₦airaland Forum

kandiikane: ....Uhm, fresh vegetables? The vegetables that get cooked until all the nutrients and supplements disappear?

That is called overcooking. You can also choose how long you wish to cook your vegetables, or even eat them raw.( I should not even have to tell you that, though. )

Hahaha...yeah, all white girls are the same. No white girls talk back, or are afraid of their hair, and nails, or expect more gifts from the hubby than they give themself, etc.

Bulls*it, dude. You don`t seem to know many white gals. And I am white myself.

Why should it be bad?

Compromise, tolerance and love.

gfus: Any reason?

My best friends mother worked for them in the 60`s. One of the reasons she quit, and the biggest one, was that they were trying to convince people in africa to rather spend their money on MME, than to give them their own mothermilk, because, according to nestlè, the women down in africa did not get enough nutritions trough their every-day food to pass to the babies via the milk.
And because I dont trust much things that have a expiry date two years ahead. Its been added things I would not added in my fresh food.

Seun: How can you feed little children with starch and cooked roughages and expect them to reach their potential?

...uhm. It is actually much for more healthy for the body and mind to get fresh vegetables in their food, than processed things that have been added so much that the expire-date is two years from now.

hakuna matata: [size=8pt]
sO tHe RaStAmAn iS fRoM gAmBia?
hhhhhhhhhhhhhmn NoW i KnOw SoMeThInG!

Pfff, that aint new

Seun: And then when he grows up you'll wonder why he's short and not as smart as his peers.

...say what?

Are you implying that kids who eat food from Nestlè will be smarter than kids who eat what their parents eat? Really?

tpia@:
Not sure what food was being referred to, since we do not know what they eat in gambia.

And if the food in question is fulani, then it might be milk products or something like tuwo.

Pepper soup, benachin (rice and the meat you prefer and vegetables all cooked together ), domodoa/maffe ( peanutpaste ), soupa-kanja ( Okra ), and placas, wich is spinach. And milk/yoghurt with oatmeal, and also bread.
All the food with rice is normally, in Gambia, cooked with much pepper. But, I havent grown up with much pepper, so she eats everything I eat. She even loves the strong peppersoup her daddy makes, that I can not eat myself.

Coldfeet: Exactly my thoughts feeding a one year old akpu and ewedu or any swallow isn't really a bad idea just make sure its not too thick! akpu especially,and the soup not peppery! My mother grew up on akpu and ofe ogbankpo! Its copy copy of the west that has made our own food taboo to us.

I totally agree, and I grew up in the western world. Its even more cheaper to give your kid food from your own meals as well..

jidegirl12: I know! She's almost 4 and she refused to eat meat chicken, turkey ( I've tried ground meat but she takes it out) since she was 2.

I've noticed recently a lot of carb makes her chubby ( unlike others) and she drinks a lot of milk too. She doesn't like amala and co, I'm taking her to a nutritionist next month, just thot I should ask here for meal ideas since they're talking bout food, lol

My kid only eat meat if there is some spice on it. If there is not much spice, she wont even touch it, she just spits it out again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Ywai7cJ448&feature=BFa&list=PL24914F1CFEED9B60

Me say bun him..

omega25red: Some people will beleive anything they read on google. I actually worked with people who are drug addicted. If you go int their history you will agree with what is said about marijuana being a gateway drug. Just because you smoke it and it hasn't led to you doing coke or heroin doesn't mean that you will eventually do coke and or heroin. if you read my post i said for most it is a gateway drug.

Most people with a narcotic problem starts off with alcohol. Actually.

Marihuana is not a gateway drug. The fact that most countries dont allow marihuana makes the dealers with marihuana have other things as well. Which means you will be exposed to an invorement of other drugs, and makes it easier to go and try something else. Not because you "get used to the high and need something stronger".

*Kails*:
i feel you.
as i said i want to tone my body (face-cheeks really, arms, thighs, belly, legs; etc)
but i want my bootay to still be bouncy.

i am afraid i will lose that if i firm it up. and sister, you have a very good shape.
if your hubby ain't going "daaaaaamn" now, he's tripping!!

I really dont want to loose my butt either..lol! I like the size of it. Or bigger, even. Bigger is better

And; aaaaw..thank you

laurend1985: I will join you but I'm doing nowloss How to get a bigger but one day and I will do the butt bible the other day.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLEFB5EAE57017A78D&feature=player_detailpage&v=MFlH8XJsF7Y

I changed to doing this every two days It seems easy, but damn.
I also do squats, crunches and push-ups.

Haha, I found out it was too strict for me as well, but I am using something else now. Every two days I do a 15min butt/thighs-program, and also try to do some for the belly and arms.
I found a different one for the butt, and it HURTS the day after.

And I see results MY butt is more bouncy, and I look even more good in some of my clothes than before. I am gonna get my hubby going DAAAAAAMN when he sees me again

honeric01: Let me let you be ok?

And thats what you should let everyone do

honeric01: Booboo maybe you're just knowing me...

You feel comfortable in it, yet you can't wear it without a long shirt because you would be showing more than you feel comfortable with? then how can you call such comfort when limitation is all that's it's known for?
How can a saggy pants stay in place? if it stays in place, then that's not sagging.

Oh goodness. I always wear long shirts. The difference is that when I wear tight pants, I take them a little bit longer up.
My saggingpant lay down on my hips, they dont move much at all, thank you very much.

Anything more?

honeric01: LoL, comfortable yet you adjust by pulling down your long shirt?
it's comfortable, yet you can't wear it without a long shirt?
it's comfortable, yet you have to keep pulling it back up when it's about to fall off?

I dont pull my shirt down. My shirt is long enough. The only thing that pushes my shirt up is my wide hips. And I have that problem no matter what pants I wear.
I CAN wear it without a long shirt, but then I would be showing more than I feel comfortable with.
I dont pull my pants up much. I pull them up more when they are tight, actually, so they "stay in place".

You dont give up trying, do you?

Oh, and let me add..my husband know very well that if I catch him cheating, I will beat. Not just slap, but beat.
He have been warned. And I know he will probably slap back, but it would still be worth it.
I would not stay with a man that went behind my back on purpose and cheated on me.

If we had a really, really tough time in our marriage, and it had been lasting a loong, long time over a few years, I could understand a one-night-fling. Everyone CAN make mistakes. ut going behind your spouses back, saying your spouse is bull and not important for you..thats something else.

Mr Crazyman..

Yes, you have stated that "When you get married, you will know what its about".
You are trying to talk to me like I am a child, and it aint working

If my husband disrespected me to the extend of f.ex telling another woman he want HER, he dont give a F about me and our marriage, etc, etc..why would I just say "aiit, come here honey" ? Where is my self-respect in that?
A marriage is about TWO people, not one. My mother and father made a mistake about staying together for that long, he did not respect her, she did not have self-respect.

I would rather be alone with my kids, than to be with a man who does not love and respect me. Why should I? I deserve more than that. Any woman does.
( And yes, the same goes in relationships where its the woman acting like a d*ckhead. )

Why do people go into marriages, and then they dont even TRY to stay faithful? Still, men like you seem to think that a ring on the finger means you can do what you want, because she is your wife and should forgive you.
Thats not what marriage is about.
Yes, time will get tough. Yes, you might get attracted to others. And then, you choose how to take it from there. You can either start flirting and having "fun", or you can close your eyes, look the other way, and think about the love you have at home.

No matter how hard the marriage is going..get out before cheating.

honeric01: Nope you didn't answer it, i said what kinda comfort do you gain from saggy pants?

Its comfortable. What more than that do you really need?
Details? No clinging, no tugging, less fixing than with tight pants, more loose movement, and, I like how it looks on me.

ACM10: I'm amazed when people complain of labour pain. What is the job of the anaesthetics? Labour should not be painful. Just that Nigerians thinks that withstanding pains during labour demonstrate your braveness. Westerners dislikes pain. Women can actually have a painless labour. Just make a request for that. Then anaesthetics will be involved. Chikena! Watch the videos of whites who were in labour. It looks almost as if they were urinating. Only in Nigeria do women shout down the rooftop of the labour room as a result of pain. A doctor can be sued in western countries for failing to manage pain during labour effectively.

Lol.

IN USA, yes. In EU, they give you enough to take away the worst of the pain, and they turn it all off when its time to push.

I had an epidural, and it helped, but trust me, I could still feel the pain, and barely stand on my feet.

kunletiwoo:

I am hoping you are on my side here, lol.

I asked! You can`t learn without asking

honeric01: In summary, commercial bike used to as public transport is called Okada in Nigeria and no they don't ride "okada" in the western world as you try to claim. private bike is not same with motorbike.

Make we drop this, all i am saying is that, why do you wear over-sized baggy pants just because you want to sag it even as a woman? do you have boils around your waist?

You see...if you had just written that when I asked the first time, I would not have to have a long discussion with you about what I know and not know. I asked.

I have already answered that question. But then again, seem like you have a hard time reading things I actually write.

honeric01: LOL, i thought you posted before that you take bike, your sisters does, your mum does too? you wrote this yourself, now you're claiming you never knew okada meant bikes? LOL

Now you're no longer Nigerian? hehehehe, you're a case, sweetie, i ain't putting you down, just trying to see the comfort you derive from sagging

Oh, goodness..Yes, I ride bike, and if you go back, that was an answer to a post where you wrote the word bike.
You wrote okada after.
And, I also wrote; IF okada means bike...IF. As in; "I am guessing".

And I have never claimed to be nigerian, have I?

honeric01: Hehehe, jallowbah, you need flogging lol. so when i replaced bike with okada, you didn't know i meant bike? when i also used "commercial bike", you also didn't see that abi?

Oya come here, kneel, raise your bum and close your eyes, you need canning.

How the hell am I supposed to know that Okada means bike? I aint nigerian.
Commercial bike can also mean, for SOME PEOPLE, a motorcycle. I have heard many africans say bike instead of motorcycle.

Nice try to put me down, though, since you aint got nothing else to go on.

CrazyMan: Easy to say right...kick a man out of his own house...teach him a damn good lesson...did I hear you clearly?
And the fixing of things, shouldn't it include tolerating his madness?
You said in your first post that you would kick him out and let him see the consequences.
You contradicted yourself here again at the bolded post...while you're maintaining a mind set of giving your husband fire for fire, you're playing the mother Theresa role with other couples advising them to fix things.
isn't that hypocrisy?

Get real!
That's not true...you would engage him in fisticuffs. You said so yourself

So did your unhappy parents kick each other out?
Did they teach each other a damn good lesson?
Why can't you see that marriage isn't your land of milk and honey?
Why do you keep countering your posts?
So you finally reasoned with me hun?

1: "Consequences" can mean kicking someone out, having a big fight, whatever suits your mind..it does not have to mean divorce, I have never talked about divorce bbefore YOU did.
2: Letting someone understand that you dont take bullshit ( in this case; flirting with women on the internet ) is a GOOD thing. And for me, it would not be enough to say: Oh, honey, I dont like that, ok?
3: I would probably slap my husbands face if he was telling other women he dont give a F about me. And throw him out. And for him to come back, would take a LOT of work on his side to proove to me that he was damn wrong in what he did, and that it would not happen again. Where am I being hypocritical here?
4: Yes, my mother kicked him out after trying her best to pull it together for ten years of bull. She should have left before 3-4 years, when she could see he was not changing.
She learned what she does not want to live with. I am guessing he learned that in the end, the women you claim to love will leave you when you continue to act like a fool.

And I did not reason with you..I have never, ever claimed that marriage is easy, a run in the park, or only enjoyment. Have I?

Ujujoan: Well this is Nigeria. I'm not about to start feeding my 1-yr old akpu and ewedu soup.

Well, I`m married to a gambian. Our kid has been eating african food since she was about one year old, just with a little less pepper than normal.

What was your point here?

CrazyMan: So what would you suggest...a divorce?

Do you know how many marriages in Nigeria that are hanging on the edge?

No love, no trust, just a male and female living under a roof and camoflaguing themselves as husbands and wife?

In case you don't know, marriage is one long bumpy road with so many pot holes...and if you've been deceived by the prince charming stories you've read from your romantic novels, then you'd better wake up and face reality.


And how many Nigerian marriages can you confidently boast of that love and respect exists, and yet somehow they still maintain their status as husband and wife.

From your posts its obvious that you have little knowledge about marriage....

Do you thing its that easy to leave your matrimonial home?

Do you know the pain most women endure on a daily basics...just to keep their marriages alive?

I'll give you an advise, whenever you get married, pray that you'll never find yourself in a situation where you'll have to choose between leaving your husband's house with your kid and staying with your parents, or enduring his madness, just for the sake of your children.


So what has having fun on the internet got to do with breaking your wife's heart?

Its girls like you that go around accusing their husband over baseless issues, which would eventually lead to martial problem....and possibly a divorce (its not your portion though).


Ha ha ha...as if married women don't flirt on Facebook.

I would sugest to kick him out and let him see the consequences. Not divorce at first, no, but to kick him out the house. Teach him a damn good lesson. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I am already married, thank you very much. I dont flirt on facebook, and I expect him not to do so either. Marriage is NEVER easy, and divorce is NOT the easiest way out. In fact, many people give up too easy on marriage in my culture, instead of trying to fix things. But that still dont mean that your spouse can disrespect you, and see there is no consequences.

And trust me, if my husband was "acting crazy" and I had to choose between leaving him or staying..I would leave. I have grown up with unhappy parents fighting each day myself, I will not let my kids go through the same. Love, respect, trust and communication. That is the most important things in my marriage. And if he breaks any of it, there will be cnsequences. What do you mean women should do? Let their men run around and do whatever they want, just to keep a ring on their finger..?

If people wish to stay in a love-less marriage without respect, they should not complain either. But the kids learn from what their parents do, and dont do.
And no, my marriage has NOT been all roses and joy all the way.

zayhal: @peterwins
God bless you! The information is so timely.

@jallowbah
It's not always the case that parents don't want to feed their kids with what they eat. Kids could be so selective about their choices and parents keep trying out different things till they get what their kid loves most.

I don't think any parent in her right senses would want anything short of the best nutritious meals for their children.

Of course not, but many people tend to take "the easy way", instead of letting the kid taste their own food as well

honeric01: Feigning ignorance about "okada" abi?
well i explained what my sissi meant already.
Comfortable, yet you only wear it with long shirt?

This is not about suit, when that comes up, we iron it.

Ignorance, when I dont even know what it means? Japanese people? Yeah, they are here. Working, paying taxes, driving, school, bicycles..whats your point..? Better to ask, than to act like I know everything

Why? Cause long shirts is comfortable as well