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My thread is her oxygen she cannot live with out it it’s has become her morning and night devotion

Waterview:
Now it's time for you to leave the thread, I've been following the thread from day 1.

All what you guys have been doing is throwing insult in the name of advice.

suddenly those that have done multiple abortion now have opinion, shior.

you will not die if you stop commenting on this thread.

If they choose not to forgive me I don’t care because they are not God and they are not the owner of my life they can decide to do whatever they like . Do you also know that you need deliverance to cast out that spiritual husband that’s preventing from getting married ?

funmisticqueen2:
Hmm, their reactions aren't surprising, but don't expect life to be like an African magic movie. Things less than what you did have caused permanent rift between families.

Anyhoo!! Be prepared for the eventuality that some of your family members may never forgive you, or want nothing to do with you.

But you need help, see a psychologist after all these. You and your elder sister may need therapy.

Talk for yourself because you don’t have a man in your life and me being a concubine is better than you single for life , at least I have a man that makes me happy he keeps me from having stress but yourself you have been battling ulcer , konji, blood pressure and you don’t give people a rest begging for them to pray for you for marital settlement something you will never get and at your old age nobody will help you because u will have no child and you will die single

midnighter:
Lmao what are you saying na, she said she doesn't need Mrs people wey dey answer Mrs dey facebook dey beg N100

Anyway I agree with her on that one because Mrs is not even her problem right now hahaha

Smoking and drinking money that cannot be gathered to pay for daughters school fees, you think it can get to even one small stout on your head?

Anyway I told you people this girl is just a scientific experiment sent from the government to make us forget the excesses of Buhari and Co. She is not real

I laugh at your stupidity miss I know it all over Sabi because from page one to 40 you have been insulting repeating the same thing you are talking thinking that your are intelligent but for real you are just stupid bringing your frustration to me as if I’m the one who has made your life miserable that you don’t progress , you can insult from today until 2021 it will not change the fact I love my guy and he is the best instead of insulting me go for deliverance to cast out the spiritual mask that cover your face and that has been making men running away from you and you also need to get rid of that spiritual husband that sex with you every night so in real life you will have no man , because insulting me won’t give you a husband or money . What doesn’t kill me make me stronger if u know the way am loving him every single day and it’s making our love more stronger. Even if I have the brain of a 7 days old baby it’s my life my own brain for the fact that you have been having sleepless night following my post up and down that means I’m more better than you . I hope Nairaland pays you a salary every month for insulting people because if u don’t get any money then you are a looser , beggars like those one that begs on Facebook and that part pained you so much because you also belongs to the begging categories see this jobless fool you graduate instead to go out with your cv to look for a job no you are here living a perfect life on social media but in reality you are jobless that lives in face me I face you and can’t even feed herself and if you don’t beg on Facebook you will not eat . You are nothing but a waste of space . Carry on with the insult I’m enjoying it like seriously

Ehibiggirl:
The last two pages are just so funny.
The ifyjos struggling to convince people she is having a great time with her lowlife prick alone is rib cracking.

calling other people she knows nothing about beggars is not a surprise because judging from all she keeps repeating she only knows that type of life which is predominant in the place where she was raised and is part of the reason why she thinks everyone leads a beggarly low life like her aside from her shortsightedness

living from hand to mouth is the life she has settled for and wants to give her daughter, that’s why she is fighting for the child to join them in the shanty they are squatting in with other thugs, very soon she would start hawking things for her parents to feed.

She would soon inculcate in the little girl waywardness, sex(since she would be watching it live as her parents would be doing it like dogs on the street) disrespect, violence, witchcraft, contentment with backwardness, from all she has been writing you know she has no good morals to give. She is like a 512 memory she maybe 21 but she sure has the brain of an unruly 7year old.

This type of girls it’s only time that can teach them
I hope it won’t be too late.

Yes begging is a crime and it’s for lazy
People like you who has turned Facebook into begging instead of going out and hustle , yeah continue your begging no body is stopping you and let me continue with my handsome husband to be the man of my youth anyway let me go to bed to sastify my crown instead of me wasting a time with a facebook beggar and single person like you no boyfriend no child and you will go on Facebook please admin hide my identity please pray for me for marital settlement all
My younger siblings are married I want to marry this year hahahaha that’s how u will be sending hide my id every year for prayer request for marital settlement till u reached 50 no husband no child

midnighter:
Hahaha can't I beg you Is begging a crime?

Let me beg my beg in peace now, at least it's better than being a condemned building that has been marked for demolition like some people

He may be a drunkard , peodophile , smoker and car washer but he is doing so much better than you I don’t know if you are a man or woman because I can’t tell from your profile but just know that he is responsible he doesn’t waste his time on social media like u are doing judging others people and you are insulting as if you will get a salary from it look at this good for nothing woman/Man U have nothing better to do go look for a job and hustle hard to have a salary at the end of the month because judging people won’t put food on your table or pay your rent. Yes let me keep deceiving myself I like it that way even if he left me ( god forbid) u will never see me at your compound begging you for food or money so stop taking Paracetamol for my headache

CeterisXVII:
Please people should stop calling that smoker, drunkard and paedophile, her husband.

He is NOT. The guy did not pay her bride price and has not married her in any way.

That word ' husband' is what a lot of girls use to deceive themselves, when they are in a relationship, that is not heading anywhere.

Anyway, na she sabi. One day, agaracha go enter market, but e no go return....

Let her keep deceiving herself there.

It’s you that seek and need medical attention as soon as possible because if you were in the right state you wouldn’t come and chat shit , you are a so called graduate but u have nothing and all u do is spending time on social media begging and insulting people why not go sell cold pure water to make money instead of being here all the time and not getting paid

midnighter:
Hahahaha you are sick babe! You need medical help. I can't stop laughing.

Anyway you're right, I'm also a Facebook beggar. Hope you can help me with a free hairstyle?

Hahaha gosh! Thank you for providing me with a laugh to warm me up this cold evening.

I won’t get pregnant because I did family planning and even if I get pregnant u won’t see me at your compound begging you for money to feed my children because they have a responsible father the same way he is taking care of the first child he will do the same with the second , even if we had 40 of them
It’s our business

Amhappy:
Oh Babe you went too far and staying with your guy is not a solution. The hot sex you are enjoying may bring another belle. Do your parents go to church? If yes visit the pastor/Rev to handle this reconciliation. It will take wisdom to resolve this. It may take years for them to forgive you. I had it rough in 2019 and chopped insults even from children wey i fit born. It's not new nne. Next time reply insults with success. Prove you are not an efulefu.

If my own sister I never listened to her and do u think I will listen to you a stranger from nowhere someone you living another life on social media but reality you are beggar. I don’t regret the way I choose to open up at least I have feel relieved right now . Am not regretting being kicked out of the house , it just proved that am now a grown up so I have to hustle hard for my small family ( my guy and daughter ) and your cheap talk doesn’t bother me . Say whatever you like I don’t care , the time u are wasting following and comment thrush under my post it would have been better if you kneel down asking God for a life partner coz me I’m better I have a lovely caring husband to be and a beautiful princess and u will not when u reached menopose under your papa house and nobody to marry u by then u will know how stupid u were wasting your time chatting shit on someone who has better than you

midnighter:
We told her not to open up like that like that so that she wouldn't be forced to go and live with that guy, she kept replying everybody here that she must confess she is feeling guilty blah blah until she was ejected from her parents house.

Where do you want her to go na

She has to keep with the guy until she can go home. Or what do you suggest she does...?

In the first place she hasn't even explained to the man why she is staying with him...I hope her pastor can help her sha

yes she is our child we can bring her anywhere we are living we will sleep on the same bed and she won’t die because you yourself you are forming rich on social media but in reality u may be squatting with someone else and sleeping on the floor u can’t even afford a mattress not even to talk about foodstuffs u might be one of those Facebook beggars too , so our living condition it is none of your business and nobody forced you to follow a illerate person like me

midnighter:
Lol

I told you at the beginning of the thread that if you don't wise up you will end up messing up your daughter, now look at it. You want to bring a child of 5 into where you are squatting, not knowing whether you could be thrown out at any minute.

Where is she going to sleep by the way? While you're having your mind-blowing morning sex

I advocated for the thread to be locked, but I've changed my mind.

It's a lesson in forensic psychiatry. This is how we will analyse the minds of women who help their boyfriends and husbands to commit heinous crimes. This is how it starts. A sane and literate person arguing as if they are sick, all for the sake of a guy.

They are begging because they dont have their husbands are irresponsible, they just wanted to answer mrs for the world to see them married but in reality they dont have anything , u should see a post that was posted less than an hour already 5000 comments of beggars , some people will even want to help a widow u should see how some so called married women claiming widows are doing better than them that they money should be given to them hahahahhaahhahaha some are even so desperate to go to a stranger inbox to beg for money nawa for so called married women so that makes men feel proud of my guy we are not yet married he is responsible and when we will be married he will do better . So don't come and preach me about marriage my ass..I don't care you can preach me about pre marital sex from now until 2021 nothing will change my mind , I will still doing and am not feeling guilty.

Nooil:
My dear, forget forums, people will say anything to make people give them money. Do you really believe someone cannot afford 100 naira or 50 naira bottled water?

Premarital sex is wrong even if other people are doing it. Getting married does not mean you'll become like other women begging for money.

Moreover, God will answer your prayers if you're not engaging in premarital sex. You need Him more now than anything else.
Remember the prayer of a sinner is an abomination to God. What will it cost you to get married?

Best of luck to you too hope this year u will stop begging for recharge card and money for foods on social media at least get something doing


quote author=Michellekabod2 post=85827017]still young and naive.
Anyway best of luck in your endeavor and choice[/quote]

Thanks dear ,I brought my problem here because i wanted help on how to confess to my sister but some of them here all they could do is insulting my guy which I have tried to ignored them and now I have done my part by confessing and they still cannot stop talking bad about him as if they have made it in life even those jobless good for nothing people now have the guts to insult him because they are trying to form perfect life on social media which in real life they are nothing and have nothing.


quote author=SlimBrawnie post=85827147]I remember when this thread first started, insults were hurled on this lady, yet she maintained her calm... At the 38th page, people are insulting her with all their might so I'm not surprised at her response, there is only so much one can take... She chose who to be with, it's a choice, so her love life shouldn't be up for debate or discussion at this point. She did something wrong which she's trying to correct and that should be the focus. Enough of the judgment & blame games already, people have said worse. We move[/quote]

We are not doing any competition about marriage and we prefer to wait for the right time to come because they are so many that rushed to answer mrs see them on facing begging for money some cannot even afford #100 mtn card and they will be begging for someone to recharge their phone because free mode are killing them and what made me laugh is a married woman posted in the group begging for money to buy a water bottle for her child and she has been having sleepless night hahahahahhaha I taught married people should have everything and how comes they are still begging that means marriage is not everything , I will not rush for it first of all before marriage I want to go to tailoring school by God grace which I will do it this year because I know God will provide. I'm proud to engaged in premarital because I'm not the first neither I will be the last , we like it that way . Even now he doesn't have money and nobody has the right to insult him because it's doing better than mary on this forums

Nooil:
A guy that loves you would have at least paid your bride price or taken you to a court registry for marriage or would have taken you to a church for blessing of marriage.

Whatever you are doing now may seem right to you. When I was your age, I thought I was the smartest person in the world but now when I look back at things I did, I only shake my head.

I can see you love this guy. I mean, he doesn't cheat on you and provides for you. Now, you need some security, ask him to go and pay your bride price, even if it's 5000 naira. At least you can proudly answer wife and stop engaging in premarital sex. Let him prove his love once more by doing it. Start from there.

Then when that is settled, think of learning a skill. It's not a must to go to school, you can always do that later. Learning a skill is important. It could be hair dressing, tailoring, etc. At least to ensure the future of your daughter is secured. So that if your man doesn't have money you can support him. That way nobody will insult you guys.

I dont care

quote author=Resurgent2016 post=85826014]

Madam, you talk too much!!! Your being too defensive is probably what got you into this situation in the first instance.

You need to learn to be calm and more reflective[/quote]

Thanks dear, I dont care about what they are saying or thinks about me as long as no body in here feed me or take care of my bill it wont bother me at all not even a bit , It makes me much stronger , I did the best part which is confessing to my sister of my bad doing, even God in heaven has forgiven me and I dont need any of them to keep reminding me about what I did , because I'm not the first neither I will be the last and they are many people that did worse than me and they are forgiven, if God forgive and who are they to judge me ? Some of them here men are insulting my guy to be honest my guy is doing better than some of them has left all their responsibilities for their wives they are still living in face me I face you house , one room with plenty children , they cant even afford to pay rent ,feed their children 3 square meals neither school fees but they will come here and talk as if they are doing well like they are landlords or own car and has made it in life instead they have nothing some are even jobless and married and you should come and see in this Facebook group that I belongs how they wives and so called married woman as turned into beggars begging for money to feed their kids and to pay school fees and they are married but they are here talking bad on a guy who is doing better than them , he doesn't have much but me his girlfriend and our child are his number 1 priority shame on them because if you are waiting for me to leave my guy you will twist for eternity. As for my child I would rather suffer with my child than leaving her with my family I choose to have her and I will keep her anywhere with me

jendell:
Babe(Ifyjos) I feel at this point you should talk/reply less. If you keep running your mouth ,you will paint a bad picture of how you live at home. If this is the way you act at home then I wonder why your sister won't constantly be at war with you. Please zip the replying biko.

As for your daughter, my sister listen to me, the best place for her to be in now is with your people. She will have access to a decent roof over her head and food. Please whatever happens, always think of her future. Don't expose that child to that place your guy is presently squatting.

Find a way and redeem your sister's image before her ex fiancee. Find something doing immediately,save up and learn a skill with it. The era of living in denial is over. You have a lot of work to do if truly you want to live a good life. Dont ever do something negative again for this your guy. May God be with you

I will rape him

For your information I'm not homeless I'm staying with my guy and the best thing ever sharing the same bed with a hot night sex and waking up with him with another hot morning sex, I'm very happy where I am and I cant wait to have my daughter with me to complete our family. Whether u like or not nothing will change my mind about my guy if u dont like it go hug transformer

quote author=CeterisXVII post=85823617]

Whose parents got married at 14? Oga, maybe your own parents did, but mine certainly did NOT. So you cannot speak for everybody's parents.

And for your information, Genevieve's story is freely available on the internet. Google it.

If condemning an evil act, is taking sides in your own view....then I have no apologies for doing so.

Beating up your older sister because she scolds you for your mistakes, and for repeatedly hanging out with the same deadbeat smoker and drunkard, who got you pregnant in the first place, is a sign that you are evil.

If you cannot see that, then it means you support the evil actions of Ifyjos and her weird mentality of entitlement.

Now that she has confessed and has been chased out of her house, please go and offer her accomodation, a pat on the head and a lifetime award for all what she did, since you are in support of her actions. Nansense! [/quote]

Please don't mind their cheap talk it doesn't affect me at all because nothing will reduce my love for my darling guy I love him the way he is poor , alcoholic , smoker , car washer , uneducated he still my proud and joy and I dont regret having him as a boyfriend and a father to my daughter and in my next world i would like to have him again and again and having my daughter was the best thing I did which I dont regret.

Ginaruby:
Anyone who has a sibling like you needs to be careful of your evil act for supporting evil...

A 15 and 17 years old child is rated in same age group...

You don't know Genevieve's story so shut up...

"Genevieve Nnaji may have had a kid outside wedlock, but her own mistake happened when she was 17. "

You see the respect in your comment as regards Genevieve, just because she made it in life...

People like you back then talked down on her insulted her and all... But today where are they...

Most of our parents got married at 14...

Please learn to respect everyone equally and not taking sides because your emotions say so...

Do you know the psychological and emotional pains the girl and her boy friend have been through in the hands of the so called sister and family...

I will have to pause here...

Thank you sir , this is the only option I have which can work and I will do it on Sunday morning

HIGHESTPOPORI:
Going to beg them with ur moms pastor would be better than going alone

Ok thanks I will tell my cousin anytime during this weekdays to let me know when mom is home alone so I can go over to beg her which is impossible for her to be alone because my dad is home all the time ( he’s sick doesn’t do much , spend most of his days in the bedroom) and since my sister hasn’t been working she is always home apart from going to the hospital and if I cannot do it weekday only Sunday will be best. Yes I will not tell him anything as long I haven’t sort out my problem with my family and I don’t want to add another problem. As long he has welcomed me in his ghetto that means a lot to me I’m proud to know that I’m his only woman and I know our future will be brighter

Jayae:
U're welcome. Don't worry about your mum, she'll surely come around. As for her trying to send ur daughter to ur brother in Lagos, I don't support that because u can never tell how they'll treat her there, so u have to act quickly, Sunday is too far, go on a weekday when u're sure she's the only one at home and apologize, even if she tries to chase u out, maintain ur stance and beg, she can do anything to you but she'll never kill u.
As for ur bf, don't tell him that u've confessed to ur family, he might get really angry and may kick u out(guys can be really unpredictable), just stylishly tell him that u're considering telling the truth to ur family and know what his reaction will be. If he gets really angry, just know that its not yet time to tell him, so just concentrate on your family forgiving you first before u even consider telling him

Well is only the beginning of 2020 we are still in January
I have more time to learn a skill and do better , right now all I want is to make peace with my family first the rest will come later

Gloriagee:
He's not a bad person but has a history of making bad decisions, including going after a minor and grooming you to do his every wish . What effort has he made towards you acquiring a skill or getting you to live with him as a family. This is 2020... shine ya eye!

Thank you so much . He is not a bad person but I just don’t know how to tell him about this but I promise when the right time come I will tell him

Gloriagee:
Hello Ifyjos - if you have really confessed to your sis, blessings be upon you for doing the right things . Years later, you will thank yourself for taking this
right step.

You have done a good thing and the fact that you have to hide it from ur BF tells a lot about his character n how he's influencing u to do stuff against ur conscience. You know the right thing, keep doing it. Oyibo ppl say: to urself be true, cos at the end u have urself to answer to. Reason why women that have aborted typically blame any instances of childlessness on the abortions, meanwhile some people may have no such issues but still have challenges.

Thank you so much for your advice , I really appreciate it, I had this in mind too I want to go and beg my mom with all my heart to forgive me and I was thinking to do it with the help of her pastor , I will go to her church on Sunday morning to plead with her pastor to go with me to beg my mom. I know that I have hurt her a lot and she supported me many times but for her to hate and abandon me this time I just pray she will be able to forgive me. Right now I know she is angry for her to block my number means she don’t want anything to do with me , plus my cousin that lives with us chatted me on WhatsApp telling me she heard my mom pleading with my brother from Lagos if she can come and leave my child there but my cousin say the way my mum was pleading a lot it seemed like he didn’t want to have my child with him I’m so happy he didn’t agree but I will act fast before anything happened to her. I told my cousin to keep informing me about the situation in the house in a secret way because I don’t want her to end up like me

Jayae:
@ifyjos I advise you go to your mum to beg for forgiveness because right now she's the only one that will still have a change of heart. She's ur mother and u're her daughter, go the house when u know she's the only one around and beg her, make sure u cry wella and let her see that u're remorseful, nothing touches a mum's heart more than to see her own child being genuinely sorry for whatever bad she may have caused.
So long as u can get ur mum to forgive you, ur other family members will later come around because she'll surely try to convince them to forgive you too.

Ok thank you

Ehibiggirl:
It seems you are afraid of this your guy, he may throw you out or stop loving you if he finds out that you are trying to make amends and peace with your sister, I know that’s your number one fear right now.Thats totally unhealthy for true genuine love expels fear.

Tell him and see how he reacts atleast you can confirm the love you believe he has for you and prove all naysayers wrong, most importantly so that this amendment mission with your family would be more genuine, easy and who knows your family may give you two their blessings while forgiving you.

Lol

Thank you . I will tell him when the right time comes

unikmaureen:
You said your guy doesn't know you confessed? Well, for now, is okay because he is the only one that can provide you shelter at the moment but, you have to let him know someday soon. He will eventually find out one day that you have confessed. Hiding the fact that you confessed from him will make him see you as a very secretive
person who can harm him. I want you to be prepared for the worst when he learns you have confessed (either from you or someone else).

Ok

ffo:
has he paid your dowry? has your parents given you to him? have you wedded? Because you have a child for him does not automatically translate to him being your husband.

He is my mum pastor I don’t even attend the church and the problem is from my guy place is very far from the church and I don’t know his visiting hours so I taught Sunday morning will be best because I know the services time I can see him after church he will allow me. If you know how much I want to be with my child right now I can do anything that will cause any problem that’s why I don’t want to commit another mistake , I want to take things with patience and in a right way. I have learnt my lesson and I don’t want it to be repeated

SlimBrawnie:
@Ifyjos. Things will not be normal unless you change. Can you wait till Sunday before seeing your Pastors,not even during midweek service or so? For someone that really wants to be with her daughter I was thinking you'd be desperate to get people to help talk to your sister but seems you are becoming relaxed and comfy... And why are you scared of telling your guy that you've confessed? Don't build any relationship on the foundation of lies,get to know his reaction now.

No comment about sex because we are a couple and it can happen anytime. My guy doesn’t know i confess and coming to stay with him I gave him other reasons. my family disowns me and he is the only one I have now on this world and I don’t want him to leave me because I don’t have anywhere else to go. I just pray that my family will be able to have a place in their heart to forgive me for all the pains I have caused them so things can go back to normal again

comtem2011:
Pls, as you stay with him, don't allow him to have any sexual intercourse with you. Both of you should be in sober reflection.

If I may ask, what was his reaction towards your confession.

Thank you very much I will go to my mum church on Sunday and see if I can talk with her pastor or his wife

Abcruz:
This is a good step in the right direction. Finally I salute your courage for doing the right thing.

We all make mistakes but taking corrections and acting on wise counsel is the only remedy for a peaceful coexistence.

It is normal for your family members to be angry with you as it appears very shocking to them at the moment. However, they'll accept you back after a while. As for your daughter you'll be with her soon but while you're away, I can assure you she won't be treated badly.

All you have to do now is to go over to the church your family attends, meet the pastor or any elder your mum and dad respects explain to him/her and ask him/her to follow you and beg for their forgiveness.

My prayers are with you!

I’m squatting with my guy and his friends. I do have uncles ( my mum brothers) they are not the the type of person who like to make peace because they will add more fuel to the problem. I deserved everything for my bad actions , I’m deeply sorry for hurting my sister and they all hate me but right now all I want is my daughter