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Timbuktou:
I agree with quantity vs quality, I literally went through quantity before I came to my senses and sealed it with the missus.

I apologize if I'm calling you out a bit, but I have benign intentions.... The question is this, does one need to go through a number of "Miss-shots" /Miss-fires"(relationship - wise) before you settle down to find "the one".

I'm asking this because quite frankly, chronologically I'm at a stage in my life where I should be getting ready to get married next year.... But I don't even have a relationship presently.... I've not had any for almost 6years, and apart from other reasons, I've not just found "the one", I've had several opportunities to randomly date ladies, good looking ones, but I chose not to, because I didn't feel that "She's the one vibe" and I didn't want to start jumping from relationship to relationship

So the question again is.

-Was I wrong by staying away from those random relationships
-Do I have a chance of meeting the one, without having had any relationships in such a long while.


P:S

I'm open to opinions from any other person too.


Make una no mind my epistle ooo

It's a nasty habit I'm trying to curb

carefreewannabe:
I am too provocative to be a mod.

You are not mushy, you are positive.
I am not mushy either, I am allergic to mushiness but I like happy real life stories Embrace positivity.

Same here

I've never called the attention of the mods to any thread to suggest a Front page status, but I'm seriously being tempted to do so.


I want to see more successful love turned to marriage stories

Yeah I know I'm a man, I'm not supposed to be mushy....but hey,its a weekend jare... Mushy mode activated

Come ooooo.. Carefreewannabe... I'd always thought you were a mod?

Timbuktou:
To be frank, it's not that difficult. We only tend to look in the wrong places.

Hmmm maybe so.

Happy for you though.

Tlovely:
and all dis ur cv's will take u to heaven ba?
ediot.. let us see na.. dnt even start wif me, cause i percieve 4rm ova here hw messed up ur mind kind be.. pervert... u no remember all does things wey u dey do and does ones wey u dey imagine to do untop dat girl wey u dey see 4 ur church wey worse pass wetin dis guy friend wan do.? ..olosho... u say u dnt cheat n at d same time not do premarital- sex.. which one u want make we take.? meaning say u dey ontop one matter already now abi?.. u don marry am?...u must atleast have a partner first b4 cheatin on her? ..olosho.. if u do not know d meaning of cheatin.. pls put all does ur self righteous bull crap inside ur pocket and go and self-service..atleast uv been doin dat b4 and its not premarital is it?... all this oloshos in dis thread who wld be doin worse than wat they want to murder dis guys friend 4.. even sm of them cld be petty thieves n hard core liars..that one no be crime abi?...dis one cum here cum they drop im self righteous cv 4 me like say l am interested..na ppl like una wey lord J they talk wen him say "he without sin should cast the first stone". these pharisees, been around since 200bc..
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To be honest I didn't read anything of what you wrote up there, but it wouldn't be civil enough of me not to reply after you've expended so much energy in trying to make any sense.

Have a good night bro

Timbuktou:
Otta, 2003: Sunday afternoon, went to drop off dad's car at the mechanic, had no change(bike fare was #30 and I had a #1000 note on me) and decided to enjoy a walk home. I decide to explore a new route and, viola, I come upon a business centre and decide to put a call through to a friend make we for hang out; see we had phones but no airtime in those days.

Someone was on the phone when I got there so, I had to wait my turn. In the meantime, there was a lovely looking gyal sitting by the side eating ofada rice and as I was hungry I asked to join, and with the most dazzling smile made to give me the dish, I said thanks and said I was kidding and asked her name which she told me. So, I put my phone on silent mode, took their phone and dialled my number twice and told them the guy didn't pick, I totally forgot to call my homey.

I get home and dial the number and asked to speak to her, it turns out she was the daughter of the phone centre woman and I only had the chance to chat her up because mom was attending to another customer. Anyway, her mom tells me to call her own phone and I say it's not going through. She hands over the phone to daugjter and I proceed to introduce myself "erm, I'm the guy that asked for rice now now. Please, don't hang up". Somehow, she found it funny and the rest is history. We're currently trying for baby number 2. Hehehehe.

Lovely! Lovely! Lovely!

Some of yall stories make meeting "the one" seem so eassssssy

Enjoying this thread like ahh ahh kilode

carefreewannabe:
It's ok.

Have you got a story to tell?

Maybe by this time next year I'd have a story. *fingersandLegsandHandsandMouthCrossed*

carefreewannabe:
You did the right thing first and then spoilt it.

I know right

I couldn't help it.

Sorry

Hazardd:
your story is not interesting jor

This had me in stitches!!!

That's some brutally honest tone man.

I actually didn't understand her story at all and I was going to say something close to what you said but I didn't want to rain on anybody's parade, besides, this thread has a very warm, gentle feel and I didn't want to spoil that

@OP

Verg nice thread.

*Deep sigh*

Hilarious!!!


What a thread!

Tlovely:
u must be a gurl, dats y d tin dey pain u like this. make u go become pope or alfa. make we know say u don reach...self righteous bull
straps

I see the reason why you're maybe disgusted at my reply and you may be further disgusted to know that I'm actually really a guy, I don't know where all you stupiid Nairaland newbies are popping up from, quoting me and talking nonsense.... Go and hit your head on the wall if the concept of fidelity and responsibility in a relationship makes your stomach churn.

I'm a guy.
I don't cheat.
I don't do pre-marital sex.

If you can't stick all these, then help yourself to a blue pill.

elantraceey:
your signature is an example na

Ehn a girl that loves and respects me na hin I want.

You get any ones like that?

elantraceey:
You never told me you were searching na , i have many eligible girls that wilk suit your taste

See how fine girl like you just dey lie.... How will you say you don't know... Ahhh Ahhh

elantraceey:
WW

The hustle is real oo

Don't blame a brother

Tycike:
Clown

tosyne2much:
Your post would have made more sense if it was otherwise

Thank you for saving me the trouble of saying the same thing.

amsoslim:
choi laf wan strangle me....na because of ur post I login oooo....tut I ws d oly guy hu isn't a fut fanatic. Sum fwend sumtymz say AMA jerk n lunatic,rili dunno y jus because I dnt watch futbal

Ehen my brother....


Thank you ooooo


I think say na only me


Nairaland guys wan kii me for hia

Geenickel:
u left d topic,n u sayn smthn else....


accept Jesus oo

Jesus is the center piece of my life.

Jblaiseboy:
dat wouldnt be a bad idea

I would send my secretary with it.

Don't worry.

How do you guys trip for girls so easily like that

You saw her in your area and now now... You've started tripping

No friendship...no knowledge of what she's truly like.. You just see face and body and your mind is going gaga

Na wa sha

I wish I dey trip like that

Page 10?

Without front page?

Or has it been on the front page before?

You guys are really looking for love sha

Una dey try :

XKZ:
Okay o.
Shey that was what BankPHB said...

Exactly

horlakunle25:
ehn!ehn! See 1 here! Sudanese immigrant only God knws which part u grow up in ur country dat makes u to 'hate football' chai gudluck no do anything 4 dis country I swear!!

It's a cool Saturday afternoon.

So I'd take everything you've said up there as tongue in cheek

XKZ:
How does one send an anonymous text message from one's phone?

Lol

Na that one you wan know abi



We are in the Android age bro.


"Anything" is possible

[quote author=Jblaiseboy post=29871883][/quote]You want a picture of me peeing?

I think you should just relax your nerves a bit.
The fact that she's calling you "dear" doesn't necessarily mean that she's in love with you or even likes you enough to date you... The word "dear" nowadays has become more of a conversatory punctuation used by most girls to express, I think, a basic level of comfort with your presence or company

A girl can call you dear 10times a day, the same way she would call another guy dear 15times a day,it doesn't mean she's in love with either.


So just continue being her friend and I think you guys would do just fine


Hopefully

Modelling:
Do u really mean ds, long life brother. I dont no ds kind of men/guy still exist.

Yeah I do.


Thanks man.

kalufelix:
why u punishin ursef over a guys matter...
Relax b!tch u aint got no d*ck u know...

Your concerns have been registered.


Now move on

twerkjack:
AWWWWWWW DID U KNOW DAT AM ATTRACTED TO GUYS DAT THINK LIKE U??

enomakos:
hahaha i love ur style

naijaboiy:
Ok then...well you said before that you don't have such friends who would ask for your room. so let me believe you won't even have to act like that in the first place.

But we don't know if you've got friends who cheat and if you do I don't think your best action will be to go about telling their wives/girl friends,,no matter how you detest it.

Quite frankly as long as it doesn't involve me participating or aiding his infidelity, then it's none of my business (even though there's a caveat here and I would crystallize this caveat using my friends and I as examples ) . If I go around consciously looking up for cheating friends just to "snitch" on them,now that would make me plain silly, and silliness is far from what I represent.

I have 2 best friends and we hold ourselves to such a high degree of accountability, it's not something you may understand because this shared accountability is rooted in our beliefs, beliefs that are coloured by principles from the good book . If my friend is cheating on his girl, he ACTUALLY expects me to talk sense into him and part of this sense-talking, if the cheating becomes too intense is for me to call his girlfriend and tell her. That's the kind of accountability we share as friends.


As I said earlier, I don't expect you to understand or relate to this concept really, because it's very unconventional. But that's just how it is for us.