Lovely woman! God bless her. We need more people like this in Nigeria. Very wise, graceful and humane. She is a blessing to her family and all who have met her. Remain blessed Ma and Long Life!

If two consenting adults choose to love each other it is no one's business. If you keep making life difficult for these people some of them will secretly marry your sister or daughter. As long as they are adults they should be free to do as they choose in ANY country in the world.

Some of the people making noise here and promising to kill people because of the way they were born have committed r.ape, perhaps even murder and some even molested young girls. So I don't understand how the decisions of an adult that does not affect anyone else should bother people.

Just because we don't have the tendency or are repulsed by same sex attraction does not mean we should be mean to others. It has taken a lot of people time to come to understand that people are just born that way. The same way most men are not physically attracted to other men, hence some men are not attracted physically to women, that is just it. Some people are born albino without choice so that is the way nature is - very unpredictable in it's many manifestations.

Please let us practice consideration and tolerance for others - to make our country better. I am more concerned about ok.o haram, PHCN, fuel scarcity, bad roads, corrupt politicians, rainy season floods, runs girls that take my money, etc, than worry about people's personal choices. I guess they live more women for us!

Well said Unclebros. It does not take 6 years for anyone to decide whether to marry or not. In fact money is not the main reason to delay or not marry after all both parties are living under a roof and eating at least a meal a day.


kalmebad - was on point, guys and girls need to be frank with each other early on. Regardless of whether this behavior was by a man or woman it is wrong to string someone along for 6 years. This is not secondary school or uni! No reason for him to keep her dangling and no reason for her to keep waiting for so long!

Sad situation for her especially to have emotionally invested into a relationship for 6 years! What a mean guy!

I get and find the OP's article funny and I don't think she meant offence. In fact the situation at the Embassies seem to have improved. Like Don_Sapele I use 9ja passport to enter 9ja always and will always be proud to use it.

By law (if a US citizen) you have to use US passport to enter the US and I intend to use the same principle for 9ja. Still a funny article and I can relate to some of the comments she made.

I was able to renew my 9ja passport hassle free in Atlanta. The staff were courteous and helpful. I made sure to READ the instructions carefully, have all required documentation and follow directions.

There is no need to arrive at the embassy half-prepared and then start blaming Nigeria for your lack of preparation. Some people offer crap to Nigerian Embassies that they will not do with other Embassies.

Wasting your time also perhaps losing out on future decent husband.

I broke up with a girl that really liked me after I found out she had dated married men. I could not consider marrying such a woman among many other things that made me doubt her integrity and suitability.

Most young men do not respect such a woman that has no self respect if she can bring herself so low as to date a married man

Either short hair or fake long hair does not matter! A beautiful woman would still be beautiful. Personally I prefer the old fashioned look with braids or afro.

The fake or permed "straightened" look does not turn me om. But I will support my woman in whatever makes her feel attractive.

Though I will not contribute to spending several thousands of Naira on fake hair. I guess a reasonable amount will vary according to each person's bank account.

This is a STUPID move!!!  

These Okada people are running a legitimate business trying to survive despite the corrupt governments of the past 40 years that has almost destroyed this country!

If these hard working business people are now made redundant due to STOOPID crooks in Abuja claiming to be elected officials crime will rise and the average people will continue to bear the brunt.

I hope the state governments show some backbone and over rule this - we are supposed to be a federation not a dictatorship.  

I am sure that Fashola knows what is best for us in Lagos rather than the mumu called GEJ stuffing his FAT face in Abuja with stolen money.

pro01 and Wislet hit the nail on the head!  

Even when I am dating I don't hang around too much or talk frequently to other women.  I also try to keep my girlfriend informed about my female friends.  Like Pro01 said some so called 'modern' women AND men think they can do whatever and the other person should just put up with it.

Once I notice that my girlfriend is the attention starved typed that insists on keeping lots of male friends I know she is not a potential marriage partner for me in the long run.  Some other guys like that and they can have her when we are done dating.  I also find out in conversation if she is the type that believes in hanging out with ex's after marriage, again that is not for me.  I won't try to convince her since I don't think people fundamentally change their innate traits.

After marriage couples should only keep in touch with ex's and opposite gender friends IN MODERATION.  My future wife does not have to abandon her male friends and ex's but at the same time we BOTH  need to build a new life together and respect our home and NOT have frequent and regular connection to ex-sweethearts and members of the opposite sex that are not mutual friends.  If one is a drunk then it is best to avoid places that sell alcohol.  The way I control myself with regards women is to avoid situations that could be tempting.

An adult thinks before acting and talking.  There is no need for a Ph.D. to make sense of this topic.

Uchek - is 100% right!

I wonder why people think Nigeria is okay now!  Perhaps we are content to live as slaves to the corruption called Nigeria.  The leaders that have pillaged the country before and after the civil war continue to pass the baton to chosen successors to continue the pillage.

The conviction to fight for the country of Biafra is an unfinished business that all southern regions of the country will eventually have to take up again.  

While our young are being entertained with prostitution, video games, Nollywood, etc.  the country is being robbed blind of wealth from the south taken to the north.

Unlike the so called Pentecostal churches that deceive people with lies and superstition, AMORC from my personal experience seeks to remove lies and fears that enslave people. Particularly in our chaotic society today with economic and social stagnation we suddenly have all these 'churches' suggesting people rub oil on themselves and various primitive behaviors that even our idol worshiping great-grandfathers would be surprised is still going on.

In an era of modern science in the rest of the world we have persons in Nigeria claiming to be religious and pastors taking the little money people have to keep them coming back to their churches for 'solutions' to their problems.

I have been to AMORC campus in California, read and participated for over 20 years and can categorically state it is not a cult but a modern organization that seeks to enlighten and remove the darkness of superstition from people.

Wish them the best of Married Life. There are many Women and Men that are not shallow. Though we need to be attracted mentally and physically to the person we marry - to sustain love and marriage is much more than physical.

The fine girl or tall handsome man that a person might crave could be a great individual inside also. Then it is possible that exterior beauty could mask a selfish, greedy and mean person so we never know. Eventually the mast will wash off and you are left with the true person and many years ahead to endure. Ask about all the men that divorced Halle Berry and other so called beauties.

I have read and seen so many instances of couples being together for decades even after a partner becomes paralyzed and in a wheel chair. So not everyone is so shallow as to not fall in love due only to height, weight, money, age, etc,

I am optimistic and wish them all the best.

As a Yoruba Man I appreciate and praise the former President of Biafra Chukwuemeka Odumegwu-Ojukwu. He was a great man that articulated his principles and did not compromise with the locusts eating Nigeria empty then and now.

Even from an early age he stood up for the oppressed and would not be bought like most of our politicians/civil servants from ALL ethnic groups today. Find below a quote from Wikipedia about his early predisposition to fight for the oppressed:

"He began his educational career in Lagos, southwestern Nigeria. In 1944, Emeka was briefly imprisoned for assaulting a white British colonial teacher who was humiliating a black woman at King's College in Lagos, an event which generated widespread coverage in local newspapers."

We need more leaders like him - RIP!

Pendo89 - you are 100% on point. I agree with your opinions.

As a mature experienced man ladies please note that a man over 30 years old should be able to propose after 1 year maximum of dating!! Don't waste your time waiting for a man over 30 that has not made a decision within a year MAX. If employed regardless of income level then there is no need for a man 30 years or older to not propose.

The problem with dating and dating and chasing skirts is that it becomes a bad habit like smoking and does not increase your pleasure or level of satisfaction. In fact it probably diminishes sexual satisfaction in marriage. The more people you 'know' sexually it seems to make it harder to form a stable relationship. The long neck behavior of some men and women is really causing havoc in western and African families.

Let's spend our time growing stable families so we can have time to think and build our country rather than chasing skirts all over town.

Always SAD when a topic takes a turn for tribalistic sentiments
I wonder when we will grow up as a society of AFRICAN people rather than 'tribes' ??

There are many Men and Women that have little regard for their body, hence live for today damn the consequences.
Femi Kuti and the many women having children for him have made their choice, as u sow ,