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[color=#9900ff]After 2 years you are now feeling the guilty pangs abi na uncomfortable. You no try.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]Nothing jare, if we don break, we don break. That means something is not working out. If we don change and both willing to give it another go, na to just ask am if hin want try again.



_{i nor sabi all these underG moves or whatever. . .i no get that kind time} [/color]

H2O2:
I agree too.  However, that "point" is not universally defined.  

Cheers

[color=#9900ff]Indeed.[/color]

olanajim:
@iice,
you that "what if" scenerio is my personal insurance against heartbreak? I always like to prepare for it in advance. I believe anyone can move on after heartbreak if he/she is sufficiently educated by the "what if" scenerio.

That is because things don't often go the way we view them.

What if the guy dump you tomorrow?
What if he die unexpectedly?
What if he impregnate another girl?
What if you are both biologically incompatible?

What if?

I always enjoy these moment and had mentioned it somewhere that one should always be prepared for the worst. That is the only way he won't breakdown if things go against him.

[color=#9900ff]Ola, i feel you.  Am that way too.  Always be prepared (or try to) i say.  Like i say people will disappoint you, the degree and the effect just varies.  Those are the moments that test your strength and condition to react in situations because you are already prepared for the worse.  Like say you are a housewife and God forbid your husband dies, what will you do?  Are you already prepared to take the helm and do what you have to do for the survival of your family?  Sorry if this analogy takes it to a different area, but the point is don't fall apart to the point of not being able to put yourself back together (unless you have no effect on anyone else besides yourself).  [/color]

dinozzo:
The Mentalist

[color=#9900ff]Ditto [/color]

H2O2:
Hi IIce,
We most definitely agree to some degree.
I haven't bothered so much with the OP's question because the thread took a different turn as the discussion progressed.
Even if 'what if' scenarios prepare us to some extent, they shouldn't stop us from asking questions or taking risks, and that's the point I want to establish.

[color=#9900ff]I agree about taking risks and asking questions. But i think there comes a certain point when one must stop and try to salvage what can be salvaged and try to make the best of that. [/color]

[color=#9900ff] Oh i wouldn't think that, am a regular laughing victim

I know exactly what you mean, i have two drives dedicated to my music erhh make that four drives split between two pcs Lately i have been going the classical route I hope you have expanded your music repertoire [/color]

H2O2:
That's where you are mistaken.  I'm not so concerned about the "what if" scenarios you have duly laid out.  You sort of claimed not to understand why folks would want to find out why someone they devoted a significant chunk of their life to loving would just walk away and leave, as if it is puzzling.  You may not always like the answer you receive, but that is no reason not to ask.  Whether or not the answer quenches your hunger is an entirely different matter.
Like I said before, "I partially agree with you that closure is more likely to come from within" .

[color=#9900ff]If am mistaken by your views and experiences, i'l take that.  
Life is unexpected (though can be controlled) but 'what if' scenarios prepare us to some extent.
I never claimed to not understand that.  I said i tire for the thing.  You do know the OP's situation right?  
All her threads have something to do her ex and whilst i understand her need to put find some closure with her ex, i think he is not wanting to give her the closure she wants.  Like i said, you cannot force someone to give you what you want or need.  I did say that think it was not a good thing.  But unless it happens (closure from the other person) it will color your life in more ways than what one would expect and not necessarily for good.  [/color]

H2O2:
Comparably, not everyone can move on from relationships "just-like-that" after being dumped.

If they could we wouldn't have/need all these aunt agonies providing counsel to people battling heartbreaks and bad breakups.

LOL
You know Aunty iice would usually only type 3/4 of a line per response, so getting her into the 12-13 line range is a laudable accomplishment.

[color=#9900ff]True, not everyone can move on, but to survive, its a battle within and i think more than needing another person to give you a reason to keep going.  Not disputing your thoughts, am just providing another alternative, and people are free to choose what path they want to thread on.

Yes ooo, i don't like long post that much

@Sisi, happy to be of service

Ola, thank you ooo.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]@Bam i noticed it once and started keeping tabs
Can't blame me after all am a fan of both artists but chaii the guy no try
I saw your post i didn't for a minute think he wrote all that.  There is too much disparity.
Hahhhh am having a blast _{sort of overdoing the movie watching thing}
You having a blast i hope?


Laydee i nor dey giff am back to you ooo
It was given in the spirit of loff [/color]

mukina2:
Laydee

give me back my gift i nor gif u again

[color=#9900ff]It was given by my loff and i am not returning it

Bam, aswerigawd I don laff tire for that thread
But it's interesting to read. You learn alot about people hehehehehe[/color]

Bamsyle:
iice, Ika & Muki ^{*soul sistas*}

Just came in here to wish y'all a wonderful year ahead . . .

[color=#9900ff]Hey you A wonderful year ahead to you too.

_{i see the battle of Tupac and Nas is enough to drive one crazy}


Laydeee
So because i nor wan liff meat or pammy you nor wan giff me teeth anymore
You nor like me oooo

Happy new year JJYOU[/color]

[color=#9900ff]Laydeeee

I nor dey hear word ooo

I nor go survive next year without those


Timm, ok ooo.[/color]

olanajim:
I read it. It just doesn't worth my time. It is either he is lying or he is trying to see if he is doing something well.

He need to tell us how he pay 1599 naira per month. The "99" show gave him away. What happened to the 1 naira? He should have paid 1599.99 to show how serious he is.

[color=#9900ff]rofl [/color]

[color=#9900ff]You are claiming her as your girl but she has another beau. She is both your girl. If you don't want her waiting for you tell her plain and simple. She probably hopes you will one day marry her but for the meantime, she can have the best of both your worlds. . .[/color]

H2O2:
Hi Lice,
While I partially agree with you that closure is more likely to come from within, why does it tire you?
Keep in mind that this is not just any person.  The word closure is being inappropriately tossed around.
Needing an explanation makes very good sense to me in many scenarios.
It is not a crime to seek to figure out why a man you spent 10 years of your life worshipping has decided to walk away unannounced on one lonely rainy night.

[color=#9900ff]And here i thought the dot above the l was visible iice please.

Am not saying that it's a bad thing.  But when it drags into 5 months, a year and so on, that becomes a problem.  We want many things but we don't always get them.  When people start 'needing' things, it sometimes progresses to 'needing' things to properly function.  And then the craziness starts.  And what if the other person does not accommodate you?  Would you continue to fall apart or find the strength within you to find some closure and be at peace.  You cannot make someone give you something he/she does not want or have to give.  Not everyone is wired to talk things through, if you don't know that during the relationship what makes it different after it has ended?  Not everyone can put their thoughts into order therefore it maybe hard to pin down the reason why he/she did what he/she did.  If he/she said 'i don't know why' would that be enough closure or would you hound the person till he/she freaks out and flees. If the other person gives you closure then good, if not, then what?  [/color]

[color=#9900ff]You told her not to tell third party and she still did.  You carried it here
You have communication problems.  She obviously cannot talk to you.  You have to find a way to help her get through that.[/color]

Hello everyone.
I'm new here. Its nice to be on nairaland.
Something bothers me and i'd like your opinions.
There's this guy who claims to really like me but he only ever communicates by text.
Personally, i'm finding it hard to take a guy serious who can't pick up the phone and call me.
I've tried to tell him that i'm not much of a text person but he still hardly calls.
I've resorted to replying his texts only once in a while.
Am i thinking too much into this constant text business? Doesn't it matter?
Thank you.

[color=#9900ff]Why don't you instead pick up the phone call him. Must he be the one to always call?[/color]

ab simon:
after calling a girk regularly,sendn her messages,caring about her and even telln her u love her but she doesnt bulge or give in and the best for her is to text u.what more can you do.ow do you knw ow she feels about you

[color=#9900ff]Give in to what? Bulge from what?
You move on to one that will call you regularly, send you messages about caring for you and tell that she loves you. Find the one who will give in and bulge. [/color]

[color=#9900ff]What do you know about her besides your 'i do this, i did that, i give her this, i give her that. . .?'
She's not satisfied with you is why. [/color]

[color=#9900ff]T-Bag!![/color]

[color=#9900ff]JK the movie is not hard to understand.
7 pounds of flesh for 7 people like Karma said.

But am with you on what you expected. It was bad. So bloody contrived.[/color]

SeanT21:
Don't mess with the Zohan was Horrible!!

My mother saw the commercials and ordered it on ONDEMAND.I fell asleep after the first hour.

[color=#9900ff]I also slept off about 30mins into the movie.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]Ex, i watch Fringe.


JK na you like am? [/color]

[color=#9900ff]So am thinking about the ending of The Mist. I think i would prolly grab the gun off the soldier and shoot myself. That is one of the sickest endings. Just minutes. . .too late



_{i want to steal his guitar} [/color]

[color=#9900ff]My parents are not very traditional. They do what they want to do
Both of them named all of us and although our grandparents suggested our native names, it was up to my parents to pick which they liked.
So yeah i think family can suggest but the power should reside with the parents.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]Ola, have you read the other thread?
All i can say, goodluck to him. From heartbreak to in love with Urgly girl
I reiterate Heartbreak indeedy.
This is his post[/color]

THERE IS THIS DECENT GIRL THAT IS FALLING ON ME. But she is urgly that makes me to dislike her but her character is supper infact she is from the same town with me my parents every body like her to come around me though i love her since my former girl has gone. can i go ahead to marry her or what.

[color=#9900ff]Sisi, i haven't ooo. Been lazy to go to the cinema
I expected the visuals to be beautiful. . .so far from what i have been reading, it's awesome.
The cinematography of AOJJ was really beautiful. Will try to see it soon TCCBB i mean.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]The actress is Taraji Henson. She was in Hustle and Flow, Four Brothers, some episodes of Eli Stone, the family that preys. . .

Cute video.[/color]

[color=#9900ff]Yup, the Federer/Nadal Wimbledon game
Usain Bolt Olympic triumphs
The Giants

_{[s]i won't say Phelps because i knew he could do it[/s]} [/color]

[color=#9900ff]Ewww knocked up is just ewwww.
I can't believe he will play Green Hornet [/color]

[color=#9900ff]Lai lai, tufiakwa. Pammy must dey. Beside Brash is bringing fresh pammy

I fit do without chingum but not the meat

I nor dey hear you ooo

Welcome [/color]