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hey poster,

its a shame that distance cud possibly robb u of settling down with the best guy.
just saying, not like am sure.
but have u really sat down and talked with this guy in naija to know what he's plan is?


the poster who said the naija guy might want you for papers, well why do we always assume the worst about our own.
nah we be the only bad ppl living on th face of the earth?

becos person broda nah thief, does dat make him one 2?


look my dear irrespective of wether or not the 9ja guy needs papers, i will ask that u dont judge him based on that alone.

look more closely, the answer lies with u.

look simple unless somehow a miracle happens like in my case
where i got a good job b4 anyone cud notice
den he is all alone on this one.

look around u,

think for a minute and ponder,

are there really sugar mummies to go round if all the guys decided to suscribe?

guy go find work and stop lazying ur ass around aso rock.

dem don tell already

dont be a captain, be the headmaster.

no to what? drugs?
answer the question no dey do unicef advert. lol

kingkams:
Girl, what kind of imagination you got?

the very absurd one. why else

when a girl says am sorry,
what that simply means is that
" am sorry u caught me, i will be careful next time"
i learnt that long ago.

nah the man she dey marry not the goat simple.
the goats are only a source of livelihood,
very lucrative one too.

uspry1:
Anyone ever watch the cable TV show, HBO called "THE GREATEST SILENCE: RAPE IN THE CONGO"? I watched it last night in the USA.

It has already explained why African men disgraced hurting African women in rape. Sad documentary story i ever watched on cable TV show! The answer is the lack of HUMAN RIGHTS in AFRICA.

Here link to know about the female documenter of that HBO documentary movie: THE GREATEST SILENCE: RAPE IN THE CONGO" at below:

http://www.hbo.com/docs/programs/thegreatestsilence/interview.html

@TOPIC
i don't have to go to america to know how we nigerians behave exspecially to our ownselves
we act like we r superior to those we left behind,
like our tots and thinking changed over night.
what took u 20yrs to master here before leavn
suddenly takes u less than a yr to change and subdue.


[quote author=proo212 link=topic=126343.msg2139602#msg2139602 date=1207839118]I definitely side with the ladies on this one, Almondjoy in particular (who would have thunk it). Yes marriage is a work in progress but that does not give both partners the free ride to be unfaithful (repeatedly). Why did you get married in the first place?

No, this is not being westernised. The guys that do not want to be kicked to the curb by their wives when they cheat, if the tables were turned, would you keep forgiving and working at it? I think not. As a man your ego would not allow that. As a Nigerian man, you and I both know the woman doesn't stand a chance of remaining in the relationship even if she never does it again.

@Izeek, effectively you're saying it's OK for the men to be unfaithful (even though you do not support promiscuity) and the woman should just accept it. Because you ask, how many baby Daddys? What I deduct from your post is that the other man the lady ends up with will be unfaithful to her! Because it is a given. So she just keeps forgiving and forgiving. The lady will eventually have no desire to be with the man since she is unhappy (God help her if she isn't tied to the man financially). The man justifies it by saying my lady doesn't want to get with me. Goes out again and the cycle continues.

TOUGH to say how many times to forgive in Nigeria where there are majority of polygamous marriage allows and lack of HUMAN RIGHTS for women.

I agreed with @izeek has said partly about you must know what kind of this person before marriage according to the following link below:

10 Insights You should take steps into serious relationship before you get marry her/him
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-95533.0.html

NO CHEATERS/WOMANIZER/PLAYERS you should not be in marriage in the first place!!!

But I disagreed with @izeek in other part about act Nigerian passing to Yankee! @izeek, have you been to American forum discussions before? Have you been to Yankee yourself?[/quote]am not saying its okay to have an unfaithful hubby,
but its also insane that u give up the security of your children for your own selfish reasons.
being faithful no matter how we see it is something that goes beyond being responsible,
its also not something about the state of the mind,
its Gods grace. so when u say u want a God fearing husband,
then go about seeking for him in the right place.

if u meet your hubby in a club, then be ready to face stiff challenges because
him going to the club alone is already unfaithful in itself.

fine u can lie to keep a girlfriend
but u cant lie to keep a wife.
it depends on if u wanna grow up
be a man and see what she loves u for,
or just dey lie to impress am cos thats what the lie is about.

uquote author=Needlelady link=topic=126343.msg2139521#msg2139521 date=1207837930]
So, acting Nigerian means letting your man give you herpes in the name of love. I just can't understand why men don't get it and they are eveready to do anything just to defend a promiscous lifestyle. Women are no more mugu. Cheat once and I'll kick your behind to the thrash afterall there are so many men on queue.

[quote][/quote]u wud end up having wat? soo many baby daddy's grow up u wanabe americans.
this ia africa and naija for that matter.
am not supporting promiscuity, but am not supporting a broken home either.

well he decieved u all this while claiming she is his cousin, dat tells u he is not truthful enuf.
moreso from wat u said i understand he only suddenly realised the oother girl was trying to decieve him into marriage,
that in itself made u second choice.
best bet is for you to move on and find a man that wud tink of u and only u alone.
his gifts and calls shud not be a measuring point if he wants you back.

success is not measured by what u have , but what u have given to get it.
if nah the guy be banker and the girl the goatheard, will u still ask this question.

if u go into the market hoping for the best certainly u wud get the best,
wen u have a mind set that u wud be cheated at what ever goods u buy (almondjoy)
then be rest assured that no matter how careful u are u will always get inferior goods.

aisha2:
It can be challenging but one thing with going to the market is that hen going, you should make up your mind from home, what you want and the how much you are willing to pay for it, how much you can compromise, and when buying and item, never let the trader know you are too desperate to have the item because you could get a very bad deal. C'est tout

i have folowed some of ur post u sound mature post on

@poster
posted b4 by one and only (muah).
check up wat i did and do same.
u wont regret. lol

@poster, wen u do find her,
committing wud not be ur problem.
rather u wud be bothered on how not to loose her.


last rule: love dey make man kolo:

well since u married him, u must have known the kind of person he is before your marriage so i guess u deal with it.
@almondjoy,
i have seen some of your replies, some have sounded mature others just sound like everyother white trash i hear on tevee.
you're nigerian, how long u been outa this country?
i suggetsu act nigerian b4 your forming pass the whiteman wey u meet for yankee.

@ashe2
thanks  jare am sure u live abroad too.
tell her say if to say her mumsy left her dad for all his cheating ways she would not have been born atall, not to talk of divorcing the mans arse.

every man has his destiny, and maybe his is abroad.
@poster, put everything u have into going abroad, and if it finally works for you then its your destiny.
for me i once tot it was also my destiny to go abroad ( mind u i go still go, but as big boi.)
but somehow when i tried i dint work, i put my effort into something else, and now its paying off.
i work with a very promising company and am ten times happier than i wud have been abroad.
maybe if i had gone, i might have dropped out of school, or be a layabout making some lil 100$ in very cold harsh weather.
but the only advise wey i get be say if u eventually help, remember how u got there and help others here.
dont be like most of our nigerian folks over there who never has a good word from thier friends they left here in poverty. cos when u come back nah those friens u go meet, and they will be the ones to help you. trust me.

my dear these things are subject to certain criteria
1, location of the property in question,
2, if its rent for how long
3, the asking price for that particular area,
in-short dem plenty to the list here
so u have to be precise.

men don dey liver up.
hiding ur habits no longer is the morm.
so make we all live our true selfs outside.

him be festac boi.
wetin u exspect

thats his inspiration medium
all artist has thiers.
free the guy abeg.
his good accept it

he mean say d guy dey dope live onstage

lets try to leave hi privates out of his personal life.
if other musicians can sing about the level of corruption in our societies,
some about the hunger starvation, i see no reason why he cant blast dem armed robbers.
imagine i got mobbed on my way to work today.
had to get to the office very late.
to hell with them robbers.

all of una go pass no fear.
just dey ready r school fees simple.
i dey lasu 5oolevel. festac campus computerscience

simple , sleep with person mama,
another person go scatter ur mama own too.

if u get the bar to share around, fine give and dont complain.
afterall when the "reward" starts coming in, we no go hear.