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Ola one: Now, ban her, OAM4J.

hehehehe. I have never done anything worthy of a ban nau. Don't mess up my rep, ol' young man.


I will at least like to say the below. Didn't quote any of the hidden post 'cos I don't want to be hidden like the white sheep of the family.

To: Super Ikenna351, The father of all moderators, Please RELEASE Onlytruth o. You know perceived injustice only serves to radicalise the youth. (Didn't you see how the Boston Bomber got pissed off cos they denied him his green pali when he thought he was being a "good boy"?) Which will lead to a radicalised Onlytruth posting more under his angrier and more offensive RealChange moniker. .. and leading to another series of tribal wars. Apply the same rules to them all o jare. Enough of their drama.

Hopefully, he will behave better as Onlytruth, considering he's an Eze and all.

P.S.: I commend the moderators, in all seriousness. I hope we end up with a Politics section that we can all enjoy - once again.

OAM4Jtyrant, did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed? Why would you hide all those posts?! Please un-hide them. This is the political section and most participants are literary types who like to read others' opinion. Come on now. That is too far-reaching o, my friend. No offense.

The header reads, "complaints," "suggestions," "inquiries." Case in point, one poster telling the other to "go to hell" is also a suggestion, innit?

I don't like all these tribal stuff and acrimony either, but there was nothing violative about many of the posts.

In fact, I was in the middle of a post and a SUGGESTION when you locked the thread.

FlirtyKaren: pictures from the church commisioning.
Pastor Oyedepo arrived Nairobi in 1 of his 4 jets

More pics - http://www.lailasblog.com/2013/04/bishop-oyedepo-opens-20000-seater.html

Naijas colonising the rest of Africa through their churches.

I can see how it was so easy for the Oyinbos to take control of us. First send the missionaries to feck up their minds, then send the soldiers and then partition their dark continent however the hell we want, for maximum benefit.

OAM4JTyrant,
I'm not amused o. I was typing a gem of a reply in this thread and you locked it. What if my post would have cured all the Tribalists of their madness nko?

https://www.nairaland.com/938835/lets-complaints-suggestions-enquiries-here/97

Walahi, you and Naijababe fit like hand and glove. I wish she'd bring back her old signature.

naijababe: . Afi 'ho' naa

Can you accentuate your words or something! I can't make heads or tails of what you write sometimes.

I'm serious this time. What're you trying to say? It better not be something dirty either. I will report you.

BTW, what does Ori Lo Ni Se mean? Please.

Ola one: Mo ti gbo ooo

That was flattery. You're oooooollllddd.

BTW, what is wrong with that "ho" poster? Is he gonna be normal?

I don't think I'm supposed to be talking to him, so make sure he acts right!

I love Mr. .Cork, and I have confessed it on this very forum on at least 3 previous occasions.

https://www.nairaland.com/mr..cork/posts

[quote author=ekt_bear]na wa for these devilish mods moving threads anyhow[/quote]Where did you initiate it? If Romance section, that weirdo albino gecko that's chased everyone but his clique from his section prob moved it. He hates Corky and all the good things of this world.
Next time, put such threads in General/Nairaland section.

Yes, I am nostalgic and sentimental.

The one and only Dr. Ayinde Barrister - Ori Lo Ni Se.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a40S9hmOhWo

Ola one: I know you're not in Philly. Just kidding.

OK. No worries. I forgot you like to obfuscate your biographical data so no one can place you. Case in point, all that brouhaha about you teaching school in 19gbongbonron. You're a young'un. Se omo dada o.

Happy Monday.

Pastor Olu T: Thanks, but which of the Lawanson area?

Near Jubril Martin.

This overgrown rodent is at it again. Same Uruguayan #%@$(*&! that cheated Ghana out of the World Cup Quarters. I expect Liverpool might try to get rid of him this summer. On the other hand, they seem to like their thugs; who's the other thug that played with them for a long time despite criminal charges and everything else? Bellamy?

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A little bit lot of over-singing but the winner, the Black Jap, was more calm and ultimately more appealing.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yWFz7ZXhuU

naijababe: I no sabi for you o. I don't want you to read sef because if i know you well, you'd prolly be bawling in front of your screen . I am not in the mood to comfort anybody now jare.

You're ruining my rep!

naijababe: Lol Mac, i promised a finished story didn't I? She may not have meant any harm but her posts are really tactless and rather sanctimonious. In one breath she almost but called me a liar, in the next she is calling ma?! WTH!

Gbagbe yen joo. If you used to read this section, you'd know.

You should be trying to make me read your tales instead. I haven't

BetaThings: Mac is actually doing an admirable job - may Allah bless him
Prior to his investiture, this place was a clear an open cowboy jungle for anarchists
We actually just enjoy riling him now and then
Although I like that bit about not fearing him even if he "take Mukina and Seun put join"

I support the Mac. I was just talking about this thread - follow-up and analysis of NB's posts.

I think I just need to check out other threads. browse around a bit.

I would pay you to post! Expiring of boredom here.

Mac, free this people nau.

P.S. I'm such a troublemaker, I know. Toodles.

Eegulize: Ah!!! Satan is a BIG LIAR!!!

I'm so glad to come and comment on this thread today on a very HAPPY note.

Around July last year while my husband and I were considering IVF in order to influence the sex of our 4th and last baby as agreed, I took in unplanned!!! My husband and I were both devastated and confused as we didn't know whether to take the gamble and allow the pregnancy stay or abort and go for IVF where we will be certain to some extent what the gender of the baby would be.

On looking at the moral implications of abortion, the stress we might have to go through with IVF, and the thought of being on the same queue with couples who are praying to even conceive at all irrespective of the gender of the baby, we decided to leave the pregnancy and trust God to take control. And exactly a fortnight ago, I had the 4th CS and behold it turned out to be a baby Boy!!! Now my family is complete to the glory of God!!!

I'm too excited right now to say much, I just want to enjoin you all to please thank God Almighty for me who has proved his faithfulness upon my life and family. I am hale and hearty, the recovery was amazingly faster than that of the other 3 C-sections as my baby and I were discharged from the hospital 4 days after.

I thank you all for your opinions, especially those who by their comments assured me that the 4th CS was worth the risk.

May God bless you all.

-Mother of 3 daughters & 1 son.

Congratulations on safe arrival and healthy baby!

maclatunji: Save your intellectual exercises until after she finishes her story. No need to be so hyperactive now. I don't like your digression at all.

maclatunji: I was already preparing my European upper cut and German suplex for you. #LOL

Ha! MackyMac tiwa nikan, Oga gbogbo awon moduretos! Let the man talk nau. This is not NB's diary joo. And trust me, she is very focused and doesn't get derailed easily (well, except for that leaving Islam thing . . .but that won't take in the long-term).

Don't bother threatening me o. I am not afraid of any of y'all. You can even bring Mukina or Seun.

A marathon is 26 miles. The longest distance I have ever jogged walked was 7 miles, completed in around 2 hours; I bet I can do better than that now. But I'm not doing no marathon - maybe a half-marathon; that's very common.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/7/73/Osaka07_D9M_WMarathon_Ndereba_running.jpg/200px-Osaka07_D9M_WMarathon_Ndereba_running.jpg
Kenyan marathoner Catherine Ndereba

Training for a Marathon:
The long run is an important element in marathon training.[98] Recreational runners commonly try to reach a maximum of about 20 miles (32 km) in their longest weekly run and a total of about 40 miles (64 km) a week when training for the marathon, but wide variability exists in practice and in recommendations. More experienced marathoners may run a longer distance during the week. Greater weekly training mileages can offer greater results in terms of distance and endurance, but also carry a greater risk of training injury.[99] Most male elite marathon runners will have weekly mileages of over 100 miles (160 km).[99]

Many training programs last a minimum of five or six months, with a gradual increase in the distance run and finally, for recovery, a period of tapering in the weeks preceding the race. For beginners wishing to merely finish a marathon, a minimum of four months of running four days a week is recommended.[100][101] Many trainers recommend a weekly increase in mileage of no more than 10%. It is also often advised to maintain a consistent running program for six weeks or so before beginning a marathon training program, to allow the body to adapt to the new stresses.[102] The marathon training program itself would suppose variation between hard and easy training, with a periodization of the general plan.[103]. . .

. . .The last long training run might be undertaken up to two weeks prior to the event. Many marathon runners also "carbo-load" (increase carbohydrate intake while holding total caloric intake constant) during the week before the marathon to allow their bodies to store more glycogen.

Oldest marathoner
Fauja Singh, 100, finished the Toronto Waterfront Marathon, becoming the first centenarian ever to officially complete that distance. Singh, a British citizen, finished the race on 16 October 2011 with a time of 8:11:5.9, making him the oldest marathoner.[61]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marathon

Black Peni5: Old joke...but it keeps cracking me up.

At dinner, a littleboy was ordered to lead in prayer...
BOY- But i dont know how to pray...
DAD- Just pray for your family members, friends and neighbours, the poor, etc
BOY- "Dear Lord" he started Thank u for our visitors and their children, who finished all my cookies and ice cream. Bless them so they wont come again. Forgive our neighbor's son, who removed my sister's clothes and wrestled with her on her bed. This coming Christmas, please send clothes to all those poor Unclad ladies on my daddy's blackberry and provide shelter for the homeless men who use mom's room when daddy is at work..AMEN.
Dinner was cancelled nd commotion began.

obyrich: He went to 7 pastors and they all told him you were the cause? Big lie! The seven pastors are the seven demons ruining his life and working against his progress. If truly you have been as supportive as you claimed, then you can see he is being deceived into losing such a rare gem as you! I bet you if you collected the contacts of those pastors and consulted them privately about your relationship ( dont let your man know and dont let them know who your man is) they would tell you a different thing.
Truth is that he wants you out. He would regret it later. A cousin of mine once lost a girl specially made for him by God in a similar way and up till today, he is regretting his mistakes. My cousin was told he would impregnate a girl soon if he didnt take care. He concluded it was the girl and went ahead to give her a red card. He was also told that he would be a prophet of God. The guy as I speak with you now, after 5 years, is bleeping girls front and back including married women, yet he doesnt feel contented with any of them the way he felt with that girl.
Your guy is a coward and a traitor (sorry). He will come back begging if you can control yourself and 'pretend' nothing happened. It's hard to cage our emotions in the face of betrayal by our loved ones. Just try and forget him.

So true. There is no sting like the sting of regret. lol. I'm even thinking now, there are no seven pastors in all - the clown probably has a thing for the number 7. Weirdos abound.

nembenama: I have seen most of ur egoistic advice including that of my husband.

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Who's your husband, dear?

Don't tell me, I'm just kidding.

What u guys don't advert ur minds to,is the wife's side of the story and remember no two marriages re the same. Some of you just want this guy to end his union because of problems they can sit down n settle. If he leaves her,is the next woman perfect?

Totally agreed.

Marriage is not dating, plus they have a child. As I said earlier, it would do them a world of good to see if this woman has an hormonal imbalance - It Doesn't Mean " She's C-R-A-Z-Y! " Lol at Scareddy cats at the sound of psychiatrist. (Of course I would never go to one myself, God forbid it!)

In all seriousness, hormonal imbalance or mood swings or depression are common after childbirth. Even though the husband says the behaviours started before childbirth, there are lots of health issues that could cause that even in a person that is not pregnant. All they have to do is have her see a regular doctor or her Ob-Gyn to look into this. So much hormone coursing through the human body, sometimes they go out of whack. It's not a "spiritual husband," whatever that crap means.

He too should be man enough to take some responsibility of the present situation not throwing everything on his wife. What did he do to get her to that state of mind? Rather,than acting the gud guy here,tell us what u did too@op. Nice sunday all

Happy Sunday to you too.

Abdul Adam56: Wa man kaddara lahu haqa kadrihi!we muslim never believe in all dis trash from our imams,if u are a good muslim believe that eve ry thing came from Allah not from human being or charm/jazz. christian self.

Which Imam will even say nonsense like this?

Treasure10: . . . he told me he was just on his way back from church. He tell me, if I know who is behind his financial problems and recent attacks, I will never believe it.
He said 7 pastors have all told him the same thing, he then lands me the shock of my life and tell me it is I. Myself.

Jesus wept.

Terrorist Plots, Hatched by the F.B.I.
By DAVID K. SHIPLER
Published: April 28, 2012
New York Times

THE United States has been narrowly saved from lethal terrorist plots in recent years — or so it has seemed. A would-be suicide bomber was intercepted on his way to the Capitol; a scheme to bomb synagogues and shoot Stinger missiles at military aircraft was developed by men in Newburgh, N.Y.; and a fanciful idea to fly explosive-laden model planes into the Pentagon and the Capitol was hatched in Massachusetts.

But all these dramas were facilitated by the F.B.I., whose undercover agents and informers posed as terrorists offering a dummy missile, fake C-4 explosives, a disarmed suicide vest and rudimentary training. Suspects naïvely played their parts until they were arrested.

When an Oregon college student, Mohamed Osman Mohamud, thought of using a car bomb to attack a festive Christmas-tree lighting ceremony in Portland, the F.B.I. provided a van loaded with six 55-gallon drums of “inert material,” harmless blasting caps, a detonator cord and a gallon of diesel fuel to make the van smell flammable. An undercover F.B.I. agent even did the driving, with Mr. Mohamud in the passenger seat. To trigger the bomb the student punched a number into a cellphone and got no boom, only a bust.

This is legal, but is it legitimate? Without the F.B.I., would the culprits commit violence on their own? Is cultivating potential terrorists the best use of the manpower designed to find the real ones? Judging by their official answers, the F.B.I. and the Justice Department are sure of themselves — too sure, perhaps.

Carefully orchestrated sting operations usually hold up in court. Defendants invariably claim entrapment and almost always lose, because the law requires that they show no predisposition to commit the crime, even when induced by government agents. To underscore their predisposition, many suspects are “warned about the seriousness of their plots and given opportunities to back out,” said Dean Boyd, a Justice Department spokesman. But not always, recorded conversations show. Sometimes they are coaxed to continue.

Undercover operations, long practiced by the F.B.I., have become a mainstay of counterterrorism, and they have changed in response to the post-9/11 focus on prevention. “Prior to 9/11 it would be very unusual for the F.B.I. to present a crime opportunity that wasn’t in the scope of the activities that a person was already involved in,” said Mike German of the American Civil Liberties Union, a lawyer and former F.B.I. agent who infiltrated white supremacist groups. An alleged drug dealer would be set up to sell drugs to an undercover agent, an arms trafficker to sell weapons. That still happens routinely, but less so in counterterrorism, and for good reason.

“There isn’t a business of terrorism in the United States, thank God,” a former federal prosecutor, David Raskin, explained.

“You’re not going to be able to go to a street corner and find somebody who’s already blown something up,” he said. Therefore, the usual goal is not “to find somebody who’s already engaged in terrorism but find somebody who would jump at the opportunity if a real terrorist showed up in town.”

And that’s the gray area. Who is susceptible? Anyone who plays along with the agents, apparently. Once the snare is set, law enforcement sees no choice. “Ignoring such threats is not an option,” Mr. Boyd argued, “given the possibility that the suspect could act alone at any time or find someone else willing to help him.”

Typically, the stings initially target suspects for pure speech — comments to an informer outside a mosque, angry postings on Web sites, e-mails with radicals overseas — then woo them into relationships with informers, who are often convicted felons working in exchange for leniency, or with F.B.I. agents posing as members of Al Qaeda or other groups.

Some targets have previous involvement in more than idle talk: for example, Waad Ramadan Alwan, an Iraqi in Kentucky, whose fingerprints were found on an unexploded roadside bomb near Bayji, Iraq, and Raja Khan of Chicago, who had sent funds to an Al Qaeda leader in Pakistan.

But others seem ambivalent, incompetent and adrift, like hapless wannabes looking for a cause that the informer or undercover agent skillfully helps them find. Take the Stinger missile defendant James Cromitie, a low-level drug dealer with a criminal record that included no violence or hate crime, despite his rants against Jews. “He was searching for answers within his Islamic faith,” said his lawyer, Clinton W. Calhoun III, who has appealed his conviction. “And this informant, I think, twisted that search in a really pretty awful way, sort of misdirected Cromitie in his search and turned him towards violence.”

THE informer, Shahed Hussain, had been charged with fraud, but avoided prison and deportation by working undercover in another investigation. He was being paid by the F.B.I. to pose as a wealthy Pakistani with ties to Jaish-e-Mohammed, a terrorist group that Mr. Cromitie apparently had never heard of before they met by chance in the parking lot of a mosque.

“Brother, did you ever try to do anything for the cause of Islam?” Mr. Hussain asked at one point.

“O.K., brother,” Mr. Cromitie replied warily, “where you going with this, brother?”

Two days later, the informer told him, “Allah has more work for you to do,” and added, “Revelation is going to come in your dreams that you have to do this thing, O.K.?” About 15 minutes later, Mr. Hussain proposed the idea of using missiles, saying he could get them in a container from China. Mr. Cromitie laughed.

Reading hundreds of pages of transcripts of the recorded conversations is like looking at the inkblots of a Rorschach test. Patterns of willingness and hesitation overlap and merge. “I don’t want anyone to get hurt,” Mr. Cromitie said, and then explained that he meant women and children. “I don’t care if it’s a whole synagogue of men.” It took 11 months of meandering discussion and a promise of $250,000 to lead him, with three co-conspirators he recruited, to plant fake bombs at two Riverdale synagogues.

“Only the government could have made a ‘terrorist’ out of Mr. Cromitie, whose buffoonery is positively Shakespearean in its scope,” said Judge Colleen McMahon, sentencing him to 25 years. She branded it a “fantasy terror operation” but called his attempt “beyond despicable” and rejected his claim of entrapment.

The judge’s statement was unusual, but Mr. Cromitie’s characteristics were not. His incompetence and ambivalence could be found among other aspiring terrorists whose grandiose plans were nurtured by law enforcement. They included men who wanted to attack fuel lines at Kennedy International Airport; destroy the Sears Tower (now Willis Tower) in Chicago; carry out a suicide bombing near Tampa Bay, Fla., and bomb subways in New York and Washington. Of the 22 most frightening plans for attacks since 9/11 on American soil, 14 were developed in sting operations.

Another New York City subway plot, which recently went to trial, needed no help from government. Nor did a bombing attempt in Times Square, the abortive underwear bombing in a jetliner over Detroit, a planned attack on Fort Dix, N.J., and several smaller efforts. Some threats are real, others less so. In terrorism, it’s not easy to tell the difference.

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/29/opinion/sunday/terrorist-plots-helped-along-by-the-fbi.html?pagewanted=all&_r=2&

Yeah, what happens when one person likes to stay in constant communication and talk a lot on the phone, and the other thinks the phone will suck out their soul. . .?

Many Happy Returns to your mom, Pastor Olu. I grew up near that area - Lawanson. Small world.

We wish you all well.

[quote author=kunle_j]i just read a thread where a lady who recently got married is complaining of her husband not putting up the bed when he wakes up and littering his shoes around the house.
seriously, i can not but laugh and that reminds me of the early years of my marriage too.
for me i use the tooth paste from the bottom to top but she, any how.
salt was the order of the day in my food until i told her one day that i am not happy to pass through many restaurants only to get home and eat a plate of salt, but now thats is history.
she never keeps to time whenever we have event to attend together. her reason, i am what she describe as early man.
for me whenever i go to toilet at home, i shower and for her heel no.
she enjoys movie, i enjoy music. wetin i go do? send her back or marry another......
to cut it short, she was entirely different from me and i think one of the mistakes of those who could not survive this stage is due their inability to understand that everyone is unique and no one can ever be like you even though you may share similar interest.
bottom line, we are more happy together now. so what was your experience?[/quote]Yes, let's hear it from the long-married folks. Did you think you "couldn't take one more day of this!" during your first year of marriage. Only to be pleasantly surprised, after hanging in there and making it work?

idnoble135: Are you in a relationship? Do you love your man? Here are a few things that show that you’re just playing around:

1. Little things annoy you

If you always get unnecessarily agitated about a shirt he wears or some extra weight he gained or the way he sings in the car, then you don’t love him. When you really love someone, those things are funny, or at the very least tolerable. But if there’s no real connection there, the little flaws irritate you.

2. You don’t talk and you don’t care

If you don’t hear from him for two days, and you’re not bothered, then there’s a serious problem. Wanting to talk to your man, is a sure sign of true love. If you couldn’t care less, then you’re not in love.

3. You’re constantly comparing your relationship to others

When you’re really in love, you don’t care what everyone else is doing. You’re happy with what you have. Those differences in your relationship don’t feel like a problem. But, when you know you’re not meant to be with a guy, you constantly try to find something wrong with your relationship.

4. When going out, you still dress with other men in mind.

If you’re daydreaming about meeting handsome guys and dressing with that goal in mind, it means you wish you were single. That shows that you’re not really committed to your man.

5. He’s not the one you run to

When you’re upset about something, crying to your man seems like the obvious thing to do. But if you never confide in your guy, then you don’t really care about him. If you really wanted to be close, he’d be the one you go to when you need a sympathetic ear.

6. The image of you two standing at the altar gives you anxiety

If you can’t picture the two of you gazing into each other’s eyes happily on your wedding day, then you’re not meant to be. If you don’t smile at the thought of being his wife, then you’re just playing around.

7. You’re managing

If there are serious issues militating against your relationship that you know can’t be resolved but you’re still seeing the guy, then it’s obviously a dead end. If he’s of a different religion from you and you know you can only marry a man of the same religion, then you’re going nowhere. You’re only still with him because you’re avoiding the question: what next?

8.You’re disrespectful to each other

If you regularly insult your man, even in front of others, it’s a sign that you don’t really care about him. You’re lashing out at him because you know being with him is a waste of time.

9. You feel a little guilty around his family

Deep down you know you won’t be around forever, and they’re expecting you to be a daughter-in-law and the mother of their grandchildren someday. When you’re around the family of a man you don’t want to be with, it’s hard to suppress the guilt.

10. You’re still not sure if you like him

Basically, you opened this article! That’s not a good sign. When you know you’re serious about someone, you just know. If you’re still questioning your feelings, then you’re not meant to be.

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Well thought-out list.

davidylan: you managed to crystallize my marriage fears in one paragraph. I once dated a woman like the above... i could get away with absolutely anything while dating. while that was fun, i couldnt help but think marrying her would be like unleashing the devil i knew lurked inside. A few months later i bailed... the torrent of abuse from her after was shocking.

I like the bolded part very much.

[quote author=Okon.akpan]My wife and I have been married for about two years now with a son, we reside in Calabar and I work at Eket. I spend some weeks at work due to the nature of my work. We dated for more than a yr before we married but knew and dated when we were in the university for few months. When we were dating, she was nice, respectful, understanding, caring and tolerating.

Things changed when we married, she became hot tempered, impatient, stonehearted, unforgiving, isolates my friends and rants angrily if things are not done her way. She complains whenever I present a gift to her either is too expensive or too cheap (fake). She cannot be pleased or satisfied; its either what I did is too much or not enough. She has issues with neighbours and the previous places we have resided.

She has issues with almost all her siblings, she don't trust anybody not even me, and she suspects anybody when negative incident occurs and thinks everybody around her is diabolic. She is very economical and complains when I spend money on my people but wants me to be spending money on her people and on her. She told me that she don't have feelings for me again which shows in her.

Things became worst when her mother came for child birth visit, she became more aggressive in everything, she nags a lot and would keep on talking for hours even if I decide to ignore her, in-short, the more I ignore her, the more she talks. During any argument between us when I’m at work, she cuts the phone on me and does not answer my calls nor call me for days or weeks until I come back home.

Previously we resolve our differences within a day but this had changed. She wants to do all the talking while I just sit and listen to her, when I speak, she would want to raise her voice on me and as I resist her, she would wear a stony face, snub me and start crying moments later, the snubbing will continue for days.

I need advice from this house on what to do, I can't continue like this. I don't know how my child is; I don't know what is going on in my house as I'm in Off Shore. My wife has changed into what I cannot explain, she want to have the final say in my house and control me but I've refused. What do I do cos, I must confess, it disturbing at work and I don't know the future of our marriage.[/quote]It appears your wife's issue is medical. Please take her to a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist, if you love her.

Anything could be wrong with her. Chemical imbalance; Postpartum depression; extreme loneliness; etc.