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standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

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Onegai:
Hmm.

OP, firstly if you are a kind and gentle man, don't change. People are stupid to whom ever they decide to be stupid to and women do respect soft men (I married one sef).

It seems from the man's behaviour (the one you spoke to whom replied you harshly) your wife has given him ammunition to speak to you so badly. And your wife keeps calling and communicating with others is not the problem, it's the fact that she's willing to lie when you ask her to stop and explained it reasonably (I hope you did).

I'd tell your wife that she should please head back to her parent's home and you guys get a separation. Say it in a calm manner and don't get angry or get provoked. Call her parents to get her out if she refuses to leave. Don't let them attempt to settle the matter, as they are merely putting plaster over a deep wound.

Mind you, a separation is not a divorce. Let her go and decide what important to her and you need to think what's important to you. Make sure she doesn't return for 3 months (the first month she will beg in a false manner, manipulation, reporting all sorts about you to anyone who cares to listen, lots of tears, bible quoting and even a pastor will be asked to beg you. Expect this and say no and keep her away. 2nd month it will begin to dawn on her "this man is serious" and she will try calling you back. Ignore her. 3rd month of her being out of your life will induce panic in her).

If you can be very strong, I'd recommend this separation last for 6 months.

Once she's panicking and thinks it's all over for good, tell her you are willing to consider continuing the marriage if she on her own, cuts off all communications with everyone (I mean EVERYONE) in her life (no phones). And she has to make that guy who spoke rudely to you on the phone apologise to you. He must call you and apologise (if she refuses to, calmly tell her you're seeing another lady and a divorce takes a year after to finalise. Be very calm when you're saying this).

She must prove herself to you unless you have a right to value your peace of mind. If you do both fix this, you both have to work on your marriage to find out the root cause of all this.

You are wicked

LeOstrich:
Yoou have not in any plausible way countered anything written here but just happen to present yourself as a die hard skeptic sympathetic to the US and Saudi Arabia plus their proxy jihad army in Syria.

I don't buy shitty conspiracy theories that lack any serious evidence but contradict simple logic.
China's exports to the US amount to $397,150,820,000 (17%) A YEAR and to Russia $53,685,970,000 (2,3%) and you still claim that China wants to destroy their top trading partner? Only in Nigeria.

Why not post why you feel, Russia's powerful coalition which includes China, North Korea (they have some boots in Syria fighting for Assad) and Iran is not a threat to US, Saudi Arabia and ISIS?

Does this sentence even make any sense to you?

Or do you think Putin is in Syria to dik around ?

Appleyard:
No. We pulled them from the artic ocean Are you surprised? pls, dont be, cos you will never find such in the CIA controlled Main Stream Media.

Not surprised at all, after all this is Nigeria and you the victims of its wonderful education system.

Today is teacher's day, go and shoot the people who messed with your education.

LeOstrich:
China does not fark around when it comes to taking out the kebaab.

You may not be aware but China is facing its own home grown islamic terrorism at home.

China just like Russia is not in anyway interested in whatever sectarian beef that is brewing in the muddled east but rather is using the chaos in syria to flex it's authority and carve out a huge big slice of influences and interests.

It is also no secret that China and Russia have since dumped trading with each other in dollars and that both these countries are pushing to issue an alternate global currency to replace the dollar.

By simply disrupting oil flows from Saudi Arabia, the petrodollar global economy will fall flat dead on it's head and with it America.

Besides, personally I believe Saudi Arabia deserves to have a war as they are part of the problem in the region with this sunni crap.

You are aware of the fact that a war means harm and destruction and hits the weakest the most, aren't you? You are aware that Saudi Arabia consist of innocent people who never had a say in world affairs, aren't you? You are aware that China strongly opposes any war without UN resolution?

If you derive some sick pleasure from wars like some other people on this and similar threads, go and fight BH.

^^By now, the US are China's most important trade partner. The US was China's top import partner in 2014 and at the same time China is the third largest export market for US goods. It is gullible to think that the US and China will fight each other while being economically interdependent to such extent. It is ridiculous to think that China will support Russia in a way that endangers their relations with the USA when China's exports to Russia make less than 3% whereas China's exports to the US make 17%.

China has no interest in destroying the USA.


LeOstrich, free education for you. You're welcome.

LeOstrich:
Would you have preferred the bigblackcock network aka bbc?

Here https://www.nairaland.com/2644884/strong-indication-russian-backed-coup

feast on this sheeple

I checked on the link and as expected I found more assertions pulled out of your ...

Putin is rearranging the chess pieces all over the damn middle east.

Putin knows the Saudis and Turks will sooner or later do something stup1d like flooding Syria with their Islam mercenaries and given the silence from most Saudi clerics who we would have expected by now to issue a fatwa on Putin it is obvious that the Saudis can not really grasp the concept of a major player like Rusia, China and Iran forming a coalition to destroy its Sunni rebels in Syria and Iraq.

This is why I feel the Saudis are mute. They know that if they dare mention a word on Russia's prescence in Syria , Putin will support a coup in Saudi Arabia to oust the Saudi royal family.

Since when does China want to destroy the Sunni rebels? Where did you pull this information from?

I hope you realize now how you play out fantasy scenarios that lack any evidence, don't you?

LeOstrich:
Would you have preferred the bigblackcock network aka bbc?

Here https://www.nairaland.com/2644884/strong-indication-russian-backed-coup

feast on this sheeple

Answer my question.

How do you know that "China and Russia have agreed that it is best to destabilize Saudi Arabia as this is sure to destroy American hegemony of the global economy"?

LeOstrich:
I don't like posting long posts on NL because from what I have found out the attention span of your average NL member is like that of a 5yr old. He/she hates long posts and is ever demanding of pissures.

So, I try as much as possible to lead my discussions from one post to the other.

Start from page 0 of this thread and this time take the time to read my posts.

I have provided enough valid links for you doubting thomases.

By the way, China and Russia have agreed that it is best to destabilize Saudi Arabia as this is sure to destroy American hegemony of the global economy.

Regards!

Your sources are a joke.

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Another assertion. Who told you that? Xi Jinping?

[quote author=LeOstrich post=38695135][/quote]With your over 120 IQ you are not even able to quote properly?

Where is the source I have been asking you for?

So China secretly intervenes in Syria now? OR have people like you made up stories that you help spreading?

Go back to school.

LeOstrich:
My ass has an IQ greater than yours

China's Position on Syria Issue
Continued conflict in Syria has brought sufferings to the Syrian people and impacted peace and stability in the Middle East. China is deeply worried about the situation. China maintains that political settlement is the only realistic way out of the Syrian crisis. All relevant parties in Syria should take credible steps to implement the spirit of the communiqué of the foreign ministers' meeting of the Action Group on Syria, cease fire and stop violence immediately, positively respond to the initiative of holding the second Geneva conference on the Syrian issue, and start and implement a Syrian-led, inclusive political transition as soon as possible. Relevant parties in the international community should provide positive and constructive help for the political settlement of the Syrian issue and avoid taking any action that could further militarize the crisis.

China follows the latest developments in Syria closely. We firmly oppose the use of chemical weapons by anyone. China supports the UN investigation team in conducting independent, objective, impartial and professional investigations. The next step should be determined by the Security Council based on the findings of the UN investigation team. Unilateral military actions that bypass the Security Council will have serious impact on the situation in Syria and the Middle East region and they are also a violation of international law and the basic norms governing international relations.

China has maintained an objective and just position and a responsible attitude on the Syrian issue. We are committed to protecting the fundamental interests of the Syrian people, maintaining peace and stability in the Middle East region and upholding the purposes and principles of the Charter of the United Nations and basic norms governing international relations. China has made consistent efforts to promote peace and encourage dialogue, firmly supported and actively promoted the political settlement of the Syrian issue, and supported Mr. Brahimi, UN-Arab League Joint Special Representative for Syria, in making impartial mediation. China will respect and support any settlement plan on the Syrian issue as long as it is widely accepted by all relevant parties in Syria. China has watched closely the humanitarian situation in Syria. We have provided humanitarian assistance to the Syrian people, including Syrian refugees in other countries, as our ability permits, and will continue to do so.

[size=18pt]http://bw.chineseembassy.org/eng/xwdt/t1076201.htm[/size]





DUMBFVCK!

LeOstrich:
I have an IQ of over 120!

This is why you are pulling stories from your ass.

LeOstrich:
Maybe until you are shot then will you know there is war

Where did you pull the info from? Kindly tell me!

LeOstrich:
WW3 has already began and most of you never even noticed.

Russian airstrikes and special forces are coordinating a massive attack on ISIS and all so-called moderate rebel positions in Syria and Iraq.

China has since sent two aircraft carriers to the Red Sea anchored off the coast of Jordan to give Russia forces operating in Syria and Iraq much needed rear cover in case Obama decides to send NATO jets to intercept Russian jets and special forces ground troops.

Iran has drafted hundreds of it's elite fighting force into Iraq.

Israel is already contemplating dumping the idea of supporting FSA fighters in Syria to oust Asaad due to Obama's insistence on having his nuclear deal with Iran.

The US, EU and NATO have known for months of Putin's plan to assemble a coalition to uproot ISIS from Syria and Iraq!.

This is the real reason behind the Arab- Muslim ''refugee'' invasion of Europe.

The US is secretly amassing an army of Arab Muslims to be trained, equipped and deployed to the Middle-East to counter Russian led war on ISIS.

Now you know why 75% of the so called refugees are young men of fighting age.

Do you people pull all these stories from your ass?

Shymm3x:
Based on the reports I'm reading - the Russians are targeting all the US, Saudi Arabia, Qatari, and Turkish assets in Syria with surgical strikes and bunker busters and I heard a few Saudi, Qatari, and Turkish servicemen have been collateral damage. Israel has also been barred from the Syrian airspace.

The US also said all options are on the table - including military option - against Russian airstrikes on their Islamist assets. I don't think the US is suicidal cos Russia is basically doing what the US did in Libya albeit on the right side of history. The Russians also have the biggest nuclear submarine in the world, with nuclear warheads and ICBMs off the coast of Syria as deterrent and the Black Sea Naval feet there as well. They should start launching cruise missiles from the sea in the next few days against targets in both Syria and Iraq.

This is going to get interesting as time goes on. But the whole of Europe is behind Russia and Angela Merkel alluded to that yesterday. Hollande also supports Russia's initiative. And European people are celebrating Russia's intervention. Even in the UK - public opinions have been overwhelmingly pro-Russia. Putin is like a Demi-god right now

Source?

Greed will kill them one by one.

Unless he is not working with the terrorist, he can't know it. Ridiculous.

anonimi:
Again, you misunderstand me.
The aids through the Marshall Plan was to pay ORDINARY German people [as opposed to the Third Reich or the German state] for their WORK. I have heard of examples where people dug a trench one day and the next day another set filled it up just to have more money in circulation to stimulate DEMAND that will generate supply and lead to increased PRIDUCTION as factories are revived.

In short, people were not DASHED money simply for being poor.

Now I get your point but who says the poor are supposed to be dashed out money?

Haishophem:
It would have been worse without the aids, and mind you, with the abundance of resources in Africa alone, we can do without their aids.

Theoretically yes, practically obviously not.

And moreso we should be the one sending out grant had it been we've got leaders that really have the development of the countries in Africa at heart. I'm using Africa instead of Nigeria, cos it's a menace that's common to most African countries.

Should, would, could but don't.

The aids is just like you dining with the devil and in return asks for something more valuable in return.

I am tired of this kind of rhetoric. The devil America here, the holy spirit of Africa there. I don't do black-white thinking.

Shymm3x:
Ranked on paper.

Where do you have your information from?

anonimi:
I did not ignore the first two examples.
They were covered in "reward for WORK done and VALUE created" as well as "industrialisation leading to economic boom", not so

Reward for work done? What work had Germany done? They were responsible for the WW II, millions of dead people and destruction of countries.
The US knew that it was extremely important to stabilize Germany even though they were the ones to cause the damage all over Europe.

Again, Buhari's record in public office is more about-

- state control
- subsidies
- clampdown on education, freedom of expression and liberty.

ingredients for sure failure overall as was the case in 1983-1985.

Back up your arguments with facts please.

anonimi:
Thank you so much for the examples you gave.
The emphasis is on education and reward for WORK done or VALUE created and not the dash dash almajiri system that Buhari has done ALL his life.
If you have contrary evidence to Buhari's robust legacy in education and industrialisation leading to economic boom, please share.
Thanks.

The first two examples didn't mention education. Why ignore them?

I am not here to defend Buhari and time will show what he does with the money but we shouldn't criticize the aid as such but watch how it will be invested. We need the money for now.

Truckpusher:
Are you going to pay for my time ?

You think I'm jobless ?

You seem to know a lot about it since you have very strong opinions and so it should be no problem for you to back up your arguments time-efficiently.

Truckpusher:
I'm not saying that Africans are saints or whatever but my submission is simple - We are not suppose to be accepting monetary aid from the west simple.
If they really want to help , first step is stop making foreign policies that would put smaller economies on the edge through IMF and world bank.
What they are doing is akin to sabotaging a man's source of livelihood only to turn around and dash him money.

Tell me about these policies and we can take it from there.

anonimi:
You should realise I wan not about your family and relations at all- simply trying to emphasise a point.
Continuous, unending receipt of aids does not make anyone, talk less a group/society/nation develop.

Really? So the Marshall plan didn't help Germany develop and didn't lead to an economical boom?
Japan did not experience an economic miracle partly due to the aid assistance of the USA after WW II?

Now on a more personal level, there are no children who can go to school and receive vaccinations essential for survival thanks to people like Bill and Melinda Gates?

Oprah Winfrey has not provided educations to plenty of young girls in South Africa and smoothed their way to a brighter future by means of education, which cost her LOTS OF MONEY?

Truckpusher:
Yes ' criminal west.

The west enslaved Africans for their own economic gains
The same west colonized African countries for their own economic gains

Get over it. There was a time where Western nations were trying to "enslave" each other, which led to two world wars. Some European countries have been destroyed by this mentality but they got over it.

Have you forgotten that it were your people who were selling their own people? Holy Africans! Say hallelujah!

Who knows what they are cooking next for your freeloading gullible people and leadership.
If you think that neocolonialism is just a simple terminology then you'll need some history lessons on what transpired that nearly turned African countries to coup capital of the world.

Enlighten me!

Yes! They have a criminal past when it comes African Goverments and I can say it anywhere without mincing words.
We should be open to a lot partners and not tied down with one Greek gift from the same people who fuccked you over before .

Like I said, Africans have never committed any crime. Holy People. Say Amen.

Who says you can't be open to other partners?

EggovinMma:
If they are depressed, they should use their wives' wrapper to hang their necks instead. Thank you.

anonimi:
Is necessity no longer the mother of invention?
How many of your friends and relations became successful only on dash dash money they were getting like almajiris
How many?

What inventions have been made in Nigeria despite all the unfulfilled necessities that the country has been plagued with for decades?
The rest is an argumentum ad hominem. Stick to the topic and leave my family out of it. Whatever I tell you about me and my family can be the truth or a lie.

Truckpusher:
What are the conditions tied to this money? I guess you won't bother now until you begin to see policies that would be skewed towards giving an upper hand to a particular foreign govt while other partners like China and co withdraws their support leaving us entangled with the criminal West that see African countries as their plantation.
Make una kwontinu, yeye dey smell.

It is the job of a government to make the best deals possible with whatever partner provides the best offer.
Criminal West?? So all Western countries are criminal and the rest of the world is holy and innocent?

Haishophem:
Yea he can create with $2.3bn but you've all got to open your eyes and see deep into this foriegn grants given, of what use has it been ever since. It's just one of their means of under developing us.

Maybe without the foreign grants the situation would be even worse.

@bold
I don't get what you are trying to say here.

obioraval:
And this one would be judiciously invested right. In Nigeria...

HOPEFULLY.

obioraval:
The ones we have been collecting before, of what use has it been?

The problem is not with the money the country received but with how it was invested or rather stolen.