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Eureka! Make sure she washes the dishes before she goes to bed!!!! That way, when she gets up in the middle of the night there'l be nothing for her to do. I bet she went to bed thinkin of the dishes she didnt do, thats y. Who knows, maybe shel get the brush and start sweeping next time.

But nawa for u guys oh. If she doesnt do the dishes, ul complain that your gf is lazy. Now shes doin dishes, u said she does it late at night. Really? Is there any satisfyin u lot?

Ok, to add my testimony to what this guy just said, yup, thats how it is here. Had a first in my undergrad, am in one of the best 3 unis here in the uk doin a masters and I attended enuf assessment centres this year, forget! I reached the final stage in all of them. Im talking about ten companies o! Had to travel far and wide to attend these interviews and assessment centres. I was rejected at the final stage of all! It is really bad, it got to a stage where I wud look at the other candidates with me, and once I was the only foreigner thru to the last stage, I wud just know there n then I wasnt goin to get it. Its a new policy. Unspoken, yet there. Actually, one of them even told me to my face that except i had qualifications which no uk citizen hired, I wudnt make it thru. Pls, wot qualifications cud I possibly hav had that no1 else had My own beef with them is, why even put me thru 3 or 4 stages, wen u no u wont hire me wen it comes down to it?

Im not even botherin to apply for the post-study work visa. I am packin my bags very soon and running. Unskilled work is not for me at all. Tutoring, maybe, but mehn, with all Ive done, I wont let any country come and kill my morale. lol! I dont believe the Uk is the "promised land", I luv Naija and I dont mind living there at all. Ive been jokin with my sis that wen we were young, they told us that if u did well in scl, u wud get a job, well, I did, n I hav not a job, yet! I guess I will eventually get one, but I grew up expecting the jobs to b linin up infront of me or at least thats wot I was told. Hmm, lol

But then again, its really up to u. In all this "kosi kosi" ppl are finding work here, so mayb its just me. Maybe my own is waiting for me in Naij, God willing. Pray and ask God to direct you. All the best!

Simple philosophy: If ur already milking the cow, why buy it??

Whilst cohabiting sounds very appealing half of the time, Im not goin to do it cos of this reason.

Fraba:
Do you have to be old to be called a youth.
I once had a friend whose brother (name withheld) was kicked out of camp during the Kanu days because of unruly behaviour (he was 31 then but with a baby face).
This is why we ddon'tsee peeps Anosike play any more, was Kanu and Oruma (not as young as u guys think, i went to uni with his younger brother who officially is older than his elder brother) the only ones in their set?

hilarious!!

MrCrackles:
Yakubu claimed 25
Then my daddy must be 22 and myself, 2yrs old!

pls dont make me wet my pants oh! u ppl will not kill me for this NL!! ahan!

I believe in marriage, everything is down to a shared responsibility. In this day and age where both the husband and wife are working and earnin sum dooch, i feel taking care of the kids and home, and financial responsibility shud b shared as well. Tho its the womans duty to do the first two (kids and home), the husband shud b able to chip in when the wife is busy or tired. Personally, I wud luv my husband and I to hav a shared account dedicated to the home and kids upkeep. We wud both pay in a set amount evry mth and it is from this account that scl fees, house rent, bills, food, kids clothing will come from. But still, I can c myself dippin into my own account sumtimes and buyin stuff for the kids and house. If I was out shoppin for myself and saw a nice dress for my daughter, wud I bring out two cards and pay separately? Not worth it!!!

darqly:
I think they both should BRING TO THE TABLE. Its a partnership.

I agree with u!!

Naijagirly:
Chei I remenber Agidi jollof, Those days of sec school @ B-side

whats that? Is that jollof-by-force?

Ill say white rice with any nice soup. Cant seem to get enuf of chicken teriyaki recently. Im now a regular at Wasabi!!! They dont even ask me, they just go ahead and "dish my food". White rice cos with it, u can choose if u want it healthy (eat with a vegetable or any other soup with little or no oil, hence little calories) or not (eat with a very nilzce fried stew, or ofada stew, yummy!). but with j-rice, its calories galore!!! I luv both tho.

ROFLMAO, LWKMD!!!  
I tire for this Naija oh! As in, any1 watching the just concluded World Athletics Championships wud again have seen this. Even tho that competition does not have an age barrier, sometimes, when the camera pans over a nigerian athlete, the commentators wud pass comments like, "this young lady is the current world youth (or under 21 or african youth) champion in her discipline. She is just 20 years old." And mehn, wen I c the face of the athlete in question, I wud just cringe cos any1 who's nigerian knows that that young lady is not younger than 35yrs!!!

What can I say, evry day for the thief, one day for the owner. They've finally been caught out!

But really, we are a corrupt nation. Fine! Why go and disgrace ourselves on the world's stage to worsen things? Surely Madam Dora must have sum positive light in which to spin this? Abi isnt this a step in the right direction towards the further humiliation rebranding of Nigeria?

None. All of them made first class. Even the one still in high school who is a footballer and basketballer!!!!

I wondered too oh, but dint want to talk too much. Hav 3 sisters who passed thru med scl and no that theres nothin like that but then again, these her kids r super human so anythin is possible.

My first daughter got master’s degree scholarship from here to America to study Engineering. From Engineering she got another scholarship to University of Pennsylvania to do Comparative Literature. Then she got a scholarship to Harvard. She went to work in World Bank; she has resigned from World Bank, got a very big scholarship to go to medical school.

haba, doesnt this person sound a bit confused As in, no vex, Im happy for her with all her achievements, but, haba! Engineering, then literature, then medical scl! Congrats tho!

As the information minister this woman needs to learn how to give _bettergood interviews. At the moment, shes competing with Honourable PM Berlusconi in gaffes!! *chuckles to herself* Seems like they just keep shootin themselves in the foot once u put a mic to their mouths and a camera in their faces. Lets hope she does not share in his passion for beautiful blonds. 

lol. true say. size of ur wedn doesnt say much about the quality of the marriage afterwards. but ur weddin, or how u want it to be says alot about ur character. some ppl like me are a bit on the conservative side, hence y i want my wedn to b small. hav loadsa siblings and weve done like a million wedns, all loud and huge, but i just want mine to b different. not rly goin for unique, but sumthin that suits my personality n makes me comfortable and happy. its just all the thins ive noticed at wedns ive attended that i hope to put right at mine, but u no now. it nevr really goes as planned. i guess the koko is to marry ur soulmate, the weddin is only symbolic. the marriage (union), thats the KOKO!

LWKMD for all of una posts oh! wow, life is hard. Thankfully, I dont hav a large appetite so 100 wud do me for two meals i.e. two loaves of bread and two pure water, maybe even 1loaf. I hate butter, mayo, cheese, milk etc (lets leave out peanut butter n choc spreads for now) so Im very used to eating bread plain. I wud actually make a very good poor person on! Heaven forbid!!!!!!

never thot of that! great idea. Always wanted same day, but the only way I knew was trad then church (for wedding), then reception, which involves alot of back and forth. but I quite like it ur way. I think Il do that for mine! thanx!

wow, seems like evry1s thinkin like me. I want a small wedding. 20-30 guests is not feasible in my clan as just my siblings n their other halves n kids = 30guests. lol. But Id say 80 guests, in a really nice location in lagos. Very elegant and classy. Simple but sophisticated. Enuf food to go round. I dunno how n y, but ppl often neglect the small thins like makin sure theres enuf to eat, drink etc and that ur guests r comfy. thats wot i want at mine.

my dress, hmmmm, kinda no where to buy it already and itl b just like my weddin - simple but sophisticated. but ive always wanted sumthin unconventional for my dress, or mayb to change into a simple cocktail dress at the reception. somethin i can dance in and walk freely in. I dont want all that naija party serenren where the bride and groom just sit on their high chairs without participating. I want one where thruout the reception, we r both goin round, chatting and dancing with our guests while sipping champagne.

im constantly changin my mind but every other day, i decide i want a destination weddin. if thats it, then probably 50 guests in dubai or sumwhere else just as picturesque!

ASUU is always goin on strike. so my question is this:

are their needs never met each time, or r they very greedy?"

jay bee:
I believe the easiest answer to give is:
I am a perfectionist as i like making sure my figures/task are done to certain high standards that i've set for myself. Having said that, i also believe being a perfectionist in a high pressured environment and constantly changing deadlines can work against me as i tend to spend extra work hours making sure work are always done.

Note that you haven't really shot yourself in the foot identifying your weakness. You have also used your weakness to highlight another strength of yours (being prepared to work so as to meet deadlines).

wow, never thot of it like that! great response. I hope I rmbr that next time

oluajana:
Jimoh Ibrahm was actually right when he said there is no rich man in Nigeria. He said the so-called billionaires are nothing but glorified debtors to banks. He mentioned himself, Aliko Dangote, Femi Otedola and others as debtors to banks but billionaires to people. He was indeed right when some people in this house and other media abused him for labelling Dangote’s name as debtor.

Truly, there is no rich man in Nigeria.

This is what my father has been saying for years! Now the world can finally see. What a sham!

@ UJu - Uve finally spoken out! well, u asked for our advice, n we gave it. Its not always pretty, but it is wot it is! We r all very different and we c the world from different pairs of eyes. Did u really mean it wen u said u dint want to pay the bills or were u just jokin?? pls tell me it was a joke!

I wud luv to wish u all the best in ur quest, but that wud inevitably b cursing the unlucky dude that gets stuck with u! lol!

I notice u just want a rich man, must he hav class too? If ur all these thins (rich and classy), ur chances of landin u a rich and classy man r good, but if ur none, then chances r stand a better chance wantin just a rich man. Cos these days, i tell u, its all abt levels in naij oh!

finally, my advice is that u mustnt voice this ur opinion outside of NL and certainly nowhere near any potential guy. They will run, and some may judge u even worse than we hav here. In the mean time, focus on improving urself as a person on the inside and outwardly as well. Get a good job, always look ur best and look good. U dont need millions to do this. Hopefully, ul meet a guy who luvs u dearly and cares for u n u luv too. _{N whos successful as well}. Cant believe Im sayin this! Chei! This icecream im eating is making me very happy oh!

MUZBO:
@uju, where are you? Are you busy 'scaming' one hapless unsuspecting drug-dealing young a$s scumbag.

Fhemmmy:
Since that one refuse to take it to the next level, now she wants a man on the next level.

lwkmd

OMO IBO:
Sometime last year Ujujoan complained about one guy that refused to take the relationship to the next level.
She's been on a man-bashing-mission ever since.

I like Ujujoan but I never thought she'd take it to this level.

abajo!!!!! no wonder. U c y its good to understand sum1 b4 u judge. Had I known. @OP, im so sorry, now I c ur problems. Na condition,

ekoair:
@ topic i fuckin hate goldiggers all they want is my money. i litterally could have been a millionaire if girls werent hoes.

eya, pele. May God help u n restore all that the canker worms have eaten from u.

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MUZBO:
@uju, where are you? Are you busy 'scaming' one hapless unsuspecting drug-dealing young a$s scumbag.

Fhemmmy link=topic=310952.msg4376728#msg4376728 date=1250624613:
Since that one refuse to take it to the next level, now she wants a man on the next level.

lwkmd

[quote author=OMO IBO link=topic=310952.msg4376710#msg4376710 date=1250624367]Sometime last year Ujujoan complained about one guy that refused to take the relationship to the next level.
She's been on a man-bashing-mission ever since.

I like Ujujoan but I never thought she'd take it to this level.

abajo!!!!! no wonder. U c y its good to understand sum1 b4 u judge. Had I known. @OP, im so sorry, now I c ur problems. Na condition,

ekoair:
@ topic i fuckin hate goldiggers all they want is my money. i litterally could have been a millionaire if girls werent hoes.

eya, pele. May God help u n restore all that the canker worms have eaten from u.

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MUZBO:
@uju, where are you? Are you busy 'scaming' one hapless unsuspecting drug-dealing young a$s scumbag.

Fhemmmy link=topic=310952.msg4376728#msg4376728 date=1250624613:
Since that one refuse to take it to the next level, now she wants a man on the next level.

lwkmd

[quote author=OMO IBO link=topic=310952.msg4376710#msg4376710 date=1250624367]Sometime last year Ujujoan complained about one guy that refused to take the relationship to the next level.
She's been on a man-bashing-mission ever since.

I like Ujujoan but I never thought she'd take it to this level.

abajo!!!!! no wonder. U c y its good to understand sum1 b4 u judge. Had I known. @OP, im so sorry, now I c ur problems. Na condition,

ekoair:
@ topic i fuckin hate goldiggers all they want is my money. i litterally could have been a millionaire if girls werent hoes.

eya, pele. May God help u n restore all that the canker worms have eaten from u.

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$osisi:
Infact I'm now on Uju's side
Uju forget everything I ever said
You go girl!
don't look at any man that earns less than a 6 figure income plus have impeccable credit history at 28
Who wants to suffer?
If his suits alone look like he bought them from men's warehouse, reject him right there on the spot!
he can't feed you.

i may soon swtich sides too, NOT! However, I will learn to be more understanding of people's plights.

C2H5OH:
lol chokes

honestly. it saddens me deeply to hear a woman, able-bodied, say such silly thins. Im beginning to think its just a problem with upbringing. I was taught to work very hard like my parents did. And i always do this. I have no problem with wanting to marry a successful man. Whilst that is certainly not atop my priority list _{(I much prefer a man with prospect, who luvs and cares deeply for me)}, my main issue is with her thinking marriage wud b a way out of her abject poverty. Lazy ****!

MUZBO:
@uju, I'm waiting o!

Im waiting too. I really want to know wot u got!

spikedcylinder:
They are used to being rich and are usually calmer than the "money just jam" clique.

I agree with u oh! Also, they dont c any reason to show u they r rich, u no their names, u no they r rich. but new money? na fight oh! they must show themselves everywhere!!! But i think that the nouveau rich have a better appreciation for money as they "hustled" their money and dint have it given to them on a gold platter.

I just want to say that the OP is not the true definition of the modern woman. From her background, she has had it ruff, circumstances have made her into who she is. Money, for her, is everything. She goes chasing money that is does not hav legs. How about staying in one place and working for this money instead of looking for sum1 who already has it? Where is ur pride girl? I am embarrased that we are of the same gender! These are the kind of ppl that tarnish the image of women the world over whilst we try, mostly in vain, to repair the damage. Well, considering the fact that she has taken to NL to advertise herself and also cos she has a young child (who she needs to feed), Im guessing guys hav been able to see thru her materialistic and greed-fuelled ambitions!!!! SHIO!!

Now, I hav only read the posts up to this ur post, ujujoan, n here are my thoughts:

[/quote]I hate to have to give a guy a loan, give him my car to use, let him move into my house cos my apartment is better and then change the deeds of my property to our name.

Kai, pls oh, this thin called relationships is a two way thin oh! ul b with him wen he has and wen he has not. Wen his car is bad nko? What if ur apartment is closer to both your workplaces?

I hate to have to buy my clothes cos he's not rich enough to afford the clothes I wear.

Ah! uve got it twisted my dear. I luv expensive clothes and bags. Name it, I got it. I buy wot I wear. Of cos I get nice gifts from my bf but I pride myself in the fact that I can afford my own thins. Thank u! How can u just want sum1 to do it all for u? Sorry, im all for "MISS INDEPENDENT!!" and I think guys luv that too. No one wants a liability and forgive me if Im wrong, but u sound like all u wan do is chop!

I hate to have to split the bills cos my pay check is better or even similar to his.
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I am not married yet, but wen I do (soon I hope!) I want us to split the bills. I want to contribute my own quota. I would luv to. I am always so happy wen I can do sumthin for him as well or wen he lets me do my own part! If we r both working, y shud my own salary go on my upkeep alone? Who keeps the house? I hope I can be the type of woman who goes out and buys stuff for the hse without asking for "food money". But thats just me. I wish u all the best in ur search for a rich man. Before that, pls make sure u achieve some success urself, cos trust me, ul always b the girl he took from the gutters and upgraded if not.

amyb:
i was in this situation a while ago i realii liked the guy so didnt wanna end it but it gets to lonely n u miss out on alot because it is not a normal relationship, i dnt recommend long distance relationships now because of this, i ended up meetin sum1 else n am alot happier 4 it, i wud say dnt waste ur time because there will b sum1 jus as gd tht is close to u tht u can make a proper relationship wit

While I dont think ur wrong, Im not sure I agree with u on this. What if he was the one for u? (Of cos in ur case, he wasnt, cos ur happier with this new guy.) But really, wot if he WAS the best person for u? I quite like to believe my bf is. Its been long disctance for almost a yr, but thats goin to change in 6wks. YAY!!!!!! I guess its been worth it even tho, mehn, na God oh, cos id be lying if I said it has been a walk in the park. Ive been home twice during this period. It really requires u to do some soul searchin and b honest with urself. Is it worth it? Do u see a future for both of u? And if the answer is yes, it doesnt get any easier but at least it all becomes worth it. But my! Is it sum work?!!!!!!

I wish u all the best poster. Be honest with urself, and at the end of the day, only u knows the whole truth, the answer lies with u. Do wot makes u happy n do it cos u deserve to be happy.

nawa oh! just wen u think uve heard it all in naija! i luvd pastor itua! great and wise man! im shocked. I guess evryone has asked the same questions. why now after two years? wasnt the whole of rccg at the wedding? i rmbr that period now. well, God knows best. It is not in my place to criticize any1.

but then again, like sum1 said, the rules have been there b4 he became an rccg pastor. n no matter how legitimate his claims mayve been, theres the argument that u let one, u let all. so i no it was a tuff decision all round.

umm, a mail? thot we agreed that callin was the better option lol. anyway, will let u no if i hear anything. hav a great week.

december? thot this recruitment started in march or april But yes, I agree with u. Gods time is the best. We must not give up hope!