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ax2xb: Not to bore you all with long talk ;
Right now, she uploads pics of her jugs on Facebook and BBM;
What the heck is she doing? Trying to find another man? I have totally lost it.

Oga, abeg I go need see evidence of the jugs or kettle or whatever you call it these days so as to prove beyond reasonable doubt that she is trying to find another man

uj_sizzle: But that's you my dear, which is why i say i speak for a proportion of the population.

Look at it this way:

What does an average person want?
What is happiness?

Q1. Food, Clothing, Shelter, Security....for some it ends here. For others it goes further to include not just any shelter but a mansion, not just any food but the best cuisines, not just any cloth but 'label'. You want education, but you don't want it in just any school. You want the best. Money provides all that.
You have dreams and aspirations that ultimately define happiness for you...it's a sense of fulfillment. But something must give. There must be a consideration. That's money. Look at it as the facilitator.

Some may decide to work and sweat to get what they want, and others may choose to attach themselves to people they think will help them get what they want(that's what we term gold digging) but what is the true motivation here? Happiness however short or prolonged the feeling lasts.


Q2. Happiness is simply an emotional feeling of contentment. It's that simple.

Why can't all of that be achieved individually without having the need to rely on someone else with a promise of love to achieve them?

I mean all these are common goals each and every human being make at some point in their respective lives. The key difference is the self worth and so called happiness derived from achieving these goals are of importance only to the person setting the goals.

What gives?

Clara Chime

Nice article


I like money, sure-- but when did society's love for money begin to trump everything else?

There was a time when the label of "gold digger" was a stigma or something to be ashamed of. "She/he is a gold digger," you would warn your pal. Nowadays, it seems dating or marrying for money is not only out in the open, but also touted as something to be proud of.

Bravo's Matchmaker Millionaire, (which I confess, I love) is the perfect example. The delightfully obnoxious Patti Stanger plays matchmaker to the affluent, usually setting up wealthy men with young Hollywood model types, who all swear that they're really searching for true love.

Yeah, okay.

Although, to them, love comes in the form of no-limit credit cards and Infinity pools. The premise of this business makes for great reality television, not a sustainable relationship. Why would anyone, millionaire or not, date someone who is so clearly motivated by a bank account?

Let's start here:

In 1994, 26-year-old Anna Nicole Smith married 89-year-old oil tycoon J. Howard Marshall. I'm not saying they didn't share some (creepy) love between them, even if their first date was a lap dance...

Their brief 13-month union lasted until dead did them part; Marshall died, leaving his buxom bride half of his $1.6 billion fortune.

What did Marshall have to lose in this deal? Well, he wasn't exactly a spring chicken if you know what I mean. Marshall wanted to spend his final months with Playboy's Miss May. At the end of his life, he didn't need to buy a new car or a new house, he just wanted some company. And Smith probably just wanted some major cash for very little time and work. Win-Win for both of them.

Now, fast forward to February this year when London's Daily Mail published a story about a woman named Kim Perez, who reinvented herself to attract and marry a wealthy man, which she did. Her incredibly blatant account (which you can read here) is both revolting and mesmerizing for a couple different reasons.

First, she is unabashedly frank about her desire for the "finer things in life" and her goal to marry someone with money. Usually, people are reluctant to admit their shallowness and superficiality, but Perez flaunts it like a Louis Vuitton bag.

For fortysomething Perez, the best way to fall in love was by eliminating her accent, lying about her past and buying hair extensions-- or you know, tricking her future husband into thinking she was something she wasn't.

But now that she's "living the dream," Perez's daily life "consists of shopping, then going to the gym or for lunch." To help pass the time, her husband has also set her up with a fake-tanning business, "because there is only so much shopping you can do!"

After she was married, Perez eventually came clean to her husband about her humble upbringing and all the changes she had undergone to become someone that might be appealing to him. He laughed it off and found it "funny."

Not only didn't he seem to mind that he was being exploited, but he also found her self-loathing humorous. Which suggests that this relationship works perfectly-- she is unabashedly superficial, while he is unforgivingly self-centered. This partnership will continue to work, just as long as the cash is flowing. Perez gets her lunches and shopping sprees, while her husband gets the ficitious dutiful and beautiful trophy wife he fell for.

But what happens if the cash stops flowing? Does anyone think that far ahead when they're in love?

As you can see, gold digging works. So, maybe that's why it's becoming more accepted and... taught.

While I was at grad school pursuing higher education, Chinese girls in my peer group were attending school in pursuit of wealthy husbands. For around $3,000, The Beijing Moral Education Centre for
Women will train young females how to become more attractive to affluent men. Students learn varied skills and techniques, which range from makeup application to tea pouring skills.

In an interview with The Vancouver Sun, the school's founder and instructor, Shao Tong, says that the school improves women by "nurturing internal qualities and developing potential." Potential for
what, exactly? Who knows?

The Centre has become a breeding ground for love connections since it opened last year, boasting more than 30 matches in just the past few months. Affluent men must pay the school around $5,000 for meet-and-greets with eligible bachelorettes.

These men go into these preconceived situations fully knowing that these women are more interested in their pocketbooks than really finding a soulmate.

Perhaps, it's easier for men to go into these setups, because they know there wont be any surprises? If you marry for money, than ostensibly, the marriage will last as long as the money does, right? There's no need to worry about falling out of love or being unfaithful, especially if that's a stipulation in your prenup.

And what exactly are these women getting themselves into? Mercedes and mansions, that's what. As long as they continue pouring tea the right way and looking the perfect part, they will always be taken care of financially. So what about love and trust? If you are so bold as to go to a school which specializes in exploiting others, then you probably don't care too much about fidelity.

Bottom line: these financially contingent relationships will work -- just as long as both parties don't actually care about being "in love." Love makes things too emotional, too messy, and it can often get in the way of any successful gold digging business transaction.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201107/be-the-best-gold-digger-you-can-be

KeleBaby: and what has age got to do with this ?

Your religion frowns against such ma'am

so you are either confused or plain ignorant if your religious claim is anything to go by

some churches in Nigeria wouldn't even marry you guys if they find out you guys been enjoying the hoo haa moment

..

^^^^
I really do want to debate this with you but i don't want this to be an igbo vs yoruba thread.
The mum hasn't pointed to any specific reason why she is against the union so ranting on about infidelity is unnecessary

^^^
So because it's not done with pride and thus behind closed door makes it a lesser crime?

The impact of infidelity on the recipient is the same and that's the way you ought to be looking at it. Inherent risks attached to infidelity is exactly the same black or white, yellow or pink, igbo or yoruba.

James ibori is a british citizen duhhhh

He isn't getting out anytime soon

xynerise: There is nothing bigotry in what I said. It is the plain truth and you know it.

I mean the part of infidelity

I disagree Sir, cheating is definitely not tribe specific but you are entitled to your own opinion

Let's try not to deviate from the main issue guys.

Show your mum this

Pray tell that you are on the right end of the age scale cos if you aren’t then stats point towards an uncomfortable struggle to find that man

Ujsizzle been lurking all day

You want to be included in the prize?

Weekend with ujsizzle in neverland

Fynestboi:

Is she your babe?

Dhurmynick: Please don't tell me na you hide my post for up.

You quoted a spam like post that was hidden Sir

Elantracey: do wat?

Special baptism using the holy juice

The juice is so powerful it triggers the first stage of reproduction

Shout hallelujah


Na joke ohhhhh. I can see you squeezing that pretty face of yours

Judge not lest you be judged first

Elantracey: hehe wat do u want me to say ..ehn maybe i love u

Let's do it already

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Evestar200: No, cuz dont want to receive a prize like u that will make my monkey to park its bag and run away

Your monkey is waiting for a reason to bail

Elantracey:

Talk jor

Evestar200: *following*

Are you entering the competition?
I'm one of the numerous prizes to be won on the day

uj_sizzle: If i like u: Oh

If i don't like you: Ok

If you're just there : Thank you

Now i get it

Phewwwww

Teespice: Choi.

This our mod go like ikwokirikwo.

The thing wey i like strong pass that one wey you been dey talk

The third leg even has sense of smell