without a source and you think you'll go scot-free. Kwantiniu, you hear?

ogolemati:
your oga have finally welcomed you.

Dele Momodu brain dey too soft because he loves too much eba!

OneCandleAway:
Obi seems to be good at governance not party politics. He needs a party with a strong structure being controlled properly. Problem is whoever is controlling the party will want to dictate to him because they will feel they were instrumental to his success if he wins.

Obi should join the civil service and go for in-service training.

Leadership is more than being a greater TRADER.

Obi is good as a trader. He should stay on that lane.

givedemwotowoto:
Tilumbu has rendered Nigerians extremely poor and defenseless .

People who were spending average 50k or less per week for their families now spend over 200,000 per week, with moderate or no increase in salary.

You forgot the true figure. A whole 50k before now?

Na lie, e no reach. Na 2k we dey spend weekly before Tinubu came to power. Now every Nigerian is spending #1m. Chei, sorry biko.

Great100000:
Honestly, this is very sad as a Nigerian and as a giant of Africa.

Our Government need to do more about the electricity of the country.

I can't believe it that Nigeria is not on the list.

We know this is your objective of bringing the topic. Emergency lovers of Nigeria who must wake up daily to drag the nation they so much love like their egungun brother pitobi.

Move to the next topic of bashing Nigeria.

Nigerians are now used to your strategic.

Una go soon get tired.

Tabithatim:
NEW: Enugu Govt to Restrict Tricycles, Yellow Buses From Major Highways as BRT Rollout Begins Soon



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Irrespective of party affiliations, when you see educated, informed and exposed leaders it's not difficult to know.

The very first interview if Peter Mbah that I listened to confirmed all the qualities I listed above.

So, it's not surprising seeing all the developmental strides happening in Enugu State now.

Leadership qualities are not just about politics and affiliations.

Nigeria is just about seeing seriousness in leadership and governance.

adaperry25:
Yes I know it's good to get a partner who aligns with same faith but aside that one has to look at personality of whom you're marrying.

She's Catholic and I'm not and she's a good lady. The condition she gave was that she can't leave her faith.

I've searched and she's the only one that ticked all the boxes aside the faith issue.

I got no choice

Just find out why she won't leave her catholic church.

Likewise why would you also want her to leave her catholic church!

If you share the reasons above you may be well guided further.

As simple as faith matters can be, it's also important to know the WHYs of our various actions and decisions.

BeardedMeat:
Tinubu is on a vendatta mission we all know, but if malami stole and ate our yams, he must vomit them.

Malami shouldn't account for any money, he handed it over to Tinubu on the day Tinubu was sworn in as the president. Why bother Malami at all.
Bro, no be so?

AKONE:
These days, many churches feel less like the house of God and more like motivational seminars with a few Bible verses thrown in for decoration. Preaching Christ seems to have quietly given way to weekly pep talks—Sunday has become little more than "spiritual hype day."

And honestly, it’s getting worrying.

We’re hearing all sorts of gimmicks now, aren’t we?

“The louder your Amen, the bigger your blessing!”
“Tell three people your breakthrough has just landed!”
“Shout hallelujah like you mean business!”
“Give God a dangerous praise for a dangerous miracle!”

All noise. All theatrics. All emotional sugar rush — no substance. Jesus never said, “Turn up the volume and I’ll turn up the blessing.” But He did say, “If anyone wants to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me” (Luke 9:23). That’s discipleship. No razzmatazz. No gimmicks. Just surrender.

But surrender is not exciting. Motivation is.

We’ve become a generation that loves being hyped but hates being changed. People want sermons that give them confidence, not convictions. They want steps to success, not calls to holiness. Many preachers know this — and they deliver what sells, not what saves.

That’s why we now hear more, “You’re going higher!” than “Repent and follow Christ.”
More, “Your destiny helpers are coming!” than “Be conformed to the image of His Son” (Romans 8:29).
More, “Your haters will watch you shine!” than “I am crucified with Christ” (Galatians 2:20).

It’s smooth. It’s exciting. It’s popular.
But it’s not the gospel.

The gospel is not about how to “unlock your greatness.”
It’s about how Jesus died, rose again, and calls us to die to ourselves and live through Him. (Ephesians 2:1–5).

Motivation can make you feel good for a week.
The gospel can make you a new creation altogether.

Motivation tells you to believe in yourself.
The gospel tells you to believe in Jesus.

Motivation tells you you’re destined to shine.
The gospel tells you to take up your cross.

We’ve swapped the hard message for the easy one — and the easy one is filling churches while emptying hearts.

The danger? People think they’re being spiritually fed when in reality they’re only being emotionally entertained. They leave church charged up but not changed. Excited but not transformed. Inspired but not discipled.

And let’s be blunt: Jesus didn’t die so we could have a more positive mindset. He died to save us, sanctify us, and shape us into His likeness.

It’s time we found our way back.

Back to Christ.
Back to the cross.
Back to repentance.
Back to surrender.
Back to discipleship.
Back to the gospel that actually has power (Romans 1:16).

Because all the shouting, all the “Amen competitions,” all the theatrics — they may stir emotions…
but only Jesus can save a soul.

Theatrics is definitely a problem in the pentecostal churches of today.

However, it's not everything that is theatrics.

Asking for a louder amen isn't offensive to God, and it's not to men. You're only trying to ensure that you still the attention of your audience.

As a matter of fact if you say a word of prayer in your sentence, why shouldn't your audience answer a mention to the prayers.

Extremeties is the problem of human beings.

The extremeties you're trying to throw light upon is being met with your own extremeties in being Stoic by the church brethren.

Liberty is the name of the Christian faith.

toboizilla:
I’ll appreciate your honest feedback.

The lady is right.

You're definitely having problems with your mouth or your mind I must say.

It's a red flag for the lady if she loves herself.

Why would you say "the last time I said so, your mum sent you to attack me"?

It's a lot different from saying "the last time I said so, your mum didn't enjoy it"!

You mentioned her mum but not in a derogatory manner.

Indeed, you're the real person that needs to mature and grow up.

asfrank:
There was no need for the Second Niger Bridge. The government should have repaired the first bridge and increase the lanes instead of a New bridge

Can you hear yourself Oga!

No need for 2nd Niger Bridge. You try well, well.

It's either you've not been to Onitsha before or you're just being funny.

DiamondsAreFore:
He's an 18 year old guy on Reddit who wants to know how he would be treated if he visits Edo State. Any advice from Edo people on Nairaland?

I'm sure you know that you need a tour guide and a sincere one for that matter.

Wish you safe trip and as soon as you arrive inform your parents.

IronGalaxy:
white worshippers and haters loading...

You know their village finish.

They'll soon begin to pour their venoms here now.

Kaliningrad:

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US will never go to war with Russia. Even with the entire NATO behind them.

They don't want to die.

People like you should not be taken seriously on any matter.

You seem to enjoy the spilling of blood on that warfront.

Make you come fight now, you'll run. We know people like you.

Believeintruth:
But Lagos was not entirely built by Yoruba naaaa it is a fact.

Na your people wey no gumption who dey talk about who built what. Even the people you meet on ground weren't robbing it in anybody's face.

thinkmoney:
Ok it’s good you know this. How many times though have you typed in support of Igbos that are been harassed and arrested because of this same thing? Because all the “ezes” in other states and countries have also been “eze” of igbo of those communities

Cite anywhere those innocent people you go carry come take foto has stated that they built IMO or Enugu State.

Where have they claimed that the place they reside is a no man's land?

You guys are just funny people.

chiagozien:
Nobody will attack and kill them for coming out to vote their preferable candidate on election day.




Nobody claimed to be accommodating them in East.




Nobody is saying they are trying to create kingdom in Igbo land because of the title Oba.

You dey make me laugh.

Why are you guys just interested in grabbing things outside of your domain?

If you like replace them with your governor, that's your headache.

correctyourself:
Explain this to the police and let them escort you to the house, package you belongings and go.

But if you allow love control you, one day she would broke your head.

That lady needs serious help and treatment to overcome that habit which you can not render.

Even Your profile name self no show say u be gentleman o

This man is a disgrace who a Nigerian is.

You're lucky the lady hasn't done away with you.

illicit:
That guy was the only man in the village...


RIP Soldier

But u should have lay low when outgunned and numbered

The guy has no brain. Just wearing camouflage all over the place.

banom:
Nigeria will not make it to the world cup.

Why bro?

dollynnn:
She will end up in Shiloh. We know her type.

I feel sad for ladies of the younger generation. “Wokeness”, arrogance and toxic feminism will make them end up toxic and lonely at the end of the day.

By the way, is it a crime for ladies to be respectful and polite? Nothing kills a woman’s character faster than arrogance and rudeness.

While you're very right about your observations, I'll tell the guy to keep the chat for another time when she'll return to say she's sorry.

However, be sure you're taking good care of yourself; physical look, career and the like.

No matter how bad you're looking or doing now, nothing gives any lady the licence to be insultive. She probably lacks good home training. That may be a red flag for you too.

You don't want to marry a lady with poor emotional intelligence. If you know despite all the numerous hard skills in town now bringing in the dollars, the greatest of them all is still the soft skills.

Anybody who lacks them can be wahala later.

Commentor:
Chai.

Very careless of her.

May the soul of the departed rest in peace 🙏🏾.

Are calling this act carelessness?

This was nothing but curse placed on the woman.