₦airaland Forum

pamellla:
of course now behind every successful man, there is a woman

The women behind most successful men are their mothers, not their wives.

I have lived, schooled and worked with people from so many tribes in Nigeria, and I have spent ample time in the north, SW, SS, and SE. I'm my opinion, this tribes/states have the highest 'density' of beautiful girls: Imo, Fulani, Esan, and Anambra.

In some local governments in Imo state, finding an ugly girl is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. I bow for Imo state. For Esan, I'm speechless. It's as if when they migrated from Benin, they took the most beautiful ladies with them. Fulani ladies are adorable. Anambra ...I rest my case.

coolsix:
A Slut is a Slut.. there is no such thing as "too sluty"

A woman opening her legs for a boyfriend she loves is a Slut. . Why? She loves him but does he love her? The boyfriend may have another side chick and in the end dump her.. she find the next boyfriend she loves and opens her legs again... something happen they don't understand each other.. they separate..she finds the other boyfriend and the same cycle until she finally finds the husband who stays. How many dicks has she sampled in the process?

A woman should keep her virginity.. all these trash explanations does not hold water. A Slut remains a Slut.

May your days be long.

IamLEGEND1:
Abeg kip quiet

If keeping ur virginity will help u stay sane and improve ur useless self image,then by all means. No one is stopping you, it is ur vagína afterall.

But to then open ur mouth and start misyarning about stuff u obviously know nothing about is a travesty.

Just because you turned out to be a virgin on ur wedding night makes absolutely no difference to anyone but urself. it might make u feel like you've achieved some life long goal,but that doesn't apply to ur partner.

See this is exactly why virgins are useless. just because you managed to keep a thin membrane covering the entrance to your vagína intact doesn't mean you deserve respect. What dignity and love ur husband bestows on you has nothing to do with ur virginity.

.mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww, all these dumb bítches and their misplaced sense of entitlement.

#SmH

You are a biblical definition of a fool.

rinzylee:
Premarital sex is a sin .... Virginity does not make a marriage work......Virginity is a pride....if you have not lost yours preserve it for your husband on the wedding night....in as much as virginity shouldn't be a criteria a criteria for choosing a life partner....it is still a virtue. God hates fornication and immorality. Save sex for marriage.

Don't contradict yourself. If it is a virtue (and it is), then it should be a criterion.

The op should get a life. I've thought long and hard about this issue and I have decided I must marry a virgin or become a reverend father. It's that serious to me. There's no virtue you will find in a non-virgin that you can't find in a virgin. And thankfully, there are still good mannered, beautiful virgins out there.

abduljabbar4:
Its just funny how they do whatever it takes to tarnish the image of Islam. Throughout my life in Northern Nigeria, i have never seen a Hausa christian before.

I've met an Hausa Christian before, and he's from Katsina State.

Every sane man wants to marry a virgin. A wife is perhaps a man's most priced asset. Which sane man will want a woman that has willingly spread her legs for other men? Which sane man wants a woman that has emotional and maybe spiritual ties with other men? Which sane man doesn't want the priceless exclusivity that a virgin offers? Exclusivity is at the heart of marriage. No man enjoys thinking about how other men slept with his wife in the past. The thought is sickening. If a man married a non-virgin, there's a special part of his wife which he has deprived himself of.

Yes, some virgins have bad character but so are so many non-virgins. There are still many good mannered and beautiful virgins out there. Guys, don't let the lying spirit of this age deceive you. And advice your female friends and family members who are still virgins to keep it.

I am from a broken home, so I understand what you are going through. We rose from grass to grace. Thanks be to God.
When you are independent, confident, well to do, and have a good character, people will be very happy to associate with you, regardless of your parents' marital status. You won't be an object of mockery, rather you will be envied by many. This is our story.
My sister got married before she clocked 25, and she and her husband are doing very well. I am having a headache trying to select a wife from a long list of girls. You have nothing to worry about. Just strive to improve yourself. Cheers.

jmoore:
Ignorance almost destroyed your marriage, not virginity.

True. I like your stance on virginity.

3cycle: Forget what people say online and focus on the girl you wanna settle with. Virginity does not guarantee a lasting or happy marriage what matters most is what both of you share together(love). Except you are saying you don't love her.
The feeling will go away when you stop worrying yourself about unnecessary things, only virgins have the right to be worried.

OP, you will do well to ignore the above comment.

Go for what will guarantee your happiness. Love can fade, but the feeling of having what you don't want, the feeling that you are not her first may haunt you for a very long time. And the more you try to suppress that feeling, the more it haunts you.

OP, I understand perfectly how you feel. This same issue is the fundamental reason I broke up with my ex. I used to think I could marry a non-virgin until I went through that tortuous experience. During our relationship, I was haunted by her past every blessed day. I just couldn't take it anymore. As I am now, I'd rather remain single than marry a non-virgin. I meant it.

God is absolutely right in saying we should avoid pre-marital sex and extra-marital affairs. Indeed He is always true.

mencade5: all this one wey na we dey beg girl for love na mistake we dey do ooo.


Men are as valuable as diamond in the eyes of ladies, but we dont know our worth.


#no more shakara from any nonsense lady again.

My brother, you are absolutely right. I am very close to many beautiful ladies, both young and 'old cargo'. You need to see the way many of them are so desperate for 'Mr. Right'. And they keep saying 'Mr Right' is scarce. Men have the upper hand but they don't know.

OrlandoOwoh: . . . and what makes you think a woman married as a virgin will end up having an extra-marital affair?

My brother, no mind dem. They are only consoling themselves.

Don't mind all these people saying "some non-virgins are better than some virgins". They are only trying to console themselves for whatever reason. Afterall, the "good" non-virgin was once a virgin. And it is a fact that getting disvirgined doesn't make a girl good. Marrying a virgin may not guarantee a rosy marriage in the future, but it represents a low-risk marriage. In as much as God helps us, we have to make a conscious effort to choose the least dangerous path.

Peace.

MrCork: ^^^^^ this one cLERLY neva been to London in his life (no ooofense)

I can now confirm that you are a BIG FOOL. Do I have to go to London to know that you are suffering from inferiority complex? And for your information, I spent more than a year in the UK, proudly using my native name (I have not a single foreign name) and I didn't enjoy less rights/priviledges than those who have foreign names.

MrCork: ..ok..so they don't hav nice English names like Cindy,dingo,telvin,bingo or lucky in ibo country? ..abi?...bro how do u expect white people or we londoners to relate to u? (no offense)

You are really suffering colo mentality. I weep for you. Tell me how many English people bear Tayo, Chukwuma or Ejiro? Or how many English people even know the meaning of their name?

OP, I'm with you. I used to think I could marry a non-virgin until I went through a horrific experience dating a non-virgin. It was a constant, severe mental torture for me, thinking of how my "would be" wife was a sexual toy to some guys in the past.

I have decided to marry only a virgin. Don't mind all these people saying "some non-virgins are better than some virgins". They are only trying to console themselves for whatever reason. Afterall, the "good" non-virgin was once a virgin. And it is a fact that getting disvirgined doesn't make a girl good. Marrying a virgin may not guarantee a rosy marriage in the future, but it represents a low-risk marriage. In as much as God helps us, we have to make a conscious effort to choose the least dangerous path.

Peace.

Naavah: Whether special or not, I won't give a bf a husband's privilege. *sips lipton*

Please keep it up. May God bless you.

Nonso23: When will some women learn to accept the truth for what it is, without taint ?
When will some of you realize that it's not about what you want to hear but about what is right?

There is, has always been, will always be a difference between a chaste/virgin woman and the rest of the womenfold. Harsh truth but the truth nonetheless.

I don't have a problem with women who are no longer virgins but what i have a problem with is: them trying to downplay the truth just to massage their bruising egos.

Where did i say the opposite of virgins are prostitutes?
Don't you understand the dynamics of debate? The idea of the question was to know how far the o.p was willing to go to support his 'virginity does not matter' stance and it pretty much sold him out.
Why are you taking it so personal?

This thread is about virgin women and i responded appropriately. Whatever stereotypes you choose to believe about male chastity is entirely your opinion. No one is under any compulsion whatsoever to yield to your bland, cheap, sexist blackmails.

Being a Virgin may not be everything but it's a whole, whole, lot closer to 'everything' than not being one.

Keep sentiments and emotions aside when appraising other people's opinions.

May your days be long.

xtervaganza: and who gives a crap about you?

Why are you so bothered?

zeongeon: Forget about thiS world that encourages immorality and keep your dignity and pride aS a woman which iS ur virginity.

From the world immemorial from europe to asia to the middle east down to africa a woman Virginity was Seen aS a Symbol of pride, virtue and dignity even kingS, princes, warriors and men in general married virginS.
A virgin iS d pride of her husband. Even d gods aSked for virgins as oracleS that's to tell that even in d spiritual Virginity is symbolic.

If your a virgin please keep urself for ur huSband and not to make ur self an object to every other men. As a virgin u can decide to b like other gals at anytime but other gals can't be like u again.

If ur no longer a virgin it will be good to discipline and respect urself so that u don't become remnant for ur husband.

And with the rate of immorality I think we should put a law that a man will only pay a woman bride price only if she is a virgin..For bride price symbolizes that d gurl nah virgin and ur d first man that will feel her warmth. Why then should we pay bride price in tune of thousands and millions when d gal Is not a virgin??

With my whole heart, I pray for God to bless you. May he guide and protect you. May your days be long and fruitful. In Jesus' name, amen.

I will never marry a non-virgin! Never! No virgin, no party. I can't deal with the mental torture of knowing that other men have ravaged my wife. I just can't.

A virgin who kept her virginity because of the fear of God and respect for her future husband should be greatly praised. Such a woman will not be inclined to cheat on her husband

Every woman should be with the man that disvirgined her (except she was a raped). That's how it's supposed to be. You cannot be giving leftover to other men.

A covenant takes place when a lady loses her virginity to a man. Marrying a woman that has giving out something so special to another man is a complete NO NO for me.

Jman06: Ma broda your head dey there! See as all these girls are just emphasizing character as if they even have that,and trying to make us believe that virginity is no biggie. Them don tear everywhere finish. Rubbish! #TEAMVIRGIN joor#

Exactly!

Any girl that keeps her virginity for her husband will earn 10k from me. This is one of my services to humanity.

infiniteloop: Take her back. Pretend you are still in love with her. Keep banging her. She is a hoe. Have fun treating her like one while the fun last. If your friend is still interested, no problem. Pretend you are not aware.

Why?
Cos that's what real niggaz do.


And for your friend. That's a bro. Bros for life.

Bro code 235:
Never fight a bro over a hoe. I mean, its in the bro constitution. Don't you read that?!

I have the entire bro code book by Sir Barney Stinson. Contact me if you want one. And I'm for real.

P.S.: Bros only. For more bro-wisdom, go to: www.brotips.com

P.P.S.: Ladies only. I am available for shower of love. 2A07DA1C. Don't tell anyone you copied my pin, alright?!

That's how "real niggaz" get HIV. I pity you.

Rilwayne001: See devil condemnin devil.....

PeOple of the Book

Until u believe that there is no other god but God, that he has no associate, son, or wife.., then u will be save from helll

Which zoo did they release this one from?

The old cargoes and wannabe old cargoes are just beefing. Better go and find a solution to your problem and leave the wise young girls alone.

chimex38: To ASUU president, until sack letter appear 4 ur table, ur eye go clear.
U go tell me whether na FG. get schl or ASUU abi na Mgmt. Mtchwww.....

I don't think our academicians are afraid of getting sacked. Private universities are already recruiting some of them, and other African countries want to poach them.

Absolute rubbish indeed.

superior1: [size=13pt]Anything but PDP[/size]

If APC delivers you from PDP, who will deliver you from APC? I don't trust APC one bit.