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Magnoliaa:
I'm scared of replying with more than two lines to any comment now before it gets me again. 😂

The gods must be crazy 🤣

Magnoliaa:
I don't even understand.

My profile still has a ban disclaimer for this section and I can comment, but I cannot edit my comments. What's going on?? ??

Offer a sacrifice to the gods.

Very interesting article indeed

WowSweetGuy:
2 female hajiya & 2 male mallam

If South easterners now una go put the names bold am sef but now they are northerners u no put names

I wish them justice tampered with mercy. Na money dem dey find... Dem no kill anybody

The effects of hard drugs on people's lives is akin to killing them

Dual engine failure is a serious cause for concern. These Flybird people need to come and explain themselves.

Rail

I used to post about my achievements once upon a time on social media. Not pictures, just words because I take refuge in words. I've sort of outgrown it and stopped.

I've never been a picture person and only my immediate family members have a full catalogue of my photos because I take and send to them. All my achievements are for their consumption because they, and God are my pillars. The rest of the world?

Not so much.

The only validation that matters to me are theirs. Only their views, likes and comments mean something to me. As for the rest of the world?

Not so much.

Samantha125:
You're right... Maybe I kinda felt bad because my husband left her for me and they were already planning on making things official at the time, I thought maybe she needed closure.

You're a softie, but this experience will shape you so you can apply wisdom in your niceness

Caseless:
😂 😂

I saw what you did there... Ishi my love!

You sef, I saw what you did

Konquest:
Uh-Oh! I've just been caught red-handed by Loveth.

Konquest:
Bump.

Why are you bumping, Sir Konquest?

Baba no send anybody. Just dey enjoy his life dey go

Samantha125:
Some years ago, she and her friends attacked me, but I let that one slide.

But this year she came back again under false guise and poisoned me.

We learn from our mistakes. I hope you get your healing from this trauma.

purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

Pele. I wish you'd seek validation elsewhere, because if you look for it from human beings, you'd be sorely disappointed.

You also need to work on your self esteem because this kind of mindset you have will only keep you stagnant and unhappy with yourself.

Samantha125:
We ordered same beverages and she started telling me how her phone battery was about to die and asked if I could charge it in my car while we were still hanging out, I didn't see anything wrong with it, so I took her phone along with the charger and headed to the car.

That's when she got the chance to spike her drink and stylishly switched it with mine... The restaurant wasn't packed that day and the girl was so foolish, she didn't even investigate the security system of that restaurant before she finally decided to go ahead with her plan... The restaurant has some CCTV cameras even though they're not easily noticeable.

After our meeting, I headed to my father's workplace and I was in his office when I started feeling unwell.

The heart of man is unbelievably wicked

tosinhtml:
When I say "abolish" I did not mean cut off the parent's approval. Technically you cannot abolish potential bride groom from getting approval from bride's parents, that's normal in every culture around the world. Parent's approval is necessary for a go-ahead, It is not an African culture, even the dowry payment was practiced in ancient Israel from time.

We DID NOT create it. Remember Laban tricked Jacob in the Bible, that's what they are doing in the South West & Eastern states. Pure Extortion. Thieves!

The "abuse" & "extortion" is the culture that we created that needs to be abolished. We created it OURSELVES to extort, simple!
it is not a century old identity pillars of any thing, families were looking for a way to enrich themselves, so they created it.

Don't say things you don't know. Bridal lists were not created to enrich families because everything on the list has a significance. It is human beings that have turned it to avenues to extort.

When you want to marry (that is if you're not already married), feel free to refuse to buy what is demanded on the list. E go shock you

Caseless:
Haaa

😂🤣🤣

tosinhtml:
What you described is not a culture, the culture is meeting up with families & introducing yourself which is what is needed. Every other thing such as bride's uncles & aunties extorting bride groom's family is completely unnecessary & should be abolished totally.

Besides we are quick to abolish other forms of culture that we don't like, but what it is comes to the greedy one that allows extortion, we hang on it like our lives depend on it.

You follow someone to a wedding ceremony in South West, the alagas want to use the opportunity to extort all the guests, both married & unmarried. What sort of culture is that?!

You're still not getting my point. You write that the whole marriage tradition should be abolished, and I countered that it cannot and will not be abolished because every society has their culture and traditions. In my post, I also mentioned that those practices can be abused, just like any man made system. The extortion from family members is one of the forms of abuses that happen in the course of carrying out our cultural practices. You can only call the abusers to order, not abolish centuries old identity pillars of a people.

PDP and APC discussing how to increase the hardship Nigerians are facing.

The one in native is PDP.
Werey white trousers is APC

Na wa o. May disaster not await us on the day of our celebration.

All these useless buses on Lagos roads are a tragedy waiting to happen and a ticking time bomb

tosinhtml:
Maybe it's his terrible wording, I do agree with him on religion over education in Nigeria, the selfish and greedy wedding process in Nigeria is absolutely bizarre. Wedding processes in Nigeria from Families especially from Imo State & those South West Yoruba alaga ceremonies are just a way to grab every little penny they can get, more like selling their daughters to slave trade.

The whole marriage tradition in Nigeria should be absolutely abolished.

It's not going anywhere, neither will culture be abolished because they are the best rock of every society. Can they be modified to reflect modern realities? Yes. Can they be abused? Like every man made system, yes they can. Does culture evolve? Yes. Is culture dynamic? Some aspects are. If you try to erase what makes a people unique, what forms their identity and belief system, then you will have a very big problem on your hands. VERY BIG

If only people can tame the serpent in their pants, it will save them a world of trouble

Tallesty1:
Tor.


How else can someone have 10 pregnancuin 6 months 😂

It shows the mental capacity of the modern day skit maker

DaddyJapan:
Now you are just being obtuse.

Think whatever you want. He is not a Nigerian

Dura Lex, Sed Lex

Gmajor:
Hijack 93

This movie personifies everything that is wrong with the Nigerian movie industry. It is bland, unimaginative, uninspired, and a complete waste of time.

Set in 1993, Hijack 93 fails to transport you to that time period. Without the title explicitly telling you the year, you'd never guess it. The costumes, the buildings, the overall aesthetic—all of it feels modern. It's as if no effort was made to authentically recreate the era. It’s clear that no care was given to any of the finer details.

The acting ranges from dull to downright atrocious. The performances feel forced, and the film never quite comes together to form a coherent story. Plot points are introduced and then completely abandoned without any resolution. The movie feels like it’s going nowhere, and by the end, you’re left wondering what, exactly, you’ve just watched.

Even more frustrating is the film's portrayal of the Nigerian public’s reaction to the events on the aircraft. The way it’s clumsily shoehorned into the narrative constantly had me rolling my eyes. It’s poorly executed and lacks any real emotional depth.

To make matters worse, this is based on a true story. The fact that we can’t even tell it in an engaging or competent way is disappointing. If Hollywood were to step in and produce this, people would likely complain about the accents. But frankly, I’d prefer the accents to be off if it meant the movie was at least technically competent.

Rating: 2/10

Thank goodness I didn't waste my time watching this

DaddyJapan:
Success has many fathers but failure is a perennial orphan.

So despite having lived in Nigeria at some point in his life, and written books about Nigerian culture, you have it on good authority that he is not a Nigerian?





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He has denounced citizenship to any country so he is definitely not Nigerian. Does that name sound Nigerian to you?

BreconHills:
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cew298qg8lxo

Thank you.

He is a lunatic. Since he is claiming to be Igbo then he must have changed his name during his descent into madness. He may have Nigerian origins, but he definitely isn't a Nigerian

naptu2:
You should know by now that there are trolls that are on Nairaland to advance certain interests.

It is pretty obvious

Fenrir:
Not true asshole when you come to marry European women we dont demand you do anything because your not us

Real respect is understanding interracial means intercultural and when we come to Nigeria only 6% actually do your bullshit

Introduction yes, bride price yes, but thats it you see marriage and life after are more important then the childlike egos of your fathers and uncles

You are very ill mannered. Since you lack the capacity to engage in civil discourse on social media like your neanderthal ancestors, I must insist you fvck off forever.

Fenrir:
From my experience you guys cant handle alcohol but id love to see you try and keep up, you'd be one and done on first night of oktoberfest

Don't let Tiv people read this. Those folks are walking brewries

Fenrir:
I love Nigeria the culture, food (not the cow skin its fucking dog treat) the music, the dancing, the beautiful areas, the fun and dynamic people and all Muslims in the world Nigerian ones dont Bleep with me because they understand the difference between me a wolf and your men fucking spaniels

The 2 things i hate about your country is the religious ABUSE because you do value religion over education its ridiculous you pray and worship in school your not secular your pretend secular

The selfish and greedy wedding process, what right do your fathers and uncles have to try and demand we get on our stomachs and beg to marry its mentally deranged 1 tribe of 50 million people in a world of nearly 9 billion believe they should be thanked for raising their fucking child, a child is result of your choices and your actions you owe the child everything and the child owes you nothing

A home
Food
Clothing
Medical
Education
Entertainment
Holidays

If you cannot provide that the bare minimum without expecting thanks or making that child feel guilty you dont deserve to breed and your balls should be removed

And dont get me started on kneeling for the blessings for all other tribes its just fucking bigoted

It is cultural. Every ethnic group and race have their own sets of cultures and we have to respect them, no matter how strange they may seem to us as individuals