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justmag:
brother!!! You have a great point! Social expectations and pressure have people making poor decisions. Like I always say! MARRIED IS NOT AN ACCOMPLISHMENT ITS A COMMITMENT!!! So many people spend a short time to get to know someone before they get married and then they hope that time after marriage will allow them get to kno their partner more! You hear people getting married after 6 months or a year! Majority of the time it's pressure to overcome marriage and feel they have that covered! I am a believer that patience will give you the woman or man of your dreams and desperation will give you a nightmare. Take time and don't settle or else you will spend an eternity asking yourself "what if! What if what if!!!!"

Word!!!

@OP

This is an awesome!!!!!!!!!! post

Bookmarking for me
Bookmarking for her(whenever she comes)
Bookmarking for my future kids
Bookmarking for my future grandchildren.
Bookmarking for my great grand children


Jovialmum is killing Romance section today sha

@OP


Very nicely written.I particularly like the use of the words "obvious signs", because quite frankly any girl that has "these symptoms" in her relationship ought to know when to leave, but the truth is for many people or to be better balanced, for some people, the thought of loneliness is such a scare and so they would rather remain in a dysfunctional, lobe-sided relationship in order to have that loose, faint and pseudo-claim to companionship instead of leaving the relationship out rightly to be faced with the true presence of loneliness.

I think in many situations, even beyond our relationships, we know we deserve much more than we are getting, but when we continually form it a habit to personify the adage "A bird in hand is worth two in the bush", even if it's just a bird's feather, instead of a whole live bird; it makes us unconsciously, habitually subjugated to these situations and with this mindset, you just end up going through cycles and cycles of worth-depriving relationships

I think the key is this: Define your worth before you go into any relationship, set a standard for yourself on how you know you should be treated and by all means hold yourself accountable to that standard and when you notice that someone in your life is treating you less than this set standard.... It will give you the much needed motivation to leave.

chingydaboss:
Lyk dis one

Naah... Your meme is far from the depiction of a Godly relationship because :

1. In a Godly relationship you and your girl shouldn't even be sleeping in the same room
2.No passing the weekend at your place or creating any situation that would lead to having to avoid the first reason.

justmag:
So lately I have been getting funny comments from family, friends, colleague and so forth wondering why I am not taken or married at the moment! The worse part is they try to stylishly hook me up with people you would never catch me dating! Just last year alone! This happened

1. a colleague from church tried to hook me up with this girl! To me she was just a fine face and that's it! I turned that down fast.

2. My own parent tried to hook me up with some othergirl STYLISHLY! I shut that down too. She was too sensitive and far away from my type.

3. A relative from the village forcefully wanted me to meet this girl at some wedding and demanded that I come. I didn't go but I eventually met the girl. On site and after a 5 min convo....I knew I didn't want her!

4.i could go on and on and on! There's some more!

I believe the more people you date the stronger your standards should get! At this point!!! I have normal standards and I could be picky when it comes to character! I promised myself that I would never settle to please anyone other than myself.

My question is why do these people feel the need to try to link you up with someone and find it weird If you are single? Is it a crime in nigeria to be single among relatives and such? Its not like I have been single all my life and I am desperate!

Now that right there is a 10millon likes statement.
As much as we want to be individualistic, we can't but help the fact that societal expectations and pressure would always be an issue and unfortunately, very many people fall prey to these expectations and end up settling for way less than they should or deserve. Chronologically, I'm at a stage of my life where I can't even afford to start "testing the waters" by dating different girls, psychologically it's even too draining... So I'd rather just wait till I meet that girl that I'm absolutely sure about, no need to date a girl if you know you don't see her as a wife... So no matter the pressure, no matter the konji, I'm going to wait and keep on waiting till I meet the girl that makes it too ridiculous for me to keep waiting.

Being Single is not a crime.

Noted.

mentorandfriend:
Real women are getting scarce everyday. One needs to start early to build friendships with nice ladies when they are still young, and not wake up in your thirties and start looking for a wife. You will most likely meet those who have been bleeped countless times, who have been in and out of dozens of relationships and are now willing to play the fool to deceive you into marrying them. They now need a man for keeps after they have had enough fun in their best years. Men start early. The younger the lady, the better. And most of all, be prayerful in your search for a wife. You need divine direction.

Word!.

elantraceey:
you see yourself na , use one person cast everybody , God dey

God go always dey

luigiajah:
Another WW On the loose

What's WW

gabazin080:
I guess u having the same problem like me

Naaah..... Far from it.

I'm guessing someone here would save me from the very lengthy reply I have in mind for this issue at hand... Verrrrrrrry lengthy.

So to save everybody form Eye-blisters, i'd rather just chill and observe

AgapeCharis:
Lol
Howdy?

I'm aii


Just been hovering over Nairaland since morning after church


#MonitoringSpiritThings#

AgapeCharis:
Yea..... Dey say make u come carry money

If e no reach 10millon Nairaland, you fit take am

I'm just here to observe the wonderful advices Nairalanders would give on this thread.

AgapeCharis:
Are u 1one?

Errrrrrm


Yeah?

Anybody dey find am?

Atleast 4years.

No binding agreement for someone's intellectual property?

Nigeria na wa.


If any of you do get the gig

Please do well to share the testimony.

Ghost phone

AgapeCharis:
Even d so called tallesty1 and thrizzle follow yeye themselves here. Mtchew!!!

My exact thoughts too...Particularly at the bolded

Benin girls sha








And I don dey start to dey like one of them ooo

I need to Ctrl+Z that like sharperly

What's a nigga without his nig

8 Wrong Things Guys Check For Before Marrying a Girl

Please who will help us with this?

lirusehn:

if I as a Guy cud hate it why in my room shud a bae like it?

Gbamest!!!

Your head is dia

chenor:
. Great .. Now what is your point. so are you trying to say that you don't love football. . Guy you are so weird

So you see... That answers your question.


If I'm weird for not watching/loving football as a guy.

Then as a girl watching football also makes
you.... ........ ......

But why Arsenal though

I hear that club has not won any trophy in 50years?

losprince:
you for make me fear, I come dey wonder wetin I do.

But na you sef cause am


Why you no quote me well


Oya sha sorry

DDeliverer:
Your friend was Very wrong...and the girl was Very foolish..

As 4 u..How do you manage to meet people like this??

Now this had me in stitches!!!

Nairaland no go kill person with laugh ooo

I'm a guy and I hate watching football, Infact I'd rather be seated on a needle for 2hours than watch football for a minute, but the flip side is... I'm highly attracted to girls that love watching football... I just feel it's kinda cute.


So chenor.... I'm attracted to you

Are you single

losprince:
did i just quote this? op you really must look into your genes... for starters ask your mum who your real dad in

For your mind now you don talk wetin get sense abi

I often wonder, in modern times as this, where intelligence is cheap to acquire, how do people like you still manage to say nonsense

Do you maybe have a rig in your compound that drills stupidity?

Quite a wonder I must confess

Modified :

The above announcement is for the OP.

My apologies to Iosprince

You sef, why you go misquote me

ProphetUdeme:
lol bible verses coupled with intelligence, swaggs, and money equals success in mapping the girl abi? Me self were de follow post this thing i dey follow do am o

Lol... See your life.

*Sprinkles Holy Water*

Why would anybody even use Bible line for chyking, particularly when na just bleep and go... I don't have the mind for such sha

You are quite a goat.


No offense, it's just that...


You're quite a goat.


Ohh... Did I say the same things again?


You must really be a goat then.

I used to know a guy back in the day in secondary school who would copy whole verses from Songs of Solomon.

Needless to say, he never caught any girl with those verses, considering that he had the songs of Solomon but didn't have the swag and money to follow

But I'm a guy


How come I don't do all these