₦airaland Forum

justwise:
Watching that clip i was thinking. .hey!. . .it could be your attitude towards women is the prob here, yes there are women who may not take compliments from random men especially in a particular area of the city. . sometimes returning or accepting the compliment may send a wrong message to the guy. .thinking. .yea she is up for it

Yupp, co-sign

justwise:
 Inked_Nerd i have to agree with u here. .sometimes. .some of us blackmen get the wrong end of the stick when sisters trying to 'associate' with us politely, i don't know if its a cultura thing that gave some pple the impression that women are programmed to say yes to every dog that barks,
A child who grew up from a violent family. .see ddady hit mum and disrespect her may grow up with little or no respect for women, i don't agree with the guy when he said that 99% of men thinks women are bla bla when they saw a well dressed sister, its his opinion and i respect that.

blacklion:
Inked Nerd, if you don't mind my asking - are you Nigerian or of Nigerian origin?

IZUKWU:
An open relationship is a relationship in which infidelity is encouraged or do i say not frowned upon.

bayosgirl:
Hmm, I guess there's no PM feature on this forum. 

bayosgirl:
I was born and raised in the U.S. but my dad is originally from Italy (mom is American.) Funny they should be wary of Ajibayo because he's an immigrant, seems kind of hypocritical, don't you think? Racism seems to be rampant among old-school Italians but my dad actually surprised me in that he was upset when his sister, my aunt, made an offensive comment. I do think he has a lot of respect for Ajibayo but perhaps is paranoid that he could be taking advantage of me for citizenship purposes (I know this in my heart to be completely untrue.) We actually met when he used to work in my parents' restaurant, and for awhile my dad was driving 20 miles round-trip to pick Bayo up from his first job, and then another 10 miles to take him home at night when he didn't have a car. And he was the only employee who was invited to Thanksgiving dinner at my parents' house. I know that in time they'll come around and hopefully we'll be one big happy, diverse family.

bayosgirl:
Feel free to PM me if you would like to talk more, Inked_Nerd.

bayosgirl:
No worries, I love talking about our relationship. :-) Especially since I'm so used to people acting all weird when I mention he's Nigerian like it's a bad thing. To me, he and his culture are beautiful and I'm PROUD to be his wife. Anyway, yes, he has had me change some things that were detriments to me, bad habits and such. He never picks on things out of selfishness, but only to help me because he loves me so much and wants me to be happy and successful. At first I was very stuck in my ways and I couldn't even see that his wanting me to change was an expression of his love for me, but gradually I began to understand. He is persistent, I give him that. I'm so very grateful that I finally have a man who is as strong as me and isn't afraid to "confront" me when he needs to, yet still gives me the freedom I need.

Nekai:
I think it is ironic that the boy, who will become the head of a household someday, is sometimes allowed to be more irresponsible.

Hotie Tima:
miss nerd u think we go and want to talk to our parents about somethings, uuumm we don't but they just like talking no joke, they are trying to put us on the right path, of no sex before marriage, so sleeping around with boy's, they think they are doing the right thing but if u look in mamy families and culture this acceptation is only accepted from us the females.

and then once u commit a mistake is un endless lecture of things u don't even want to hear

bayosgirl:
Well, he went into the relationship knowing how strong willed I am. My mother even told him "when she wants something, she doesn't stop till she gets it" - in that case she was referring to how my parents were trying to discourage me from the relationship but I wouldn't listen to them. If I were easily controlled, we wouldn't be together today. But I met someone I admired and grew to love, and this is the result. I wasn't afraid to tell him he was eating crap, and since he's changed his diet he now thanks me every day that he feels better and looks even younger and healthier than before. Anything I'm not happy about, I tell him and most of the time he changes it. He used to be very loud, and I told him I don't like being yelled at and he's cut it down a LOT. Likewise he can tell me something and I will talk it over with him and change it if need be - I don't mean to imply I'm so bullheaded I don't listen. Just that there are some things I won't compromise on and he understands and respects that.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Lmao!
I have always said it and will always say it. Maybe most people are mostly their 'physical selves'. . .i happen to be more mentally myself.
Just because i don't like being a female, doesn't mean i feel less of myself. . .my physical self is really irrelevant to me anyway.
lol. . .i no fit laugh sef. Anyway you don't know me mentally, to know if people can actually affect me [/color]

Hotie Tima:
I SWEAR THEY REFUSE  TO RELEASE THIS IS THE 21 CENTURY

WE TRY NOT TO LET IT GET TO US, BUT PARENTS DO THIS THINGS TO your ALL THE TIME

bayosgirl:
^ I didn't "discuss" anything with my husband-I just laid it all out. "If you want to borrow my womb, this is how it is." LOL. He's cool with me taking charge as long as I keep putting hot meals on the table.

As for ear piercings, it was done to all my female cousins when they were babies. For some reason, my parents chose not to pierce my ears. I was about 14 when I finally worked up the courage and all my friends already had theirs pierced. Of course it wasn't so bad when I finally had it done, but the anxiety leading up to it was horrible. So I don't know what's worse-getting it out of the way when she's too young to stress about it, or modifying her body without her consent. Is ear piercing at infancy common in Nigeria? I always thought it was a European/Italian thing (dad's family is Italian.)

iice:
[color=#9900ff]One of the reasons i never liked being a female.
I get hours of lectures on fraternizing with males, dangers of what what. . .blah blah. . .like gimme a break.  
My brothers get the 'if you make her pregnant, you're on your own' and tori don finish.  Couldn't they just say that one line to me and save me hours of talks i usually just daze out to  [/color]

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Alrite babe, uv'e lost your opportunity now so le go! [/color]

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]'No need for frontin, frontin girl lemme tell u sometin somtin girl, no need for long tin, cause it's feel so good just standing by your side'[/color]

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Intrigued ke?to have those brown stuff spoiling the beauty of th eye?[/color]

bayosgirl:
^ I agree with you Inked_Nerd. It was a battle with my husband because he thought it was "the right thing to do" to circumcise if we have a son, but I told him in no uncertain terms that will not be happening. I don't believe in most forms of body modification for infants and children. Now ear piercings on girls, I'm still on the fence about.

kay jasper:
@ink nerd, lwkmd, a good idea realy.

jas man:
A pervated type of relationship at most. Open to keep boyfriends/girlfriends as back ups. Its UNAFRICAN, don't do it

kay jasper:
he sticks his hand in his nose in public almost every 5 minuites.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Dat's a horrible thing 2 say, how do u expect people who ave it 2 feel?it's not like it's some sort of disese! 

Yes i believe there should be a cure 2.[/color]

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Lol hey girl where u been?

Pigments are those brownish parts that form on the white of the eye-balls. . .check the first pic 4 a mild example.[/color]

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]^^Tell me baby i'm intrested![/color]