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tensazangetsu:
Bad past I mean coded runs casual sex here and there and worst of it all abortions. Jeez I know some girls that do abortions every 3 months.

Cutehector:
yea.. Compatibility..

tensazangetsu:
Realistic lol.

tensazangetsu:
in life it's better to be realistic than optimistic lol

tensazangetsu:
I will have a family yes but a wife with what I have seen in the university I think I will jump and pass

Cutehector:
so its wrong for my wife to be friend's wit my mum? Ppo tho...

tensazangetsu:
Am not a saint but i can beat my cheat anywhere and say yes. But I wanna focus more on my studies achieve my goals and dreams first. If everything goes well I will consider having kids from my late 30s

Cutehector:
u see ur stupidity.. I wrote be close to my mum... How does dat relate to me being way to close to my mother? U lack comprehension.. No offence

tensazangetsu:
Not really I am an emotional persom. I can't stand lying or cheating or a girl with a bad past, 90 percent of girls have one anyway. I just wanna have kids which I can share all my love with boys preferably.

Cutehector:
Be close to my mum, and u r already my wife

Umuchoke:
If you succeed in setting boundaries for your family members, would your finances also succeed? U can never balance it, so I still maintain that families are left out completely until after marriage

plaetton:
@innervoice.

Here one link that suggests same conclusion.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/09/130926205001.htm

darlenese:
Tufiakwa
* throwing up in anger*

*strangles your disgusting wife*

*spits on her

plaetton:
It was actually a bbc documentary a few years ago.
Do some google querries and see if you can find articles on the study.
I will also try.

Umuchoke:
Don't get the message wrong; I'm not totally against involving families in marriage but I feel it's better done after the young man and lady has tied the nuptial knots in the court of law. I've seen many cases where a guy would take a girl to his parents to introduce her as his future wife. The parents may accept initially but there would always be one grandpa with so much history in his bald head to ruin the show. He would tell you how the girl's people treated his own village in 1857, and for that reason the marriage shouldn't hold. This can be just so frustrating, especially when the young people involved are seriously in love with each other. Since bigotry and tribal sentiments can't be removed, I suggest we limit families involvement in marriage affairs.

plaetton:
Another study conducted some years back showed that women, through emotional signalling, had a great influence over the choice of paternity for the children.

Specifically, the study suggested that a woman sleeping with two or more partners would most likely concieve for the man with whom she has a greater emotional connection at that time.

In other words, her emotions would send signals to her fertility organs to discriminate in favour of the favoured sperm.

What this translates to in real life is that a woman is more likely to concieve for her lover than for her husband with whom she has built up resentments over the period of their marriage.

keppyy:
Theories up and down...

Long speeches everywhere...


What happened to LOVE?

Love no longer exist?


This thread is depressing...

shaybebaby:
The ones that she creates for herself. There comes a time when you have stop waiting and act. If it is finances that is the main crux of why the husband cannot be with her, then she needs to start shouldering some of that so as to have a case to end the separation.
She can look for avenues to join him, independent of his efforts, I mean if God forbid he dies, she will need to step up. Stepping up means stepping up for herself and her kids and stop waiting for a man to give her the life she wants.
It would either make it easier to be together or if they have to go their separate ways, she is in a better position because of her foresight.

shaybebaby:
If she has to raise the kids by herself, satisfy herself sexually alone, live by herself alone, go to bed alone, when upset, deal with the emotions alone without the physical presence of her loved one, if the kids are ill, cope with the emotional turmoil alone without the physical support of the husband, then how does the situation qualify as Marriage and if it indeed such?
If she can pay her bills and raise her kids financially by herself, then I'm afraid the marriage bit is redundant. She is doing everything else alone so why deny herself the chance of happiness by waiting and praying.
If she moves on, it won't affect the kids.. It changes nothing. He was never physically present to begin with.

pickabeau1:
good

so whats the brouhaha about

That's the thrust of TV01 posts and the ladies said status differences (age, education etc) do not matter

im still trying to get your own angle

pickabeau1:
Now you are discussing like a human being not the attempt at nonchalantly dismissing what was being said when you made your first post
I like the bolded........


Don't you think a woman who regards herself as your peer will find it difficult to respect you as man




More like black widow...lol

ApexTitan:
I've noticed that the word hypergamy has been cropping up a lot here on NL. Female hypergamy isn't just entirely about women marrying older men but refers to the much broader concept of the dualistic nature of the female sexual strategy. That is, the womans attempts in satisfying her need for attracting the most genetically endowed mates for immediate gratification against the need for securing one who can provide for her and her offsprings in the long term.

whizqueen:
Eyaaa I really feel for this lady sha
How can a young marriage of 5 years be lacking good sex when 25 years old marriage are still banging themselves with crazy styles

prinwa:
it wasn't , I knew him before he traveled.

prinwa:
no it was arranged.

prinwa:
Initially when we got married he told me he will prepare my papers, which he did but it didn't work, because i already had my daughter, so the embassy said that he doesn't. Have enough income to take care of me and his daughter. We kept on trying over and over again but nothing. Seems to work. Now i have another baby who is 11months old. My daughter gave him alot of space. My concern now is that he told me February this year that when he gets back to Europe that he will apply for his citizenship, so that it will be easy for him to take us. Up till this moment he has not applied for it. He is taking good care of financial, i won't deny that. But i need companionship, i need a man in my life. I feel empty with out him. I don't want my children to grow without their father.