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KanwuliaJara:
I understand your concern. The marriage is too young.
But in marriage, you don't always get what you want.
Your husband has set the tone for the relationship.

If you move in with him, he will resent you. He does not want to live with you full-time, neither does he want to have SEX with you everyday.

The ball is in your court.

Either you stay and manage, or you go and DAMAGE!

A no-win situation!

100 likes!

TV01:
Yawn - your post queried those who were expending unecessary time and energy on this matter - I responded on behalf of us all. Including you now that you've joined us. Welcome !


Are you regretting your choice ! A 21 year old girl can achieve and acquire way more than a 35 year old - and before she is 35. Or did the 35 year old have all she has at 35 at 21? See your fuzzy thinking. Not that I actually said, anyone should go and marry a 21 year old!

She has to have it all before I even consider dating her. I am not her father so I will not wait and watch her grow up
The only thing we can do is grow old TOGETHER. Since your main criterion is youth, continue raising your wife

My bad, I didn't realise that intelluct is a function of age or experience - or that is the main ingredient of a successful marriage.

No, youth is

You are struggling !
Yes I am 10+ older, and an extremely fit, fully functioning male. I should be potent well into my 70's and beyond. As for dying earlier, that was part of the deal . How can the one who cleans up after you die before you !

On the internet you can be anything

Impotence will come - I will welcome it sef. Even if it doesn't, by the time my wife gets menopausal, I will be willing to relegate sex to a smaller role as appropriate.

Who told you that the woman's libido will decrease after menopause?
It even increases for SOME women after menopause.

And of course my wife was mad desperate to marry me - I'm a catch, and she didn't want to lose me to the hordes of other women that were looking to shunt her from pole position .

I don't need to ask about your situation, but I trust your wife is in great shape after kids and you are a pretty fit bloke yourself. Otherwise my thoughts and prayers are with you .


TV

What a beautiful invention the internet is for people who need some validation.

TV01:
I'm not having the discussion alone am I? And while I may have a personality disorder, it's not the "multiple" type !


Not the answer, but anyway...any polish or sophistication an older woman has can be aquired by a younger woman.


10+ years younger than me . Distractingly nubile and I'll expire before she does !

What is the age diff between you and your wife?


TV

You were responding to my post, were you not? Were you doing it alone or did anyone here ask you to respond on their behalf? So who is us?

You can deceive the lil girls here that are feeding from your negative energy, not me. A 21-year-old girl (example) can NEVER achieve and acquire what a 35-year-old woman can. You must be joking.

My wife and I are age mates. I am too demanding to surround myself with people who due to lack of experience cannot meet me at my intellectual level.

Since you are 10+ older and since men die earlier and also are at risk of impotence with increasing age, your wife must have been quite desperate to have married you.

TV01:
Free us with our gra-gra ontop small small gist na !

Do you suffer from multiple personality disorder? Who is us?

Quick Question - is your preference in terms of a wife or a girlfriend?

I am a married man.

Question for you, how old is your wife? Is she already expiring?

tearoses:
Meanwhile on the other hand if men think that they can wait until any age before they get married and think that they can automatically pick up a younger woman when they are ready, they may get a big shock.

Women are not stupid and these days men too are being left on the shelf. The older the man is, the more likely he too has baggage and baby momma all over the place & many women dont want a man with luggage either.

The first question I will have in my mind of a 35 year old man who isnt married is Why not? What happened? and I will did deeper in to his hostory.
I have a collegue who when he got to 38 he met a girl in her mid twenties. Her family werent happy with the age gap and they convinced the girl to break the relationship.
The reality was that most girls of his age had tons of baggage and the younger girls were NOT interested in him or just too imature for him. He is still unmarried now and he is now in his fourties.

Many of these young girls are looking for someone to catapault them out of their current lives. The first emotion that comes to them is not love. its survival. I didnt marry my hubby becasue he was 6 years older, I married him becasue I loved him and would have loved him if we were the same age. I didnt go looking for an older man. TV you are advocating for a man to go searching for a younger woman

The reality of this is panning out in the USA when old cargo men are going to the village to pick young girls. They bring them to Amelica and the girls grow wings and then pop pop pop. tragedy!

You are lucky you married a younger good wife. I was lucky I married an older good husband, there are many people who have the opposite experience.

In short if a man finds a good woman regardless of her age, he should go with it.

Stands down from podium


I no gree at all at all

I have been following this discussion and it is quite entertaining how people on NL work themselves up over nonsense.
Let people speak for themselves.

I prefer a WOMAN to a girl. Women in their 30s are far more attractive than lil girls in their 20s who are insecure and immature.
Women in their 30s look better, behave better, are wiser, more confident and far more sensual. FEMINITY at its peak.

To each their own

2goodbobo:
I heart goes out to you Woman. I can only imagine what you are going through. You have done all you can to
be a good wife and a help mate but it seems he does not regard you. My advice is whenever he does anything to
harm you, report him to the authority so that he won't try such because if he does, he will face the full wrath of
the law. What kind of a man will involve his family in his marital affairs? He is just being selfish and stingy at the
same time.

And no joint account is not a must. you have the right to your individual account. Lazzy ass man>

You don't know that 98% of our brothers still suck at mama's niiipples at the age of 45? Metaphorically speaking.

favoured234:
Are you a vegetarian?
If no, then if not for religion, why are you seeing human life better than the cow life..

Are you able to create the chicken life, then why sniff life out of it?

Good one!

hurricaneChris:
Leave religion aside.
Can u authorize a request asking the life of ur dearest person be taken, because he/she is suffering severely in the hospital?

It's nothing to do with religion.
Like I said before, if you can't give life, you have no right to take it. No matter the situation.

My first and second sisters are Doctors, I know their stance on this issue.

First, YOU do NOT authorize anything nor any member of your family, mother, wife or brother. The person who is incurably sick takes this decision.

Secondly, your argument that you cannot take life because you cannot give life is flawed. Parents give life to their children and even though they do, they are not allowed to kill their children. According to your line of reasoning, they should be allowed to do so because they have given them life.

Parents are proud of kids who have special abilities not knowing that the same children have to pay a price for being different. Many of these children have difficulties in everyday life and particularly in the social sphere of life.

It is an act of mercy and therefore justifiable.

Good one favourmic!

These girls have class.

Sagamite:
Moronic fuuktard, now tell us, did anyone say the women should not have a right to choose?

Can you see how dumb you are now?

I knew once you made your point, you are fuuked!

People who look like you JUST don't have a choice

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous fuuktard!

You grew up into this level of fucktardism to the point you can't make a point?

Calm down SHORTY

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous fuuktard!

Was that dumb "science" you point?

Don't change the question, I am still curious. I need to educate your dumb arsse.

Grow up first

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous ffuktard!

Is that some "science" from the failed education system?

Just saw how pained you were a few days ago when a girl said that she doesn't like short guys.

edwife:
Lol what a question?

But truth to be told,many women lose their shape once they have a baby.Some think looking fat is synonymous to happiness,you will hear things like marriage suits you eh,your husband is really taking care of you.....just to name few.

African women need to take care of their bodies,in fact staying in shape supposes to be the number one priority of every woman-because health is life.

I have never said anything else or in other words, I agree with you.
Just tell me what excuse men have for carrying a pot belly. Those men want beauty but themselves look like lawn gnomes. They should be grateful for women who play in their league

Sagamite:
I don't have a pot-belly, I have a barrel-belly, am bald, 4ft 9inches and have only one eye.

And your point is?

I thought so.

The least attractive guys have the sharpest tongues.

Sagamite:
Not yet back in her heavenly and delightful shape.

And most likely never going to be back in that shape or something even close to it.

That is one's reward once you marry a Nigerian woman and she has one child. This is despite all the insult and demeaning you get while trying to date her o.

You have only between 1 to 4 years (period to her concieving for the first time) to enjoy what physical attributes attracted you to her.

Are you in shape or short and pot bellied?

Why can't any of you go and visit him? He needs his family around now!

MrPresident1:
Ten years after marriage he is asking for MouthAction? When the initial highs of marriage wear off probably in the first or second year, it is replaced by mutual respect and a more mature kind of love.

I do not think the man respects his wife because I think by now they should be more like brother and sister, like siblings.

Asking for MouthAction after 10 years of marriage

How has he succeeded to make it this far without getting it?

@OP

What is it that the wife does not like about it?

Stillfire:
We need to stop blaming other people or society for the decisions these women make, for real.
The average Nigerian woman chooses to stay in a bad marriage. She would do anything to be a Mrs.
That is the average Nigerian woman's life goal . To be Mrs Somebody. Don't you see how they pray in churches? I must marry by force o.
Why won't you people's marriages turn out to be a disaster? If I were a guy I would run away from Nigerian women. You find out the societal pressure they talk about, it's Nigerian women that mostly put it on top themselves.
She made the choice to stay. A gun was not held to her head. Enough of these pathetic stories. Stop playing victim.
In this day and age, I will not pity any woman that stays in a bad marriage. I can help you look for the necessary authorities to report the husband to because I'm practical. That's all. You know what to do either you divorce or you die there.

Preach!

What consequences?

baralatie:
What is a hostile/abusive relationship and what are its characteristics!

Seriously?

I have not read or seen Fifty Shades of Grey but BDSM is very different from abuse. While BDSM is based on trust and mutual agreement, abuse is not.

bangleslover:
mmm.....yeah true talk anyways . I guess culture of the bible times and religion itself is also a major factor to that.

if there wasn't religion i don't think women would treated as "weak vessels" as they are now.

How do you THINK had women been treated before the Bible was written?

If a woman loves her man, most of the things on the list will come easy to her. But too many women are emotionally crippled.

FrancisTony:
Men and Women are not equal as the gender are different - they claim.

Men is above Women - they claim.

Isn't the second statement contradictory?

Their argument can only make sense if they argue men and women aren't equal nor unequal since they can't be compared.

You need to understand the psychology behind it. If you, in one way or another, feel insufficient or in other words, have self-esteem issues, then you are very likely to put somebody else down to feel superior because you have underlying feelings of inferiority for one reason or another.

Once you understand it, you will not get angry but feel some sympathy for those men.

No strong man will ever feel the need to put people down, he will rather lift people up, women or not.

Chinom:
@Innervoice : Another fallacy. The fact that you laugh it off when a woman pinches your butt does not mean that you cannot sue a woman on grounds of it.
How you respond to it is your business, before the law you are equal and you don't have to accept it.


It's either you guys do not understand my point or you are just playing 'DUMB' . Go back and read my post again. Yes, we are equal before the law. We are equal on paper. But the judge who will handle the case did not fall from Jupiter. He is a member of the society that sees us as not equal.
Yes, I can sue, but will the judge and members of the jury find the woman guilty ?. How many %age of women are found guilty of male sexual harassment ?.

Are you implying that all judges are s.exist and unfair?

I am done thrashing this point. You have already admitted that men and women are not ' biologically' equal. So what is point of all these Feminism ?.

Political, economic and socio-cultural equality. This is what it is about.

FrancisTony:
These guys made me think I was spewing gibberish.

Thank God there are still some great minds who are not chauvinistic or trolling for fun.

Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth. (M. Gandhi)

FrancisTony:
That's how pathetic they can be.

Men and Women are equal and they will start bringing biological bullsh1ts.

Genders are equal but humans are different.
All men are not the same.
All women are not the same.

It's actually quite simple.

iPopAlomo:
None... now you see... you're covering for a woman... that's the kind of protection they get...

Back at you mehn... back at you...

And who told you I do not speak up for men if necessary?