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Many wonder why women get on the edge after having a new baby, particularly their first child.

If you're a parent, you'll agree with me that it's not a teaparty to become a mother as sweet as that can be.

Now, being a parent too, I have ideas to share that can be a great help to a young family with a new baby, particularly the mothers.

The job of parenting is one for two people, but we all know that mothers are the direct workmen in this. So these information should help mothers appreciably.

In the next couple of days, mothers can check out here for fresh ideas, products that can make this journey quite enjoyable.

greggng:
My point is centred on the fact that the first judgement from the tribunal was bought .

What's your evidence that this one is not bought?

SpecialAdviser:
Nnamdi Kanu is different from this guy. MNK is a genuine freedom fighter unlike this political noise maker. If Nnamdi Kanu has jettison his idea of BIAFRA since, he would have regained freedom.

MNK would prefer to die in prison than abaddon BIAFRAN agitation. Nnamdi Kanu is the Mandela of our time. Fact

You got it right!

The Mandela of our time.

27years in prison loading!

By the time he leaves the prison, he'll be the same age Mandela too left the prison.

MNK the greatest.

DesChyko:
Great song! I used to own a Phil Collins Gold Collections. I lost it while renovations was ongoing in my homeland. 🥲

Look for it on YouTube.

Matrix137:
As a Christian, a bride is officially yours to wife after paying the bride price to the parents and there is an agreement with both of you and the respective families. Wedding or not isn't compulsory (traditional or White). That's the biblical instructions. Thanks


Someone pls help me with any amount for foodstuffs please. I'm Soo hungry and no work coming

07 25 00 93 40 access bank. God bless

From the comments you made here about what constitute a marriage, you're more than qualified to be a content producer on the social media, that can earn you good amount of money regularly. Rather than be begging for food money, go learn how to monetize this knowledge that you have.

No excuse of not knowing where to learn that. That phone in your hands and internet connection, there are so many sites that can teach you how to start a business with little or no money at all.

Check out an app called Shopify and learn how to make money with it.

All the best.

Mille:
I came across this post on Reddit and it's triggering.

Anyone in the woman's shoe can say all manner of things.
Surely you didn't handle it well. You allowed the latest news from the diagnosis to take the better of you. It's very natural.

Unfortunately for you, you're asking for help too late. This is what you should have done the moment the news came.

Your husband will be highly frustrated knowing that the weakness is from you. What he was asking for is exactly what you might have demanded for too if he's the source of your inability to conceive.

Sorry, you broke down on hearing the news. You ought to have played the game of selflessness by asking him those offers he gave you. The truth is that you're selfish.

Having gotten to this low point, your next move is to calm down and see what he's going to do next, thereafter make your move. The worst scenario is to divorce and both of you move on.

You can still have a baby depending on your age now. Even at that, there's still life to live. A new partner is still ahead of you. Only drop your selfish attitude. Live for others and you'll be shocked how this life can be a field of fun.

You're not here just to have babies, but to touch lives. Real life begins from there.

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

keep enjoying his moody attitude sister now. Why are you complaining now?

Biglol008:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, pls I need your advice. I’m married 28 years, no children yet. Newly wedded, I have a problem. I don’t last long on bed. I cum very quickly and it takes a long time like 4 hours for me to get another erection and most times it’s not very hard like my first erection.

I was told the nitric oxide in my body is low. Pls I need help. How do I boost my nitric oxide in my body or if there are any supplements let me buy.

I’m afraid if I don’t do anything now my wife might eventually cheat in the future. I no longer have my morning erection like some guys do. I have exercise, did ginger, garlic, bitter Kola nothing seems to be working.

What can I do to remedy my situation. Pls no talk of hospital health wise I’m very okay. No diabetics or anything no infection pls help me so I can save my marriage and my myself.

Be sure say you no get any infection o!

Kingibiza:
Saw this on Facebook and it really got me, masturbation has really destroyed a lot of people



https://www.facebook.com/100081915090915/posts/pfbid0TEseqPX5ef8o4vvKHEyLm9Jb84qaecFGKL4MU45jrK7EHB2Km5EcfXGiWR8qxNAMl/

Many a times wives drive their men to resume their masturbation.

You're surprised that you had to beg him for sex most of the time, if another person should ask your hubby why should his wife beg for sex, the response will be a surprise.

There has always been this lie out there about genders drive for sex; men can have sex in 30 seconds, whereas it will take a whole day to prime a woman for sex. This is the lie that has been destroying the sex and other areas of lives of couples in recent times. Men too have moods, not only women.

Those moments when a husband will be looking for cuddling from the wife and all you get is, pls leave me alone because of one thing or the other, no matter how genuine the woman's complaints may be, You need to realize that this is what causes what you're talking about now.

Just sit the man down and talk things over, and not that grandstanding of "I'm disappointed in my husband" that you're speaking all about.

Let me tell you, it's not going to be an overnight solution, because the guy has found solution to relieve himself when you PROBABLY are not there.

All of what I said may not be applicable to you, but please come down from this high horse of "I'm disappointed".

Shokoloko:
My condolences.
You do not need to wait to sit her down.
Get an autopsy done asap. Your questions will be answered.
If you want to wait 40 days to find out what killed your brother you are being crafty.

You forgot to tell the man to just marry the woman, chikena!

Rokiat:
This is a great topic with many layers to it.


The problem is that many women lead with their achievements. They achieved and believe oh well
I’m a high achiever I don’t gotta clean for no man I don’t gotta cook for no man infact I don’t need a man. That’s the issue right there.

I have said it before and I will say it here again, men don’t give a damn about a woman’s achievements. Maybe your home girls will clap for you but this is not all a man is looking for. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.

Fun fact as you are off to work, he’s fu..cking that unemployed woman that truly makes him feel like a man.



Also many of these women achieved and start shouting it at the top of their lungs, a big turn off to many men. A man’s would love you to leave space for him to come in and be a man, provide for you, get you that car that house for the family etc but if you buy yourself all
Of these things and claiming to be an independent strong woman that has everything and the only thing you need is a man well my sister you will stay long waiting for that man.

The truth is bitter, but a successful man is treated like a big baller in society but you as a successful woman well sorry but many men don’t care. And the issue is that many successfully women wants the accolades, the praises, special treatment and to be exempt from their womanly duties simply because they are successful in society. It’s just as bad as men wanting special treatment and better positions because they look good. Lol that’s funny but imagine a man thinking because he looks good so he will get a higher position…rarely ever as in ever. A woman looks yes that matters but a man? Nope not really because that doesn’t impact on his ability to provide or protect. Women have to stop thinking just because they are successful and high achievers they don’t gotta do what a man’s requires of a woman to
Make him feel like a man.


And this is for the women that wants lasting and happy relationships. If you want to be a strong independent woman that don’t need no man kudos to you, do you but you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

If you have this mindset Rokiat, and that picture I saw in your profile, then your babe is living in heaven right here on earth. You rock! Kudos lady.

frozen70:
It depends on what you mean by submission, especially for those who are married to a man who cant provide for his family

She pays the house rent, school fees, hospital bills, other bills and probably feeding

These are the things a man that married her can't do and she is doing it all,

So is she not submissive enough

Or you expect her to work for the money and hand it over to the man

That's what you call submission abi ⁉️

Surely not. That's not the definition of submission. Any man who calls that submission is a cramp, if there's anything called by that name.

Now, the situation you painted actually exists in some occasions. However, what's wrong with such a man that his wife will do all of those things you mentioned and is still calling himself the man of the home?

No sane man will be comfortable getting all of those services from a woman you call your wife! If he is, then he's sick heavy.

Now, a wife could be favoured with all of those good things. A healthy husband should try to leverage on that woman's status by finding out what can I do to maintain my position as your husband!

Even if, your salary monthly may not be more than 200k, and here you have a wife earning 2m per month. Something from that 200k should come as your gift to the babe of your life regularly. Definitely, that salary of the man can't maintain the life of the wife, and a sane woman that earns 2m too is not going to be expecting you to maintain her and the home. All a sane woman will be looking for is just a sense of responsibility from the man. Buy simple things for the kids and the wife and appreciate the efforts of the woman.

That woman will be happy with your 200k and she'll do all of the rest with joy in her heart.

Anyway, remember my adjective for the woman, SANE! It's not everybody that is sane o!

tommy589:
Make she sef dey contribute o
E no easy

It would've been an awkward thing for him to take this new decision after his knowledge that she has kids before marrying her, but I suspect that the lady is taking that man's responsibility towards his step-children as her right from the way she was talking to the husband.

Wisdom has no mate. With wisdom, you can get anything in this life from the most difficult person imaginable.

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Your case sounds simple but at the same time complex.

Just like some comments before this, religion seems to worrying both of you and you think its Christianity.

Most marriages are suffering from wrong teaching about marriage from Pentecostal churches. I'm a minister in a Pentecostal church. However, I've done enough study to see that most of what is taught isn't scriptural.

For example, a home is meant to be run by the husband, the wife is only a helper. Like the Yorubas will say; "gba ran mi ki di eleru", translated as a helper doesn't become the owner of the luggage.

Her money is her money, your money is our money! The earlier you accept this, the faster your peace will come. You ask me; what is she then to do with her money, the answer is that, it's her discretion.

On the other issues of domestic responsibility, all you need to do is to talk it over with her. If you allow her to work, pls realize that she's also a human being that'll get tired after a day's job.

For she to be pretending to be serving you when you visit your in-laws shows that she knew this is expected of her. Then ask her why she doesn't do that at home.

On sex matter, as long as all of these issues remain unresolved, there's no need for sex. If you have it, it is just masturbation in another way! I know we men can sleep with a lady under 2hrs of knowing her, that's not love making but a quickie. However, in a marriage it doesn't work. Unfortunately, for ladies, sex begins in the mind before hitting the sheets. A man doesn't need to dream of sex before having sex and that's the trouble.

If you want regular sex which is good for both of you, then you need to address this ladies dilemma.

Long story cut short, discuss all of these issues with her. From the look of things you're not romantic like most men.

You don't seem to have the key to her heart yet. Forget all the fight and schedule an outing for both of you and talk it through. From the look of things, both of you don't want divorce, so you can really work things out.

On the finance, she'll spend her money on you if you get these things sorted out.

From my analysis, that wife of yours will like sex if you get these issue sorted out. Break ego on your side and come down from your high horse and enjoy this woman.

Why can't you cook for that woman first? If you can cook, do it once and see how she'll begin to blush.

You don't have a serious problem as you painted it.

NwekeUG:
https://igberetvnews.com/1442433/wedding-21-year-old-couple-goes-viral-photos/

It all depends on their background and growing up experiences.

Twenty one years isn't too young an age to tie the knots. The world has simply gone confused leading to all of these complexities making people scared of getting married.

My mum got married in 1949 at 23, lived with my father till she was 79 while my father went home 3 months ahead of her at 88.

If the maturity is there, why not!

The popular televangelist TL OSBORN married his wife of 19 when he was 21!

He died at 90 while his wife died at 70 in 1995.

We can only wish them all the best of love, perseverance and forgiveness of each other ahead of the occurrences.

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

I agree with the very first comment after your post.

Your revulsion is the reality of what you went through in the hands of your wife.

Can you genuinely say that your mum wasn't a pain in the neck whenever she came around to your place? If the answer is yes, and be frank in answering this! If the answer is yes, then you need to ask your wife if she's also asking that her mum comes stay in your house, after all marriage is for two people, and not three.

Whatever her response, remorseful or not, tell her to give you time to think about it! I pray she doesn't become nasty about your demand for time to think about it!

After about a week bring in your mother-in-law. If the old woman didn't open up the issue of why it took you time to accept her coming in, don't also talk about it, i also pray she doesn't. If she does, tell her the whole story and if she feels like going back to her home, fine with you!

I don't blame most of our young ladies who have been taught nonsense by most marriage counsellors and marriage motivational speakers, they've ruined marriages with their toxic nonsense they called teachings and seminars. All these talk about dont allow anybody to come in-between you and your husband nonsense teachings!

How can a spouse tell me he/she loves the partner and you don't love the mother of your partner? There are some nasty mothers -in-law no doubt, but if yours isn't such why have no love for her?

Just welcome her in as soon as you feel cool to do so.

The best way to punish your wife for what she did, is to take a good care of her mum! Pour the love you weren't allowed to give to your mum on her mum in a double manner and pray for the good health of that woman.

If your wife doesn't come around to beg you for the pains caused you, by pouring this love on her mum, then you need to give up on her! She's not a woman of substance, na just another woman.

All the best brother.

NairalandSon:
Let me start by saying security job is not my dream job but while I'm very hopeful of getting that dream job someday soon, body and soul need to be put together. An unemployed person with penniless pocket will certainly understand my predicament. The only option is to grab anything provided it can take of your very essential needs. Worse is when you wake up with no food to eat or not even soap to bath with, then you'd realize doing anything is sure better than nothing.

So I got this security job which I resumed yesterday. Could you believe that same yesterday, armed robbers operated in the area. As you know, security or what people call gateman is the one the armed robbers target first when they come to a place.

It was around 3:am when everywhere was quiet, As the security, I did a patrol around the compound when I noticed suspicious noise in the next compound. Before I know, I heard people shouting over there. I stayed back. In less than no time, I saw about 5 people coming straight to my compound. They pointed torch inside. I didn't bother to ask who they were cos I already knew. My people, I didn't even know when I commot for gear run to the backyard of the house, jumped over to the other side which is a bush, breathing like who just escaped death. Unfortunately, I sustained injury while running in the bush. Since the gate of the compound is not high, they jumped over it and gained entry into the compound, but thankfully they couldn't gain access to the house due to burglary after a long while of triaI. Unfortunately for me again, I slept in the bush till this morning.

Now, I learnt robbers operate in the area often. This has further put fear in me. I wouldn't want to be a victim of robbery circumstance because of a job whose salary cannot even meet one's needs.

So I am confused now. Even with the injury, should I go back to the place or not? Presently I don't have anything else doing and I don't have money to sustain myself either. Please what would you advise me?

Note: this happened somewhere in Delta state. I don't want to disclose the location for security reasons.

If you're not trained for this kind of job, you had better quit immediately.

There's no point repeating the danger associated with this kind of job.

There are less risky kind of jobs in the neighbourhood, but because the kind of education we were given dictates tie and belt kind of job, very destructive mindset, you might not want to go look for lesser risky but well paying job.

Any artisan job is all over you, look very well, no risk. You only need to swallow your funny pride of educated man.

Go to building sites, many unskilled jobs abounds. You can start with labour of 2500 - 3000 daily.

The choice is yours.

BOLATINUBU01:
He gat no choice than to return it, cos it will surely be traced, but the guy is trying to play smart to get a better reward, unfortunately he didn't get want he wanted



Good for him sha

He was expecting a better reward for his faithfulness. He should calm down. The real reward for his honesty or intelligence is on the way. May be not from this man.

Let the man be told that it could have been difficult to trace him if the money was forgotten in his workshop and he refused to return it, nobody can accuse him of anything, but on this one he can be traced no matter for how long he wants to hide.

The reward may be small compared to the amount he returned but it is still something. It is a gift. You don't determine the size of gift you must be given by a giver.

lhordspy:
Just look at the poor condition of the road.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZRg7Mhr0qnU

This road looks like Lagos! Tinubu road!

SuperEagles22:
Nigerians abroad lack unity. Nigerian-American women dont date Nigerian-American men, especially during youth. And Nigerian-Americans and Nigerians in America dont support eachother like other cultural groups. For example, when Arabs Move to the United States they start businesses and employ other men from their Arab nations, however Nigerians in America dont employ eachother or attempt to build business relationships with other Nigerians to support eachother economically.

Does This Video Hold Any Truth?

https://www.youtube.com/live/xWMJs5NHnHk?feature=share

The reason is very simple.

Since 1960, we've not been opportuned to have a leader to build a Nigerian state.

So, in diaspora, there's nothing to bind them together.

Watch out in the next 1yr, the kind of bond you'll find among Nigerians will be unprecedented.

Half plot of land for sale in Santos estate in Akowonjo, Egbeda, Lagos.
Price is #30m Asking.
Good location in the estate.
Verifiable title as well.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

It's quite challenging to make a decision for someone in your shoe.

Your past experience can be a hindrance. It's your life, you must decide.

One, try to remove emotion from your decision. Don't sleep with him yet, if you do, you won't be able to assess him.

He may actually be serious and he may not, particularly if youre a beautiful woman. Men are easily carried away with beautiful women.

Like any other kind of marriage, fresh or this type of remarrying, understanding of the purpose of marriage is important. You must be ready to accommodate the other person's shortcomings. Successfully married people are those with no entitlement mentality. Be ready to give your all.

Don't marry the man if he's jobless, not necessarily rich, but must be able to take care of 6 children and you too.

From your assessment, if he can't don't fall for any promise.

Don't marry him out of pity.

Ahead of all I said above, pray to know what God is saying about it. I'm not asking you to go meet a pastor to find out, pray yourself and let God tell you His mind about it.

Can you hear God when He speaks?

Fira09:
🤣 🤣 😂 😂!

Whether empty or numerous, Bola Tinubu isn't winning the presidential election.

On PO mandate we stand.

Hmmm! Be careful of high blood presssure o!

Serious people don't put all their hopes on any man!

P.O. or no P.O. life continues after the election my brother.

Racoon:
https://www.farooqkperogi.com/2023/02/three-major-shifts-in-presidential.html

Atiku's spokesman, well done.

amechispeaks:
Being Disciplined Vs Being Passionate: Which Is More Important For Achieving Your Goals?

We are all trying to achieve something in life, and we all know being successful isn't easy.

It can require a combination of both discipline and passion. But in my opinion, I'd say discipline is more important to achieving set goals.

Discipline will take you where passion cannot.

I have been passionate about many things, but wasn't disciplined enough to follow through, hence I didn't succeed in them.

On the other hand, there were set goals I wasn't even passionate about, but I achieved them because I was disciplined enough to follow through to the end.

For example, I have always been passionate about writing fictional books, but for many years I had so many book ideas that never saw the light of day. This was because I wasn't disciplined enough to put in the hours required to write them. I was also too busy writing for my clients (but that's not an excuse for not writing my own personal projects).

It wasn't until 2020 that I decided that no matter the workload I have from my clients and no matter how tired I was from working, that I would still make out the time to write my own book. And in less than a month, I had finished my book which I released in October 2020.

That's my take on discipline and passion as far as achieving set goals is concerned.

What's yours? And do you have similar stories to share?

You need both. One without the other won't bring you success.

One is your accelerator pedal(PASSION), the other is your break pedal(DISCIPLINE)

Imagine not having break in your car, thats the situation without DISCIPLINE, likewise having a car without accelerator, you go nowhere!

derecho:
Nigerians can't wait to forget Buhari.He was a bad dream.
If not for Nairaland, I don't even know Buhari is still alive.

No be you say the man na Sudan Jubril before?

IDERAWOLE:
You got it.

They should both come to Onitsha and see wonders. Dubai and China is a child play when you see Enugu and Owerri. What's Lagos!

Do these IPOB GUYS realize that this statement is a sacarstic one?

Abi1985:
Since the time I was born, I have never seen a pastor carry gun and force person to give offerings or tithe.

So why are churches getting bad rep? No be by force to give, if you do not want to give, then do not give. After all, na your own money, so it is up to you to give or not to give. If you feel pressure or you are reluctant to give, please do not give at all.

If they talk sow a seed of 10,0000 naira or 50 naira, and you do not have or you do not want to give, do not stress yourself at all. Give what you can give easily and cheerful and if you do not want to, then don't.

Pastor can use words to persuade someone to give. At the end of the day, it is up to individuals to decide to give or not. So leave the Pastors and let them be.

If Pastor fly private jet, well good for him. If he use body guards, good for him. The body guards are getting paid and the private jet is not free.

It shows you're not a regular attendee of church meetings.

By the time the embarrassment of not joining the bandwagon of givers long enough, you'll look for another to go to.

Ibechris2:
U have a nice uncle.

But we may not know the full story here but it's indeed painful to hear stories like this.

I wonder how some women prioritise affairs over their children's future.

But if u are close to 25 of age I don't expect u to be in that house.

Our friend should tell us his age.

Mino1000:
Hi everyone, so I met this beautiful babe June this year and we started dating three months later. We genuinely loved each other and we had a relationship that people envied.

We trusted each other so much that I had access to her google account and all her personal info on my laptop, while she also had mine on her phone to cut the long story short, I have a problem of always getting worried whenever she is not home and I can't reach her for example if she leaves in a bolt and the journey is 30minutes but she is not reachable one hour later I start to worry and call people I feel are at home and even the bolt rider.

On this particular day, she had a meeting with her colleagues which just came into the country, she shared her live location but it was last updated an hour ago, she was not picking her calls and it was 11:45pm mind you she was in Ikeja and lives at lekki so she was still going to Lekki that night in this dangerous December month in Lagos. I called and called but she did not pick then I got so worried and went to her google contacts to get her boss number and called him. He told her I called and that is how trouble started.

She explained that nobody has his number and she is the middle man between him and clients so his number getting into my hands without her permission means his company info is not safe. She said I have destroyed all what she labored to build over the years and blocked me everywhere (phone, whatsapp, snapchat) and left me with only instagram access. I have been begging her since last night when this happened, but she only unblocked me to tell me not to call her again and blocked me back.

I have been trying to explain to her that relationship and marriage is full of challenges so she should not let this one destroy what we had but she has been ignoring me. If I call with a different number she hangs up immediately she hears my voice.

We were already talking about marriage and in fact, I had already started making arrangements for a proposal next year.

I swear I really love this lady with everything that I have and I know for a fact that she loved me too but right now I am confused I am wondering how she was so much in love with me yesterday morning but doesn’t even want to hear my voice today. She went as far as threatening to get me arrested if I come close to her house. I am really confused and need mature advice on what to do to save this relationship because right now I can’t focus on anything. Plus I trust her so I wasn’t calling because I thought she was doing something silly.

My brother, you need help and fast for that matter.

I had wanted to call you names, but I've restrained myself from doing so.

Love can be very dramatic sometimes so your funny behaviour is understandable. You may have gotten so carried away with the affection for this lady and it does happen.

However, let's talk straight here. This incident is a sign that God loves you, your mother dead or alive hasn't left you alone. This is not just a red flag, this is a rainbow flag for you to reset your brain sir.

Let's take it that she's so annoyed that you had to call her boss in that scenario, what's the reason she gave you or can give you for not picking your calls?

Please, let me even stop here. That lady has no single atom of respect for you and if you go ahead to marry her assuming she calms down, you'll be a foot mat for that lady.

You need the Frank talk like this one from many others that I've read tonight to come to your senses.

What you have for this lady is not love, it's either you're a gold digger or something has happened to your brain.

Which job is she having that you can't call her boss. This is a clear tale that whatever job they're doing in that setup is nothing legal. Watch out, you'll soon cry if you don't check your brain tonight and do something tangible with your life.

You can just ignore this comment if you like.

Bayonet40:
Saw this on a facebook page and decided to share here, what's your take?

Hmmm "Okafor's Law" I guess........




https://www.facebook.com/100077444346401/posts/200791155845695/?app=fbl

Since you're not the lady in question, let's talk for the sake of others.

Two wrongs will never a right! Remove religion or spirituality aside, the lady in question is ignorantly going to carry a burden for life. For now, let her be making shakara.

While there might not be a bastard child, there's is bastard mother.

If she can go the extent of looking for the lady so that she can apologize to her, why not wait for answer to the prayers offered? That's the problem of praying to a God you don't know, or a prayer merchant praying for you.

If the God they prayed is understood by the lady that He can be her father if He's not yet, then she won't take laws into her hands to injure her heart.

The bottom line is that, the knowledge of God makes all the difference in circumstance no matter how bad it may be.

MP3GAGAdotCOM:

See hatred in action!