Gladiator1:
Is it her fault that ur hole is so wide even though u not yet married?

chai boss, you wicked o. Her type is the reason why most girls loss theirs o. They will pressurize, coerce, cajole mock and so all sort of things just to make sure virgin girls become like them.

They hate to hear that a fellow girl is still a virgin.

My ex who listened to such advise years ago is still regretting it as she can't understand why I can't forgive her and still tormenting her for such act. Now the idiots like dollyjoy are not there to share her sorrows and pains with her but were there pushing her to do it. That's life for you. Till date, once a while, I still can't get it off my mind. In fact typing this post is bring back memories.

makydebbie, please do your best to stay away from friends like dollyjoy. They don't like your kind.

lady2lady:
so sorry ..
The guy will dump her silly ass soon if she agrees..

But for the mean time .. If the guy refuses to listen,let her dump his.

After all ,no one loses!

what we should be asking is the age of the OP. She should be discussing marriage plans if she is above 22 and see his response. That will help her know where to place him.

The problem with things like this and why guys frown is that in the space of that 4 years, the guy has probably been spending money on her. This is a major problem and knowing how thousands of Nigerian girls behave, they hardly give as much as they demand. Imagine spending 10-20 per month on her for 4 years. Do the calculation.

It's more complex than you can imagine.

Her greatest mistake would be if she eventually allow a random guy fork her without the 4 years boyfriend, even if they had broken up. The dude will feel pains. I am talking from experience and as a guy.

The others saying she should give the guy are doing what we do as guys--be a brother's keeper, unlike girls who are enemies of themselves lol--are just saying it to protect the guy and put him on safer side. This because month often than not, girls like the OP eventually fork a random guy whom they have just met in less than a few months while denying the one that had been waiting for 4 years.

I don't know about you but this how it often happens. Forget what she says, it could be the boyfriend isn't pressing the right button. But if a guy who is damn good at it comes, I swear she will give it cos he pressed the right button. That is why you will hear "I don't know how it happens" "I am sorry, I didn't know" "It just happened" They give replies like they were under a spell. Give them some time, that first guy will fork them more than twice before letting them go and they go on with the "damn it" attitude, no longer hold restrictions to sex and become like dolljoy

A lot of things are at stake here. A lot has been invested in her in that 4 years and you know what that means.

What if she breaks up with him, meet another guy and give the new guy with a few weeks of knowing him. It happens and she had better pray the guy doesn't find out cos he would so much HATE her. Take that to the bank any day any time.

You are a lady, so please ask her what she has done in that 4 years for the guy.

makydebbie:
Talking about intimacy doesn't mean I want it. I'm a girl and being a virgin doesn't make me less sexually potent.

sure it doesn't. You could send a wrong signal with such post. You have no idea how guys reason and of which some of them might be from here whom you may have been communicating with. Well, what do I know?

It's best to keep such details out of public eyes, except the need arises.

I am just speaking to you as a friend but I know I make no sense to you at the moment.

makydebbie:
you know minding one's business has never killed anyone before.

I am just tell you what you are attracting. You want it. You have said so in your diary and you will have it very soon. Just saying we get what we wish. Nothing bad about that though. It's your body.

lady2lady:
Yess Nah .. They react so Badly ,whenever they found out the other person is a Virgin buh they're not. ... Lol

So they would keep firing your nyash untill you become like them !! ..

Bahd Bahd Girls full 'ere oh

don't mind that biitch. That's how they led my ex to lose hers to an idiot. Till date the ex can't understand why I can't get that past off my mind. That's why the OP must not make that mistake cos that guy can even stab her if it happens.

makydebbie:
I knew you'll say this

you wey dey always imagine being forked. I doubt you can hold yours like this girl have done. It's written in most of your post, including your signature. You have a way of inviting that temptation.

InformedLola:
Thing is, the younger guy has shown you his negatives while Mr. Matured hasn't (is he doing a damn good job of hiding them?), so there's really no basis for comparison.

There's nothing like a perfect guy and I personally am always more worried about people whose flaws I don't know. I want to know your flaws and decide if I can live with them.

Before you make your choice, dig deeper into Matured Guy (you could even try doing things to provoke him to express his other side).

By the way, the fact he's never been married at his age (as he claims) is a major Alarm Bell. And the 'vague' reason he gave makes it worse. You really need to probe deep.

You are the only one that has spoken wisely among the ladies on here. I know for certain that those ish about the 29 dude will certainly wane off.

anitank:

I don't

On a more serious note though, I know exactly what I want and it happens to be the younger guy. But my issue here is about his childish acts, poor decision making, always avoiding serious conversations. How do I cope with such? I don't want to change him or nag him into thinking I'm unbearable. But how long should I wait for him to grow?

1. Poor decision making like?

2. Serious conversations like?

Look, if you really need help. you have to give as much details as possible. At the moment, you are not doing that which isn't helping either you or those whom you seek advise from.

gaetano:


Well, you may be right, you could also be wrong. All what everyone is saying is just speculative. Nobody actually knows what's going on. I don’t believe it's gonna crash anytime soon. To be safe everyone needs not to get too greedy.

smh for you. And you acting like you knew how it makes money? You will make more than dangote soon.

doctokwus:

U must be a clown.U do not worship anyone but your type allowed a dunce,that wud probably be the dullest student if he were to be placed in same class with the average seasterner,in the person of GEJ,and his doubly dull and criminal wife,to be worshipped,by disgraces like u.
Pls tell me that was meant to be a xmas joke.

oya na... make buhari come buy votes na. oya... let us see if it will fly.

doctokwus:
This is a deft political move,building infrastructure that wud benefit the whole region and its people.This is the way to win votes,unlike the useless fisherman that called himself a president whose strategy was to empower militants and thugs in the SS and financially empowered few politicians in the SEast with looted funds in the blif that these people wud unleash their rigging machinery in these regions and all wud be well.
Pmb govt maynot be corruption free as we av come to realise but if these projects are trully done b4 2019,many seasterners,wud be forced by 'circumstances of what they av seen and felt',to support him for 2019,rather than take d risk of voting another deceitful and utterly clueless"jonathan like candidate".

You are not serious. When he started, did he include South East in his agenda? Now that it is becoming obvious that SW will likely not vote him in 2019, he wants lure the SE. He must be dreaming.
SE is not like SW. We do not worship anyone and there is nothing Buhari can do. You think the people have forgotten the incarceration of Nnamdi Kanu and the death of protesters? You think we have forgotten the 5% speech? Dream on. Just dream on.

limeta:
2. 75% of party elective and appointive positions be given to Youths between the ages of 18 and 35.

3. 75% of party tickets for 2019 and subsequent elections be ceded to young people between the ages of 30 and 40 (being the constitutionally approved ages for political offices).

Your head is there.

TonyeBarcanista:
Lol. wetin concern me and Reno? And who are the paymasters that I am not aware of?

You failed to include the use religious and tribal divide to cause enmity, which is one of the barbaric hallmark

Bluezy13:


Hehehe..
Op don't be vexed

I no vex bro. Just that it goes to show we are bloody hypocrites. If it were a thread supporting the insults of women, you will them trooping in like vampires.

donald14:
well said

people wouldn't comment on this because lots of them same thing--insult ladies.

143 views and only 2 comments shows how bad the society had become. Truth they say, is really bitter.

I found this comment yesterday but since then, despite giving the author a peace of my mind, I feel it is not enough until educate him and his ilks.

Towncrier007:

simply as sex tools, what is a woman created for if not for sex, let's be realistic, it's simply for the sex, reason a man would see you for the first time and where he looks at firstly is either your ass or breast. so let us all be realistic, you go shop my money, take you to the cinemas for free? its simply because I want to taste that sugar in between.

and Youngpo413 added: "and that's the only thing they can offer" , which means he agrees with Towncrier007 and so does 12 others who liked the post.

I am not surprised though, because more often than not, when such comments are made, they do not see how they are connected to it and what it says about them, their upbringing.

Nobody is born bad. Something led to it and that brings me to the interconnected events that leads to revelations above.

When you say a woman is nothing but a sex tool, I want you who support this ideas and preach them, promote them among your friends to also know you are including your sister, your mother and your future daughter in that category. Think for a moment. How does it make you feel when you put your blood in the picture... does it feel good? I bet it does not. If you say it feels good, then my brother you are likely a bastard, not the true son of your mother or father. No offence.

Many girls sleep with different guys and in return, these guys label them all sort of names. But here is the shocker... you will likely raise one and your daughter will be sleeping around too.

Most of these girls do what they do because they come from poverty stricken home where food is hardly available and once they reach a certain age, their parents hands off responsibility of taking care of them. If these girls dare ask their parents for some money, the response they get is "don't you have a boyfriend"? Which means go fork some dicks to get what you want.

I have seen things people and I heard things, I grew up in a very environment where shiits hit the fan. It is no lies. Look around you and you know this.

Now these girls go out and hang out with other girls, see what they do and also join them in their act. The girl is automatically made to believe that she has to sleep with a guy to get money; she will further think that it is a guy's responsibility to take care of her, instead of her own parents.

You see where the problem is coming from? Home, parents, society and YOU! Nobody teaches them that they can make money without their body, but with her hands. Nobody educate them, INCLUDING you who fork them. How many of them have you empowered mentally and physically? NONE because you selfishly interested in the sex. The sad part is that these makes up over 70% of the population.

So mister " sex tools" (he listed things like recharge card etc as expenses accrued, which shows the level of girls he hung out with), what is your current financial standing? Do you have up to 1M in your bank account right now? Can you give 50k to someone?

If you grow up without good finances, you will end up raising these kind of girls. You will run away from your responsibilities when your daughter reaches certain age, she will in turn go out to fork dickz to fix hair, by clothes, shoes in order to look good.

When I saw what he listed, things like recharge card and so on, I knew he has been dating girls from poor home, complete liabilities and he comes out to complain.

On the other hand, a girl that has been raised to be independent minded, well educated, got zeal and above all WELL FED does not give only sex. They give more. Choose the kind of girls you want to be with, it is your choice.

If you keep dating recharge card girls, it means one thing--You are broke. No offense.

The funniest thing is that most you will turn out to be bad father, whether you accept it or not. You will hardly raise your daughter to be independent minded, how many of you are even independent to begin with, how many? Whether you like it or not, most of you will raise these kind of girls because you do not seem to know why lots these girls turn out this way, to begin with.

NUFF SAID!

Fabulocity:
I'm being very serious. Igbo boys aren't usually too keen on going inter-tribal.

I am Igbo and would love to Marry from Igbo but unfortunately, never been lucky with any lol. So, na the one way favour me I go follow o.

ifeomaekol:
am nt taking anything personal No far frm it, but its so wrong to judge pple jux b/c u hv met a rotten few, and u cnt keep hving that kind of mindset. If that's d kind of women u meet I still say u look within could be something in u attracts them. But for you to say that's all women can offer?? My dear its a big fat lie nt cos am a woman bt b/c u aren't saying the truth and u kw it period.

Guys who often complain like that slowpoke are broke cos dey date liabilities who offer nothing but sex and because the girls are from poverty stricken homes as well. NO independent minded woman offer only sex.

slydog:


One lady told me she may be ready next month or next year I should continue hanging on.
Quickly block her number on true caller

stupid girl

amross16:
Women will never stop trying to entrap a guy through pregnancy. Many times, a woman will test a man to see his reaction to a pregnancy threat (rather it is real or not) to determine how much the man cares. Too many damn games being played, be upfront about feelings.

I am suspecting the emboldened.

Splinz:
It's very unkind of you to say she's tryna compound your problems. It is commonsense that the resultant effect of having sex, aside the immediate pleasure, is pregnancy.

Now, I don't really know what went wrong since you said it was well protected. But I'd advice you to be man enough- take responsibilities, i.e, find out the veracity of her claims. If true and you're unsure of being the father, then go for a DNA test!

Dude, this is no time to avoid her calls. Be a man!

No mind the mumu. I am sure he is one of those who brag about bangging a girl and in some cases call them sex tools. Many of them know JACK about the deal.

icehood:
I think you might be right, though have been avoiding her calls, just a young graduate with nothing and she want compound my issues again

Yeah and you a likely one of those who brag about exploits yet you do not know how to never give a girl preggy? I am sure some of your friends call these girls nothing but sex tools but still do not know how to play the sex games like you.

I can't advise you to abort o. Carry your cross. Happy Father day.... next time, use postinor or at best withdraw when you feel like cumminng. But deedd has been done dude.

Fidelismaria:
Am so sick of hearing dis 'i still love him ' crap on nl jst break up wit him already

Girls don't break up with such guys who display such traits. The earlier you know this, the better for you and yes, they usually love such guys more than the ones who do not. What do you think a bad boy is or his traits?

khristal87:
I met this cool lady n i asked her on a date which she accepted. As planned, we went to a cool bar n she took 3 bottles of snapp while i took jst a bottle f star cause i ws on malaria drugs...she requested i buy her suya on d way to ma place as planned....while we were close to ma place she started grumbling dt she cnt go further..n i insisted dts d buildjng there jst come n knw there n u cn come some other time at ur leisure...bt she refused n ws becoming rude... She started larmenting she hs a bf, she does nt wnt to date me n i cnt force her, i shud be a gentle man..i shud tke her to her place... We decided to trek since its jst a short distance ...she ws jst irritating as we walked down d road in d middle f d night...by d time we got to her door step she said gud night n give me my suya. N i replied her , no o me i no go fit lose 2:0 ...bye bye.. i went my way, sat down in one corner n devoured d suya....what do u think?

kid

Best way to keep a girl on her toes is make feel she can be displaced and there is competition if she like fork up lol

@Harddon, am I right?

Youngpo413:
and that's the only thing they can offer.

You need to be schooled. You will likely raise one who only offer sex. Quote me anywhere. SMH.

altitudee:
[b] this just reminded me of the conversation i had last night... we became friends during service year after which i asked her out but she was not interested, she want to be a friend. after a while she got herself a guy. so, i became a friend...
fast forward one and half year....during our conversation she was asking me d following questions.
she:how is ur girlfriend?
me: fine
she:what her name?
me: no reply (something else going through my mind)
she:send her picture
me: copied her picture from her profile page n sent it back to her
she: i'm ur friend not ur girlfriend
me: u re my friend and u re a girl (playing around)
she: u know what am talking about
me: i attached two photo of my bae and send it to her along with her name
she: nice
she: when did u guys meet? (in mind she is checking for the time)
me: school
she: but u did not mentioned her during service
me: we had break-up before we both went for service
me: i asked u out but refuse
she: u asked me late ****
she: u didnt asked me seriously ****
she: i wont come to visit u (she have a plan of visiting)
me: why
she: u ve a girlfriend.....[/b]

buahahahahahha... they are often like that. After you asked her out, she left you to go get someone else and now want you. Her own is even good compare to the one I had during service lol. That one does not know when a guy is wasting her time while neglects the one who really care about her.

ToniaLee:
Sold.....

congrats. I knew it was a steal and I would have taken it but something else call for my attention. If you have a washing machine, let me know.

ajoskele:
Mimiko, wherever you and your stooge are today and will be tomorrow, you will never know peace.

You mortgaged the future of Ondo youths because of peanuts you asked from Dangote and he denied you. You left Olokola Free Trade Zone like you met it 2009 and chased potential investors away.

I repeat. You will never know peace!

I swear. I was shocked to find out that the refinery was moved from Ondo to Lagos. In fact, I wondered for a long time why it didn't take off for months as planned. I am not from Ondo... but the man forked up really.

Towncrier007:

God bless you and help you to become happy and joyful in life, I don't curse people that curse me. Am a child of God.

bloody hypocrite now calling God after insulting and generalisation.

opey112:
omo this babe they vex....He crossed the line.....Women deserves respect,they are our mother.

i b guy. Not woman. When these idiots make comments like that, they do not see how they are connected to it. My point is just make the dumb fork see what isn't seeing cos that's why the people he hung out will have inculcated into him.