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carefreewannabe:
A minute after I had been banned, can you imagine?

Are you serious

Why were you banned

I was beginning to wonder what caused your conspicuous absence

Gemc3:
see ya mouth

Oh my!...You are so pretty.


No strings/PM attached.


Just a harmless compliment.

AgapeCharis:
when will she come??

time is running out

The patient charis...













Eats the..... ...

AgapeCharis:
lol


I wonder when I'll overcome dt fear

When the right woman comes.


atleast that's my consolation.

A woman that would fit you so
much, as to feed more faith
than doubt, in the success of the
relationship.

AgapeCharis:
hehehehehehehehehe


ok na

Bro,

I just saw your mention on the other thread(Family section)

How we go do na

Shey make we form "No heart breaker" club

Davivah:
You are doing the right thing ... when you see the one made for you, you wont think otherwise

Thank you

I pray I see her soon.

elantraceey:
wetin you dey do for here?

I'm listening to testimonies.

elantraceey:
See your mouth , you like gist ehn , nor do make you come tell your own.

Like say you sef no like gist


So this is where you are now abi


You will not do and go back to lomance lection

bigsholly:
modify

*runs to look for it*

[size=16pt]Please people, it's not just about where you met your spouse, but also how you met, the intricacies, queerness or humor involved, their responses and other little little things you can chip in [/size].

Today is Sunday, relax and share that story, then later in the day, both of you can even have hot seexx to close the day.

onadana:
At the gym....and the story continues....happily ever after.The most wonderful woman.

What happened at the gym

Was she on a thread mill?.. She slipped, then you rushed to help her?

Were you lifting dump-bells that were heavier than you, they fell on your head, then she rushed to help you?

Brosssss yeee

Please tell us more abeg

EfemenaXY:
Yes o!

Pursue them very well. Can you imagine them two filling a whole page with that...that.. language!

Don't mind them.

Lubisssh!

If you view this thread without telling your own love story success...Sango will strike your phone with thunder

Carefreewannabe!!!


"Our" thread has entered front page!!!



Booooooooyah!!!!

Carefreewannabe and goofyone

Make una talk that language again first, and see if I no go carry bottle follow una two

carefreewannabe:
Not long at all. Thanks for sharing. I would have gladly read a longer version of the story.

SECONDED

soonest:
It means u no too 'send' woman. I no sabi as i go take explain am again.
It's good to be analytical but too much of everything is bad. It may make you see wrongs where none exist.

Person no suppose send una before na.

Una wahala too dey plenty like Ahhh Ahhh kilode

You guys should come and share more successful love stories... Come now or else!

msbreezy:
That's very kind of you thank you

You're very welcome

soonest:
Reading through your posts, i don't think you are really into ladies(i don't mean you are a homo o). I also think you are analytical so i doubt you will be struck with love at first sight. My advice date your friends and you may find yourself gradually falling for one.
Pls i may be wrong, just my thoughts.
Op, an interesting topic i must say

Yeah I understand you

What does it mean to be "really into ladies" or not to be?
From a lady's point of view, would you be willing to tell me?

I have an appreciable dose of the Melancholic temperament, so I'd agree with you 100% that I'm quite analytical.... It's a good thing isn't it?

Unibenstudent


Quite frankly, there are a number of guys here that I find interesting, you used to be one of them. I was not going to say anything before about how you were so quick to dissociate yourself from Krisitina1,but the way you so irresponsibly trashed MrsBreezy's physique when you and Ipledge were discussing; is really distasteful. I don't know her, I'm not her friend, I neither follow nor mention her, but dude, you shouldn't say such things about a girl's look, especially because you don't even have a right to. That was very low and silly of you to be honest.

You don't owe me anything, You don't know me in person and may likely never do but from the way you just trashed another person's looks and physique. I've ceased to have any respect for you.


Cheers.

dein77:
Oya, lemme complete my story. This is a very warm thread.

Trust me: I made the very first move. Politely. Gentlemanly. Courteous. Appeared simple. She was preparing for her one of her HND 2 exams.

After chatting with her for a while, I politely requested for her digits, which she gave me there and then. I just knew she was going to be my wife. I have been praying for a lifetime since my secondary school days...

Left Kaduna June that year and returned back to PH. I actually went to Kaduna for a professional training organised by my organisation. In the end, I returned with two certificates. .U know what I mean na?

We kept communications going even after my leaving Kaduna. Visafone hear am for our hand. The calls were long, numerous and relentless. I knew she had other suitors, but I was able to make her see reasons why she should spend the rest of our life with me. I knocked off the other suitors. Actually, she had an accident, and was using crutches. I guess that scared the other suitors, while I willingly and happily stepped in. I was there for her throughput that challenging period.

After careful thoughts and deliberations, I felt it was time to make the bold move before water go pass garri. A lady well endowed with such a sumptuous figure? Ridiculously amazing. Factory fitted pointers and spring loaded V-boot? Now couple that with an unassuming, amiable, affable nature! I no fit miss am...... I officially proposed to her November that year; 2008. She instantly accepted and like an Olympic torch, we lit the love candle. It's still burning this morning. She's sleeping beside me as I type

We were in courtship till October, 2009, when it metamorphosed into the marriage it is today. It's being one of my smartest decisions in my whole life.

Today, we're blessed with two kids: a boy and a girl.

Sophyrocks, where art thou?

Chaiiiiiii

An African man will always be an African man. There's a "particular" way we love our women structured.

See all wetin only you dey chop on a regular basis... I envy you ooooo


I love your story man.... Very lovely, I like the part where you said you had been praying for your wife since secondary school. I'm assuming you're of the Christian faith?, as practicing Christians, we can't overemphasize the importance of prayerfully seeking a wife, it really is the best way to search .

I must say again... Very nice experience you got there, on behalf of every other person in this thread- Thank you for sharing.

rexbuton:
THe black man is seen painting his old slavery chains into gold fashion chains rather than taking them off.. This can be related to the fashion craze among black people especially celebrities (rather curious that the black guy looks like a rapper), who spend so much on buying gold chains which is more like glorified servitude.. it seems blacks are used to chains, aren't we?

Yeah, this interpretation of yours also holds water, African /African American popstars are known for buying and adorning themselves with alot of heavy jewelries, but I don't think that has any relationship with what according to you is "glorified servitude". Your use of this term, gives the illustration a rather literal interpretation, which it is not, don't you think so.

Saying that "blacks are used to chains" is a fairly relatable statement, considering their history to/with slave trade, however to suggest that in this modern times, Africans wear jewelry - chains as a subtle way of reflecting glorified servitude is not exactly correct because it would still mean that blacks are under some form of depression, repression and subservience - which of course is not true. Blacks have come to occupy very prominent cadres of authority and power in modern times and even though we love our jewelry - chains, the fact that we pay heavy money for them reeks nothing of "servitude"

I'd like to know what your counter opinion is on this.
Cheers man.

ihedinobi2:
Abeg make una no scatter this thread ni.

Oga calm down


We no scatter any thread no worry


Oya I no talk again

carefreewannabe:
Of course, it's fine by me.
I love discussions, I thought everyone knew by now .

Go ahead whenever you feel the time is right.

Except me sha

Ohhh trust me, I love discussions too, but e get as e go be.... If we start, this thread would get to page 50 and we would have missed out on some of the cool love stories that people would have loved to share.

Infact I have to rummage through all the previous pages now to check the stories I've missed.

carefreewannabe:
I was focused on other aspects in your post.



Yes, date as many girls as possible, or better as many girls as you like. You are free to do so. I am not saying, sleep with them, use them, play them. I just want you to be open minded. The more girls you meet, the greater the chance of meeting the one that is right for you. And who knows, maybe she will already be the first you go on a date with.



What is wrong with testing the waters? What is wrong with being a serial dater if you goal is to find a relationship?

@bold

Who told you it has to be that way? Hollywood or Nollywood?

To be honest, I have never experienced love at first sight. My feelings have ALWAYS developed gradually.
I fell in love with my ex even though I initially thought that he is not my type. No, it does not have to happen immediately but it still can happen spontaneously.

Carefree! Carefree! Carefree!

How many times did I call you

You raised my hairs with some of your submissions but for the purpose of this thread, I'd rather not pick on them so we could discuss more... I no wan spoil iya Carefree thread.

Maybe when the thread gets old and the current tempo it's generating becomes sublime - I'd quote you and we'd talk more about it.

Would that be fine by you?

Timbuktou:
Erm, I couldn't categorically say one or the other, because the experience is dependent on knowledge. If you know what to look for and how to look for it, you shouldn't have difficulty finding if you get my drift. In my case, I was left to my devices, my mom was too religious to broach the subject, my dad was too busy working to even consider that I could find women attractive and we had no relatives young or old around, I was on my own, so it was really trial and error.

That said, not having a relationship is quite worrisome for someone your age. It need not lead to marriage, in fact, you shouldn't be thinking of marriage too early into a relationship as it could lead to making judgement errors. Get into the relationship and let it develop organically, if it's not working out as envisioned you can always quit and move on. Better to try and fail than not try at all.

PS: I'm not sure there's such a thing as "the one", so while fortune might smile on you and hand you a really compatible female on short notice, you still have to go through the rigour of verifying suitability.

I find it "interesting" that people often suggest the bolded, but my concern is, we are not talking about changing cars, or shoes or kitchen wares, these are actual, living, breathing people with the capacity to feel hurt, dejected, frustrated and a whole lot of other emotions that find themselves rooted in heart breaks/breakups and the moving on decision.

That said, I really understand what you're saying, you've made really strong points. Summarily, I think my fear is the thought of being responsible for breaking someone's heart.... I detest the thought of that and believe you me it's not because I'm a people pleaser, neither is it because I want to remain perpetually in people's good graces. But that's just me.... I'd rather not go into a relationship than go into one that might end up with me likely breaking her heart. That's just me

I'm queer I know

ihedinobi2:
My "the one" vibe is the one that ended after six and a half very difficult years.

Not saying "the vibe" doesn't work. Just that mine didn't. But I learned what to look for in a woman and how to find it. That's why I feel like fish on a hook right now. I found it.

I don't know that anyone needs to go through several relationships to find what they need. There are many "first loves" that worked extremely well. I think it is a question of a clear vision for your life and a readiness to commit to working it out no matter what with someone who buys that vision too .

Very well said.

Thank you.

carefreewannabe:
Allow me to answer too.

Every human being has his own individual life story. Some people find their spouses easily and quickly, others need to have patience.

If you want to find someone, be open minded, date as many girls as possible as long as you are single until you feel the vibe but give them a fair chance. Sometimes feelings take time. Sometimes you need to really get to know someone to fall in love.

My contribution. Sorry for interfering without being asked .

Ohhh come on

Didn't you see where I said I'm open to other people's opinions

Date as many girls as possible"

Even if I'm not get married to them? Wouldn't it be like I'm a serial dater just testing the waters?. I understand where you're coming from though, learning to love and all that but I feel if someone is really meant for you, it should just click like that spontaneously, instead of brick-building your affection on that person's head.