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OP, I'm married 25 years now, and dated same lady 8 years prior.
Love will not compliment any disregard and disrespect to your person from her. Even in years to come.
So, kindly, peacefully or trickishly let her go!
The next thread I want to see from you should be titled: How I left her and how she reacted!

Asquare84:
All those RED flag you see in her their a probability that she will continue with those behavior even when you married her, she already know you are a weak man that is why she don't respect you. If you like continue with her but she will never change those attitude.

I think we should call it red bedsheets now, it's no longer small but large...
And like you said, he had better FLEEEEEEEEEEE!!

Zonefree:
Ewa Agoyin and Agege bread remain undefeated.

The undisputed heavy weight champion!

logan2:
thanks man.

Safe trip!

Toyinmylover:
✅ JUST IN👆.
Unregistered 07 Ford edge SEL .

Leather seats.
Sound 6 plug engine.
Clean and working perfectly fine.

Price - just N4.5m Last.
Location - Ikotun

Zero704819268five

is this foreign used or its been used in nigeria without registration?

Serviceweb:
Can you guys help, what kind of snake is this, how dangerous and possible others around and how to prevent snakes around

Maybe you can identify the kind of camera you used for the picture first! A clearer pic will help us identify the serpent!

yarimo:
Some bitter ones will be hospitalized oo chaii 🤣🤣

Many will be found at the ICU....

tundegan:
The IDF should be ashamed of themselves. They are now celebrating invading another country and killing innocent people.

Answer this Question: is the IDF fighting Lebanese army? or Hezbolla?

Go through nasarawa...the Oweto area, cut through to Otukpo, head to otukpa and viola, you're at Obollo. Then via the Opi junction take the winding downward smooth road to appear at Abakpa... you're clear. Lots of villages along the road just short distance from each other....so you're bound to feel more secure. Cheers safe ride and greetings to home people.

PS: The only bad road area you're going to encounter is between keffi to nasarawa. Then from otukpa to Obollo. At those areas, drive carefully since your car may be low.

SyrusdeHansome:
I just stumbled on this and I must confess that at this point I don't blame any man who deliberately doesn't wanna get married. 90% of women have the mentality of this woman. They rarely take responsibility for their wrong doing. Sometimes u just ask urself whether most women really possess brains.

Funny that if (which may never be) her conscience begin to prick her in future, she will still BLAME her husband for not finding out earlier or the same audience she sought at the beginning for not advising her!!

Like one James Hadley Chase novel says, YOUR NEVER KNOW WITH WOMEN!!

TruthU87:
Iran preparing to respond to Israel's Oct. 26 attack


Source Reuter
https://www.reuters.com/world/middle-east/iran-is-preparing-respond-israel-says-adviser-supreme-leader-2024-11-24/

Simply put, he's saying America should not protect Israel so they can have a field day wiping out Israel which has been on their agenda for close to 1400 years....
Hatred unlimited!
What a pathetic lot!

adebowales:
This time, Iran should hit isreal hard that, they will lost their military capabilities, isreal will respond by attacking civilians, Iran shouldn’t wait a day to attack isreal randomly including their civilians also, let’s see thousands of them also homeless on the streets like the Palestinians

Wait, when Assad, Erdogan, Saddam and ISIS were slaughtering Kurds, Yazidis etc, did you open your mouth to speak? Now Jews are mentioned your brain runs to overdrive....
Go and collect the keys to the Iran war room sit there and pull the trigger....good luck

Gistmedia10:
Simon Ekpa, a prominent pro-Biafra agitator and self-acclaimed spokesperson for the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), stunned observers during his recent court appearance in Finland. Ekpa, who has been at the center of calls for the secession of the Biafra region from Nigeria, told the Finnish court that his claim to the title of "Prime Minister of Biafra" should not be taken seriously.

In his words, “I am just a content creator. The issue of being the Prime Minister of Biafra is not serious,” a statement that left many questioning the intent and authenticity of his previous declarations. Simon Ekpa has gained widespread attention online for his controversial broadcasts and commands of sit-at-home orders, which have disrupted economic activities in Nigeria's Southeast region.

The case in Finland stems from allegations surrounding his activities, which some Nigerian authorities claim contribute to civil unrest back home. Ekpa, however, downplayed his influence during the court proceedings, arguing that his actions should be viewed in the context of online content creation rather than a direct political or revolutionary agenda.

for those who have been supporting his declarations , hope you realize now that his content was created to cause death and destruction! Now show him what pains he has made you pass through by asking for his head on an earthenware platter!

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

Please do not neglect him, he fathered you, but keep it within your means. You can buy the car for him but do not buy anything flashy that will require expensive maintainace. This way you will heap coals of fire on his head!

zarathustra:
It's complex but all I can say is: If you can afford it , do it. Let him have it if it is within your means.

true, as its his father he should do the best he can but only under the means he has!

Capillary88:
You're Bad boy. You're a very Bad boy.

Thanks sir! This is a compliment! Last time I heard this was decades ago...then it was an insult!!
Thank you again!

Capillary88:
His size cannot allow him to play football, so I wonder the skills you're talking about

Not body shaming o, but mr Guvnor looks like a triangle!

Salisu "Toronto" Buhari

Homeboiy:
They left their country to fight in another man’s land

They're called soldiers of fortune!

Magnetboss:
Chicken change that will be exhausted before they leave the school gate. This is a federal government institution for crying out loud. The FG is supposed to create a program where best graduating students are given good sums of money not this shit right here..

Even the individuals will long be forgotten before they reach their homes that very day!
This is why the brain drain can't stop!

HardBishop:
I likely how she hit the idiot for penis

The same p*nis she had been riding! Soon many other p*nises will sample her left and right before she comes to realize what wrong she has done!

i like the part that says he was left STUNNED!

Exceed15:
Hezbollah invited war that doesn't concern them in the name of supporting their Muslim terrorists brothers.

Funny that in reality, Hamas and Hezbollah dont see things in the same perspective as far the faith is concerned! Always at each others throats!

IGBOPROMISE1:
I'm not about to pity any woman that carries her own leg to walk to Libya of all places! I'm tired of feeling sorry for naive Nigerians!

they are not naive o, just stubborn! Let them go, kill and come back!
We dey here waiting for them!

opera1:
So who send them to Libya?
Most of these people are aware of what they are going to face before embarking on the journey

if they had never heard of the situation in Lybia i would have been sympathetic, but over the last 30 years i have been hearing, i have seen people go , die, or come back with tears of woe! Yet someone feels 'it cant and wont happen to me!' they go and start crying back for help and solicit pity and sympathy from us who are 'fearful' to go or have the common sense to know its not safe out there!!!

YouandiAllofus:
I may not fully be abreast with the severity of the misfortunes in your marriage right now. But going by the story you posted up there, I don't think that you have a problem in your marriage.

Actually, by not telling your wife before handing that financial assistance to your sister is enough to give your wife reasons to be concerned regardless whether you gave her money for clothing as well.
Your sincerity is put to question.
What you're trying to make her understand is that 1 + 1 is equal to 2 which is correct outside marriage but in marriage, 1 + 1 is equal to 1.
Aside emergency situations, every intentions and reactions are supposed to be shared at all times no matter how weighty or light they may be.
This is one way to build trust and shut the door to suspicions.

Sir, you're quite on point!
Unfortunately, following the story, the wife has insecurity issues and naturally feels it when anything is done in favor of one who's not herself or her family members!
Let me tell you, if your wife doesn't do so then you're very lucky and have a very rare case.
Mostly, women have this attitude they can't control, once you buy something for yourself, better buy hers too else....
Notice that the OP said he had given her 150k for clothing same day too. I can guarantee that had he told his wife he was helping his sister with cash she would have found means to discourage him. Imagine saying she's asked him for money and he'd not given her!
A huge percentage of husbands give to their relations without info to their spouses, it's not about trust but about discretion...

Jeferious:
It depends. Mine worked successfully. In fact everyone thought we'd marry each other. But I graduated and went back home...and the distance took its toll on the relationship.

The key thing here is maturity. I won't try such with someone who's clingy and too emotionally dependent.

My niece started dating her neighbor, her mum was furious! Today, through thick and thin, they're happily married, 4 kids, stupendous wealth, yet very modest!
It works once there's maturity!

Efuaye:
If you can not take good pictures of the car you want to sell, how do you expect to attract a prospect?

Prolly hiding something!

Kingzjayzee:
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Somtie24: Pay attention to how your mother-in-law treats her husband-it could be a preview of how your wife might treat you.

Dean: Never marry a woman who doesn't speak good about her Dad.
Chances are high that you won't be able to please her as a man.

single stitch clothing: never marry the woman who doesn't want you to look good.

Agree with sometie24

justtoodark:
this girls have been doing this thing for money since the 80s....

nothing new....

You took the words outta my mouth!!
Nothing new here, when economy boomed they said they just wanted to reap the benefits from those who could help afford it...now economy is down, they said they're trying to survive....
All these "my friend introduced me to it" tells us the kind of friends they keep!

My first son received a letter from a gal when they were in primary 1 with about the same content, she didn't include the "I love you" but she expressed her feelings by saying saying since their parents are close friends that's her parents and us, then he means a lot to her! She folded the letter and gave my son, he read it and maybe he didn't grasp the whole thing, but when I came to pick him up he just handed it to me and ran off to play! I read it and was initially shocked, so began to watch for a next one it didn't come, but I'll say soon we moved away, changed school now we're almost a third of the world away from them but they're still friends.... since 2006!
What I realized growing up and becoming a parent is, we tend to hide the true nature of situations and don't want to hear certain things happen to us or our siblings or our children...it has the potential to happen, but how we prep our children and ourselves for it matters.
At 17 I was already rolling in the hay, my son is 22, he cares not about that but a nerd and ICT is his passion...
Those saying world is coming to and end have yet to have any true experience about life and happenings!

MONEY247:
I see people listening events that they claim to have achieved in the year and they mention marriage....is marriage really an achievement

GETTING MARRIED IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT, MAINTAINING THE MARRIAGE TILL DEATH D US PART IS THE ACHIEVEMENT!
WHEN THE STORMS OF LIFE HIT, CAN BOTH OF YOU SAIL THROUGH? WHEN THE TEMPTATIONS ASSAIL YOU, CAN YOU ENDURE? WHEN THE PHYSICAL APPEARANES FALL, CAN YOU STILL HOLD ON TO HER/HISS HAND? WHEN CHILDREN OR FINANCES DONT COME AS EXPECTED, WHAT WILL BE YOUR ACTION OR BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS YOUR PARTNER?
AND MANY MORE