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Communication break down. All this problem started because of how you told her you don't have money . Since the child stays with the mother, there are some concessions you'd have to make (even if you don't really like it) just for peace to reign. example, the incident of starting school much earlier than agreed. You could have handled it better by either sending them a token of whatever u have or gently tell her you are broke for now but will send whatever u have later as opposed to sticking your feet down and insisting on September. It's not stupidity, it's called wisdom aka stooping to conquer.

From your story, the lady and/or her family can comfortably take care of the toddler. I don't know any court that will grant you custody of the child but you'd get visitation rights for sure if that's what you're fighting for. And also the mandatory monthly child support that you'd have to pay.

Im not sure going to court now is the best idea. Can you take a back seat from visiting and communicating with the lady directly and have either or both of your parents visit hers and have a chat with her parents( not her) i believe your parents will be calm and handle hers well no matter the level of provocation,if any, by the girls Mother. Please don't send only your mom o, we women are known to be petty.

No mother will like you or support you after you knocked up her daughter and refused to marry her so don't be surprised the mom did not caution the daughter while she was exchanging words with you. If you married her properly, her reaction to that incident would have been the opposite. I'm not making excuses for her moms behaviour Please, just trying to see things from a typical Naija moms angle.

If that fails then head to court. Since they stay in Delta, I presume the issue can only be sorted at family welfare courts in Delta state. Obviously,The lady wanted marriage from you and since that is not forthcoming, she's acting out.

Omg

People dey vex. Banky should learn to ignore.

7inches:
Why pls.

I know say Kanye West must have gotten it already.

I think not. Most of such ridiculously prized items are bought by the Arabs ruling families.

@Topic the bottle fine but small. The contents no go belleful a one month old Naija pikin. And for that prize, the bottle better be self washing and rinsing itself.

introvertme:
Why and how ?

Why : for adverts and promotion of SA

How: they posted, tagged and promoted SA to their online fans. In all their wedding pictures , videos and all what not , they mentioned and sold SA to Nigerians and the world. Same thing social media influencers are paid to do.

Check properly, the so-called pastor is abusing someone, either his or someone else's child.

That's the native Northern Ghana wear for titled chiefs

hahn:
It's a 300 ft drop and if you factor in the heat for over a week I doubt anyone could have survived it

True.

ednut1:
True or false i dont care. Banky has been singing a tune of recent which is donate donate donate. Its all about money jare

Lol

Jaqenhghar:
Now you know how he was able to afford the South African ( abi Dubai) wedding. Dont worry guys he will pay back the money as soon as he becomes a member

His wedding was sponsored and paid for by South African tourism board.

I fail to understand why nld keep shoving this joker on our air space/ face

Outside nld, I don't know this dude. As predicted he's ran back to UK leaving behind, broken families, jobless confused youths and more problems for ala Igbo.

Seun Osewa, we don't care about this coward. Let his promoters and fans go advertise him on

So sad he died although a bit expected. He was there for days, an adult might have survived.

Doesn't look it's worth. Looks just plain and there.

frostmate2:
This is very true. It's not easy getting a job here man for we Nigerians. Even low paying jobs like cleaner or housekeeping is very hard to get because the powers that be like to go for one of their own rather than another nationality. This applies for better paying jobs more often than not.

But I think 95-5 is a bit far fetched I must say and it's not 50-50 neither. That's just my opinion.

Do you think spending over 500K on a 3 months job seeking trip is worth It now?

What's your take or advise?

Kenechill:
Any luck? I think there's a page for tourist visa or short stay. On their site. Kindly look through

I'm not sure but I'd confirm from them and revert. Dalu

Why did Buharì not pick either of the folks that will retire in 2018 and/or 2019 ?

ANS: He is a tribal bigot. It's abokiii first and second , cows third and others last.

bus1:
The damage has already been done.
That is how the wanted criminal atiku exploited the US govt. Shutdown to quickly dash in and out of US when thousands of FBI and security staff were furloughed.

Hahaha
This is damn too funny.

By fire by false

Where is the girls Mother?

steezyhere:
I’m regretting because the stupid agent talked me up on getting jobs that pay 500k and above only for me to get here and the jobs he’s offering are construction jobs and helper jobs that don’t even pay enough for a decent accommodation. I mean c’mon I was making that much in Nigeria. I had a 2 bedroom apartment with another 5 months rent but instead I’m here sharing a room with 5 and a toilet with what feels like the whole of Ras Al Khaimah.
80% of the jobs available on job sites would rather employ any other national.
Actually I’m just so disappointed in myself that I fell for this.
Well if I don’t get a good job by 19th next month I’ll just use my return ticket to come back home jeje.

Thank you for saying the truth as is. I don't know any Nigerian who can stand the rigours of Dubai construction jobs, I mean even the Indians and Paki that do it look sickly and pitiable.

I hope You'd get a better job before your visa expires. Pele

uchman:
Maybe you are whining him...

I have met Nonny several in UAE...
He works at Silicon Oasis...
I don't think he has any obligation to prove anything...

Is he owning anybody?

No, you meet his friend not him.

And you are right, he has nothing to prove. The day he'd scam anyone with this his false stupid "i live in Uae" is the day him and his family will know what's up.

Dave4242:
Very unfortunate that some dumb ass people gave up their lives for a local dog whom they thought was a lion. What a pity

Lol

His NLD goons are coming for u.

NONNYG:
thanks bro, that’s why I kept laughing, it’s obvious she a fake FBI, maybe I should sue her for trying to damage my name, lols. Well I don’t care... bro I live in Silicon Oasis though but I don’t work there....

I’ve met Nattybanta several times, also Kelechi, and Cafsis whom I picked from airport the day he arrived....

Stop fooling yourself. You live in Owerri.

You sent and will continue to sebd your friends to meet whoever you want them to meet, to keep up apperances here.The same friends who help you do visa stuff for people.

Funniest part of the whole thing is you lying to yourself. You that is using your other id that has "bless" to currently beg for help for school stuff in Nigeria.

I will rest this case since living in Nigeria is not a crime until the day I'd hear u scammed someone. Then You'd see how fast you and your entire lineage will be picked up. Keep feeling funky here till then.

This was the dude some people gave up their lives for ?

Erhhm but y'all ate the dodo with your mom

Is your dad fulfilling his financial obligations to y'all? If yes please ignore the wife, respect and avoid her as much as you can and let your dad be.

There's nothing y'all can do if you want peace. Your dad has moved on, sadly. But that's life and reality 101. A man can marry the woman that pulled the trigger that killed the wife because they are easily manipulated, confused and controlled. I only pity women that don't know this.

I'm not saying the wife/woman killed your mom.

I hope they'd be getting maximum punishment aka death sentence.

How do you rape an old woman after stealing from her

sconp:
Unfortunately I don't know her antecedents. Calling him out just because he said the odds are 50:50 didn't cut it and then confidently beating her chest that he's in Nigeria is overboard without proofs.

I do however understand that it could have been an outburst over what she saw Nigerians passing through and she wouldn't want that for anyone.

Mr goody two shoes. That's how You'd stick your neck in another's business and it will be cut off.

I don't make assumptions. Did u see him deny that he does not live in Nigeria? He knows tbe truth.I don't know his motive for stringing y'all along with the impression that he lives in UAE but he lives in Nigeria. Bank on that . . .

centoqoh:
Oga, inasmuch as ur colleague might b making a mistake, ur post made u sound as if u are jealous or envious of him. Just cancel him neutrally against embarking on job hunting in Dubai.

#150k salary is fair not to be abandoned to go and chase shadows.

Truth but some things are better left to be experienced and perharps learn.

NONNYG:
hahahaha, she must be fake FBI

Nonso,the fact that you have friends in UAE and glean info for and from them does not make you a Dubai resident.

You have not scammed anyone yet so this would be my last post on this for now. You live in Nigeria, as at today. Stop fooling yourself.

NONNYG:
lols, like seriously?

I'm not the one you joke around with. Don't try to be clever by half.

You live in Nigeria. QED

SaladsandChapman:
Thanks for the response. I have a 4 year old son that would not be traveling with me yet, is my tie with my boyfriend greater than my tie with my son?? Thanks.

Reason I jump on questions here. You have been told the truth but ofcourse, you already have an answer in your head. Go ahead and dash them the money now.

If you are so tied to this 4 years old you won't consider leaving him behind to go on over 10,000 miles journey to see a man you have not physically met. You'd ask the man to come here or y'all meet on a neutral country you can easily get the visa or requires none.

salsera:
I'm thinking he may have fallen for that fake US website

Lol
Possibly.

eyinjuege:
40k is some family man's salary. That's almost half of what each parent in this case earns, and they've not added school fees to it. I know raising children is very expensive, but one also has to be very practical about their own circumstance. If both parents had a higher earning power, my advice would have been different.
We all want the best for out kids, but we also need to face reality.
Personally, the figures aren't adding up for me. 40k on a single child's daily needs from an income of 200k combined is reckless. It's a different ballgame if the father were earning like 400k, as i would have asked for more for the child.
When the child starts school in September, how much will she be expecting the father to drop from that his 95k? I can never support deadbeat fathers, but I'm also a very practical person.
Better still, let her drop the child with the father, and take the child to herself weekends. It will even give her more time to herself. Men too can care for children. Women learn it, and they can too.

I expected you to give a practical solution, actually.

The cheapest baby/toddler formula is 2K. The child needs atleast 2 a month = 4K
2 Packs of diaper (cheapest one) = 6K. Child is in day care already, daycares don't have time for your re-usable diapers.
Cerelac( cheapest cereal) 5 small tins a month or 2 big ones = 9K
Ogi( home made or semi processed one) = 700
Baby snacks = 1000
fruits = 1000
clothing and shoes ( okirika, changed every 3 months, babies grow fast) = 10,000
day care money never enter
Occasional adult food never enter
Bath essentials never dey o (soap and cream, even if na ori)

bryanarchie:
Yes, it's subject to increase by September and will be reviewed every year...

We've agreed on the sum of 20,000naira each...

Was about to type a lengthy reply to the boys on this thread shouting manage manage up and down this thread before i saw this.

No need for dongo turenchi. I pray you get a better job so you'd be able to give your child a better life, better than the one you had. That is every good parents prayer.