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teminoni: Who cares if she's terribly shaken? Wat about the LASTMA official that is terribly dead.

I wudnt blame her for trying to escape though. Sometimes people don't know which roads are one-way and which is not. And instead of putting up signboards to indicate, the LASTMA guys hide and wait for you to enter their trap.

Just last week, I and my friend entered one of their traps but quickly escaped by putting the car in reverse and speeding away before they got to the car. Thank God we were not caught and no one was hurt.

Thats what he deserved, he got himself killed. Next time others will use their common sense. My thoughts and prayers are with that innocent 'banker.'

shuddyy: Unfortunately for you, you will do more than this to be considered close to being intelligent. Hold it! Who cares about your low life? Fareed is world class n has shown that to the world. Keep wallowing in ignorance while labelling a Havard phd holder untelligent when you are not even smart by half. So much for your childish mind!

Do u know how many books Fareed has written? Do you know how many brilliant minds have graced CNN GPS ? Do u think The Times will allow him write for them if he is not intelligent? Maybe you should come to the fore with your achievements first before opening your stinking mouth to call someone unintelligent.
Bad he is entangled in this plagiarism mess but nonetheless he is a very intelligent chap....way above thw level your intelligence could ever peak! Stop being unnecessarily hypocritical because you want to sound smart.

I literally don't understand anything you're saying. I don't do text-speak; your syntax is that of a 4th grader. Before we can have a legitimate discussion, Please clean up your writing skills.

aribisala0: Things don change?
Last time I was in Naija Egbeda babes were haxing for saon money

Egbeda babes too? I experienced the same thing from Bariga babes last month. Mehn . . . maybe I should just stick with my NY babes.

shuddyy: ^ stop being silly mr man! Trying to play english master will not make you look intelligent. If u like consider Fareed to be dull. Am pretty sure he is better than what you could ever claim as your level of intelligence!

ROFL @ "play[ing] english master."

Typical Nigerian dunderhead. . . anyone capable of stringing two or more words together without stuttering like them is either "play[ing] english master" or "a top notch thinker." What a waste of grey matter!

obowunmi: Who cares what her age is...the important thing is that she doesn't feel pressured to marry a man she does not care about.

If you go into marriage NOT respecting a man, that marriage is doomed. Goodluck!!

Things she cannot change: Her looks, age, and peoples impression of her overall circumstance.

Things she can change: Her thoughts. Her feelings for the man.

If you cant get what you want, then the next best thing is to change what you want. You cant get Clooney, well it is not too late to start loving 'Ogogo.'

Sagamite: Keep on working hard to annoy me!

Come on, cretin! You can do it.

In Sagamu, we have CEMENT/LIMESTONE! What do you have in your village? Oloshi.

My village? You really want to go there? Two words: THE SOURCE

The source of everything. Sagamu aint got nothing on my village.

shuddyy: I think we are discussing two different Fareed Zakaria here! The true Fareed zakaria at the centre of this issue is the anchor of CNN GPS, he is undoubtedly super intelligent....way more intelligent that mediocres here calling him unintelligent. Definitely these critics calling him unintelligent don't watch CNN GPS neither do they read his articles in The Time. Too bad he got his credibility stained by plagiarism. But nonetheless he remains a very brilliant top notch thinker and public analyst! GPS is the only programme I look forward to every week. I admire him so much I promise to give his name to my first son!!!

I dont understand? What is your son going to do with his name after "you give it to him?" How are you going to give it to him?



PS: Do you mean: You will name your son after him?


Now I understand why you think he is intelligent . . .

Sagamite: Easy questions!

If you can understand me when I said this:

https://www.nairaland.com/1012348/parents-how-teach-daughters-self-esteem/6#11772431

You can understand this:


Really?

Now we are for teaching kids marriage?

So when I said girls should be taught about marriage and also boys should too, I was fcking right and demonstrating fabulous intellect?

Now, lets move to the second part. Explain to me, what proportion of people are intelligent enough about life and know about life to be able to teach their kids?

Answer the questions.

Okay okay okay! Sagamumu, you are intelligent. In fact, you are fabulous paapaa. You want me to validate you, okay, I will. You are phocking intelligent. Now, you go out there and act like one intelligent mo'afucker, instead of acting like a coward here online. Dont allow those biatches in real life London to tell you you are a nobody. You are from Sagamu, the land of infinite untarred roads; of mud houses with thatched roofs; of unpainted homes; of corrupt politicians; of OPC; of babalawos and mamalawos; of substandard secondary schools and universities. Sagamumu if you know what you are worth prove it in real life, but be ready to take the hits though because in real life there is no Google and no spell checker.

White women. My main aim in life is to eventually marry a white woman. They are the epitome of beauty and grace and erm everything. So I have to be focused and work hard so I can afford to marry one of 'em later on.

^^^

You must be quite a charmer in real life, arent ya?

Too many posts, too little sense, zero likes. You should be ashamed of yourself Sagamumu.

[quote author=~Bluetooth]Look at this arrogantbastard. . . .who gives a flying di'c'k what you think about me ? I made a comment about Fareed and you started following me like twitter.Are you high ?[/quote]". . . and you started following me like twitter." What a crass reply from an unexposed, thick headed troglodyte who is yet to fully grasp the ubiquitous function of his keyboard's space bar. It is hard to believe how incredibly stupid you are. I feel debased just knowing that you exist.

OAM4J: I can also assure you that if she also drop her email and phone number here, more than 1000 mails, calls and txt msgs will roll in before the end of the day from guys promising her heaven and earth to be her husband.

The problem with both of them is not about finding "toasters", it is about finding their soul-mates.

Arent we all?

[quote author=~Bluetooth]If you are bold enough to attack me,sign in with your other id.You are that bi't'ch I used to know.So gofuckyourself.[/quote]By the way, there is only one 'e' in arguments. Did they not teach you that at FUTA? You vulgar little maggot!

[quote author=~Bluetooth]Your father is a mo'r'on[/quote]Of course, I didnt expect anything better from someone with an IQ of a dog. A supposed graduate of FUTA, who cant express himself without using curse words. You lack basic thinking skills, your writing is atrocious, worse than a third grader's, you dont even know that you have to capitalize 'america,' and you want us to be in awe of your intellect because you watch Fareed Zakaria re-runs ?. . . GTFOH you gob-kissing gleeking flap-mouthed coxcomb.

Jarus: Wow, can't believe this! Fareed, that brilliant guy. One of CNN's most respected analyst. Honourable he accepted the slip and apologized.

Real CNN or CNN international? When did Fareeed become one of CNN most respected analysts? People dont even know who he is in the US? Beside talking about diversity stuff, he is a nobody! And who gives a shyt about CNN anyway, maybe Nigerians like yourself. Very asinine comment

FAREED ZAKARIA
Fareed Zakaria is enormously important to an understanding of many things, because he provides a one-stop example of conventional thinking about them all. He is a barometer in a good suit, a creature of establishment consensus, an exemplary spokesman for the always-evolving middle. He was for the Iraq war when almost everybody was for it, criticized it when almost everybody criticized it, and now is an active member of the ubiquitous “declining American power” chorus. When Obama wanted to trust the Iranians, Zakaria agreed (“They May Not Want the Bomb,” was a story he did for Newsweek); and, when Obama learned different, Zakaria thought differently. There’s something suspicious about a thinker always so perfectly in tune with the moment. Most of Zakaria’s appeal is owed to the A-list aura that he likes to give off—“At the influential TED conference ...” began a recent piece in The New York Times. On his CNN show, he ingratiates himself to his high-powered guests. This mix of elitism and banality is unattractive. And so is this: “My friends all say I’m going to be Secretary of State,” Zakaria told New York magazine in 2003. “But I don’t see how that would be much different from the job I have now.” Zakaria later denied making those remarks.

http://www.tnr.com/article/politics/96141/over-rated-thinkers?page=0,1

AjanleKoko: A lot of Ajanlekokos are even beginning to hold them up as a standard

Fixed!

AjanleKoko: You think you're smarter than the average Indian?
Anyway, you're Naija, I can't blame you for thinking that. The average Nigerian thinks he can do anything.

lurkee: The lack of tact from posters is so unsurprising. In the name of advice, must you get personal and attack the poster? smh

From what the OP said, it sounds like she could do better. A man living at home with his parents at the age of 35 is coupled with his character of being stingy

Being stingy is not always a bad thing. Our parents had a different way of describing it -- they called it 'being economical.'

The bottom line is that you do not love this man and you want to settle. There is no point in settling at a young age of 30. [b]I have heard of people taking 12 months (even 6 months) from the first meeting to the altar [/b]so be patient and wait for the guy that makes you happy. Imagine that you will live till the age of 90 with your husband, do you really see yourself spending the next 60 years of your life with this man?

I have also heard of people who did that, even saw some on TV and radio . . . most times the women always end up in a skin suit. TO be fair, sometimes some do end up in some rich guys's trunk on a deserted road. I hope thats not what you are wishing for the OP?

bebe4u: My virtual friends, i am posting this because i ant to share the burden i have in my life right now and i seek for honest answer and advice in which ever way. please keep it polite anyone could be in a similar situation and we could all learn from it at the end of the day.

First I disagree with this line. We all arent created equal so some of us will never find ourselves in this kind of situation. This is your burden, that befell you because of your unique experience, luck, and background. You attracted it to yourself, so stop looking for pity from us. Grow up already!

I am 30years of age female working in the oil & gas sector and very comfortable financially. How ever i have been in a platonic relationship with a guy who is currently working in a bank but[b] i am better off financially.[/b]

Congrats!

He never hid his intention that he loves me and would want to take things to the next level but i have always maintain my stand of us not rushing things while trying to sort out my real feelings for him. He asked me to marry him recently and i accepted.

So on one hand, you are still sorting things out in the emotional realm. On the other hand, he asked for your hand in marriage and you said NO? Well, I honestly believe NO is the right answer because only a weirdo would say YES in this type of situation. And I am sure you are not a weirdo. I mean, you dont sound like one. You are a sane, well educated, single lady in her 30s, confused and perhaps not that good looking, but traditional nevertheless. Traditional is good; just that it is relative and subjective.

The burden i have in my heart now is 1- I am not in love with him and also not sexually attracted to him.

What? When did you realize this? The first couple of times you met him or 789 days into the relationship?

By that i mean im not crazily in love but i like him as a friend.

What do you like about him? The fact that he is the only one who pays attention to you? Or the fact that he is the only one strong enough to put up with your ugly attitude?

2- I have concerns about our financial obligation in the sense that i fear he might not provide for me the way a husband should for is wife.

Okay.

i am a traditional person where i believe a man should always provide for his wife no matter how small, im willing to support him but through the three years we have been friends he hasnt provided in the least of money for my salon session.

And what tradition tells you that the man must always provide for the woman? The man as the bread winner is a totally western idea that was planted in the psyche of us Africans by our colonial masters. At no point in the history of Africa was the man ever a bread winner. Hunter yes, bread winner, NO. Two different things. The agrarian family that pervaded the African society in the 'old' world was a unit of production that was bound to each other for economic survival; there were no 'traditional' bread winners, no separation of responsibilities. Both parties pitch in for the betterment of the household. An old Yoruba proverb goes: "Bokunrin rejo bobinrin pa a, kejo ma sa ti lo." Meaning, "If a man sees a snake and a woman kills it, what matters is the death of the snake." It doesnt matter who the bread winner is, what is important is that you two do not starve to death.

i feel he is just taking advantage of the fact that i can afford it, so i feel differently.

The only way to know for sure is for you to quit your job and be solely dependent on him.

He currently lives with his family and younger brother. i talked to him one day and said he should get a house of his own but till date he hasnt and havent made any real effort at that yet he talks about facilitating meeting my parents et al.

Whats your point?

Question is what are the pros and cons of going ahead to marry this young man or should i just call it off as i have been tempted to several times. BTW he is 35yrs of age, has been working in the bank for 6 yrs as an employee. As we all know the presure young ladies face in the society about being single by 30years. Please respond with your candid advice. i will appreciate while i keep praying as most of you will end up saying to me. Thank you.

Stop fooling yourself. You need to snap out of the delusional reality you have created for yourself. You are not the Princess of Wales and your attitude sucks, if you were all that great and decent, you wont be in the situation you are presently in. That is the truth. Beautiful women always have enough pool of men to choose from by the time they are 22. You are 30, stuck with this guy for a reason. Unfortunately this is the only guy willing to put up with you attitude, it is time you put out or shut up. You have ghetto mentality, yet you want to be treated like some Arabian princess. It aint happening. You aint getting married to George Clooney or Dangote nor will you be spending your honeymoon in the Cayman Islands flown there on a GVI paid for by your rich Wall street private equity CEO with homes in Greenwich Connecticut. Not in this life. Atleast not without you having a major do over of your looks and attitude. Those people ( Clooney, Dangote and that private equity CEO guy) dont exist in real life, not to people like you. Sorry to be so blunt, but that is the truth. In this life, you are stuck with the type of people like your "boyfriend." There is little you can do about it. If you break up with him, the next person will be another "him," in a different form; maybe a little shorter, a little stingier, a little feistier, but, overall, just another clone of 'him.' You will be lucky if the 'new him' is anywhere as decent. In this type of situation, I always rely on Rene Decartes's third maxim: Endeavour always to conquer myself rather than fortune, and change my desires rather than the order of the world, and in general, accustom myself to the persuasion that, except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power. That is, change your thoughts about this gentle man, change how you feel about him, and change your life for the better.

That said, I admire people who take chances because we all know that the grass is always greener, lusher and longer on the other side of the fence. What you may not realize is that you arent getting any younger; your looks arent getting more feminine; your ova arent getting more vibrant; and the societal pressure will only get worse.

Tope wealth: If a guy who propose to marry a lady cn't buy her a gift of 2k ,4 a whole 3yrs of friendship or dating, then that guy is stingy.

So 2k is your benchmark? Once you pass the 2k point by one naira, are you still stingy?

As a lady, l giv out gifts worth thousands of naira to my girl and boy friends, l ve given out 3 good phones to my friends who lost their phones,

Coming from someone who finds it deplorable to pay her child's tuition, I think this is a lie. Next time come up with something better.

Wat strengthn Love? =Giving! Any guy who claim to luv without givn is a lier!

Love is all 'bout what you can get, isnt it?

2ndly, do u expect a woman to b d breadwinner of d family whn d guy also work

Hell No. I'd rather have an oil-well winner, that beats 'bread winner' any day any time. I can be the bread winner.

Oh! I love my Dad, he is such a wonderful man, a man evry woman would drm to b wit!

Is your dad a p/i/m/p?

Tope wealth: Bebe4u ,l feel ur pain; don't mind these who call u names, d guy is jst a stingy guy. Haba!
Infact she pay some of d childrn sch fees!

Wow! That is so wrong, women should not be paying school fees for [size=18pt]their[/size] children. If the man cant do it, and the child is male, phock it, the child should foot his own tuition.

3dly, pray! Pray! Pray! So that u dn't marry d wrong person.

Abi oo. Prayer solves everything, especially when you dont want to end up paying your children's tuition.

Marrying d wrng person cn alter one's destiny in life!

It can also set you back a few change if you end up having to pitch in sometimes.

^^

Koni ragba fun e

suckersssssssss

the solution is polygamy

Meeeeeee is how God planned it for men

Atreides:
I kept thinking "This sounds like someone i know" when i read that post,and it turns out i was right!
It was fstranger!

Not looking bad!

Good job!

I am really proud of you. My money isnt going to waste.

maga1:
You 4got dat NO light.

Mad props fro you bro.


This post is incredible. Nobel prize ASAP.

Honesty is the Best Policy


This guy is a wreck.

Na real wa be this ooooooo:

Previously on Mr. President:

[size=18pt]I was not chosen to be Vice President because I had good political experience, I did not. I'm not a politician. There were a lot more qualified people around to be Vice President.[/size]” - GOODLUCK JONATHAN - 2010

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-564948.0.html

Isnt this old news?

HBD Mr. intimidator

nagoma:
I am sure Naijabebe is unemployed. You can't sit down and churn out all that rubbish if you have any focus in life. Talk to all mighty KAtz nicely and continue worshipping him , he may consider you for the deadbody washing job.

She is actually employed, focused, and by all account a very decent human being and extremely well adjusted too. It is because of people like her and Professor Olabiyi of NL's English department that I have come to conclude that the problem with Nigeria is not leadership, but follower-ship.

When seemingly intelligent and well adjusted people start worshipping inarticulate tin - gods on the internet, then there is fire on the mountain.

This was intended to be a rallying point for all the anti-Sanusi peeps, which is fine, but when the so called "intellectuals c/u/m progressives" started manufacturing facts on a pay-as-you-invent-basis and started copying and pasting articles written by Sanusi from long-dead websites without presenting backgrounds and context, you cant help wondering what the underlying motive really is.

I am not surprised by the Op, but the characters that have showed up to cheer him on have been disappointing, especially the girly-men amongst them. This is nothing short of high-tech lynching of an 'uppity' Northerner who dares to think for himself, to do for himself, to have different background and ideas from our so called 'intellectuals' from the South, and it is a message that, unless you kow-tow to an old Southern order,  this is what will happen to you, you will be lynched, destroyed, discredited,  lampooned, caricatured by a congregate of faceless goons on an anonymous website(s), rather than be debated fairly or engaged dialectically.

May God save us from our "entitled" intellectuals.



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Eniyan bi aparo l'omo araye n fe ooooooo

B'oba, o pa; bi o ba ba, ki o bu l'ese,

Eniyan bi aparo l'omo araye n fe

Iwa won ni ko ma dawonleju, awon asebi

Awon ti won fe ki Sanusi succeed

by their deeds we shall know them.

Odunnu:
Proudly Nigerian!
We are not where we are meant or want to be but the goodnews is we are not where we used to be.
I couldnt trade my Nigerianess for another country- thats true.

Thats because you've never lived outside of Nigeria


Ask Jakumo? Life outside Nigeria is way better than life in Nigeria

Tore my green passport already. Now i can go anywhere without being harassed and I dont need a visa to the UK, and more than 100 countries

Beat that Odunnu

You cant beat that.