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Politics / Re: Osinbajo Visits Pa Olajide Olabode, Former Awolowo Driver (Video) by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:10pm On May 11, 2019
Cowmilk:
So of what economic benefit is the visit


Guess we shd fry beans


Those who don't give a f*ck didn't open the thread

Is Everything all about economic benefits? See where it has led your nation. A society without respect for good service and honour for old age is doomed!

See Yahoo yahoo everywhere.
Family / Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:23am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

Your dilemma is understandable, but you need a sound therapist to help you out if this is not an attempt at becoming a story teller, trying to write a book of fiction.

The annoying part of sexual escapades is that you end up looking like a fool. You'll soon exhaust that euphoria of sleeping with such a guy, painfully he'll dump you for another lady with shallow thinking. Didn't he know that you are married?

Coming back to your husband, even if you're going to still tell him, maybe not now, or else, be ready to leave that marriage. That man, with the way you have described him, may not forgive you easily.

However, your sexual life is also key, the problem is that we have a culture that is very deceptive and people not real with their feelings. All you need do to get that man to the level of sexual excitement you want is openly talk about it with him. You can both learn better ways of enjoying your sexual relationship.

For the non-enjoyment of the sex, you're both guilty.

As a relationship counsellor, I know you need a few more information. All the best.

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Family / Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:05am On May 01, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
You have to be honest with WHO YOU ARE... Aka a betrayer of trust, a woman lacking virtue and integrity. And the earliest you accept that, the better it will be for BOTH of you. Why waste time pretending to be who you are not, pretending to live a life that ain't you. What you need is right there at work....so the choice is yours: be miserable for the rest of your life OR be honest and free yourself from this charade you call marriage.

I won't even dwell on how I would feel if I was that man and getting to find out the above by myself...

What a wonderful advice you have here.

You're the one that is really pretending because of the excitement of drinking a stolen water!

No wonder a lot of people get into depression after wounding their spirit, thinking they are enjoying.

Wish you continuous deception.

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Celebrities / Re: Fella Makafui: 10 Photos Of Ghana Actress Will Discourage Ladies From Bleaching by IDERAWOLE(m): 3:24pm On Apr 25, 2019
Proudlyngwa:
How does this pictures discourage someone from bleaching.

Only a Nigerian will ask this kind of question. Haba! Where your eye dey?
Family / Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by IDERAWOLE(m): 7:59pm On Apr 23, 2019
MiaB:
"Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful"


Sit your mom down and tell her the truth

I agree with you.

All you need do is call your wonderful and hard working mum, not in your brother's presence though and let her realize the lie the guy is living.

Thereafter, wait for a feedback from your mum. What's the girl also doing fir a living? She can't become a leech on the woman too.

Think ahead of what other thing that brother of yours can do to add to his present job, or a new one outright.

All the best. Never allow the situation to become a tug of war between you and your brother!
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Tech Innovations That Can Help Tackle Youth Unemployment In Nigeria by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:07pm On Apr 18, 2019
candlewax:
please I need cheap 2hectares of land in ogun or Lagos for animal farming

Check my signature below for a good farmland without any omo onile wahala.

You can call or chat via same number.

Wish you all the best.

If you're in Lagos, and you don't mind, you can enjoy a free seminar this coming Sunday 21st April, time ,7.30am to 8.30am at Daystar Christian Centre, Ikosi road , Oregun Lagos. Admission is free.

Give me a shout on arrival if you're coming.

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Romance / Re: Many People Might Not Know This Answer. by IDERAWOLE(m): 12:22pm On Apr 15, 2019
Jayneek:
Just thought is nice to cool the stress and exercise the brain this beautiful Monday morning.

The question:

What are you suppose to call your uncles fathers brother?

No insulting please.

Grand Uncle. Since your uncle is your father's or mother's sibling, there father is your grandfather. The brother to your grandfather is therefore your grand uncle.
Business / Foreign Buyers Of Nigerian Charcoal Needed by IDERAWOLE(m): 7:53pm On Apr 09, 2019
Can anyone here supply us with interested foreign buyers of Nigerian charcoal.

These informations are needed:

1. TYPE NEEDED

2. QUANTITY PER ANNUM

3. PRICE WILLING TO PAY FOR 40FEET CONTAINER OF 21TONS WEIGHT.

Check my signature for contact details.
Family / Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by IDERAWOLE(m): 11:07pm On Apr 08, 2019
lacapine:
Hera is complicated kind of. Her parents never legally married but they.sha lived together and made babies. Her dad abandoned them to remarry another woman who he currently lives with and has babies with too. So her mum is alone..

You can see the import of what I'm talking about. A very complex background already.

You can work with the spirit of God in carrying out your vision for her life.

If you know how hear what God says, you can be equipped with directions from God on how to navigate the road ahead.

All the same, the Lord will bless your good heart. Stay positive about your plans for her and heavens will give you the grace to rejoice later.
Family / Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by IDERAWOLE(m): 7:01am On Apr 06, 2019
It can be frustrating helping a lady or girl that has been sweet-talked by men or boys!

You need extra care and prayers not to regret your good intentions. Home trouble can also be a factor.

Many don't want any good for their citizens outside their village. Is she from a polygamous family? Find out.
Webmasters / Re: I'm Tired Of Blogging, Who Can Guide Me Through Any Other Online Biz by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:59am On Mar 25, 2019
Faster006:
Hello everyone, my daily prayer is not only to have my own online business but also an online business I can depend on financially.

Here's my little problems:

I created a blog, got adsense approve
My Challenges:
Traffic
What to write

I tried android app development.
Created one android app , I integrated admob and hundreds of downloads recorded.

My challenges :

It was very difficult to build
Time consuming.

I tried also Web design.
I have designed and hosted up to 5 website
My challenges
Getting clients

Above all here's my major challenge :
No PC : I did all with my phone but it fustrate me a lot.

Please need suggestions on area I should improve on, or new online biz to learn






For what to post troubles, you need PLR with licence to use them as you wish.

All you need is re-write them and blast them on your blog.

Find effective traffic solutions to your blog, moreover you have adsense already!

If you want quality PLR (ORIVATE LABEL RIGHTS - Tons of articles on thousands of topics for cheap price, reach via whatsapp on- 08063423482. You need to be encouraged)
Webmasters / Re: I'm Tired Of Blogging, Who Can Guide Me Through Any Other Online Biz by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:57am On Mar 25, 2019
Faster006:
Hello everyone, my daily prayer is not only to have my own online business but also an online business I can depend on financially.

Here's my little problems:

I created a blog, got adsense approve
My Challenges:
Traffic
What to write

I tried android app development.
Created one android app , I integrated admob and hundreds of downloads recorded.



For what to post troubles, you need PLR with licence to use them as you wish.

All you need is re-write them and blast them on your blog.

Find effective traffic solutions to your blog, moreover you have adsense already!

If you want quality PLR (ORIVATE LABEL RIGHTS - Tons of articles on thousands of topics for cheap price, reach via whatsapp on- 08063423482. You need to be encouraged).

My challenges :

It was very difficult to build
Time consuming.

I tried also Web design.
I have designed and hosted up to 5 website
My challenges
Getting clients

Above all here's my major challenge :
No PC : I did all with my phone but it fustrate me a lot.

Please need suggestions on area I should improve on, or new online biz to learn


Properties / Re: After Lagos, Building Collapses In Ibadan - Sahara Reporters by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:47pm On Mar 15, 2019
Lukgaf:
I'm just tired of all these bad news. But do we have any leader in this country?

Na Buhari dey cause all these things o! Yeye man.

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Politics / Re: APC Giant Broom In Abuja Falls: Before And Now (photos) by IDERAWOLE(m): 1:06pm On Mar 15, 2019
WhiteSoup:
Nmandi Kanu / Sule Lamido 2023.

We will further reduce this broom to sand come 2023. All we need is the support of the Yoruba people to achieve this dream.

Yorubas don't matter! Them be ewedu eating Afonja slaves of the north.

Don't even talk to them. By the time you take Lagos away from them, their eyes will clear. Abi?
Programming / High Level Language Short Cut by IDERAWOLE(m): 7:46pm On Mar 12, 2019
Can i have someone help me with High Level Language Short cuts. This is urgent and it will be highly appreciated.
Family / Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:22pm On Mar 07, 2019
prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage


I've read through most of the advices given to your enquiries here, some awesome, others, you need to be careful. Until you find yourself in a similar situation, it's easier said than done. Talk can be cheap you know!

All I can say is that you need to calm down now that you're thinking of making a decision, though separated for 4months already.

You'll need to find a place to talk with her without any interruption. If you watch her body language very well, you may be able to pick her heart, whether she want the relationship back, though this requires some skill, but you'll need to try.

I can feel your heart in this situation, but it shall go well if you trust God in all of these!

What's your relationship with God like? It doesn't matter even if there's none for now, just put your confidence in Him.

I'll leave you with two materials to read an excerpts from, if these sound good enough, you may want to purchase them.

In the alternative, you may want to speak with me, I'm a marriage counsellor as well. My contact- 08063423482

The links:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E7nXs8juhwFpnOOJCnYQeoYrWm2DEBrXQRTknS0_8PU/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882



https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Nv23_98PdzAvZCll-RDploLHoM3iUPdXIDQ4nxn_7Ic/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882

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Business / How To Withdraw Clickbank Earnings In Nigeria Without Using Payoneer Card/paypal by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:35pm On Mar 06, 2019
Pls any information on how to withdraw earnings in Clickbank without using payoneer card or PayPal account?
Business / How To Withdraw Clickbank Earnings In Nigeria Without Using Payoneer Card/paypal by IDERAWOLE(m): 4:13pm On Mar 06, 2019
Pls any information on how to withdraw earnings in Clickbank without using payoneer card or PayPal account?
Phones / Re: How Good Is Wiko Phones? by IDERAWOLE(m): 11:08am On Feb 17, 2019
polymaths:
Go for good brand , like Samsung, lg, iPhone, Motorola, huawei, zte and so on forget all this made for Africa China phones. Even the name will discourage you, Wikko. Even I don't use techno, infinix and itel.


Thanks a million for the advice.
Phones / How Good Is Wiko Phones? by IDERAWOLE(m): 7:18am On Feb 17, 2019
Can someone give me an insight on how good Wiko phones are?
Politics / Re: Disappointments Trails Presidential Media Chat As Buhari Declines Live Interview by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:00am On Jan 08, 2019
obi4eze:
angry


Jubrin Al Sudani will never attend a live unfettered media interview in Nigeria because he doesn't want to be disgraced. Besides, he knows nothing about governance in Nigeria other than what Presidents Abba Kyari and Mamman Daura have told him.

Funny enough, the only things the fraud seems to know are the lies he has been fed with. Everyday I pity my fellow Nigerians because we have been scammed big time.

I can remember that the "hero" of 2015 election attended the live interview.

So what goes round comes round.
Programming / Re: Different Ways To Earn $1000 Online Monthly by IDERAWOLE(m): 10:30am On Dec 29, 2018
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